How to Stop Caring about What People Think Of You
How to Stop Caring What People Think Of You
Most people care about what others think of them, and that’s normal. As human beings, we have a distinct desire to be appreciated for our intelligence, talent, personality, and nature. However, when we start to rely on other people’s opinions, we use their criticism to shape our lives. It’s easy to fall into this habit, but it’s not healthy to live your life according to the expectations of others. It’s a vicious cycle, and it will turn you into someone other than who you are. Giving your power to somebody else provokes you into leading a life in a separate reality, where the only thing that matters is how people portray you. To prevent this from happening, here are a few ways to get rid of your worry.
1- Stop Apologizing Sometimes it can be hard to recognize your anxiety or worrisome thoughts. If you’re the type of person who repeatedly apologizes for being yourself, then you’re most likely spending too much of your time worrying about other people’s opinions of you. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t apologize for anything… If you’ve done something wrong that warrants an apology, go ahead and say you’re sorry - but don’t get caught up in being remorseful for who you are as a person. Being yourself, having your own opinions and values, being quirky or eccentric, or caring about what’s important to you are not reasons to apologize.
2- Remember what is important to you many people find themselves shifting their lives in a different direction only because of what others think. But often, listening to other people’s advice instead of our own doesn’t work out so well. Whether it’s getting a job that makes your parents happy or turning down a big opportunity because you think your partner wouldn’t approve of it your main priority shouldn’t be to impress anyone. It’s your life, and you need to learn to take action driven by your own goals. Focus on the things that are important to you.
3- Get out of your head the tendency to over-analyze everything often leads to caring immensely about what others think of you. Once you’ve fallen that hole, it’s hard not to stress yourself over every action you take or every word you say - no matter how insignificant it may seem. If you tend to do this, stop it! Don’t waste your time or energy on situations that you have no control over. You need to accept that people will judge you. You are the master of your destiny, and how you feel about your choices is what's most important.
4- Be Conscious Of Who You Surround Yourself With Although it may not seem like a big deal, the people you surround yourself with have a huge impact on how you live your life. Befriending negative people can crush your hopes and dreams and put a serious strain on your mental health. Instead, make positive friends - whose goals are to inspire you and help you be the best you can be. Having a small group of positive friends can be extremely beneficial. The more time you spend with these people, the happier you will be.
5- Know that you have full ownership of your feelings When you base your feelings on other people’s opinions, you allow them to determine whether you feel good, or bad. For example, maybe somebody ignored something you had to say, and that caused you to feel upset. Perhaps you got the impression that you weren’t worthy of their time, or you’re not good enough for them to pay attention to. But, it isn’t that person’s fault that you feel upset because of their action – because, in reality, they have no control over how you feel. Only you have control over the feelings that you ‘associate’ with the actions of others. It’s unhealthy to give away ownership of your emotions, and you will find that it only makes you feel worse. When you think about it, you are the only individual who can hurt your feelings. If you want to change how you react to other people’s actions or opinions, you need to learn how to respond constructively. This may take some work - considering that our thoughts are typically automatic or even on the subconscious level - so it may take a while to get to the root of what’s causing you to react a certain way. But once you’ve figured out how to do that, you will feel better in the long run.
6- Exposure Therapy is a technique used to help people overcome their fears. It involves exposing someone to their fears - for them to find ways to directly confront their fears, or rationalize their reactions to them. In this case, you could try putting yourself in a situation where you think people may judge you for how you look or who you are. Perhaps get that edgy haircut, go out without makeup on, or voice your opinion on a particular subject. Whatever the situation may be, if you think people may judge what you look like, what you think, or what you’re doing, just do it anyway! It may seem terrifying at the moment, but you’ll probably find that the world will not end if you continue to be yourself. Your fears of public embarrassment or failure are usually uncalled for, and being yourself provides an exhilarating feeling of deliverance. It’s reassuring and relieving to be yourself, and when you decide to do so, your mind will relax and begin putting an end to those scary thoughts.
7- Be Your Friend although it’s not something we like to believe, not everybody is meant to be your friend or stay your friend, and there’s nothing you can do to change that. And no one else can do it, either. It’s crucial to accept yourself for who you are, but also to recognize that not everyone can accept that. Be proud of your accomplishments, and learn to like yourself - flaws and all.
8 - Learn to appreciate and embrace the individuality of others once you’ve mastered the art of living your own life, and free yourself from your insecurities, remember to show others the same courtesy. Even if you may not be particularly fond of someone, let them express their unique personality and encourage them to be themselves. Avoid gossiping or thinking negatively about those you don’t understand. But most important of all, avoid being quick to judge! It’s easy to get caught up in what other people think of us - and letting go of those thoughts can be very challenging. And while it does take time and effort, you can let go - and the world becomes so much more inspiring when you do
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