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American Society Treats Teenage Mothers Disgracefully

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A. Introduction

As I was browsing through a group of thumbnails on YouTube, I recently stumbled across a video with a news story regarding a 13-year-old girl who had run away from home with a 22-year-old man whom she had met online. His name was Tyler Thompson. Actually, the video itself showed a deputy sheriff named Royce James who went searching for this missing girl.

To make a long story short, Deputy Sheriff James went to the motel room where Tyler Thompson and the 13-year-old girl had been staying together. He had Mr. Thompson to believe that he was a motel employee who needed access to the room for repair purposes.

Of course, after Mr. Thompson had opened the door to the motel room to let him in, Deputy Sheriff James barged in and chastised Mr. Thompson. The 13-year-old girl came running to Deputy Sheriff James and hugged him in a way that suggested that she was turning to him in distress. She complained that she had a stomach ache. Mr. Thompson and the girl had already had sexual intercourse with each other by the time that Deputy Sheriff James had knocked on the door of the motel room. Deputy Sheriff James politely told the 13-year-old girl to wait in the other room.

Deputy Sheriff James kept asking Mr. Thompson his age and even implied that he could lose his temper with him at any moment. Finally, Mr. Thompson caved in and admitted that he was 22 years old. It made me think of a scene in the movie titled Billy Jack in which Billy Jack seeks out this one man with whom he had a score to settle toward the end of the movie and he finds him in bed with a 13-year-old girl. It’s strange to think that that movie was initially released clear back in 1971, because supposedly fewer teenagers and tweenagers were sexually active back then as compared with nowadays.

Anyhow, Mr. Thompson looked visibly uneasy and nervous in the presence of Deputy Sheriff James. Anyone could see that he probably realized that his life was about to take a turn for the worse from that point on. His biggest mistake was failing to assert his Fifth-Amendment rights and ask for a lawyer, because doing so would have stopped Deputy Sheriff James from even being able to find out his age directly from him. There is a video on YouTube wherein Regent Law Professor James Duane warns everyone never to talk to the police. You can watch that video below.

Regent Law Professor James Duane Stresses The Importance Of The Fifth Amendment To The United States Constitution

Of course, Mr. Thompson was probably so dead set on believing that he would never get caught at what he was doing that Deputy Sheriff James’s unexpected appearance at the door of his motel room put him into a state of shock and panic. He likely felt that Deputy Sheriff James had him behind the eight ball, and he was too afraid not to answer him when he asked him his age.

I also must add that Deputy Sheriff James talked as though he was going to beat the answer out of Mr. Thompson if he refused to speak. Hmm. Could we have been looking at a prospective case of police brutality?

Now, all of us are going to have our own respective opinions about what went on in that motel room as well as about the events that led up to it. I’m not here to make Mr. Thompson look like an angel in wings, because he is obviously far from it; and I won’t try to convince you that he’s the next Goldilocks. He definitely was playing with fire when he decided to hook up with a 13-year-old girl through the Internet and ask her to meet up with him somewhere so that they could go to a motel room together for a liaison. His arrest was a rude wakeup call to him of the fact that the United States of America was colonized by the Puritans instead of the French, to say the least.

Judge for yourself what happened. You can watch a video below that shows Deputy Sheriff James searching for the missing 13-year-old girl and arresting Mr. Thompson.

Deputy Sheriff Royce James Tracks Down A Missing 13-Year-Old Girl And Apprehends Tyler Thompson

Deputy Sheriff James was subsequently celebrated as a national hero and was given interviews on camera and television appearances to talk about his search for the missing girl and his arrest of Mr. Thompson. You can watch a series of television appearances he made in the news clips below.

Deputy Sheriff Royce James Interviews With The Mainstream Media Both Nationally And Locally

The media, the press, and the court of public opinion all three had a field day with this same story. Child advocates and social justice warriors were all over the place in the comments sections of online news articles with this story. In describing Mr. Thompson, they spewed their usual derogatory terms beginning with the letter P in which the term “pedophile” was one of them.

Meanwhile, to the best of my knowledge, no qualified mental-health professional has ever diagnosed Mr. Thompson as being a pedophile to this very day. Then again, I’m sure that none of these individuals who have branded him with that medical term could care less how the American Psychiatric Association (“A. P. A.”) defines pedophilia in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (“DSM-5”), which specifies that pedophiles are exclusively or primarily attracted to prepubescent children rather than teenagers. They may find themselves in similar circumstances as Elon Musk for being so indiscriminate about how they use or rather misuse that medical term. Of course, that’s neither here nor there.

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I’m not making excuses for what Mr. Thompson did. I’m not doubtful that he knew what the ramifications of his actions would be as well as the kind of impact they would have on the lives of everyone involved, including his own, in the event that he got caught. However, I would never go to the extreme of equating him to or even comparing him with monstrous abominations like Donald James Smith or the late John Couey, because he did not prey on a defenseless, little prepubescent child in a violent and lethal way. Instead, he crossed a forbidden legal age line with an adolescent girl who was apparently curious about what it would be like to share intimacy with someone significantly older than her. Well, I guess that she found out, although not in the way that she had expected. I know that I am going to get a load of backlash for stating it this way, but facts are facts.

I am well aware that the fact that the 13-year-old girl hugged Deputy Sheriff James upon his entry into the motel room is strongly indicative that she had probably realized by then that she had overplayed her hand after Mr. Thompson had begun to make his moves on her and eventually went too far with her. I am not one who would ever encourage a 13-year-old girl to have sexual intercourse with anyone of any age no matter how “cool” it may seem to her.

After Deputy Sheriff James was getting ready to arrest Mr. Thompson, Mr. Thompson probably had wished that he could jump into a time machine and go back one year in time before everything involving this one incident had taken place. I don’t see how he could be completely oblivious to the gravity of the kind of mistake that he made.

The situation involving Mr. Thompson and the missing 13-year-old girl bears a resemblance to another situation that happened so many years ago in Michigan. Like Mr. Thompson, a man named Zach Anderson was of collegiate age; and like the 13-year-old girl with whom Mr. Thompson hooked up, Mr. Anderson’s alleged victim was also in her early teens when she met up with him for sexual intercourse. However, the major difference between the two scenarios was that the press, the media, and the court of public opinion did not come rushing to Mr. Thompson’s defense after he was arrested and put on camera for the entire world to see. Quite the contrary, the press, the media, and the court of public opinion made him out to be the villain in this whole episode.

Jail inmates actually treated Mr. Anderson with respect while he was incarcerated after he was arrested for having sexual intercourse with a 14-year-old girl. Mr. Thompson may not be as lucky as him in that respect. Last I heard, Mr. Thompson was out on bond. You can get the full story regarding Mr. Anderson’s brush with the law, in the video below.

Zach Anderson’s Life Turned Into A Nightmare After He Was Arrested For Having A Liaison With A 14-Year-Old Girl

The above-described situation involving Mr. Thompson and the missing 13-year old girl also bears a strong resemblance to yet another situation in which a 22-year-old man named Morris Williams was arrested for having sexual intercourse with a 13-year-old girl named Alisha Dean after he first communicated with her on the Internet back in 2008. At the time of that same incident, Alisha Dean was the same age as Mr. Thompson’s alleged victim is now. That same incident also took place in Florida.

Nevertheless, unlike Alisha Dean, Mr. Thompson’s alleged victim got a full-blown pity party from the press, the media, and the court of public opinion. Moreover, unlike Mr. Thompson’s alleged victim, it had not been the first time that Alisha Dean had hooked up with a man in his twenties on the Internet for sexual intercourse. When she was 12 years old, she had a liaison with a 24-year-old man named Darwin Mills. You can get the full story about Alisha Dean in an online article titled “Should Statutory Rape Be A Strict-Liability Offense?

Child advocates will argue that because Mr. Thompson was a 22-year-old adult man, it was his duly obligation to avoid fraternizing with a 13-year-old girl in any way, shape, or form and that he had no business even showing any kind of interest in a girl that young. Diehard liberals, on the other hand, will argue that adolescents are becoming more and more sexually active at younger and younger ages than in previous decades and that it is, therefore, futile for society and the law to try to stop them from acting on their desires regardless of whether their related activities are intra-generational or extra-generational. Like the abortion debate and the controversy surrounding capital punishment, there will never be a solid consensus among Americans on how situations like the above-described one involving Mr. Thompson and the missing 13-year-old girl should be handled.

Helicopter moms believe that the so-called solution to protecting a middle-school or high-school girl from harm is to restrict her to dating and having relationships exclusively with boys her own age. That is, don’t allow your 13-year-old daughter to have a boyfriend any older than 14 or 15 years of age, and all will be well. However, this same false assurance that Americans get peddled every day could not be any further from reality, because anyone who reads online news articles knows that there are boys as young as 13 years old, even 12 years old, here in our nation who commit heinous crimes against adolescent girls, even against adult women.

Nevertheless, many Americans praised Deputy Sheriff James for “rescuing” the missing 13-year-old Florida girl, and I don’t doubt that she felt very relieved once he appeared on the scene and took full control of the situation to keep it from getting any more out of hand than it already had done so. Even though it should be the court system that decides whether or not Mr. Thompson actually is guilty of any crimes connected with that young girl, it is very clear that she ultimately discovered that she was not ready for any kind of sexual relationship with anyone, not even with anyone her own age. Unfortunately, the dirty deed had already been done by the time that Deputy Sheriff James was walking through the door of the motel room. Therefore, this young girl’s life and Mr. Thompson’s life will both never be the same again from that day on.

The statutory age of consent in Florida is generally 18 years old. However, when an adult is younger than 24 years of age, then a Romeo-and-Juliet provision kicks in that allows for that adult to have consensual relations with someone as young as 16 years of age without breaking the law, of course. Because Mr. Thompson was 22 years old at the time of the incident, the young girl he took to the motel room would have to have been at least 16 years old before he could have expected Deputy Sheriff James to let him off the hook for what he did. Then again, Mr. Thompson likely knew that the girl was only 13 years old, and he, therefore, did not have a prayer of avoiding arrest after Deputy Sheriff James walked into his motel room and confronted him.

Now, let’s stop for one minute and ask ourselves what would have happened if Mr. Thompson had only been 13, 14, 15, or even 16 years old when he ran off with the above-described 13-year-old girl. Well, Deputy Sheriff James would have still searched for her. I don’t know if there are any laws or regulations on how old someone has to be to check into a motel room there in Florida. However, let’s just pretend that age would not have been any obstacle for the young girl and Mr. Thompson to check into a motel room.

Once Deputy Sheriff James had found them both, he would still have been furious at Mr. Thompson; but, instead, he would likely have given Mr. Thompson a stern talk and took him home to his parents instead of arresting him. The 13-year-old girl’s grandparents probably would have forbidden Mr. Thompson from ever seeing her again.

The press, the media, and the court of public opinion would not have demonized Mr. Thompson in the way that they have done so since the time of the above-described incident. In fact, if Mr. Thompson had been an underage adolescent boy close in age to that 13-year-old girl when Deputy Sheriff James had found them, the press and the media might have even gone as far as interviewing Mr. Thompson and allowing for him to gloat on camera. He might have even bragged about what a stud he thought he was for taking that young girl to a motel room and fooling around with her against the wishes of his and that girl’s respective families.

Nobody would be accusing Mr. Thompson of being a child molester or a pedophile in that event, which really should not be for the court of public opinion to determine in any event. He probably would have gone back to his own life, and the above-described 13-year-old girl would have gone back to hers. However, here is the problem I am still having with this same scenario.

The missing 13-year-old girl complained to Deputy Sheriff James that her stomach hurt upon his arrival to the motel room. I gather that she felt that way inasmuch as she was unready to have sexual intercourse and she was likely upset that she went through with it. However, if Mr. Thompson had been the same age as her, she still could have had that same stomach ache and felt the same way about their liaison. It is not right for American society to assume that an adolescent boy is incapable of doing any wrong to a girl her age merely because he is the same age as her, especially when there is sexual activity involved.

If parents don’t want their adolescent daughter to have sexual intercourse before they feel that she is ready to do so, the only answer to their concerns is for them to forbid her from dating at all. However, she would still risk the danger of becoming socially challenged in that event. In other words, there is no easy answer to this problem.

If parents are merely trying to keep their underage daughters from becoming pregnant, then perhaps gender segregation in educational institutions could be the solution to that concern here in the land of milk and honey. Such a set-up would not completely stop middle-school and high-school girls from having any sort of verbal contact with the opposite gender, but girls that age would at least have much more control over to whom they wanted to make themselves accessible or inaccessible.

Now, let’s take this issue one step further and let’s ask this one pressing question. What if Mr. Thompson had been the same age as the missing 13-year-old girl or slightly older than her, but no older than 16 years old, and that 13-year-old girl had become pregnant with his baby? Well, I can tell you that one thing that would have happened would be that after Deputy Sheriff James had brought her back to her grandparents, the press, the media, and the public at large would have lost interest in her very quickly and they would not have seen her as any kind of victim. In fact, the same people who acted so concerned about her previously would likely have turned on her like betraying angels after they found out that she had gotten pregnant.

Now, isn’t it interesting how American society will call a middle-school or high-school girl naïve, impressionable, innocent, and helpless whenever she goes missing and it is discovered that she is in the company of an adult man who may even be fewer than 10 years older than her? However, whenever a girl that same age becomes pregnant and the father of her unborn baby is a minor the same age as her or close to her in age, American society will look down on her with disdain and contempt. Somewhere in that whole mix there is a double standard, and I will be identifying it herein.

As you already probably realize by now, this article here of mine is not for the purpose of discussing whether state legislatures should lower or raise the statutory ages of consent across the United States of America. This article is about how our society treats adolescent girls between 12 and 17 years of age so disgracefully whenever they become pregnant from having sexual intercourse with a boy in their peer circles and how that disgraceful treatment only gets worse with time after that young girl gives birth to her baby.

You may have already read my article titled “Should Deadbeat Teenage Fathers Be Drafted?” that discusses the topic of teenage pregnancy and teenage motherhood. Even though I realize that this is a sensitive and controversial topic, I decided that I wanted to revisit it in the form of this same article here of mine on this writing platform.

Now, for the sake of preventing confusion, I will define a teenage father herein as any boy between the ages of 12 and 17 years old who either has gotten an underage girl pregnant or has fathered a baby with one. I’m going to refer to 18- and 19-year-old men as twenty-something-year-old men inasmuch as they are legally above the age of majority and would not be tried in a juvenile court for an adult crime.

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B. Needless Humiliation And Shaming Of Teenage Mothers

We all know how the story goes. A girl may be 16, 15, 14, or even 13 years old, and one day she finds out that she is pregnant. Her entire life is turned upside down. She confronts stigmatization, ostracism, and humiliation from all the malicious gossip that ensues about her at her school and in her community. Her Title IX rights are often violated. The very same authority figures that she previously thought would come to her defense usually end up betraying her.

A teenage girl is needlessly subjected to all sorts of shame after others find out that she is pregnant. Her situation does not get any better after she becomes a teenage mother.

Meanwhile, teenage fathers are usually treated differently in a sense that they are seldom ever even criticized for having gotten an underage girl pregnant. In fact, often they are even praised for having done so. They may even have parents who encourage their depraved behavior.

Most of us have heard about the scene in the shower room of the boys’ locker room where boys will talk about a classmate of theirs becoming a teenage father. If the boy who got the girl pregnant is present there in the shower room, they will surround him and congratulate him as though he is some kind of legendary Casanova. However, seldom will he get run down with malicious gossip.

Unlike the girl he got pregnant, he won’t have to drop out of high school. In fact, he probably will even be able to go on to college; and if he lives in a state jurisdiction that protects him from paying child support until after he completes his collegiate studies, he will most certainly take full advantage of that option at the expense of the underage girl he got pregnant and their offspring. If he gets married afterwards, it will most likely not be the girl that he got pregnant whom he'll wed; and he will continue to find inventive ways to pay the least amount of child support that he can, so that he and his newly formed family can live the lavish lifestyle that they want. It is all so mind-boggling when you think about it.