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Love should not hurt! A Poem about Protecting My Children from Child Abuse

In Answer to the HubMob Weekly Topic: Protecting our Children


This is a poem I wrote in the months after separating from a violent partner. My children had also been abused, and I wrote it to help myself stay strong, to remember why we needed to stay safe, and to keep sight of my goal of creating a new, happy life for myself and my kids, so that they can grow and flourish in an environment where they can live without fear in the warm, safe embrace of unconditional love. It also helped to keep me focused on the bigger picture, instead of reacting to the injustice of his continued attempts to manipulate and control me with stalking and counter-accusing me (mirroring) to shift focus away from his own appalling behavior...


Love should not hurt!

It's not about "justice"
Or "the principle of it",
So I will not react.
To do so wouldn't serve my purpose.
I've done what I had to and
I'll do what I must,
Because they asked me
To keep them safe and
I promised I would.
It was never for revenge against you.
It's not all about you;
It never was & never will be.
Nor is it about me.
It's about them & always will be.
Love should not hurt!

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Cimone A Billue from Syracuse, New York on March 09, 2012:

Takes me back to why I just needed to leave a similar situation. Its nothing like feeling safe even when your not afraid. Voted up I love it.

philipandrews188 on October 15, 2011:

Great hub. Child abuse must be stopped.

ShonEjai from California on October 09, 2011:

good for you. it's not about justice, it's not about the principle. it's the promise to YOU for YOU, to THEM for THEM. best of luck,

kdupree on September 15, 2011:

Great poem. I hate child molest or any kind of child abuse.Abusive people must be doomed.

Agustina Garza Arellano from Fresno California, USA on August 29, 2011:

good read! thanks

Leptirela from I don't know half the time on April 26, 2011:

So touching, emotional what a journey.

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Voted up , excellent writing.

But so deep x

N E Wright from Dover, Delaware on March 31, 2011:

I love this poem, Safe-At-Last.

You know what bothers me? When people ask me when I am going to date? And when I answer, "I have a child." I will not take any chances with his life." They do not get it. They will say something like, "Oh, you will find a man that will not have a problem with your son ...."

I simply reply, "I'm not clairvoyant."

To myself I am thinking I do not know if he's a pedophile or not. I do not know if someone in his family is or not. I cannot take any chances with my child's well being, and I won't.

I have never been with a woman beater, but I have known too many women who have. It is not pretty.

I wish you all the luck in the world. You did the right thing for your children, and that is why it is good for you.

Thank you so much for sharing this beautifully written poem.

I have placed it on my Face-Book page.

Take Care,


Lisa Stover from Pittsburgh PA on January 10, 2011:

So glad you got out for yourself and def. your children, good job:)

Lovingu from London on October 20, 2010:

Very inspiring. Love should definitely not hurt.

vinividivici on September 25, 2010:

Love should not hurt, but it hurts some time. Safe-at-last, be safe always.

loveangel010 on July 11, 2010:

It's not about "justice"

Or "the principle of it",

So I will not react.

To do so wouldn't serve my purpose.

Love should not hurt!

For I love your poem and hoped the world was full of love as a mother love for her children

Mel Stewart (author) from Western Australia on June 17, 2010:

Thank you for your feedback and encouragement Sa'ge! aloha to you too - or should I sayG'day from the land of Oz....

Sa`ge from Barefoot Island on June 05, 2010:

Very inspiring, looking forward to more. Safety, love and many blessing with happiness to you and yours. ~aloha~

Deė from The Large Magellanic Cloud (LMC) (m-M)_0 = 18.41, or 48 kpc (~157,000 on June 03, 2010:

I Enjoyed

This Very Much

As Will Many.

Mel Stewart (author) from Western Australia on June 01, 2010:

Why thank you ma'am!

susanlang on June 01, 2010:

You Go Girl!!!!!

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