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Loyalty is a Two-Way Street

Shauna writes about a variety of topics in various genres, governed by whatever motivates her muse.

Loyalty sounds like an easy enough topic to write about, right? The reality is – no. It’s more difficult than I thought. This topic has been whirling around in my head with the force of the March winds. All I seem to have accomplished through contemplation is to disturb the cobwebs of my mind somewhat.

And then the light bulb came on. It took a phone conversation with an ex-coworker to flip the switch.

You see, most of the really talented and loyal people who worked at my last place of employment have left. Why? Simply because the sense of loyalty was one-sided. The entire accounting department has left. A few of the most capable Project Assistants have left. The Office Manager, who was a long-time friend of the founding family, has left. And we all have the same reason in common: loyalty was expected but not returned.

Now the brain cells are churning and pushing aside the cobwebs. Loyalty is all about relationships and how we treat others. Allow me to expound:

Employees Need to Feel Appreciated And That Results in Loyalty

Loyalty and Work Relations

I have a story to tell. I know, we all do, but you’re on my page right now, so bear with me.

I stayed home with my newborn son until he was almost two years old. It then became necessary for me to re-enter the workforce. I’d been out of copywriting for far too long, so relied on my accounting skills in order to find a job. I went to a temp agency that specializes in placing accounting personnel and immediately landed a three-month temp stint at a family owned and operated construction management firm. I took the place of the Assistant Controller while she was on maternity leave. I was amazed at how easily everything came back to me. I was having a blast.

Shortly after the Assistant Controller returned, she quit her job and offered it to me. At first I turned it down. Then the Controller called and offered me the job, which I accepted. A year later he retired and a new person was hired to take his place. We were a two-person accounting department. After four years with the company I resigned because I was denied a raise, although I’d had several since I first joined the company. The reason I was denied a raise was because I don’t have a college degree. My Controller (who has since retired and I remain very close friends with to this day) said that, although I was the most capable employee he’d had in his 30 years of public accounting and possessed a work ethic stronger than he’d ever experienced, I had no degree and wasn’t worthy of a raise unless and until I was willing to further my education.

That was in September 1998. December of the same year Cecil, the Controller, called me and offered me money out of his pocket and babysitting fees, if needed, to help him with year-end close. I agreed and we worked one weekend to get it all together. I couldn’t help but notice, when I sat down at my old desk, that there were now two desks in my old office. Cecil had to hire two girls to cover what I did without breaking a sweat! Kudos to me, pat me on the back!

What Comes Around Goes Around

In March of 2004 I received a phone call at the place I’d worked since I left, from Cecil, the Controller of the aforementioned company. He wanted me back. Apparently they had a problem with turnover since I’d left and he was constantly proclaiming to the president that “we need another Shauna”. Prez responded, “so call Shauna!” The ball was now in my court. I named my price and got it. Within a month I’d cleared up the A/R and A/P problems and brought the department current. I was then moved to a position where “my talents could be better served”. I rose from A/P, Payroll Clerk to A/R Supervisor and soon afterwards to Accounting Manager. I even had the responsibility of training the new Controller(s) after Cecil retired.

Life was grand. I was in my element. I was appreciated and I was permitted to fly.

Too Big For His Britches

Then the presidency got turned over to the third generation male before (most of us feel) he was ready. He no longer conducted it as a family business and it no longer had the feel of camaraderie. It was now a wanna-be fortune 500 company with a spoiled brat at the helm.

Life began to suck – big-time!

Raises were put on hold indefinitely. Okay, the economy had taken a dump but we were still afloat. I could live with that. That is, until I saw other people getting raises. Certain people were afforded top of the line computers, while I was operating on a 13” monitor (try reading spreadsheets on that!) and was running Windows 98 for godssake! Did they forget I work in accounting and see what we bring in? I reconcile the bank statement every month, send out million dollar billings and work the general ledger. Don’t #@$%*& lie to me!

I need to tell you that the President, Vice President, Chairman, all the Project Managers and Project Assistants came to me when they needed to know how to make something work. We had a very detailed, intricate accounting system. They didn’t go to the (new) Controller because she didn’t know the system and refused to let me train her, although she was directed to learn from me. I had a good relationship with our subcontractors and owners alike. That gave the company credence and me a sense of pride.

But when it came time to give Shauna a raise, the answer was always “no”. It was apparent my 12 years of loyalty and dedication meant nothing to those in control of my future.

So, in September of 2012 (that must be my month of emancipation and change) I quit. Just up and quit. I’d had enough of the one-sided relationship.

The accounting department took a direct hit because the Controller didn’t know how to do my job. She had no idea how the accounts I reconciled for the income statement were processed. She had no idea how to compile the billings and incorporate change orders into the subcontractor billings and our owner contract billings. As the result, she and the girl who worked for me had to work three months of weekends to try to keep up.

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Now does the company see my worth?

Eight months later, the Controller quit and two weeks after that the girl that worked for me quit. The department was now empty with the exception of a new person who was hired with NO ONE to train him!

Loyalty is a two-way street!

Spreadsheets, debits and credits. Try doing this day in and day out on a 13" monitor with an antiquated OS.

Spreadsheets, debits and credits. Try doing this day in and day out on a 13" monitor with an antiquated OS.

Loyalty And Personal Relationships

I was going to further this article with personal relationships and the loyalty that should be a part of them, but I’ve run out of time. Suffice it to say I’ve been divorced twice and choose to remain single for a reason.

It all comes down to loyalty. Give and take. Yin and Yang. Two-way street.

This is Kinda Head-Banger, But it Begs For The Return of Loyalty.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 Shauna L Bowling


Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on October 02, 2019:

Hacicu, thank you for your comment. Life is too short to put up with behavior that goes against our morals and/or comfort. Do unto others....

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on October 02, 2019:

Hacicu, thank you for your comment. Life is too short to put up with behavior that goes against our morals and/or comfort. Do unto others....

Hacicu Bogdan from Cluj-Napoca, Romania on October 02, 2019:

Hopefully, they've learned something from that. That is such an egotistical behavior. I appreciate your work-ethic and courage of giving up something that doesn't bring value to you anymore. At the same time, thank you for sharing your story with us!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on November 15, 2016:

Such is life, Peg. We move on. In my case I moved right out the door. I'd had enough and just refused to put up with the one-sided relationship anymore.

I don't know if I told you or not, but I bought your book. I'm taking the train down to South Florida to visit with my family over the Thanksgiving holiday. I figure your book will be a good way to pass the time in my travels.

Peg Cole from North Dallas, Texas on November 14, 2016:

What you've said about business relationships is true. Loyalty to the company is rarely appreciated and often taken for granted. In companies, their loyalty is mostly to the bottom line. Years of sacrifice and dedication, working weekends, nights, holidays, working when ill and missing family events in order to meet deadlines is often rewarded with reductions in force, layoffs and sad stories about how there's no money left in the budget for your raise this year, despite you receiving a positive annual review. Sad to say this is widespread and familiar.

I enjoyed reading about your experiences, although, I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on August 07, 2016:

It's so true, Flourish. As they say, "what goes around comes around".

Thanks for giving this old hub some love!

FlourishAnyway from USA on August 06, 2016:

A wise person once told me that companies get the treatment from employees they deserve (quitting on the spot, union organizing, quality problems, disengagement, etc.) Your tale is a great example of that.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on June 27, 2016:

Nadine, it's nice to hear there are actually bosses out there that respect their employees and their time. I'm sure your staff loved working for you!

Nadine May from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa on June 27, 2016:

Thanks for sharing your story. Incredible that people at the top of operations do not get it. For that reason alone, the lack of loyalty in the workplace made me decide that I'm better off being my own boss. That was an interesting time, especially when I ended up employing 8 people in my leather clothing industry. Everyone work from 9 until 4, so there was time for the mothers to bring and fetch their kids to and from school. That also suited me, so everyone was happy. I was the only one that worked double hours, and over weekends to keep up...but that was my own choice.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on January 08, 2015:

Mekenzie, I feel for your sister. Unfortunately, women - especially those of us who aren't spring chickens - are intimidated, pushed, and often forced to leave to make room for new generations. It's so unfair. And then, try to get hired! The door can hit you in the ass on the way out and be slammed in your face on the way in, too.

Thank you for your awesome comment regarding my writing style. You just made my day!

I wish the best for your sister. Hopefully, she'll find a comfortable situation where her talent and ethics are respected.

Susan Ream from Michigan on January 08, 2015:

bravewarrior, I love your writing style, your personality shines through with charm, humor and realness.

My sister is going through a similar scenario at this moment. Young guy comes in, no experience but quickly moves up and then takes her spot. He disrespects her, tells 'stories' to management who don't know what really happens in the office - sister gets 'new' position - a demotion actually.

The office is about to receive a huge wake up call because they don't have a clue what she does and many of her previous duties are being overlooked and neglected. There's also a lot of male pride that is keeping them from asking for her help. The consequences of pulling her from her position are already beginning to show up.

She wants out and is aggressively sending out her resume. The difference, in her situation, is that she can't just walk out the door. She has dependants and she's older. So even though she is aggressively pursuing employment she is finding herself passed up by younger applicants.

I just pray someone will respect her many years of loyalty to one company and the many years of experience that have put their store in the #1 place for years. She continues to look out for the company and has always put that as #1. She needs to be respected for her loyalty and it is not happening.

Great article and topic. I'll have to go read the other's you have published. Such a creative idea to highlight other gifted writed. Kudo's to you bravewarrior.


Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on January 08, 2015:

Audrey, I agree with every thing you say. I'm better off being single. I really prefer it, to be honest.

As for the corporate world? I blew them off in September 2012. I'd had enough.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on January 08, 2015:

The first time I read this I remember saying 'amen, ' to every word you wrote. I knew then I would be back to re-read your hub. It's been 18 months and much has happened in my life. I've been divorced more times than you and have found that I find more happiness and growth being single. I remain loyal to myself.

Loyalty, especially in the corporate world, is lost leaving only greed, dishonesty and under-handed tactics. When employees give years of dependable and loyal service and are dismissed without regard for their dependability, it's a very sad thing and it angers me.

Take care, Sha and will share again. Audrey

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on January 08, 2015:

Shyron, in come corners of the world (life) there are still people who care. We just have to be careful who we trust.

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on January 07, 2015:

Wow Shauna, this is what loyalty is all about, I miss the days when people were loyal because they cared. It is no longer that way.

Voted up, UABI and shared.

Blessings and Hugs


Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on October 18, 2013:

Crafty, unfortunately I see that scenario all to often when I'm in a retail establishment. Sales people are all over you when you don't want or need help, but nowhere to be found when you do!

CraftytotheCore on October 17, 2013:

This is perfect. I love it. It reminds me of working in sales. There might be 3 or 4 people behind glass windows who are on back-up call if the sales floor gets busy. But they don't ever come out when they are needed. They just sit there, playing around, talking on the phone. In the meantime, the person on the sales floor is doing all the work. Come bonus time, the people behind the glass get the most. But let the sales person go on break. All heck breaks loose. The people behind the glass windows start shouting where is so and so. I've never really been in sales. Just watched too much tv. LOL

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on September 08, 2013:

Yep and that is my point. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 08, 2013:

That is my intention. I was simply speaking the musings of my own mind on the matter. I understand and grasp what you mean. That kind of one-sidedness is destructive, I agree.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on September 08, 2013:

Shanmarie, those are not the issues I'm talking about. I'm talking about relationships that become one sided for the gain of the taker with no regard for the giver. I am all for second chances, understanding and compassion. Relationships that have those traits stand the test of time, through thick and thin. Somehow, I think you are misconstruing my words.

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 08, 2013:

You think so? Because it seems to me that sometimes the balance has shifted for some reason or another and simply needs to be restored. In many cases, it shifts naturally and re-balances itself naturally. Examples might include a friend in a crisis of some sort or a workplace going through a transition. These things, if true lasting loyalty exists, will eventually allow a balance of loyalty to be returned.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on September 08, 2013:

Yes, it should Shanmarie. When that ceases, so should the relationship.

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 08, 2013:

Despite not being able to talk about loyalty as it applies to other relationships, your point is clear. Any type of Relationship should, in theory at least, be both give and take.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on August 19, 2013:

Thank you, Audrey. I'm so thankful I'm no longer subjected to the political bullcrap that goes on in the corporate world. I don't think companies will ever learn. People have become liabilities, not assets. All that matters is the almighty dollar and keeping as much of it as they can to themselves. Thanx for the share!

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on August 18, 2013:

This is beyond magnificent! I agree with everything you've said here. Loyalty is indeed a Two Way Street. When will companies ever learn this? I admire you for leaving and the inner courage it took to do so. How I admire you! Fantastic hub and sharing everywhere. ~ Audrey

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on August 02, 2013:

Sue, even after calling me back, the newly appointed president found every excuse in the book not to give me a raise. I'd had enough which is a major reason I quit.

Sueswan on August 01, 2013:

Hi Shauna,

Loyalty is a two way street. I think even if you did have a degree they would have found another excuse not to give you a raise.

Voted up +++

Have a good weekend. :)

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 25, 2013:

Cris, I'm glad you found something that's more to your liking. Good for you! Thanx for the well wishes. I am feeling much better now.

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on July 24, 2013:

This is a hard topic to tackle about but you've done it well. I love the way you have presented it from your own personal experience. I can relate but then again must keep in mind that no one is indispensable at work. We can always be replaced. *sad truth* and that's why I left the corporate world as well. You know that 8-5 that sucks our time and drain our heads? Did that for many many years. :(

I'm happy where I am now although the flying schedules are sometimes crazy but hey, I have plenty of time to spend with my family (and friends), who will for sure remain loyal to me. :)

I've heard you were sick. Hope you feel better now. Take care.

Great hub!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 21, 2013:

Thank you Pearl. I'm now down to cough and stuffy head, so the worst is over. Thank you for checking up on me!

Connie Smith from Southern Tier New York State on July 21, 2013:

bravewarrior, I am sending you lots of love and get well wishes. I hope by now you are feeling much better, my friend ;) Pearl

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 20, 2013:

Thanx, Anna. I'm on day 4 now. Hopefully, it's on it's way out!

Anna Haven from Scotland on July 19, 2013:

A big hug for you; may you feel better soon x

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 19, 2013:

Thank you, Sheila. The flu is an ugly bugger, for sure!

Sheila Brown from Southern Oklahoma on July 19, 2013:

I'm so sorry to hear that you have the flu! I hope you feel better very soon! :)

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 19, 2013:








I'm sorry I'm so late in answering your awesome comments. I've been down with the flu since early Wednesday morning and thought I'd better make an attempt to get thru my emails (over 500!). I appreciate you all. Forgive me, but I must go lie down. Thanx again for your support!

Connie Smith from Southern Tier New York State on July 19, 2013:

bravewarrior, this is an excellent piece; and one that I'm sure a large percentage of the population can relate to! Two of my best friends are the most capable and loyal of employees--both are out of work. One quit because she was fed up with being passed over for well-earned raises after doing the work of 3 people. The other one was fired because she supposedly made a major error (just an excuse because she had medical issues at the time), that turned out to be nothing serious at all. Both had worked for their employers for very long times.

Why is it that the most able and loyal of employees are always the most under-appreciated, underpaid and repeatedly thrown under the bus?

I am so glad I am out of the 'workforce' and able to do my own thing!

One of those friends of mine said soon after she got the boot, "everything happens for a reason." As it turned out, she came in to a large sum of money and no longer needs to work anyway! Finally--some justice ;) Pearl

Voted Up++++

Faith Reaper from southern USA on July 17, 2013:

I believe I was meant to read your amazing write here this very evening, after the day I had today at work ... yep, one-sided going on there big time to say the least!!! All I can say is that I can relate to every word you have written dearest Sha, and it is no fun!

This is the very reason, the whole country is in such a mess, because they do not value good employees as they should, but look to "do them in" at every chance, only to their detriment!!!

Sorry, but I needed to get that out this day! You are awesome, and this is an awesome write here. Loyalty is a two-way street!

Voted up ++++ and sharing

Lot's of Hugs and tons of Love going your way,

Faith Reaper

Karen Silverman on July 17, 2013:'d think they'd have learned something the first time? I'm loving on your 'perspective' dear - it is unique, interesting, and right on point! Corporate loyalty is a thing of the past - only the very VERY shrewd understand that making the employee feel worthy, makes the employee want to excel above and beyond. Instead, they force a woman such as yourself to slowly pull back her amazing services until she quits completely.

Too late for them - but too late for YOU too! Here's hoping they learn something about retention with your replacement, but - i doubt it highly.

sharing on dearxx

Sheila Brown from Southern Oklahoma on July 17, 2013:

It is a shame, but so true that there is little or no loyalty within many companies today. I have been through something very similar, twice as a matter of fact. New bosses come in, not knowing everything you have done above and beyond for the company or business and really don't care. I am very fortunate to have a loyal husband for the last 27 years, that is what matters most. I know how you feel and yes, it does feel good to "spit it out" and get it said! Wonderful hub! Voted up and awesome!

Nellieanna Hay from TEXAS on July 17, 2013:

Indeed it is, Shauna. I'd studied a little about home design in college, but it was more imaginative design, rather than technical, practical blueprints. My experience after 7 years with that building company in the capacity in which I worked enabled me to design the cabin George & I built at the ranch, down to the details and together, we built it from my plans! Nothing one learns need go wasted!

Mary's story reminded me of my 4th grade teacher. Miss Carstarphen was such an excellent teacher that every student who came out of her English classes had simply absorbed grammar and spelling into our beings. But she didn't have a degree, which wasn't too unusual back then. Maybe it was a Masters she lacked, but in any case, in their haste to bring the 'standards' up, they fired Miss Carstarphen. What a waste of real talent!!

It's gone almost to the limits of absurdity, in which a degree conferred on folks without a wit in their heads among them beats out people with years of experience, real knowledge and understanding. I've no doubt that most of my 'education' has happened AFTER I left school, including during years of being a stay-at-home wife and mother. There's a reason they call it 'a degree', 'graduation' or 'commencement'! It's merely a beginning point. The main thing is what one brings to it, does with it; - or brings to and does - without it!

Eiddwen from Wales on July 17, 2013:

Brilliant Shauna and as always straight to the point. Voted up and shared. Here's wishing you a wonderful day.


Anna Haven from Scotland on July 16, 2013:

You certainly nailed this.

Companies are nothing without the employees. It beggars belief that some don't recognised their biggest asset. They don't return the loyalty afforded to them and then they lose the very people who made them successful.

Great hub and so true.


Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 16, 2013:

Thanx Ben. We've got to look out for ourselves and not allow others to take undo advantage of us.

Ben Blackwell on July 16, 2013:

Good for you, being able to leave when you felt that you were not getting the respect you deserve. Good hub as well.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 16, 2013:

Ruby, that's insane! How can a hospital operate by tying the hands of qualified personnel? That makes no sense. I certainly hope that's not a general practice throughout the country!

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on July 16, 2013:

I don't know what happened. I commented on this last. I told you that i was familiar with that type of environment in the work place. I worked with many LPN's who were treated badly. Before i retired the LPN was reduced to floor duty, They were no longer allowed to start IV's or admit a patient. Many were older and had more experience, in fact they could start an IV in seconds while the new RN's found it difficult. Like you said, " It's a two-way-street. " Loyalty in the workforce is waning. Thank you for sharing a different perspective....

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 16, 2013:

Mary, that's what happened to me, too. When I quit my job I went into business for myself as a writer. I suppose they did me a favor also by pushing me into living my dream.

You can get long winded any time you please. I always love reading your comments!

Mary Craig from New York on July 16, 2013:

There are a few people on the face of the earth that don't know what you're talking about, but, the rest of us know exactly what you mean. I worked for a school district for 18 years and climbed the ladder in administration. As Director of Technology I brought them out of the Dark Ages. I upgraded all computers, got White Boards for every classroom, and on and on. After 8 years as Director of Technology they decided I needed to take a Civil Service test (ruse). No problem except you have to be in the top three and I was number five, you see I didn't have their college education either. They ALLOWED me to retire. While I was bitter and angry when it happened, I look back now and realize they did me a big favor. Their lack of loyalty to me afforded me the opportunity to wind up on HubPages and work on my writing.

Uh oh, I'm getting long winded. Point being, I agree totally with everything you said and know you are right on.

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 16, 2013:

Suzie, good for you for not compromising your ethic. I wonder if upper management ever learn from their employees leaving. I tend to think not. Oh well, it's their loss, right? Thanx for the share. That's awesome!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 16, 2013:

Nelliana, I'm sure there are more stories like yours and mine to be told. Sometimes, after giving your all and receiving nothing back, you just have to say 'enough is enough'! Thanx for sharing your story. I think it's comical that the company mistook your Pattern Drafting course for an engineering course. Apparently, they paid no attention to the fact that your degree is in Home Economics. But you got additional skills under your belt and that's what counts.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 16, 2013:

Mickey, thanx for your words of wisdom. I'm hoping you mean I possess the traits of which you speak and not the other way around! :-)

Suzanne Ridgeway from Dublin, Ireland on July 16, 2013:

Hi Shauna,

This hub is spot on and one I can relate to SO MUCH from a similar work point of view. Having being taken on as Manager of an Outdoor Leisure Shop (big successful UK chain with 6 outlets in Ireland) to turn the business around I worked my socks off and accomplished this. With changes in the company I was treated incredibly badly and it got so bad I just said "enough is enough" and handed in my notice after 3 years in 2010. It has been a hard struggle since then but loyalty means a great deal to me and I could not agree more with you, it is very much a two way street. Great article, glued from start to finish, you certainly came up with a fantastic idea for this topic after your initial concerns!! Votes, shares and pinned to Hubpages!

Nellieanna Hay from TEXAS on July 15, 2013:

er. . . 'unbalanced workplace loyalty', not 'word loyalty', but maybe that, too. ;-)

Nellieanna Hay from TEXAS on July 15, 2013:

Though it's been a bunch of years since I worked in a company office, I so recall the one-sided loyalty endured, Shauna. I left it in 1980 to go into business for myself, after deciding against going back for a graduate BMA degree, which I'd already qualified to do. I decided I'd learn as much by running my own business, have more fun and maybe make money instead of paying it: and I did!

When I got the above-mentioned job, I had a degree but it wasn't in engineering, though I was to become the Assistant Supervisor of the Engineering Department of that building company. I'd started as a draftsperson and knew all the interactions between the various departments, which were all involved in producing the buildings: - Accounting, Sales, Manufacturing, interaction with customers when revisions were requested, which, in turn, reflected on all the other departments, informing and communicating with all of them, - and always, making sure the draftsmen under my supervision didn't goof up, and keeping the Engineer out of trouble. He spent a lot of time trimming his fingernails into his desk drawer and daydreaming out the window. When the owner/president of the company had an issue with the Engineering Department, it was my desk on which he pounded his fist, demanding action!

It was in early days of computers, and ours was a mainframe, which the computer person called "Max". The Engineer called me his Max! But raise? HA! I did well to be heard. If I ruffled any ego feathers, I was instructed not to speak directly or harshly to the sensitive guys. To get a flow chart looked at, I had to change the rectangular boxes into football shaped ones, & suddenly it was a wonderful flow chart!

When I'd started, I spent my weekends and evenings at the office learning everything about my job and the company. My degree was in Home Economics and Fashion Design. They'd mistaken my course in Pattern Drafting for knowledge of drafting building plans, back when they were done by hand. haha. I learned it all well. My natural thoroughness and ability to coordinate parts and people served well. But when IRS authorities came to question me about the extra time I spent and didn't clock, I had to explain it and made it a point to take responsibility for it. They made the boss pay me some back pay, and it nearly got me fired. I was taken off the clock, given a mild title which didn't include a raise, but allowed me to work as much overtime as I wanted to without alarming the IRS! I definitely got no EOY bonus! In fact, through several 'promotions' I really never got a raise. Still the president/owner values me to this day, after all these years. Just not enough to give me loyal, fair treatment & reward at the time for all my loyalty and work. I was too easy, I admit, having just emerged from a bad marriage. It was good experience; another example of disproportionate and unbalanced word loyalty and another call to arms for one's own rights. Never went through that again! Slow learner, but very deeply etched one! ;-)

Great hub, Shauna. Loyalty must be self-administered first, and then it needs to be reciprocal if it's genuine!! Otherwise, one 'side' is the victim and one is the exploiter, as some of the other Perspective writers have mentioned. This is a very good subject!!

MickeySr from Hershey, Pa. on July 15, 2013:

"Now the brain cells are churning and pushing aside the cobwebs. Loyalty is all about . . . "

I think maybe that's where just about all good, useful, consequential writing of merit comes from - you have to have a decent vocabulary, you have to bit a decent storyteller, but perhaps more than anything you have to pay attention . . . pay attention to life, to what's going on around you. I think to those who do pay attention, who can't help but pay attention, it seems like simply normal living, as in 'who doesn't pay attention?' - but many many do not, they fall into patterns of reactions, they live their life fearfully avoiding some things and desperately chasing after other things, rarely considering or imagining.

It's such a good idea that you are part of this team - thank you for another great perspective.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Doc, I caught our mutual message. I must admit though, you are far more the master of words than I! Martie made a comment on your vocabulary. I am forever in awe of what you have done with yourself despite your upbringing. You put me to shame. By the same token, you are an inspiration to all who have been mistreated in one way or another. You could have chosen to fall, but loyalty to yourself and loyalty to life have given you wings that continue to fly. You are absolutely awesome. I can't wait to meet the family that is blessed enough to have you in their hearts and souls. I could go on, but I fear I'm talking from one who has gotten to know you. Others need to find their way into the awesome person you are, as I have.

Kiss kiss,


Mohan Kumar from UK on July 15, 2013:

What a great story you tell and there is so much truth in this. I love your sheer determination, fiery spirit and the ability to stand up for yourself. You're my kind of gal. What is amazing ( in one way but quite expected in another) is the way we've approached the subject matter. The Imp does talk about the ' there must be mutuality in loyalty' - it is indeed a two way street and not a smug way to expect one sided obeisance. Smart, sensitive and sensible- this is ACE!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Bill, you have no idea what that means to me. You have been by my side since I first met you. I think you are probably the second real friend I've ever had in my life. The first is an ex-boyfriend with whom I've remained in touch since we broke up 25 or so years ago. Real friendship carries with it a loyalty that doesn't die and a love that remains no matter what.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 15, 2013:

I loved the topic this month. Loyalty is pretty damned important to me and always will be. I want to always be known as intensely loyal to family and friends. It is the least a loved one should expect from me, and once you have my loyalty you have it for a lifetime.

And you have it. :)


Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

You know what I have to say to them, Mike? Watch my middle finger! I'm glad you appreciate my message here. Thanx for the comment.

mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on July 15, 2013:

Hello bravewarrior. You certainly have earned your avatar name. You hit the nail on the head with this. Two-way street theme. If those silling business owners only knew.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Carol, as long as I can help it, I will never work for someone else again. I now write for a living. It has it's ups and downs. I'm still learning. Not the writing part - the marketing part and how to make a go of it. My loyalty is now to my well-being.

carol stanley from Arizona on July 15, 2013:

I read this entire hub and I so agree with you..Loyalty..well times have changed and doing a good job is indicative of you getting your just come upence... I assume you are on your feet again and things are going well for you...

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Martie, you are so right. You can be book-smart and have a degree in your belt of notches and still not know your ass from a hole in the ground. Merit should be based on merit - not paper! Whenever we had an ad in the paper, the controller wanted to include college degree minimums in the requirements. I always fought it because I'm proof of the pudding. You don't need a college degree. You just need apptitude, common sense, a willingness to learn and an understanding of the matter at hand. I was first offered an A/R position way back when I was in my very early twenties. I worked as a customer service rep for an appliance repair company. The A/R guy was leaving and the job was offered to me because the controller saw potential in me. I had since risen thru the ranks. Don't judge a book by it's cover or lack thereof. Everyone deserves a chance. I was offered college by my folks and chose not to attend because I was rebellious and didn't want to live under their rule. I'm the only one of us 3 kids that didn't attend college (I'm also the oldest, if that means anything). It hasn't hurt me so far. All it takes is someone to see your potential, believe in you and show some loyalty! It'll come back ten-fold!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Randi, thanx for taking the time to read and vote. I think too many of us live in the corporate life that doesn't show appreciation. All of a sudden we're old and have missed our dreams by showing loyalty to those who are undeserving.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Liz, it's up to the current president to figure that out. I doubt he ever will. He has dollar signs instead of pupils in his eyes. He's never had to live paycheck to paycheck. He's not even 40 yet and owns two homes free and clear. Note to parents: make your kids get a taste of life and encourage them to make it on their own!

Martie Coetser from South Africa on July 15, 2013:

Bravewarrior, I cannot tell you how much I agree with your perspective: Loyalty is a two-way street. I have so many stories – personal experience - to testify that this is the holy truth. What could be worse than unreturned loyalty? Loyalty has made me a slave of society and idealists and many selfish b@st@rds until it was not returned to me for the umpteenth time only 3 years ago. As a matter of fact, what was returned to me was more kicks than halfpence. Loyal people are the most abused and exploited group on this planet. Therefore today I am first of all loyal to myself.

And by the way, I know more incompetent people with college degrees than people without it. All who are wealthy are not happy and all who have college degrees are not competent, effective and brilliant.

Voted up, profound, honest and true :)

Randi Benlulu from Mesa, AZ on July 15, 2013:

Sad but true story. Loyalty is a two way street! Thank you for this! Up+

Elizabeth Parker from Las Vegas, NV on July 15, 2013:

That's so sad about the company and the way it changed for the worse. When a company has potential to thrive...and then goes downhill, it is so disheartening! Good for you for leaving.

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Vicki, you are a dear. Just so ya know, I've actually used a wringer-washer. Not in my mom's house, but elsewhere! Yes, loyalty is a two-way street. When it's one sided you find yourself banging your head against the wall and gaining a real bad attitude. Bad attitudes are not conducive to happiness. When they show up it's time to recognize and eliminate the cause!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Liz, I agree. Any company is only as good as it's employees. It's got to be a two-way street. Most management personnel have no idea how to run the day-to-day operations. They look at anyone but sales as a liability, when in reality, it's the support team that makes or breaks the company.

I was so loyal to the company to which I refer in this article that I wanted to become an officer and envisioned myself retiring with them. The snot-nosed-silver-spoon-in-his-mouth successor shot that dream all to hell. I seriously don't see the company continuing on. It began in 1936 with the patriarch who actually died on a jobsite. The business was turned over to his 24 year old son, who was president when I was hired. He then turned the company over to his son. His son has no clue about loyalty or the beauty of creating a family atmosphere in a place of business. I'll bet the founder is turning over in his grave knowing what's happening with his company now!

Vickiw on July 15, 2013:

Hi dear Shauna, wow, you real have been through the wringer of life! (for those of you too young to remember, that's what we used to have to do when we washed our clothes!) It is really hard to make good decisions when there is no loyalty involved. It seems to be a necessary ingredient in a happy life. And as you say, it is a two-way street! Great and thoughtful Hub!

Shauna L Bowling (author) from Central Florida on July 15, 2013:

Maria, after reading yours, Vicki's and Mickey's I was afraid I was a little selfish in my perspective - or at least not deep enough! It's funny - the girl that used to work for me, whom I'm still dear friends with - just texted me and said "Wow...just read your 'perspectives' post! ;-) bet that felt good! :-)"

Sometimes ya just gotta spit it out! Glad you liked the song.....

Elizabeth Parker from Las Vegas, NV on July 15, 2013:

All I have to say is this hub should be hanging on EVERY office and place of employment all over the country. :) YES!! Loyalty is definitely a two-way street and I couldn't agree more with this hub. It seems companies are taking what they can get without reciprocation. It's awful. It's no wonder employees are quitting and finding other avenues. Good for you for leaving. Great hub (did I say that already?) Voted up.

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on July 15, 2013:

Damn, went from not knowing how to approach this subject to knocking it outta the ballpark.

I just met you around the month of your amazing emancipation in September, 2012... So I appreciate reading the story of why your loyalties understandably remained with you...

I have worked in both kinds of work environments...albeit differently and learning, the hard way as many of us do... To thine own self be true.

Your educational videos were well selected...but the head banging Loyalty song is the delicious icing on this " cake of a hub" for mar.

Voted UP and UABI. Love, Maria

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