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Ode to a Much Loved House: Moving is Like Leaving an Old Friend


I love visiting places unknown, at home and abroad. Learning about history and traditions helps us understand the world around us.

A House in France

Our Longere

Our Longere

Time to Move On

We’ve been privileged to have owned a house in France for ten years, have been accepted as regular participants in village life and made many friends; we shall undoubtedly be back.

However, it’s now time for change; we’re selling our 200+ year old ‘longère’ to a young French couple in the village who have the energy to spend time, effort and, little by little, some money, on making it theirs, on bringing it into the modern world (though retaining some of its character, I think).

Yes, we’re leaving this home from home which will be in our hearts, as well as in those of several of our family and friends, for many years to come. Although we’ll be back to see friends, we’ll no longer have our own little corner of France.

This Old House

This traditional French house, solid as a rock, full of character and history, has given us so much, seen many get-togethers, sheltered us from storms. It has given us produce from its garden and given the children respite from busy, hectic lives. It has fed our imagination with its history. Its beautiful lime tree, under which we’ve tasted our summer fayre, has sheltered the birds, insects and so much more that we don’t see.

A 'Thank You'

I couldn’t leave without writing a few words in praise of this magical place, without a ‘thank you’ to the old walls, the grounds and the trees. Words are not enough to do it justice but old friends need a proper, fond farewell.

Ode to an Old French Friend

This house knows so much more than I

of life and love and times gone by.

Its stone and beams stronger than I

give shelter when storms rant and fly.

A creaky loft older than I

keeps bats and frogs and beetles dry.

The shady lime, though younger than I,

sees nature far beyond my eye.

Long fields stretch out farther than I;

they grow, they feed, they hear birds cry.

The sun’s strong rays warm more than I;

they nourish all that live and die.

A harvest moon beams broader than I;

his face turns bright as he climbs high.

All will continue longer than I;

more hearts will beat, more lovers sigh,

but there’s one thing I have in me -

a lasting, loving memory.

Our Old Friend

Our Shelter & Home from Home

Our Shelter & Home from Home

Our Beautiful Lime Tree

Our Beautiful Lime Tree

Sunset over the House

Sunset over the House

Harvest Moon looks down on our garden

Harvest Moon looks down on our garden

What About You?

Have you ever been in a similar situation? You'll know how sad it is to let go of a place you love. You might be changing areas for work. You might be unable to afford to stay. You might no longer be able to carry out all the maintenance necessary. Many reasons come into play.

It's important to think through what's best, to follow your head rather than your heart in these situations. Circumstances change. It may be time to move on, time to explore pastures new or to spend it with family and old friends.

What's that old cliché? 'A change is as good as a rest'. It's true.

Never forget that there can be new adventures and experiences when your path changes direction.

Leaving Home

© 2013 Ann Carr


DREAM ON on May 09, 2017:

My wife and I moved from Massachusetts to Maine twelve years ago and bought a lot of land that had just trees on it. To neighbors maybe they wanted to keep it a lot of land. To us it was our dream home. So change takes place constantly and it is how we accept change that matters. I love our new home and we are constantly planting new plants. I am excited and happy that you are also loving your your new home and I would love if you shared your changes too. In my family we didn't make many changes so I got use to the way things were. So the littlest change seemed so big. Moving out of state would of been impossible without knowing I always had my mothers and fathers home to visit. It's like I never left. Part of me will always love my childhood home and the area were I grew up. Then another part of me loves our new life. Thank you for sharing and caring. Let the sun in and the good times begin.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on May 09, 2017:

DREAM ON: It is hard when things change but the lives of houses change as well. We've been back many times as we're still friends with the neighbours and know so many people in the village. The house itself has been modernised, which it needed, but my one sadness is that the lime tree has been drastically trimmed - no shelter for mealtimes now! I cried when I first saw it but now I recognise that it's theirs and their lives. You're right, we do have to move on.

I now have a delightful bungalow in Somerset and we're making it ours and enjoying it tremendously.


DREAM ON on May 08, 2017:

My brothers decided to sell my mother's home even though I wanted to keep it in the family. I couldn't afford it. The new owners name was Michael with both of us having the same name I thought it was a sign. He loved many things my mother and father have done and wanted to keep it the same. We also left their bedroom set and other things since he didn't have much. I was o.k. with it . Then I went to check on his new home months later and he was gutting the whole house. Everything he sad wasn't true. He just told me what I wanted to hear. Not happy about the situation but out of my control I have learned to move on. After reading your hub and explaining moving on is good and a new adventure. You always have pictures to remind you of all the great memories. I have many pictures too. I think the reason why I felt the way I did is because I know how hard my mother and father worked to keep their home and I loved it growing up. Those memories can stay wonderful and I make new dreams somewhere else. The best of both worlds. Thank you writing and sharing your life.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on October 09, 2016:

Thanks Peg; good to see you today. Yes, it was sad but we go back to the village often (in fact just 3 weeks ago) to see old friends and neighbours, who are always welcoming. Now we're in the process of doing up our 'final' house and it's very exciting - in England this time!

Great to be somewhere for 27 years. Bet you couldn't move all the accumulated possessions!

Have a great weekend!


Peg Cole from North Dallas, Texas on October 08, 2016:

Oh, it is sad to leave a familiar place where so many memories have hatched and lived. Your house looks beautiful and I wish you all the best in finding a new place as welcoming and charming. We have lived in this house we built for the past twenty-seven years. I hope we never have to leave but the time will eventually come when we can no longer manage the upkeep.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on April 21, 2015:

poetryman6969: I wish I could too! It was taken by my partner. Most of the photos on my hubs are mine but a few of his sneak past control!

Thanks for reading.


poetryman6969 on April 20, 2015:

Love that moon photo. Wish I could take photos like that.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on April 20, 2015:

Thanks, Mary. It's true that we take the history for granted here. So much is so old. Our friends in Australia and New Zealand say the same thing as you. They also envy us for being able to travel about so much relatively easily. Oz and NZ are miles from everywhere else!

I hated leaving my childhood home of 15 years and although we had this house only for 10 years and only for holidays it was still a wrench to leave its beauty and memories.

Thanks for the comments and for the votes, Mary.


Ann Carr (author) from SW England on April 20, 2015:

Thanks, mary. I must have a look at your ode, when I get time. I'm rushing off a few comments, emails etc before I go away so I might be quiet for a while - big sigh of relief at hubpages!!

I much appreciate your visits today.


Mary Craig from New York on April 20, 2015:

Bill is right, we get excited over here when a building is over 100 years old! Europe is mind boggling to some here. The point is, we can't imagine living in a house that old.

Moving from a house you've lived in a long time, in my case grew up in, is sad. It's like leaving an old friend, a cozy old friend filled with memories. Of course, the good part is you can take those memories and build new ones. You've captured the essence of that feeling.

Voted up, awesome, beautiful, and interesting.

Mary Hyatt from Florida on April 20, 2015:

Oh, I know the feeling well. I had to give up my home of 35 years about a year ago, and I miss it. My house was not as old as yours, but it was old compared to houses where I live. Mine was 100 years old. I spent many happy hours restoring it.

I also wrote an Ode to my old house here on HP. My old house held many wonderful memoies, but I am making new ones in a little apartment now.

Voted UP, etc. and shared.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on March 18, 2014:

Yes, DDE, a little sad but we know we can go back whenever we want and see all our friends. Thanks for visiting and leaving your kind comment. Ann

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on March 18, 2014:

Leaving the place you loved would make you feel sad I know that feeling from when I left my place.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on February 27, 2014:

Thank you Victoria. Yes, I'm emotional about former houses and this one gave us so much. We're lucky that we can go back to see what the new owners are doing to update and improve it. I appreciate your visit. Ann

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on February 27, 2014:

What a beautiful home! I am very sentimental about places I have lived, especially the first house I bought on my own. I appreciated your poem.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on February 20, 2014:

RTalloni: Good to hear from you again! Thanks for stopping by and I'm glad it left you smiling. Ann

RTalloni on February 19, 2014:

A few words indeed… :) You leave us with a smile after reading…

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on October 17, 2013:

Thank you Eddy. Glad you enjoyed it. Back home now; all signed and sold - aaahhh! Ann

Eiddwen from Wales on October 15, 2013:

I loved this one and thank you from sharing .

Take care


Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 29, 2013:

Thank you sweet Romeos! Thank for your good wishes. Ann

Romeos Quill from Lincolnshire, England on September 29, 2013:

....." Good night, good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow,

That I shall say good night till it be morrow. " - Romeo & Juliet, Act Two, Scene Two.

Goodbye to the old, and hello to the new - you shall always have the photos , and memories that mortals can never steal from thee.

Best of fortunes in your newest chapter.



Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 28, 2013:

Thank you Kathryn; so glad you popped by and glad you enjoyed the poem. We do indeed have good memories. Ann

Kathryn from Windsor, Connecticut on September 28, 2013:

I just got back from re-reading your piece of fiction you entered into one of billybuc's contests a few months back, and it is from the view of the old house in the story. Now I come to this piece, and it almost has the same feeling, except it is about a real house that you lived in for years. The poem is beautiful, and so are the photos. I particularly like the Harvest Moon, and I have a weak spot for sunsets and sunrises. I like the way the skies develop so many colors.

Thanks for sharing this piece with us. I am glad that your French home provided you with so many good memories.

Have a great day!

~ Kathryn

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 26, 2013:

Hello, Dolores. Good to see you again. Yes, the memories do last for ever and we have hundreds of photos to remind us of the place and the times we've spent there with friends and family. Thanks for reading and for your lovely comment. Time I looked at your hubs again!

Dolores Monet from East Coast, United States on September 26, 2013:

Thanks for sharing all your beautiful memories of your place in France. Though the house is no longer yours, the memories will be yours forever!

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 22, 2013:

Yes it is indeed a beautiful place. France is a wonderful country; it has just about every landscape possible - no wonder the French don't travel as much as we do. Thanks for your comments; much appreciated.

CraftytotheCore on September 22, 2013:

What a beautiful place! I've never visited France, but wouldn't mind have a place like that! Splendid.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 19, 2013:

LisaMarie724: Yes it was great. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment; much appreciated.

Lisa Stover from Pittsburgh PA on September 18, 2013:

How wonderful it must have been. Thanks for sharing.

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 18, 2013:

Thank you, epbooks, for dropping by and for your kind comments. Yes we have many wonderful memories over the last 10 years of spending time there. We'll be back there to say hello from time to time so fortunately won't lose sight of it altogether.

Elizabeth Parker from Las Vegas, NV on September 18, 2013:

Wow- that is beautiful. I can imagine many good memories were made there. Beautiful tribute!

Ann Carr (author) from SW England on September 18, 2013:

Thanks billy. Yes we are sad to leave but it's time to move on and at least we'll be back there to see friends. Glad you enjoyed it. The history, too, means a lot to me. I've had similar comments from Australian friends who don't go back very far either! All the best to you & Bev. Ann

unverm: thank you for your comment and glad you enjoyed it.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on September 17, 2013:

The architecture you all have over there is breathtaking....200 years old? Half this country doesn't have a building that old. LOL

Loved the pictures and your poem. I'm sure you are sad to leave such a beautiful place, Ann. Thanks for sharing it with us.


unverm on September 17, 2013:

what a beautiful character to be loyalty and I congratulate and thank you for this sincere and loyal hub. "this is mountain uhud, we all love it and it also loves us"

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