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The mother of the Groom: Poem


A wedding is a glorious thing that oft begins with a diamond ring.

It brings together family and friend to celebrate the engagement’s end.

The mother of the groom has a special role to play and tries to remain happy and gay.

Her baby’s leaving with someone new, his empty room can leave her blue but she always knew this day would come and nothing else could be done.

The mother of the groom sees through saddened eyes, the future and how fast time flies.

She’s watched him grow and shed a tear but knows his future now is here.

Her role as mother is never done but takes on a new role for him and his special one.

Her son is giving her a new daughter, one to cherish one who may falter,

One who needs her special care only when they ask her there.

She must be ready but never overbearing they will always need her love and caring.

The mother of the groom has a special role to play and tries to remain happy and gay.

She's the groom's mother unlike the other; the mother of the bride all look at with pride.

She must be gracious to all who come and give her smile to everyone.

She must not let her sorrow show or ever let her tears overflow.

It’s time to be happy and time to be gay as she watches her son move away.

The Forgotten Member of the Wedding.

The mother of the groom is often forgotten, even by the groom, on any wedding day. All eyes are on the bride and with that her mother. Yet, the mother of the groom is just as important as the mother of the bride, after all, there would be no wedding without either of these wonderful ladies. She may not be the center of everyone's attention, but it might be a good idea to give her the credit she deserves. She certainly worked just as hard at getting this wedding to take place. In fact, in many instances she had to learn to exercise control and not speak when she wanted to. She may have had to keep her opinions to herself for the sake the wedding and her son.

Commercially, she is well thought of. Many bridal shops cater to mother of the groom dresses, but that's just a money making ploy. Who else caters to the mother of the groom? Probably not even the groom himself. Understandably he is consumed with his bride and his wedding day. However, who got him there in the first place? Never mind the in-law dilemma, the mother of the groom should get equal billing with the mother of the bride!

So, when you go to the next wedding, remember the mother of the groom and give her a special hug.

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Mary Craig (author) from New York on May 10, 2013:

Thank you for the lovely compliment abbaelijah.

elijagod from Abuja - Nigeria on May 10, 2013:


Nicely written poem with great detail

Mary Craig (author) from New York on July 03, 2012:

You are so right AuFait, so many of our 'customs' are from days of old. It is a sad and happy time when your children get married, you want a life for them but as you said you miss the little people they were.

"A son is your son till he takes a wife, a daughter's your daughter for all of her life." While this isn't always true, I've seen it happen many times!

C E Clark from North Texas on July 03, 2012:

Very thoughtful poem.

Isn't the idea that we rear our children to become worthwhile contributing members of society who can stand on their own? I think part of the reason why the mother of the bride so often gets, or seems to get more attention, goes back to when women were thought of as mainly window dressing, and so limited attention was given to females for benchmarks. In the past daughters often went to live with their husband's family and a useful helper was lost. Very probably a companion and friend was lost as well.

Sons on the other hand, were a continual source of pride because they accomplished important things -- not just having and rearing children and doing housework. A lot of the old attitudes still linger in our society.

When a son leaves home, whether he goes off to school, a new career, or to make a new home with his wife, change takes place, as it does for a daughter, and as it does for us all. Nothing seems to stay the same for long. Would we really want our children to remain small forever and never have new experiences or the opportunity to grow and become all they can be? Their best selves?

I frequently say how proud I am of my grown up daughter, but at the same time, I miss the little girl she used to be.

While one's relationship with their children is always changing as are the relationships with everyone in a person's life, hopefully a mother, whether the mother of a son or a daughter, will remain an important part of their children's lives, although in a new roll. I happen to believe grandparents can and should be an important part of a child's life. They can provide grandchildren with a sense of family, family history, emotional support, and so much more.

A lovely poignant poem. When our children leave home it is both a sad time and a happy time, unlike any other. This poem helps intuitive people realize, as ThepPacticalMommy points out, that time goes by so quickly. Be sure to savor every moment with your children and all the people you care about, because one day before you know it, you'll be looking back and wondering where all the time has gone.

In spite of my decision never to read another poem after English Lit class, which I think I told about before, I really like this poem. It touches my heart. Voted it up, beautiful, and awesome. Will share.

Mary Craig (author) from New York on November 06, 2011:

Thanks Practical...it is a happy but tough day for sure.

Marissa from United States on November 04, 2011:

Oh, to think that someday this will be me watching my son marry and move away...I'm going to enjoy his childhood while it lasts! :) Beautiful poem.

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