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First Ladies: The Wives of the U.S. Presidents

Ms. Giordano is a writer and public speaker who is interested in politics and history.

First Ladies

First Ladies often had a major impact on their husband's presidencies.

First Ladies often had a major impact on their husband's presidencies.

What is the Origin of the Term “First Lady"?

The term “First Lady” was first used it 1860 during the term of James Buchanan. President Buchanan, (the 15th president) was unmarried, so his niece, Harriet Lane, assumed the duties of presidential hostess. She was first referred to as the first lady on March 31,1860 in Frank Leslie's Illustrated Newspaper.

Martha Washington

Martha Washington was the 1st First Lady of the United States.

Martha Washington was the 1st First Lady of the United States.

Martha Washington

When George Washington became president of the United States, his wife, Martha, became known as “Lady Washington.” Just as George Washington had to establish the protocols for future U.S. presidents, Martha defined the role of first lady for future first ladies.

She was a petite, vivacious woman who was always fashionably dressed. She took on a public role and was a gracious hostess at public events. Her duties as first lady included managing the presidential household, paying social calls to the wives of important members of society, and hosting a weekly reception at the presidential mansion for ordinary citizens. However, she much preferred to live a quiet private life.

Martha was born to John and Frances Dandridge, a well-to-do planter family situated in New Kent County, Virginia. She married a wealthy plantation owner, Daniel Custis, at the age of 18. He was 20 years her senior; she was widowed at age 25.

Martha Dandridge Custis married George Washington on May 15, 1750 at the age of 27. By all accounts, Martha was devoted to George. She joined him at his encampments for extended periods of time during the Revolutionary War.

Martha did not have any children with George, but she had four children with her first husband. Two of her children died in childhood; the other two were raised by her and George, but died as young adults.

Martha Washington said...

I think I am more like a state prisoner than anything else, there is certain bounds set for me which I must not depart from...”

— Martha Washington

Mary Todd Lincoln

Mary Todd Lincoln was the 16th First Lady of the Unitd States.

Mary Todd Lincoln was the 16th First Lady of the Unitd States.

Mary Todd Lincoln

Mary Todd Lincoln was born into a wealthy family. (Her father was a merchant, lawyer. and politician.) Her mother died when she was six and her step-mother had no love for her. She was brought up with privilege and comfort, and was exceptionally well-educated for a woman of her time. She was a petite, witty, gregarious, and popular in society. She was very interested in politics.

She married Abraham at the age of 23. She bore him four sons, but only one son survived to adulthood. She was a loving mother and was devoted to her husband. Although her family supported the South, she ardently supported The Union and abolition.

Mary had a difficult time in the White House primarily because she was First Lady during the tempestuous time of the Civil War. She found her social responsibilities and public criticism in the newspapers of the day to be burdensome. Mary suffered from migraines and depression and was known for mood swings, public outbursts, and fierce temper. Perhaps her problems were due to the stress of her responsibilities and her personal tragedies, or perhaps, as some suggest today, she suffered from bi-polar disorder.

Mary refurbished the White House and was criticized for her lavish spending. She justified the expense as being important to maintain the prestige of the presidency and the Union. She was also active visiting wounded soldiers in the hospital and writing letters of condolence to the families of soldiers who were killed in action.

I would rather marry a good man, a man of mind, with a hope and bright prospects ahead for position, fame and power than to marry all the houses, gold and bones in the world.

— Mary Todd Lincoln

Eleanor Foosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt was the 32nd First Lady of the United States.

Eleanor Roosevelt was the 32nd First Lady of the United States.

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Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt was the first activist First Lady and was very controversial during her tenure. She wasn’t just a help-mate to the president; she became a political figure in her own right. She held press conferences, gave speeches, wrote a newspaper column, and was very outspoken on issues. She traveled extensively and was described as her husband’s “eyes, ears, and legs.” (Franklin Roosevelt was confined to a wheelchair.)

She was a feminist who was an advocate for civil rights and for the disadvantaged. During WW II she visited the troops to boost morale, advocated for broader immigration laws (to help save European Jews). When her time as First Lady was over, she continued to be active in politics and world affairs. She became known as “First Lady of the World” for her work with The United Nations and her work with various Commissions.

Eleanor (as she preferred to be called) married Franklin Delano Roosevelt (her fifth cousin) on March 17, 1905 at the age of 20. She gave birth to six children, one of whom died in infancy.

Eleanor Roosevelt was born into a prominent wealthy family. She was the niece of President Theodore Roosevelt. She was 5’ 11’’ tall, making her the tallest First Lady (The title of tallest first lady must now be shared with Michelle Obama, who is also 5’ 11" tall.) She also has the title of “longest serving first lady” since her husband served 3 ½ terms as president. (This title will be hers forever because of the 22 Amendment to the Constitution ratified in 1951 that limits presidents to two terms.)

Eleanor was educated by private tutors and later at private schools for girls. She did not attend college, and in her later years, she called that her “greatest regret.” Prior to her marriage, her occupation could be best described as “social worker.” She worked, as a volunteer, to better the living conditions of the poor of New York City.

Campaign behavior for wives: Always be on time. Do as little talking as humanly possible. Lean back in the parade car so everybody can see the president.

— Eleanor Roosevelt

Jacqueline Kennedy

Jacqueline Kennedy was the 35th First Lady of the United States.

Jacqueline Kennedy was the 35th First Lady of the United States.

Jacqueline Kennedy

While all First Ladies influenced the fashion of their day, Jacqueline Kennedy was the first to become a true “fashion icon.” As First Lady, she was praised for her style, elegance, and grace. She undertook the task of renovating the White House with the aim of historical preservation.

Jacqueline was famous for her White House dinner parties and other social events. She invited an eclectic mix of guests that included—writers, artists, musicians, scientists—to mingle with politicians and foreign dignitaries. The whole world fell in love with her, and she is considered one of the most popular first ladies in U.S. history.

Jacqueline Kennedy was born into a socially-prominent wealthy family. She was educated in private schools. She was a debutante in 1947. She attended Vassar College for two years and did her junior year abroad at the Sorbonne in Paris. She graduated from George Washington University in 1951 with a BA in French literature.

After graduation, Jacqueline worked as an “inquiring photographer.” Her job as to ask witty questions of the-man-on-the-street and photograph them. Their pictures and quotes would then appear in the newspaper.

When Jacqueline married John Kennedy on September 12, 1953, the wedding was called the “social event of the season." The wedding mass was celebrated by Archbishop Robert Cushing. About 700 were in attendance for the wedding ceremony and 1200 at the reception. Jacqueline’s wedding dress can now be seen at the Kennedy Library in Boston Massachusetts.

Jacqueline Kennedy bore four children, but one was still born and her last child was born pre-term while she was First Lady and died a few days after his birth.

About five years after the assassination of John Kennedy, Jacqueline remarried. She married Aristotle Onassis, a fabulously-wealthy Greek shipping magnate. Their marriage was not a happy one, but they remained married until his death in 1975.

The one thing I do not want to be called is First Lady. It sounds like a saddle horse.

— Jacqueline Kennedy

Hillary Clinton

Hillary Clinton was the 42nd First Lady of the United States.

Hillary Clinton was the 42nd First Lady of the United States.

Hillary Clinton

Hillary Clinton followed in the footsteps of Eleanor Roosevelt--she was actively involved in her husband’s presidency and had a career or her own both before and after her years as First Lady. She was a law professor and lawyer before her husband, Bill Clinton, was elected to the presidency.

Hillary was a Republican during her teen-aged years, but was influenced by her religious beliefs and the civil rights movement to join the Democratic Party. She graduated from Yale law school and worked as a law professor and as a lawyer. She was especially interested in children’s issues.

Hillary married bill Clinton in 1975 and moved from Washington to Arkansas to support her husband’s political ambitions. She served as First Lady of Arkansas when her husband was Governor of the state while continuing her career as a lawyer. During this time she gave birth to a daughter, Chelsea Clinton.

Hillary, like Mary Lincoln before her, had the misfortune to be first lady during a time of extreme political division, and like Eleanor Roosevelt before her she was actively involved in politics. Like her predecessors, she was vilified by political opponents and like her predecessors she did not let her detractors deter her from doing what she thought she needed to do to serve her country.

When Bill Clinton’s term as president was over in 2000, the couple moved to New York and Hillary was elected Senator of the state becoming the first First Lady to win a term to elected office. She was re-elected for a second term with an astounding 67% of the vote. In 2008, she ran for the Democratic nomination, but lost to Barack Obama. In 2009, she accepted a position as Secretary of State in the Obama administration and served until early 2013.

Hillary Clinton won the Democratic nomination for president for the 2016 election making her the first woman ever nominated by a major party in the history of the United States. However, she did not break the ultimate glass ceiling by winning the presidency. She lost in the electoral college, although she did win in the popular vote, obtaining a quarter of a million votes more than her opponent, Donald Trump.

Our lives are a mixture of different roles. Most of us are doing the best we can to find whatever the right balance is . . . For me, that balance is family, work, and service.

— Hillary Clinton

Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama is the 44th First Lady of the United States.

Michelle Obama is the 44th First Lady of the United States.

Michelle Obama

Barack Obama, elected president in 2008, brought his wife Michelle to the White House when he was sworn-in in January 2009. He is the first African-American president and she is the first African American First Lady. Like Eleanor Roosevelt, she is 5’11’ tall. Like Jacqueline Kennedy, she is a fashion icon, admired for her elegance and charm. Like Hillary Clinton she is a lawyer and is involved with politics. (However, unlike Hillary, she is not expected to seek public office after her husband’s term is over. If she did decide to run for office, she would be a very strong candidate.)

She was born in 1964 to a working class family on the South Side of Chicago. Her father worked as a water plant employee and her mother was a homemaker. She is the descendent of slaves. She excelled at school and graduated from Princeton University and Harvard Law School.

After obtaining her legal degree, she worked at a law firm where she met Barack Obama. (He was doing an internship at the firm.) They married in 1992 and they have two daughters, currently teenagers.)

Michelle later worked on the staff of Chicago mayor, Richard M Daley. She was employed at the University of Chicago Medical Center just prior to her husband’s run for president.

As First Lady, she is an advocate for poverty awareness, civil rights (for the LGBT community and others) and healthy living (promoting good nutrition and exercise, especially for children.) She is also in great demand to give political speeches. She enjoys very high popularity among the U.S. public.

In my own small way, I've tried to give back to this country that has given me so much.

— Michelle Obama

This documentary about the history and restoration of the White House, narrated by Jacqueline Kennedy, appeared on television in 1962.

First Gentleman?

A New Poll

The previous poll was mostly about Hillary Clinton becoming our first woman president. Now that the election is over, it seemed prudent to close out that poll. I am replacing it with a new poll about Michelle Obama.

Michelle Obama has been widely praised for the speeches she gave on behalf of Hillary Clinton. Many are saying that she should run for office herself.

Use the poll below to give your opinion on this question. You can use the comments if you want to explain your answer.

Michelle Obama's Future

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I'd love to hear your opinions.

Dr. Adrian Krieg on December 10, 2019:

This is in all probability the dumbest posting on the Internet.

You omit the present First Lady?

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on February 09, 2015:

Thanks for you comment Klidstone1970: The contributions and sacrifices of first ladies often get lost in history. I'm glad you liked my hub on first ladies. We should remember them on Presidents Day. Maybe we should have a First Ladies Day.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on February 09, 2015:

Thanks for you comment Klidstone1970: The contributions and sacrifices of first ladies often get lost in history. I'm glad you liked my hub on first ladies. We should remember them on Presidents Day. Maybe we should have a First Ladies Day.

இڿڰۣ-- кιмвєяℓєу from Niagara Region, Canada on February 09, 2015:

This was an interesting lesson in American history for me. I know a little bit about some of the women you featured, but have to admit my knowledge is pretty scant on the topic. So thank you for allowing me to learn a little more of your country's history. All the best, Kim.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on December 05, 2014:

Thanks for the inside info about Hillary running for president. Thank you for your votes. The role of first lady has really changed a lot.

Sondra Rochelle from USA on December 05, 2014:

This is an interesting topic! I have it on good authority (a relative of the Clintons), that Hillary will definitely run we may well have a first "gentleman" sooner than we think! Voted up and interesting.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on November 24, 2014:

Dranisha--I love that you called the wives of the presidents "the kingmakers." It is so very true. Thanks for a comment that made me smile.

Dr.Anisha.S.K.Deepesh from THIRUVANANTHAPURAM, KERALA ,INDIA on November 23, 2014:

Congratulations for a hub on the 'King makers'.They are superior than the kings!! Good read

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on November 06, 2014:

Thank you Lareene for your comment. The First Ladies do have a tough row to hoe. I'm glad you found their stories interesting and enlightening.

Lareene from Atlanta, GA on November 06, 2014:

What an interesting hub. I find each first lady unique and realize it's not an easy role especially with the demands of the times, family, and societal expectations.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on November 05, 2014:

I'm glad you enjoyed it, teaches12345. I enjoyed researching the first ladies.

Dianna Mendez on November 05, 2014:

Todd is the least attractive as a person for so many people. Kennedy will always be admired by the majority of the people as she was married to a favored president. This was an interesting and educational read. THank you!

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on October 31, 2014:

Thank you Iris. If it will be interesting to see is the first man is more like Jacqueline Kennedy or Eleanor Roosevelt/Hillary Clinton/Michelle Obama.

Cristen Iris from Boise, Idaho on October 31, 2014:

This is wonderful. Martha Washington's quote about being a state prisoner made me chuckle, but then I thought about how difficult it would be to be in her shoes. Of course Eleanor Roosevelt was the rock star of First Ladies and her advocacy and humanity stand as a beacon and an example to all of us.

I certainly hope that the first man who finds himself standing beside the first female president (assuming she is married) is able, like Eleanor Roosevelt, to be his own person and to do the good he wants to do, not just be a side kick. I loved this article! Voted up.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on October 30, 2014:

Vocal coach. Now that I have researched Abe Lincoln for my hubs on the presidents.and his wife Mary for this hub I really want to know more about both of them. There was so much tragedy in their lives. I'll be writing about them again.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on October 30, 2014:

Well done! Your choice of First Ladies met with my approval. Just finished reading a book about Mary Todd Lincoln. I have to say, it was a bit unsettling. Thank you for this marvelous hub.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on October 29, 2014:

What a Freudian slip. Thank you for pointing it out. I am laughing so hard right now. I'm glad you put it in a comment. It is so funny. I almost hate to fix it. You can always send me an email. (go to my profile, then fan mail, you ill see just to the left a place to click to send email.

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 29, 2014:

I am a fan of Hillary's, and I hope she will be our first female President. I noticed one little typo which made me cheer for her (fourth paragraph under Hillary): Hillary had the misfortune to be PRESIDENT during a time of extreme political division... . I don't usually point these things out, but I thought you wouldn't mind. Don't you love those unintended slips? I tried to see if there was another way to contact you. Yay, Hillary! Great hub and much enjoyed!

Sasa Sijak on October 29, 2014:

There are many great first ladies. The truth is that there are no good presidents without good first ladies.

Catherine Giordano (author) from Orlando Florida on October 29, 2014:

I like the six first ladies that I picked. Instead of saying they are good or bad, I would say they had some good and some bad traits. Thanks for your comment.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 29, 2014:

There have been some great ones and there have been some real clunkers. :) Just like the presidents, 'eh? Interesting read.

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