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They Said Not to Worry, There’s Nothing Really There; They Lied

Ignore the in-my-face obvious issues and lend all of my attention to unwarranted, groundless non-issues? Not happening!



Personally, I have never had an abortion, it is not something I'd ever even consider, but I have been around women who have. I have been around the people who love them, who didn't get a say in the matter.

It's tragic on so many levels.

Over the years, I've heard their cries, I've witnessed their despair and I've watched them dip in and out of depression.

I regret to say that I've gotten more than one phone call, from more than one loved one, moments away from taking her own life.

I've also gotten the phone call after it had already been attempted, but by God's grace, she was saved.

What I've attempted to do with this Poem -

is point out the bigger picture.

It's not just a blob, a clump of cells or an alien growing inside of a woman's body, he or she is a human being. If there was any question before, there isn't now, with 3D imaging, sonograms and the marvelous modern technology of today.

There is more than one person involved, it's not all about the one person who has a another life inside of her, key word: another life; there is a father, there are loved ones ready to welcome this new life into theirs.

There are the long term effects, that I and so many others have witnessed, as we've seen what regret and guilt can do to the human body and the human spirit; it ages the person, it weakens them and tears them down, it robs them of joy. Many are never able to get pregnant again, due to complications of abortion...

If they are able to forgive themselves, it isn't something that simply leaves the mind; there are consequences to every action and the mental scars remain a part of them.

Shame on the politicians and vast members of the medical field who have lied and who continue to lie to women. They may not have known better, once upon a time, decades ago. For that period of time, I am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt, but the overwhelming evidence today, as to when life begins, doesn't lie!

Those still defending abortion, in many cases up until the delivery date of healthy, full-term babies, are complicit in the taking of a human life, as far as I am concerned:


They said...

They said, not to worry, there’s nothing really there

it can easily be dealt with, no reason for despair

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Get with the program ladies, for the times they are a changing -

your life is most important, no need for rearranging

It’s less than one year forming and most likely...won’t feel pain

so take solace in that conjecture, no need to carry shame

Pay no attention to those changes, within your womanhood

if you could go back and prevent it, you know you certainly would...

But, since what's done is done and the time for choosing has come,

visualize cells, focus on self and repeat with me, life is just meant for some

They said, you’ll move on, time will help you heal

not that there’s anything to heal from, cause nothing there is real

That’s how it has been promoted, how it has been sold

The damage done unknown; so many hurt, but they’ve never told

It’s been going on for decades, scarring more than we’ll ever know

but, the lie has been exposed now, the reaping of the sow

It was all one big hoax, one great big ugly sell

An agenda which has been exposed, for time most assuredly...did tell

Shame on all who manufactured it and promote it still today

So careful to not use descriptive terms, so methodical in what they say

Since what's done is done and the time for choosing has long passed

I will pray for forgiveness, for the die, it has been cast

Whether it's the dawn of a new day or nightfall has come

I repeat over and over, life is just meant for some

They said, no one would know, but that was not to include me

The one reliving it in visions, when her face...not cells, I see

Two souls deeply affected in two totally different ways

One snuffed out forever, one tortured for all of her days

All for a radical agenda, all so that I'd get to say

"I didn't let it slow me down, I didn't let it get in my way"

Two lives forever altered, two lives forever changed

all so that a perfect life planned out, would need not be, rearranged

I cannot convince myself, no matter what I do

As long as I might live, this one thing will remain true

I will not come to terms with it, no matter how much I try

I will continue to expose it for what it is; one big horrific, life-destroying lie

AB Williams


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2019 A B Williams


A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on May 18, 2019:


One might think that Planned Parenthood {by design} is the one and only option and yet it is the one place which should be avoided, as if avoiding a danger zone!

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RTalloni on May 17, 2019:

Letting victims know that there are a variety of kinds of help with the hope offered by these organizations is so important. How to find that hope and help should be easier than it is for them.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on May 17, 2019:

Thank you RTalloni!

Yes, great suggestion. I will stop what I am currently working on and do that right now!

RTalloni on May 17, 2019:

Well done on a difficult topic. I've copied the links you added in the first comment to this one but wonder if you could add a paragraph re them as well as them below the poem. It may be that some would not go back to the beginning of the comments.

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A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 31, 2019:

I agree, their stories must be told.

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 31, 2019:

You can't put a pillow over your head. Whatever would the world do if you suffocated yourself? You're a one of a kind.

That self-forgiveness thing is a real kicker. I struggled with that for several years, only recently figuring it out and I can't imagine ever forgiving myself for something like abortion. Perhaps it isn't just done by sheer will. Perhaps it's divine intervention. It was in the case of this girl I know, at least. I used to invite her to a praise and worship group held every week in my college dorm basement. She'd always seem a little interested, but ultimately never show up. She left the school after that year but called me over the summer to tell me about a dream she had and to thank me for my persistence (see it comes in handy sometimes ;) ). It seems that my reminding her every week wouldn't let her completely turn her back on God due to her own guilt. Her dream was a healing dream about meeting family in Heaven, including her unborn baby. And was about learning that she needed to forgive herself in order to go forward. Today, she and her husband are church leaders.

I agree with you that the ladies with these kinds of stories should be speaking louder than the people who promote abortion, most of whom have probably never actually had one.

Suzie from Carson City on March 31, 2019:

Awww.... almost 40? Poor baby. No tears from this 70-(birthday quickly-roaring-up-behind-me, making it....count 'em.)..71year old Gram! Oh God! I want to sleep through it under the covers with a pillow over my head!

To respond to both of you,,,,I'm afraid I've had to be painfully aware of the numerous women who have been severely damaged...haunted by the decision they made. I confess it was not at all easy to listen. It was even more difficult to try to help them through the process of healing.....but it had to be done. We're all guilty at some point to have made mistakes, some quite egregious. For the sake of health and sanity, women must get to a point where they can somehow forgive themselves. Thus, HERE is where speaking out comes in to the picture. These women, who have had the experience with severe aftermath, are the ones who need to speak out for others who may be entertaining the same regrettable choice. Some do. Some cannot. and life goes on...

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 31, 2019:

Thanks. I've told you already how much I love your smiling picture from the first time I saw it. LOL. That picture of mine is actually a couple of years old now. It's from my best friend's wedding. I don't know about that "young mom persona," though, since I'm closer to 40 than I am 30. I certainly don't feel like a young mom anymore. Next school year, I will have a high schooler. Yikes!

But in regards to your comment, I could never imagine having an abortion. I know I told you before of the story of someone I knew who had one and whose private regret nearly consumed her. I think more women are scarred by it than we will ever know about, you're so right about that.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 31, 2019:

Paula, my mind automatically goes to the women that have gone through abortion(s), with your description of "suppression", "not speaking up, not defending themselves", etc.

How many of them were talked into, guilted into it, threatened with a break-up, given an ultimatum, convinced it wasn't a baby.....and so on? How many are going through life, having never come to terms with it, because it is not what THEY wanted?

I cannot believe that this is a procedure that happens and then everyone just moves on, unscarred by it.

Abortion is so ugly and destroys more lives (in more ways than one) than we'll ever know!

On a happier note, both of your profile pics are lovely!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 30, 2019:

Yes, ma'am.

Suzie from Carson City on March 30, 2019:

I've used this photo before...not a new one. In fact it's about 6 or 7 yrs old. As for you and pictures....Oh Goobledepoop! This photo proves you are photogenic. Now LEAVE it there!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 30, 2019:

Well, Paula, it just so happens that I like your new photo, too. What happened to the one your grandson wanted you to use?

That said, I don't have many photos that get it right. I am so not photogenic. There are so many photos of me and I am almost always making faces or looking mad when I'm not. Someone snapped this picture when I was laughing.

P.S. Your reply to Angie makes me sort of smile.... because I thought you thought I am one of those women, based off of things you said to me in the past.

Suzie from Carson City on March 30, 2019:

True Angie,,,VERY true. Most of these lovely women believe their Bi-otch must be suppressed at all costs. Oh How WRONG they are! "Oh dear, I must never speak up, never defend myself or my beliefs or hurt someone's FEELINGS, or seem too aggressive!!"" That's right honey...and how;s that attitude workin for ya?? Feeling used, abused, ignored, belittled, insignificant? less than human, like a nuisance to be brushed aside? You may want to rethink your delusions.

Shannon!! FINALLY...a profile photo that displays your happy, cutesy, young Mom persona. I thought you'd never get it right!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 30, 2019:

Oh, and by the way, ladies, there may be "a little bit of bi-otch in us all," but I do not think any one of us is one. You're both beautiful women inside and out in my book and I take my friends for who they are no matter the mood. I think maybe love is blind extends beyond romance, except that it's more like love over looks and is accepting....or something like that.

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 30, 2019:

If that's the case, I'd steer clear of me today! I woke up in a decent enough mood today and then quickly found that every little thing is annoying the crap out of me today. I'd do better to just be alone, but some people think it's quite funny to poke the bear.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 30, 2019:

Hey Paula, I am sure that Shannon would agree, there's a little bit of Bi-otch in each one of us, that must come out every now and then.

Suzie from Carson City on March 29, 2019:

And there ya go! Just look at me! I'm right back to being the same crazy, ornery, crotchety old Bi-otch I've always been! Miracles never cease!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

Thanks, Paula. I appreciate that. I don't mind telling you that I did worry about you the same way when I heard about yours.

Suzie from Carson City on March 29, 2019:

Open heart surgery......All too familiar words to me as well as unpleasant. Wishing your Dad a steady, sturdy recovery. 2019 Medicines and knowledge are at a phenomenal level. He has every chance for many more years. Best of luck to the whole family!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

Yes, particularly because his dad died from complications after open heart surgery when I was just a kid. Whenever someone I love goes through that, I can't help but worry. I sent you the message he asked us to share with those who prayed, didn't I? I don't know if I'm coming or going. Heaven help me when I'm elderly!

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 29, 2019:

LOL Paula!!!!

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 29, 2019:

Nope, this one passed with flying colors...go figure! ;)

I hope your Dad is coming along. Scary stuff!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

Paula, it's been nuts around here. Last week I got a sudden call from my mother that my dad was having open heart surgery first thing the next morning. It's never a good thing when she calls and starts off the conversation by saying my name and then pausing. She did that again when he first went to recovery because they couldn't get his blood pressure down. On top of that, we've had to deal with new renters and property maintenance high priority issues, preparing for an upcoming eviction that is pretty much inevitable at this point (not us, a renter). And I must've been tired because I slept until well past 10 am this morning when I fell back asleep after getting the kids out the door for school. Then I fell asleep again this afternoon for a couple of hours. Maybe I'll sleep tonight? More than likely, I just screwed up my sleep schedule even more.

Sorry, Angie. Just hijacked your comment thread with more dreaded spam. LOL

Suzie from Carson City on March 29, 2019:

Shan....It's Fri. and you thought it was Tues???? Oh thank God...I'm not as off as I thought! At least I was at Thursday!!!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

It's Friday? It still feels like Tuesday to me. You enjoy yours too!

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 29, 2019:

lol....okay then, goodnight! ;) Enjoy your weekend!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

Argggg.......See what I mean? I've found that I have more spam comments on my website and more errors when I use my phone. I should just go back to sleep now. Think I slept the day away.

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

Well, I did say I have nothing to add. LOL. I have not checked for spam comments in quite a while. Maybe I should. I've found bI hey more spam comments on my website b than here, though.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 29, 2019:

OMG this comment was treated as spam too Shannon! Only saw it because I looked back at a previous comment. What the heck!! Do I need to check all of my articles for missed comments? Argh!!

Shannon Henry from Texas on March 29, 2019:

Saw you'd shared it again so I clicked on the link. Nothing to add to this discussion. Like you, can't say that I look forward to seeing this movie, but I want to see it.

In the meantime, I wish HP had an edit button for comments. . .Just read the comments I left when you published. My typos. .. I should really stop trying to use HP from my phone. Whenever I comment or email from my phone it's like the autocorrect changes things AFTER I proofread. At least I can double back and correct my mistakes at the desktop, which are mostly transposed letters since my fingers seem to be dyslexic when I type. I'm hopeless. LOL

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 28, 2019:

Me either! As you know, I’ve shared my experience with Planned Parenthood, when I was very young and had no idea who they were or what they were about.....that was one of the creepiest experiences of my life. I sprinted out of that place so quickly, a passerby might have thought I had just robbed it.

Suzie from Carson City on March 28, 2019:

Angie....Agreed. I have always believed that the very best and accurate knowledge/facts, come from those who literally KNOW, from personal experience. I tend to sit up and take note! In this case, I needed no convincing at all.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 28, 2019:

Oh good, thanks for letting me know. I enjoy your emails in the midst of work stuff :), please keep them coming.

With her behind-the-scenes knowledge of the way things work at Planned Parenthood and her many experiences since her awakening....Abby Johnson is a force to be reckoned with, that’s for sure!

I plan to see the movie, but can’t say that I am looking forward to it.

Suzie from Carson City on March 28, 2019:

Thanks, GF.....Something went wrong somewhere.....I would send and find it popped back to me via the mailer daemon.....We'll see what happens the next time I try since I put it in my contacts again now.

Yeah...Powerful for sure!

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on March 28, 2019:

Wow, powerful stuff Paula. Thanks for sharing!

Not sure why you can't access my email. ?? Nothing has changed. I will send something your way.

Suzie from Carson City on March 28, 2019:

Ang,,,,,I can no longer access your email. There have been fabulous articles/videos that I am sure you would love to see and appreciate. This is one I have decided to share with you, anyway I could.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 02, 2019:

Amen Pop!

breakfastpop on February 02, 2019:

This is all an attempt to corrupt and undermine our culture, our morals and our hearts. It started with Obama and it is continuing. Clearly, the left is trying to undermine our society and and we have to stand tall and firm.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 02, 2019:

It matters! Thank you.

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 02, 2019:

Doesn't matter what I think. Seriously. But as far as my opinion goes (since you asked), I think it helps to know ahead of time what is about to be seen. Just hearing people talk about babies being ripped apart is enough to make me not want to hear more. But that movie trailer is very compelling. I can't imagine how she felt when she realized what she was doing.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 02, 2019:

Done. :)

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 02, 2019:

‘Unplanned’, in theaters March 29, 2019

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 02, 2019:

Shannon, it is funny (well not funny) but interesting that you hesitated to watch, for that reason, that it may actually show a procedure. I was contemplating going back and identifying as a move clip. So, maybe I should.

I added this to all of my articles regarding abortion though, soooo...I don't know, what do you think?

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 02, 2019:

Wow. I almost didn't watch the video. Don't know what I expected....another talk about how the procedure is done, I suppose, perhaps with graphic images. That looks like a movie that would be hard to get through with dry eyes.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 02, 2019:


A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Thank you Paula.

We must not waver, we are the choice for those without a voice.

Suzie from Carson City on February 01, 2019:

It's probably not necessary for me to repeat myself in terms of my opinions/beliefs on this particular topic. I'm sure you know by now, as well as anyone paying attention, should know. Although, we are painfully aware there's a segment of the population that pays absolutely NO attention to the likes of us righties.

But IMO, it IS necessary for me to let you know that this piece is a powerfully profound read...and I for one, am with you on all of it, Angie. Thanks for always being a Champion. Peace, Paula

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Thanks Vivian, I too remember things like that being said by Teachers and Coaches and everybody laughing. Back then everything wasn’t so literal!

I know, it is sickening, the liberal rush, (as you so perfectly put it), to “out death” each other.

I think this insanity is finally getting more attention though and that’s a positive.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Good choice Shannon.

Also, I agree about the Father having the right to have a say, if a law needs to be put in place, so be it.

Vivian Coblentz on February 01, 2019:


Very powerful and so necessary! The Left is tripping over each other now trying to "out death" the other on this issue. I'm sure you've heard the Virginia Governor, as well as others, now offering to let parents MURDER their babies AFTER they are born! When I was a senior in high school many, many years ago, our English teacher, undoubtedly driven nuts from teenagers, once quipped to the class, "I believe in retro abortion. Your parents should be able to abort you once they see how you turn out." He was totally kidding, and we all had a good laugh. Never in my life would I have imagined that would one day become a REALITY!!!

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 01, 2019:

Hmmmm....given a choice between only the two, definitely Steadborn! LOL

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Shannon, do you prefer Stubfast or Steadborn? ;)

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 01, 2019:

Oh, by the way, I give a shout out to be of you, Steadfast and Stubborn. Not sure where I fit in. I'm a little bit of both. Hahaha

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 01, 2019:

That's another can of worms, but it is a valid point. In this particular context, I think there should be laws that allow the father some rights before an abortion or before adoption, for that matter. Because you're right, it does take two to tango.

Leland Johnson from Midland MI on February 01, 2019:

haha. Good ending :) I actually knew what you meant, I wasn't sure if you knew what I meant.

Stubborn Leland out

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Yes, we've all seen for ourselves here at HP how quickly a subject can change course and go a completely different direction than we thought or perceived or intended...

I probably shouldn't have left my comment where I left it. :)

To clarify, my reference to "there should be no pressuring from either side at any point", was meant for the two it takes to tango.

Steadfast AB out!

Leland Johnson from Midland MI on February 01, 2019:

I think part of the question is what is meant by "pressure." If we are trying to persuade a person to our point of view is that "pressuring" them? Probably depends on how its done, but so often perception equals reality. It can be tough interpreting what people mean from what we want them to mean, or what we think they mean. I heard a minister phrase it in a way that I appreciated. He said, "If someone else doesn't want to do something they are stubborn. If I don't want to do something I'm steadfast." Thanks AB

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

There should no pressuring from either side at any point.

(I'll leave it there)

Leland Johnson from Midland MI on February 01, 2019:

That's true as well AB. I've heard stories where men wanted the baby but were excluded from the decision making. I also know men who have been pressured by wives to have a vasectomy too. Where's the "It's my body" argument there? Thanks for responding.

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 01, 2019:

That doesn't surprise me. It's been fought every time it's proposed that it be a requirement before the procedure is done. Yes, very messed up.

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Hi Shannon, I agree about the 3-D technology being utilized today....amazing stuff!

But, have you heard... the bill which was proposed in Virginia had wording to eliminate such videos from being seen or sonograms from being done.

I think it is safe for me to say that every liberal writer of any one of these abortion on demand bills, would include similar wording.

Pretty messed up, huh?

A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

Hi Leland this one flowed because I've had so many stories of regret shared with me over the years and I've witnessed lives which have fallen apart, as a result of the 'choice'.

You brought up don't always vote to abort, but men don't always get a say...

Thanks, I will definitely check out the book.

Shannon Henry from Texas on February 01, 2019:

I don't know about other states or even if it stuck as law here, but they were trying to make it so that women who go for an abortion have to watch a video first or have an ultrasound performed before the procedure in case they change their minds. In my opinion, it should be one of those 3-D ultrasounds. Those things are incredible. I had to have one for my oldest because the doctor ordered it to check for a possible spinal issue with him. You can see the facial features before a baby is even born. If a normal ultrasound image doesn't melt a person's heart a 3-D one certainly would. Or so I'd hope, at least enough to consider adopetion over abortion.

Leland Johnson from Midland MI on February 01, 2019:

Great work AB. I'm reading a book right now that's a real page turner, called "Unplanned." It's by Abby Johnson who was the director of a Planned Parenthood clinic. Her view was forever changed when she watched/ assisted, for the first time, an ultrasound enhanced abortion. She saw the baby moving, trying to get away from the suction device. Her testimony is gut wrenching, but necessary. Thanks for this bold effort, AB. This isn't about men trying to control women. In fact, I see it the other way around. I see irresponsible men as being the ones who want to control what women do as it is they who don't want to be responsible for the pregnancy they co-created. Johnson chronicles this in her book. God bless.


A B Williams (author) from Central Florida on February 01, 2019:

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