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Human Paradox of Pleasure in Misery


Val enjoys writing prose in rhymes by always leaving a message of a life truism in each piece.


It comes pretty easy to understand why we may get addicted to a chemical substance that gives us pleasant feelings; but it's been scientifically established for a fact we can also get addicted to our lousy feelings.

Apparently, every emotion being a part of our frequent responses to life becomes addictive -- that due to its chemical equivalent, called neuropeptide, which fits into our brain-cells receptors for pleasure.

Then, in my own understanding of it, by observing all other addictions, it seems logical to say that our primitive survival instinct interprets every repeated mental or physical act as a "new skill for surviving" -- as if reasoning that we wouldn't repeat something it was not necessary and life promoting.

Hence that matter of "life-and-death" suggesting itself upon our contemplating quitting an addiction.

So that now our addiction to crappy emotions, being formed into some false beliefs, makes us notice all "reasons" for feeling that way, as a trigger to activate them. A person addicted to being pissed will readily see anything in the world, family, on the job, or in themselves to make them feel pissed.

Crazy, isn't it? In my next prose in rhymes I am "poetizing" this flaw in our design.

Definition of a hypochondriac: Only Feeling Good When Feeling Bad.

Definition of a hypochondriac: Only Feeling Good When Feeling Bad.

Ask if you need, but don't assume. Sometimes our bad feelings are only assumptions and speculations doing dark dances in our heads.

-- Bonnie Lyn Smith

Feeling Good by Feeling Bad

You may not believe it, but you may try

so many of us just can't feel good

if they are not in a gear to cry

or in any related mood.

Bitterness makes them feel complete

recall of injustice makes them thrive

as they are resenting successful elite

every great personage dead or alive.

Hypochondriacs, rebels, and skeptics alike

share this rosy quality of pissed-go-happy

enjoying in every blood pressure spike

going against the grain and snappy.

So much to complain, so little to enjoy

as enjoyment is for dreamers only

and if there is no one to annoy

we make them feel lonely.

Just see news, or get paper to read

with all ranting, whining and protest

you'll recognize many of that breed

addicted to misery that's their best.

Like a band of masochists in pain finding thrill

tormenting their nerves nothing to achieve

seemingly having too much time to kill

so pissed that it's hard to believe.

Sometimes It Seems Like B.S. is the Widest Spread Addiction in the World.

Sometimes It Seems Like B.S. is the Widest Spread Addiction in the World.

Some people are so addicted to their misery that they will destroy anything that gets in the way of their fix.

-- Bryant McGill

Addictive Emotional Crap

It was that neuroscientist Candice Pert

who told us about this silly addiction

how we can treat misery as dessert

craving for it in this mental contradiction.

Yes, people get addicted to emotional crap

after negative responses are much repeated

and that's probably most popular human trap

for all those who keep their brains overheated.

That escalates into something downright crazy

as we don't notice how pissed-off feels good

but our consciousness, as if asleep or lazy

won't kick us out of the destructive mood.

Next, our body is storing that rosy disposition

now feeding us back demands for some more

like, liver is the site of anger upon its repetition

and our lungs are keeping all our sadness score.

Well, we won't put in our mouth any known toxic stuff

but when it's our brain, we happily feed it some junk

then we compensate all that crap by acting tough

not convincing more than overconfident drunk.

Just like it's always hard to kick a drug

so we cannot give up those bad emotions

as if we were infected by some stupidity bug

we just keep generating those annoying notions.

Then we see a doctor, or we see a shrink

or resort to increase of our happy weed use

all in vain, because it's merely the way we think

and in that silly war addiction often makes us lose.

It Takes a Brave Look at Ourselves to See What We Are Doing to Ourselves by Insisting on Lousy Feelings.

It Takes a Brave Look at Ourselves to See What We Are Doing to Ourselves by Insisting on Lousy Feelings.

Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.

-- Martin Luther King Jr.

Time to Change Our Life Script

There is this world of our own make

and we often fancy it's others' too

never thinking it might be fake

as it always felt to us true.

In this ever busy theater of our mind

we make believe from what we see

and it seems to be the only kind

of true living that could ever be.

We may play our dramatic role so well

or we spend the whole life rehearsing

and sometimes it is really hard to tell

if life calls for laughing or for cursing.

But what if our script is wrong

and it's all that we should change

this set of beliefs appearing so strong

we could junk it all -- or merely rearrange.

There comes the time to face this fact

that our wrong beliefs made our life stuck

dictating to us what to think, feel, how to act

nothing to do with curses giving us the bad luck.

Then life could be like brand new game

looking fresh like popped out of thin air

with nothing to stay exactly the same

only dear things that we would spare.

© 2020 Val Karas


Val Karas (author) from Canada on December 16, 2020:

Anupam -- We all had to go through our life-school -- passed some exams, failed some, still far from graduating. But I always love hearing of a story where people make a leap which makes their life a more pleasant journey.

Val Karas (author) from Canada on December 15, 2020:

Anupam -- It's great to hear that all that is gone for you now and you are enjoying your life. Thank you for your words of praise, my friend.

Anupam Mitu from MUMBAI on December 14, 2020:

I have been in this complex a few years back when I didn't know the real meaning of pessimism or sadism but today I am not the same. I live every moment and enjoy each of them. Nicely composed. A great observer you are !

Val Karas (author) from Canada on December 14, 2020:

Schoolgirlforreal -- We all got that taste of misery, and some of us developed an appetite for something more delicious in life. Glad to see you were one. All the best my friend. Thank you for the word of praise.

Val Karas (author) from Canada on December 14, 2020:

Ruby Jean -- From what I observe, people don't procrastinate with anything as much as with changing their minds, beliefs, attitudes.

But like you say, better ever than never. Thanks for reading it, and I'm glad you liked it. All the best, my friend.

schoolgirlforreal on December 14, 2020:

Hey there,

Yeah I get it. I grew up around misery. And I thought it was normal, until I got older and made my way in the world. We certainly CAN change, but it takes work!!! BRAVO!!!!

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on December 14, 2020:

I just read your piece Val, and saw myself in almost every line. I see there is no place to leave a comment. Well done! The truth sometimes hurts, but we learn as we grow older and hopefully wiser.

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