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Christian Modesty: Is There a Biblical Dress Standard?

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  1. Freedom from vanity, boastfulness, ostentation or showy extravagance.
  2. Regard for decency of behaviour, speech and dress.
  3. Unassuming. Unpretentious. Unobtrusive. Moderate. Simple.

What is Modesty?

My pre-adolescent son recently asked my thoughts on modesty as it relates to attire. The specific context was in regard skimpy swimwear. He was wondering whether men and women should share a common standard or be treated differently.

And this got me thinking

Of course, modesty encompasses dress, but goes far deeper than that.

Yet, as it relates to dress, modesty is an indefinite term with myriad interpretations. Like so many morally enmeshed issues, it's complexity correlates with the diversity of ones society, culture and perceptions.

That said, though consensus may never be reached as to what is modest attire and what is not, there are still considerations that may help in coming to a satisfactory -biblical- conclusion.

Keeping in mind, of course, that Christians, as members of a given society, are also products of ever-changing cultural attitudes linking clothing and sexuality.

It bares emphasising again that modesty is more than how we dress and deeper than simply human sexuality. However, it is because these two dimensions so often get neglected in the equation of modesty, that they warrant some focused attention.

Psychologists say...

What does this mean for Christians seeking to dress modestly?

Well, it establishes a cultural/sexual context. If you're a missionary to a tribal village where semi nudity is the norm and unrelated to sexual deviance, than what you wear is possibly less of an issue than if you're attending a typical american high school where body image and clothing are closely associated with sexuality.

As we travel across the globe, we see what constitutes modest varies from place to place...

...we must recognize this cultural context for how we perceive what's appropriate. A fixation on our own definition of modesty threatens to warp our perceptions and hurt our interactions with others—particularly as we venture outside our own culture.

— Rachel Marie Stone

Of course, this raises its own hornets nest of difficulties, not least of which is HOW FAR DO WE TAKE THIS, as the cartoon below cleverly portrays.

However, for the Christian, we're not here to resolve all the problems that sin created, we're here to be lights for Christ. Therefore christian modesty begins with simple submission. It aims to point no finger, but rather says 'I want my entire life to be an influence for good.

Good, as common sense as well as the bible declare, begins with how we think. As with anything worth doing well, it takes well deliberated intent. in other words: WE'VE GOTTA THINK ABOUT IT FIRST.

Some thoughts come naturally to us when selecting attire, e.g. Do I look ok?

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Yet deeper considerations are often easier to suppress. Especially where strong external influences exist, such as advertising media or cultural pressures (including religious). In such cases there oft prevails a mental disconnect from the deeper issues regarding our choices toward a more cavalier going with the flow; or fearful-what's safest; or shallow-what's "fashionable".

Below is a thread of thought regarding modest dress that could be considered mature or well-rounded. It begins with base considerations revolving around us, and moves on to the more significant:

  1. What do I think about the way I dress? e.g.: It's comfortable... attractive... sexy... alluring?
  2. What would [are] others think[ing] about the way I dress? e.g.: Will they find it attractive... thoughtful... sexually appealing... offensive?
  3. Upon what or whom am I modelling my attire and why? e.g.: Friends... media... peer pressure... insecurity... faith?
  4. Does my attire reinforce the message I most want communicated about me? e.g.: Does this choice align with my message... someone elses message... the wrong message?

Something to Consider


What is your message?


Media's manipulative influence over your morals

© 2013 Richard Parr


Rosemary Amrhein on November 17, 2017:

Nice to know thanks!!!!!!

Thats a big times I get nunlike. Sometimes I want to dress overly modest and dye my hair an ugly color. Cause I get too much attention at times :(

Im ok now thou. :)))))))))

Richard Parr (author) from Australia on November 17, 2017:

@schoolgirlforreal~I don't think so. If so then the Song of Solomon would be immodest. Of course, the God of the bible has no problem with sex or titillating dress or nudity, as long as they are within the context of marriage. It is only outside of such confines that the bible expresses Gods displeasure.

Rosemary Amrhein on November 17, 2017:

Interesting article. Would sharing passionate or romantic poetry with the world be immodest? I wonder sometimes. :)

Richard Parr (author) from Australia on December 15, 2013:

@Gypsy ~ the only ones I know of were Adam and Eve ;)

Of course that was before man's proclivity for delinquency took its stranglehold. Modesty, by definition, does not take into account just oneself, but its impact (as far as practical) on others. Nudism takes the opposite approach I feel.

Richard Parr (author) from Australia on December 15, 2013:

@MsDora ~ I agree, I think modesty (including dress) for the christian is something that changes over time as Christ is formed in us. I like what Jessica Reys recently said about modesty, "...modesty isn't about hiding ourselves, it's about revealing our dignity."

Gypsy Willow from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand on December 15, 2013:

Interesting thoughts. Are there any Christian nudists?

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on December 15, 2013:

Good presentation on the topic of modesty. The biblical standard mentions "modest," "decent," and "appropriate" in 2 Timothy 2: 9, 10. True the meaning of these words may vary with culture, but the purity of Christ within our hearts helps us interpret them correctly.

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