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Love at First Sight in Medieval Romance

In medieval literature, especially the genre known as courtly romance, lofty Love plays a distinct role, one that is different from more ordinary conceptions of love or affection. True Love, often spelled with a capital "L," is an elite state reserved for only the most deserving nobles.

Most relationships and marriages within medieval literature will not attain this type of Love, and this "special" form of love can even occur among people who are pledged or even married to other people!

The "capital 'L' love" is seen in texts featuring the most famous of history's lovers, Tristan and Isolde, Troilus and Chresside, and perhaps most famous of all, Lancelot and Guinevere. Yet one of the most surprising aspects of this form of love to our 21st century conceptions is that it develops not from prolonged contact or intimacy, but immediately, from the first look, also referred to as "the gaze."

Tristan and Isolde

Tristan and Isolde

Love at First Sight - Medieval Style

While this "love at first sight" idea may seem like little more than a romantic flight of fancy, it actually seems less frivolous or superficial when you consider the medieval mindset more closely.

In medieval times, marriage was usually a political or economic contract across all social classes. Love matches were infrequent, and "dating" as we know it almost unheard of. Intense love between two people was looked at as a divine gift, or fate. This gift had very little to do with the people involved, they were simply destined to love one another without any choice in the matter.

In this line of thinking marital infidelity could be forgiven if it was in the service of real Love, because the lover's didn't have any choice in the matter. Similarly, all that was needed to bring the fated lovers together was simply their eyes to rest on one another. Once "the look" took place, divine providence took over, and the lovers would be "smited with love's arrow" or some other similarly descriptive phrase.

Because only the greatest knights are so affected by the gaze, this form of Love speaks to certain measure of worth. Only the most lofty of love’s, only the greatest pairings of men and women will fall into Love’s spell to such a degree. It was considered a mark of honor during the middle ages for a well-bred courtier to lose his senses at the sight of a pretty lady.

Florence Harrison - Illustration to Tennyson's "Guinevere"

Florence Harrison - Illustration to Tennyson's "Guinevere"

Love Madness

In medieval romances such as Marie de France's Lais, Wolfram von Eschenbach's Parzival, and Chretien de Troyes Lancelot of the Cart, “the gaze” serves as the vehicle through which Love is able to overwhelm the knights. Once the knight has looks at his lady love, he becomes almost incapacitated with feeling for her, but this intense sensation of love only seems to arise after he has set eyes on her.

Yet even beyond simply falling in love at first sight, looking at a beloved in these medieval texts acts as a sort of spell or enchantment, putting the "looker" into Love's spell. Chretien's Lancelot has a great example of this type of all-powerful love gazing. In a pivotal scene, Lancelot sees Guinevere again after a long separation.

Writes Chretien: Lancelot “gazed attentively and with pleasure at her. When he could no longer see her, he wanted to throw himself from the window and shatter his body on the ground below." Luckily Gawain saves Lancelot from this fate by physically dragging him away from the window, and breaking the sort of rapture that has captivated Lancelot.

Rather than the more stereotypical idea of looking on one’s beloved as a positive expression of hope and courage, in this case the gaze is taken a step further. Here, to gaze upon one’s love actually causes a state of madness. It implies more than just emotion, or devotedness, but instead almost seems to be the work of magic, some kind of spell that cannot easily be broken. Gawain does not simply call or yell at Lancelot to break the reverie, but literally has to drag him away, not an easy task considering Lancelot is King Arthur's number one knight!

In this scene, reason is completely absent. Lancelot is so enraptured with looking on the queen that her absence from his frame of view makes him want to throw away his life. This is quite a powerful declaration. It would be more understandable for Lancelot to want to hurl himself from the window if he thought she was dead, or gone forever. Yet this is not the case. It seems that he has essentially lost his mind by losing sight of her.

Rather than a mere articulation on love, Lancelot's lack of reason speaks to the power of the gaze, or rather, the effect that a beautiful woman, who is also the heart’s desire, has on a knight. If a knight is meant to value such attributes as strength of will and character, of eschewing foolish action and deeds, its interesting that such things are so easily tossed aside in the face of love. Indeed, one might even argue that the only time that a knight is allowed to stop “acting knightly” is when he is in the power of the gaze. It functions as a kind of built-in escape clause to the everything that is expected of a knight. In this way, they are let off the hook for acting foolishly, blinded by love (or lust). If they are under the spell of the gaze, then any foolish actions not really their fault, and they are no less a “real knights” because of them.

First kiss between Lancelot and Guinevere. Galehaut, who brought the two together, is in the center. Illustration from a manuscript of the Prose Lancelot.

First kiss between Lancelot and Guinevere. Galehaut, who brought the two together, is in the center. Illustration from a manuscript of the Prose Lancelot.


Robert Levine from Brookline, Massachusetts on January 25, 2016:

An interesting variation on "the gaze" is that in Tristan and Iseult, the spell is caused by Tristan inadvertently drinking a love potion that was meant for Iseult's would-be husband King Mark. The seeming accident, of course, hints that Tristan was destined to be Iseult true love all along.

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Tijani Achamlal from Morocco on August 02, 2014:

When love is not madness, it is not love.

Jason R. Manning from Sacramento, California on April 08, 2012:

Most excellent hub, well researched and an interesting read. We can begin to see the power of Shakespeare or later yet Bronte, when we place ourselves in a period correct mindset. Strip away our material and visual bombardments, what do we have? The absence of beauty. How else do we get Helen of Troy? Men are silly creatures; women have more power over us than they think. Great Hub. Cheers.

Anaya M. Baker (author) from North Carolina on March 11, 2012:

Hi Cardisa, That sounds like an awesome project, I'd love to read some of it sometime...I think it's a fine line between authenticity and speaking to your reader. After all, a lot of the older stuff was tailored towards an audience with very different expectations than we have today, so I think no matter how close you are trying to get to the medieval nature, there will have to be some concessions made to the modern reader, and I think emotional strength is something we all appreciate! Best of luck on your endeavor! Anaya

Carolee Samuda from Jamaica on March 07, 2012:

I have to bookmark this because I am attempting to write a medieval romance based on the era alone. I never knew there were guidelines to falling in love in that era! I think that maybe I did get some of the "love" right but it's not as mushy as is portrayed here. My characters are stronger emotionally but the "almost love at first sight" is there.

This is my first time writing medieval romance and my readers like it but I would really like to nail everything right.

Thanks for this.

Brian Leekley from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA on January 19, 2012:

Thanks for the interesting, well written hub.

Anaya M. Baker (author) from North Carolina on January 19, 2012:

Thanks waleeds, ishwarya22!

Ishwaryaa Dhandapani from Chennai, India on January 18, 2012:

Interesting Hub! Vote up!

waleeds on January 18, 2012:

a very beautiful hub anaya! i really admire the way you write and the selection of a topic! thanks for sharing, voted up! take care

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