I have three children and seven grandchildren. I worked full time while raising my family. I have been there.
Now He Really Knows How To Procrastinate
Excuses, Excuses, Excuses
How does Procrastination affect those we live with, work with, and interact with on a daily basis? We don’t really think about how our behavior affects others because we can’t see their point of view. For instance, if you walk into a grocery store and push a carriage out of your way with a quick shove, it’s no big deal, right? But maybe that carriage was the only thing a woman could use to maneuver around the store and you pushed it beyond her reach. Or maybe you step up to a counter and reach over a young boy that is standing there trying to reach something high. You take the very last chocolate milk on the shelf not even paying attention to the fact that the boy had been trying to reach it for nearly twenty minutes. When we take the time to see things around us, we can actually see how our behavior affects others. Procrastination is no exception to that rule. When we procrastinate, we believe that it is no big deal and no one will be affected by it.
- After all, we will get to it, eventually, so what’s the big deal.
- So what if it takes a day or two, it’ll get done!
- So what if someone is waiting for it, they’ll get it, sometime.
- So what if I promised it two days ago, I got busy, but it’ll get done, maybe tomorrow, I don’t have anything planned for then, at least not yet.
Do any of these excuses sound familiar to you?
Let's See It From Another Point of View
Try thinking of life as a big corporate business—now your boss tells you he needs you to take out the trash before it overflows. You tell him that you’ll get to it in a minute. Three days later, the trash is still waiting to be taken out, because you put it off for so long you forgot, and it has overflowed to the point that it has covered the area around the desks of three of your fellow workers. They must now try to work in a dirty, smelly, potentially disease-ridden environment. Is that what you meant to do?
Of course, you didn't; you simply procrastinated so long you either forgot it or didn't really care. Someone else will take care of it if I don't, right? But what if they can't which is why your boss asked you to do it.
Think These Things Are Not Very Realistic, Try This One
Of course, time is money and you have things to do, right? You will get to the things you were asked to do, but sometimes other things are more important. Okay, then try thinking of life as a daycare center filled with needy children who must be kept safe by you, their temporary guardian. You change the diaper of one of the children and toss the diaper to the side thinking you’ll pick it up later because right now you have your hands full with the children. One of the children finds the diaper and opens it. They get sick from the contents and have to go to the hospital; but you were going to throw it away eventually, right? Now there is a sick child, a possible lawsuit (who are we kidding, the lawsuit is probable), and a good chance your daycare center (or wherever you have been working) will close down. Now want to hear the worst part? You could go to jail. See how important it is to NOT procrastinate?
You Were Suppose To Feed Him Hours Ago
Procrastination Is Everywhere
- We don't want to clean up the dirty dishes tonight: think bugs or mold.
- Ever wait until the very last minute to do laundry? Like you literally have nothing to wear because they are all dirty.
- Ever waited for the very last moment to get off the bus? You know, standing there by the door as you check a message on your phone. Did you realize the person behind you waiting to get off was already late for a court appearance and could get arrested because you wouldn't move?
- How about waiting for the last moment to go to work? If you had allowed extra time to get your coffee, you wouldn't be late for the fifth time. Meaning, of course, that someone else had to do your work.
Your Car Dies on the Way to Work, Tomorrow Never Came
Uh Oh, Real Life Is Worse
Okay, let’s focus on real-life and see how it works there. Let’s say you live alone in your own apartment. You do what you want when you want and you don’t see why you have to keep any kind of standards if no one else is there. You don't know why you must follow everyone else's rules everywhere you go, either. It's your life, after all, not theirs! Okay, let's see how that goes:
- Your car dies on the way to work because you kept putting off putting gas in it and it ran out. I guess tomorrow never came for the gas tank.
- Your dirty dishes draw ants that multiplied and spread into the other apartments so your neighbors complained to the landlord and he told you to clean up or else.
- Your unclean laundry fills the air with an unappealing odor that neighbors can smell through the closed door and walls, again your neighbors have begun to complain to the landlord and he has told you that he is getting tired of the complaints.
- Your landlord grows even angrier because you keep telling him you’ll pay the rent tomorrow when you have a chance to go to the bank, but there is always a reason why you couldn’t make it to the bank so you’ll do it tomorrow, and tomorrow never comes.
- Your boss gets angry because he keeps getting complaints that you have body odor because you haven’t cleaned your suits. You just keep wearing them because they don’t have any spots on them so they must be clean. The boss won’t let you enter his office for any reason but does tell you in front of the whole office to 'clean up' your act.
- Your electricity gets turned off because you keep putting off paying the bill until 'tomorrow'.
- Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow rarely comes though, because you forget.
No Tomorrow For This Guy
What About These
- Your co-workers are fed up with having to do your work as well as their own because you always wait until the last minute and then need help to get it done in time. They complained and can now refuse to help you, uh oh.
- You sit in front of a dead TV because you put off paying the cable bill for so long it was discontinued and you are being sued for the back charges.
- No one lends you money for emergency situations anymore because you keep putting off paying them back until everyone ‘forgets’.
- Your girlfriend/boyfriend breaks up with you because you keep putting off calling them.
- Your car is repossessed because you keep putting off sending the payments in and you’re now six months behind. At least you don't have to remember to put gas in anymore.
- There’s no food in your apartment because you ate everything and put off going shopping until tomorrow, which apparently never came.
- There’s no money in your checking account because you put off depositing your check and it got lost in the apartment that you don’t clean.
- Your furniture is reposed by the finance company because you put off making the payments until tomorrow, another uh oh.
- Your mother and father are angry because it’s been 5 years since they heard from you at all; right after they loaned you that $5,000 to put a down payment on the car that got repossessed.
And the Results Are
You sit in an empty, smelly, cold, dark apartment with no food, no company, no phone, no TV, and an eviction notice from your landlord. No one will sit with you at work. No one will join you for lunch. No one will give you a ride to meetings. No one will help you with your work anymore. No one will lend you anything. No one will help you in any way, shape, or form.
And you sit feeling sorry for yourself because you don’t understand why you are being so misunderstood and so mistreated. In the meantime, you are very hungry and can’t even get something to eat because you didn’t wash any pans or dishes. You don’t have any electricity or gas with which to cook. You don’t have any food because you lost your check somewhere in the mess you call your apartment. Wouldn’t you say uh oh now?
Not only have you begun to turn everyone around you against you, but you have even turned yourself against you. Is this the way you want to live for the rest of your life? I don’t think so, although I could be wrong. Procrastinating will get you nothing but trouble, but it will also alienate those around you including loved ones. If used sneakily enough, it might make you look good to the boss and help you climb the ladder for a bit, but that will also catch up to you sooner or later. the truth always comes out eventually.
That's About Right
We All Procrastinate
Occasionally, like when we have a large report to get out and don't really want to start it. We might get a coffee, talk with a few friends, and then knuckle down. But be very careful not to mix procrastination with a well-earned break or chatting while waiting for information. Procrastination is more like taking the 'well-earned' break and turning it into an all day trip to the beach. Then, just for fun, blaming a co-worker for giving you the wrong directions to a warehouse downtown.
There are times, however, when procrastination is a bit of a requirement. For instance, you have a very difficult decision to make. Either one will cause a rift of some kind, but the decision must be made. Many of us will put the decision off until the very last minute and then let fate take a hand. Was that a bad way to handle the situation? Maybe, maybe not, but in many cases, the decision-maker might feel like just a bit of the pressure was removed from their shoulders and placed in the arms of fate.
They say "Time Heals All Wounds". Does it? I rather think that it does not in the case of procrastination. Rather, it digs a much deeper hole that festers and does not heal. Is there a way out? Maybe. Try looking around you once in a while and remembering that those people who used to be family, friends, and co-workers are now strangers to you. They do not trust you, and with good reason. The only way out of this glass dome is to break the pattern of Procrastination.
Time Is Running Out
What It Could Be
Well, once you stop trying to blame everyone else for your behavior, you might want to get back what you had. Not good enough? Once you stop putting off what has to be done, you might like yourself more. Still not good enough? Once you quit the procrastinating process, you might actually get things done. Things for you and for others. How about this:
- You pay your bills, all of them, and then you can have a cookout in your back yard with all of your neighbors bringing something to add to the feast, without your landlord arriving with the cops to evict you.
- You remembered to make the car payment and now you can get to the store to buy groceries.
- You remember to put your dirty dishes into the dishwasher-and run it-so now you can cook your favorite food.
- You remembered to clean out the refrigerator so it doesn't take your appetite away every time you open the door.
- You are a big part of the team at work now because people can rely on you to get things done.
- The boss finally gives you that promotion you wanted because you have finally done the work to earn it.
- You make lists and keep making lists because they help you remember things.
- You put your phone or gaming controls down long enough to be an actual person once in a while.
- You call your parents and apologize about the mix-up and they actually forgive you, because that is what parents do.
- You can join friends on date nights and lunches because you don't smell sweaty or of stale aftershave/cologne.
- You might find your true mate because they no longer want to go to the other side of the room every time you get close to them now.
You Don't Need to Answer, But You Might Want to at Least Think About It
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2011 Cheryl Simonds
I would love to hear from you!
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on December 08, 2011:
*Giggle*, Thanks for joining me and reading my hub, I'm glad you enjoyed it and I 'hope your laziness ends soon' LOL :)
Jools Hogg from North-East UK on December 07, 2011:
I read a book once called 'The Road Less Travelled' and the author always advised against procrastinating about getting jobs done and out of the way because in life (so he says...) you have to delay gratification in order to really feel at peace about things. Interesting but I can't make my mind up about whether I agree with him! I'm too lazy!
Cheryl Simonds (author) from Connecticut on December 07, 2011:
Your welcome Amors Potpourri, hope it helps.....
Amors Potpourri from Victoria, BC, Canada on December 06, 2011:
Thanks for this reminder, I will also share it with my son.