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Who Is in Your Head?

Sarah is a yoga teacher, custom framer, babysitter, and artist. She loves painting and spending time with her rat, gerbil, and hamster.


The Stories We Tell Ourselves

It's like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story. -Patrick Rothfuss

Everyday we tell ourselves certain stories that guide our lives. For example we tell ourselves that education is good and drugs are bad. We tell ourselves that if we just try harder we will succeed and that we are failures if we do not live up to specific expectations. Where did these stories come from anyway? Perhaps they were passed down from an earlier generation, we heard it on television, or an authority figure told them to us. We may tell ourselves these stories so often that we have forgotten where they originated from.


Take What You Need and Leave the Rest

Television is by nature the dominator drug par excellence. Control of content, uniformity of content, repeatability of content make it inevitably a tool of coersion, brainwashing, and manipulation. -Terence McKenna

Some stories are very important, they teach us lessons, about our history, and who we are. However it is very crucial to pay attention to who is telling the story and what exactly they want to accomplish. A loving parent telling "the boy who cried wolf" is an excellent example of a story told out of love to teach a young one an important character trait: honesty. But what about the other stories floating around in our heads, the ones that tell us who to be even if it doesn't agree with who we really are.


Who is Talking Here?

Inner dialogue is the voice inside your head that is constantly telling these stories you have picked up throughout your life. Perhaps you hear the nagging voice of your aunt or the stern voice of a teacher when you do something "wrong" telling you how messed up. My suggestion is that throughout your day, in different circumstances and situations, you simply observe what you tell yourself. You don't have to change anything or label any thoughts as good or bad. Just observe. You may be surprised what you tell yourself in the back of your head without even realizing it. Is that really you?

Pay particular attention to the phrases that begin with things such as "I can't," "what will so and so think if," or "I am too (fill in the blank) to." These are all restrictive stories that are holding you back from doing what you really want to do and exploring who you really are. Perhaps you have been saying them so long to yourself that you don't even pay attention to them anymore. Somewhere along the road some one told you that you couldn't do something for whatever reason, and maybe the person is even you. It may have been someone you love who thought they were doing you a favor. In any case you don't have to continue to believe these stories that are harmful, holding you back, or are simply not true.

When you read or hear something, does it ring with truth for you?

Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense. -Buddha


Wise Words

“Everything changes when you start to emit your own frequency rather than absorbing the frequencies around you, when you start imprinting your intent on the universe rather than receiving an imprint from existence.”
― Barbara Marciniak

“How have you arrived at your thinking? Where do your ideas and knowledge come from, and why do you credit some knowledge and discredit others?”
― Barbara Marciniak

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“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey

“We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey.”
― Stephen R. Covey

“I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.”
― Mark Twain

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh

“Make your own Bible. Select and collect all the words and sentences that in all your readings have been to you like the blast of a trumpet.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson


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Sarah O'Brien (author) from Pennsylvania on June 08, 2013:

Emanate Presence, thank you so much for your kind words!

Gary R. Smith from the Head to the Heart on June 08, 2013:

You selected truly provocative and profound quotes, and composed a hub showing thoughtfulness, insight and care. Bravo to you!

Sarah O'Brien (author) from Pennsylvania on June 06, 2013:

Dbro, thank you for your comment! You bring up an excellent point. There are so many people who are trying to bring us down, why do it to ourselves? Thank you again. =)

Dbro from Texas, USA on June 06, 2013:

Very interesting hub, chipped teacup! I am an art teacher, and I work very hard to get my students to refrain from negative self-talk when they are working on their projects. We are so hard on ourselves!

Your observations are very interesting and presented in a very clear manner. Thanks for this thought-provoking article.

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