Grandmother’s flower gardens were well known throughout the county
Grandmother’s flower gardens were well known throughout the county. People would walk, or drive by just to enjoy their beauty.
At a remarkably young age, I wanted to help Grandmother in her gardens. This thrilled her, as Mother had never had any interest in such things. As a child, Mother loathed getting dirty. As an adult, she was too busy with her real estate business.
In early spring, Grandmother would dress me in my warmest clothes to go out to the gardens. She loaded rich black loam, from the compost pile, into her wheelbarrow. I followed her closely along flagstone paths, which wove through the gardens, as she broke up the hard ground and mixed in the rich compost soil. After the gardens had been prepared, seeds and fresh cuttings were planted just where Grandmother knew they belonged.
We visited the gardens each day, Grandmother examining the beds with a sharp eye. If a rock or weed were spotted, they were removed from the pristine beds. I watched her every move, carefully learning how to identify weeds from tender flower shoots.
Each season brought new life to the gardens. Early spring brought pastel blooms that welcomed the warm sun. As these flowers began to fade, dogwoods and magnolias clothed themselves in abundant flowers and aromas. Hyacinths added their colors as the primrose shone like jewels in the garden.
Warmer days welcomed colorful irises and impatiens. Freesia and heather filled the beds as honeysuckle beckoned the buzzing bees to taste their sweet nectar. Evening fireflies darted through the gardens as the sun faded into dusk.
The dog days of summer brought colorful butterflies that I loved to chase from one garden to the next. Their bright colored wings winked at me as they fluttered by. I felt as if I could fly with them as I twirled and chased them on tiptoe.
Mother was furious when she came home. My clothes were soiled, and I was covered in mud.
“She looks like a ninny jumping around out there. She’s too old to run around like a wild child. Look at her. She’s filthy with mud caked under her fingernails. She needs to start acting like a lady.” Mother scolded.
I loved the garden; the feel of dirt on my hands and the smell of fresh turned earth. It smelled alive, and I knew it was. Watching the bulbs push their way up through its richness, and seeds burst forth with flowers; I observed how cuttings flourished and grew and saw the gardens come to life.
Grandmother, seeing my crest fallen countenance, broached the subject with mother. Reluctantly, she agreed to a compromise. I endured ballet classes and piano lessons to instill positive lady-like behavior, and limited time in the gardens. This seemed to satisfy Mother.
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The days with her went by too fast
As the years passed, I learned to enjoy music and dance, but what I truly loved, was crosspollination, plant grafting, and creating hybrid flowers.
I read everything I could find on the subject, sharing what I learned with Grandmother. Her desire was to create a deep purple rose, and we made that our special project.
The time grew closer to think about college. Mother was determined I would attend the local junior college. She pressed the idea of a business degree, which she felt would provide a wide range of opportunities. A business degree was the last thing I wanted. Actually, I wanted to attend State University, and study horticulture.
“Horticulture?” Mother shrieked. “What kind of job do you think you could get with a degree in horticulture, and where would I get the money for you to go to State University?”
She paced across the floor, as Grandmother and I sat silently on the couch, like children in trouble. Grandmother cleared her throat and stood up.
“She has the grades, and the brains, to get a scholarship. What that won’t cover, I will.” she stated firmly.
Mother turned on her heals. “And just where do you think she will find a job around here with a degree in -- gardening?” she asked, with as much fire in her eyes as in her voice.
“What makes you think she wants to find a job around here? There is a whole world out there for her to explore. She doesn’t have to stay here and turn into a sour old maid.”
The look on Mother’s face was filled with rage, but her eyes were filled with anguish. The issue was never brought up again, at least within my hearing.
The next fall I attended State, filled with joy and enthusiasm. The classes were challenging, but I immersed myself, determined to attain high marks. Time flew by, and before I knew it, I was home for the summer.
I spent those months working part time in Mother’s real estate agency, and, as often as possible, in Grandmother’s gardens. I shared everything I had learned about cross pollination, and was thrilled at how much closer we were to achieving our deep purple rose. She was excited and more determined than ever. The days with her went by too fast, and soon it was time to return to school.
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I had been accepted into a work-study program
The next two years continued to challenge me. I wrote Grandmother weekly, sharing new ideas and techniques. She responded with equal passion and news of her successes and failures.
A week’s visit, after my junior year, was all I could afford. I had been accepted into a work-study program at the Smithsonian Botanical Gardens, in Washington D. C.
I would miss my days in the gardens with Grandmother, but she encouraged me to go, promising to continue working on our project.
My senior year started with high expectations, and a gnawing heaviness that clung to my heart. Each week, it grew stronger until the time Mother called me with news that Grandmother had been diagnosed with cancer.
I was at her bedside in a matter of hours, all thoughts of school vanished. I promised I would not leave her, but she spoke as firmly as she ever had.
“You are going back to school. I promise I will fight this and I will be at your graduation.”
Returning was difficult. I could barely keep my mind on my classes. I braced for the worst whenever I called home, but Grandmother sounded well. She had even spent some time in her gardens, much to Mother’s chagrin.
The months passed, and Grandmother assured me she was fine. Mother wasn’t as convincing.
I ached to go home, but research papers and finals made it impossible. On graduation day, I was shocked when Mother pushed Grandmother into the auditorium in a wheelchair. Her body was shriveled, pain etched into her face as she struggled to smile.
My heart ached and tears stung my eyes. Graduation was bitter sweet, but I knew Grandmother would never have missed it.
I stayed at her bedside as each day she became weaker; the cancer ravaging her body. Mother dealt with the situation by working. She excused herself with the costs of treatments and Hospice care, but I knew there was no financial burden on Mother. She just couldn’t watch as Grandmother slowly slipped away.
While the Hospice staff cared for Grandmother, I spent time working in the garden. It was the only relief I had. The feel of the dirt and the scent of flowers in bloom, reassured me that life continued, despite being surrounded by death.
My breath caught
One morning I went to check on our special project ; the rose bushes we hoped would produce purple roses. My breath caught as I saw, not one, but the entire bush covered with beautiful purple roses. I cut one of the beautiful blooms and removed its thorns, excited to show it to Grandmother. As I neared the house, one of the Hospice nurses met me at the door.
“You need to come quickly,” she said, “I’ve just called your mother.”
Her voice was tender, but I saw the pain in her eyes. I ran to Grandmother’s bed. She was unaware, and her breathing labored. I held out the flower like a young child.
“Grandmother,” I choked. “We did it; we made purple roses!”
To everyone’s surprise, she opened her eyes and looked at me. She reached out and took the rose pulling it to her nose. After inhaling its fragrance, she smiled and whispered, “Yes, we did it.”
She clutched the rose and closed her eyes, a faint smile on her lips. Once more her breathing became labored, but only for a short time. She took one last breath, and the room was quiet.
I laid my head on her bed and wept. My patron saint of the garden was gone. She taught me to love the garden, and gave me the desire and opportunity to learn far more than she could have taught me.
At the cemetery, my heart was comforted by the beautifully arranged floral blanket atop the heavy oak coffin, adorned with purple roses, from Grandmother’s garden.
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miss_jkim (author) on March 28, 2011:
Thank you for such kind words and the rating. I must agree with you, that God created the perfect garden and mankind has made a mess of it, and how sad that is. One day we will return to His beautiful garden and enjoy the perfection we have missed here.
I send blessings in return to you and your loved ones.
Pratonix from Asia on March 27, 2011:
That was a beautiful story. And anyone who loves gardens is a blessed person indeed. Not only blessed, but a blessing to many. We remember God was the first to create a garden, but we've made the world a wilderness.
Blessings to you and your loved ones. Rated this as awesome.
miss_jkim (author) on March 20, 2011:
I am so glad that you enjoy a visit to this lovely garden. You are welcome to visit any time, as it is always a joy to share it with you.
I enjoy visiting your hubs immensely; they make me smile and laugh. I am intrigued to look beneath the actual words you have penned to discover the deeper meanings in your, oh so cleverly, constructed poetry.
epigramman on March 19, 2011:
...back again because I so much love this hub and it reminds me of my best friend and mum - who shared a 'secret garden' with me in the backyard of this cottage that I live in - and it was in the last years of her life that she was the happiest to be able to spend time in a place where she loved during the summer months - her secret garden - and this lovely hub and story reminds me of those times so thank you for this - and thank you for dropping by and making my night with your comments - I always love to see you!!!
miss_jkim (author) on March 17, 2011:
Thank you KoffeeKlatch, your words are so kind and comforting.
Susan Hazelton from Northern New York on March 17, 2011:
What a wonderful memorial for your grandmother. I am so sorry for your loss. Everytime you see a flower think of her. She has instilled the love of flowers in you.
miss_jkim (author) on March 13, 2011:
Well as far as I'm concerned, you can be an honorary U. S. citizen, after all we are all North Americans anyway. It is always a joy to visit your hubs Colin, and you are always welcome to visit me here in the deep south.
epigramman on March 13, 2011:
..well I must always revisit the classics - especially when they are this good ........and so heartfelt too!
And yes I am still Canadian - but the Americans (don't tell anyone) are definitely more exciting ....lol lol
Thank you for dropping by and making my night here by Lake Erie .......
miss_jkim (author) on March 05, 2011:
Thank you Colin,
This is one of the reasons I have been a little scarce lately, and I am glad you enjoyed it. Your praises for my work mean a great deal to me.
Don't worry, I may not be around every day, but when I return I hope to bring more gems such as this. Rest assured I visit your hubs on a regular basis.
epigramman on March 05, 2011:
....well it's so very very nice to hook up with you once again - I have to say that I truly missed seeing you around the Hub - and this most wonderful life affirming story reminds me of my dear mum with whom I shared a 'secret garden' with in the backyard of our cottage here by the lake and have nothing but happy cherished memories - so naturally your story warmed my heart, moved me, touched me like no other - this may very well be your masterpiece - and at the Hub it really doesn't get much better than this! A very sincere bravo from the epigramman ......
miss_jkim (author) on March 04, 2011:
I'm glad you enjoyed. Thank you for reading and giving such a lovely review.
SheZoe on March 04, 2011:
this was such a touching and heart warming hub. Thank you for sharing your memory of your grandmother and her impact on your life with us
miss_jkim (author) on March 04, 2011:
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace in the memories you have of your mother. It is so hard to loose someone so close.
Lynn Luther from North Carolina on March 04, 2011:
I loved your hub. My mother just passed a month ago and it has been extremely tough. I can really relate to your hub. I am very sorry for your loss.