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Names Will Never Hurt Me

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I am a mother of three wonderful adult children, and I'm also a born-again Christian. I love to share my personal experiences.


Sticks And Stones

There was an old childhood chant I can remember - Sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me. Do you remember this? I sure do and now that I am older and wiser I know that this chant is far from the truth.

Bones heal but names sometimes never heal, especially when you are a child and others ridicule you and make fun of you. If a child never had a good self image to begin with you can only then imagine what damage it can do. This may harm a child's mind and their emotions when they are put down by disturbing words.

Bones may not get broken by the sticks and stones, and if they did they will in time heal. However with words hearts can be broken and may never heal, depending on the individual. Words can be devastating. Words can wound; words can also kill. You know that reputations and relationships have been destroyed by words. And we all know words can even start Wars!

What about the stories you read about. The Columbine shooting that happened in Colorado, why was it said that those boys went on a rampage? Part of it was because they were out for revenge to get back at all their peers that spoke words to them, which were in themselves extremely damaging. I am not saying that this was the main cause of it but it sure added to the unfortunate and horrific end result. Words do hurt! We are seeing more and more of this happening.

Proverbs 18:21

The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.


Lasting Damage

Hurtful Words

Although it is sometimes hard to do, we are called to leave our past behind us. But unfortunately many of us find that easier said than done. We all have a file cabinet in our mind that is kept there.

When we have been judged, treated cruelly, or have had cruel and hateful words that are said to us. And sometimes these names might be used often, this is abuse at its worst. We also go to that file and pull out those hurtful words that can leave long lasting emotional pain inside. No matter how hard we try to forget, sometimes those words manage to stay with us forever.

Emotional damage to a child can cause lifelong damage if we don't find a way to heal. Being called a loser, sissy, stupid, ugly, fat, fag, etc. This can even be done by parents who are supposed to build their children up, and of course by kids that don't realize the hurt they are doing to someone else.

It starts with one word when we're young, but as we grow, the hurtful sentiments become phrases and even paragraphs. If we don't find a way to heal, they can cause lasting, and lifelong permanent damage.

Reflection Of Our Souls - So Many Bitter people


Many people out there are so bitter and angry, that they just need an excuse to strike out at someone. I had one woman wanting to pull me out of my car and beat me up because I was annoyed that she was walking in the middle of the street, and wouldn't let me pass by. She called me every bad name you can think of. In other words I was a hoe, a slut, you name it, I was all of these things according to this total stranger. I asked her why she was so angry?

The tongue only speaks what comes from the heart. Their words are a reflection of their souls.

James 3:5

Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.

There are so many angry bitter people full of resentment, they are unhappy and they want you to be just as miserable as they are. They need to be healed inside. Also honesty is the best policy but not an excuse to be evil, hurtful, or mean spirited.

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When will people realize that we have to put an end to bullying? What will it take? More lifes? - Wake up people


Broken Spirit - Hurtful Words


A broken spirit is much harder to heal than a broken bone. So many of us carry these invisible scars that bring us untold pain.

Even strong people will often collapse under the continual verbal attack of someone who really wants to wound them.

Proverbs 11:9 says, "The hypocrite with his mouth destroys a neighbor."

Proverbs 12:18 reminds us, "Reckless words pierce like a sword..."

Often people who put another person down is because they want the control. Example: ( a lot of the bullying that children face in school and elsewhere.)

When a person is confronted for their inappropriate actions, and not allowed to remain in control, they tend to get even nastier.

If someone continues to treat us with cruelty and/or disrespect, it is time to consider distancing ourselves from them. They are detrimental to our self-esteem, and quite frankly we just don't need those kinds of people in our lives.

It's important for parents to know what is going on in their children's lives. If we took the time we can put a stop to something that can be very devastating to our child in the long run.

If I didn't take the time and make surprise visits to my daughter's school I probably wouldn't know half of the things that were going on, while being ignored by the school staff - she is special needs.

I really do believe it saved her today from being emotionally disturbed and scarred, If it continued. Now she is kind and only speaks kind words to others. I just thank God that she wasn't damaged, as so many other children are today.


Think Twice

Is Always Best

James 3:5

Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.

Please think twice before you say anything to someone that may be hurtful. There are too many broken spirited people out there as it is. Don't you think that it is about time that we really try hard to build another person up, instead of constantly putting them down? That same person may have been already damaged by all the hurtful remarks in their life, and perhaps that is why they are the way they are because of it. God calls us to love one another and to build each other up. Let's make this world a better place by letting it start with us.

1 Peter 3:9-11

Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. For, "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it.

Watch your words - If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all


Put An End To Bullying

Sticks and stones they may break your bones but names do hurt you! - Lets stop bullying and that doesn't mean repaying evil for evil there has to be another way


Bullying and its effects on a child.

It may help someone here that just may need to hear what you have to say. Or an experience about bullying. Thank you for stopping in.

Love Lorraine

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tonyleather on October 25, 2013:

Interesting Post!

Melissa Miotke from Arizona on April 25, 2013:

I'm glad that the issue of bullying is becoming more of an issue that people care about. I have two young children you aren't in school yet and I dread hearing of my child being picked on someday.

Magda2012 on April 13, 2013:

There are too many bitter people, so we have to be sweet people :)

sikiriki on April 07, 2013:

Words can hurt much more than anything else.

Thanks for visiting and liking my lens:-)

Aunt-Mollie on April 05, 2013:

Unfortunately, bullying isn't just something that happens to kids. Playground bullies grow up to be office bullies and forum bullies.

However, real coping skills can be learned and there are important resources today for learning these techniques. One discussion I read recently was a study that focused on enlisting the help of the community (whether in school, office, etc.) to refuse to allow the bully to continue bullying. That effort seemed to work quite well in the case study I read.

onlybydesignz on March 23, 2013:

Thank you for your lens.

onlybydesignz on March 23, 2013:

Thank you for your lens.

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