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Boys Will Be Boys: A Poem About Raising Boys

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The many personas of my nephew.

My nephew Marco as a police man.

My nephew Marco as a police man.

Marco as an army guy.

Marco as an army guy.

Marco as a cowboy.

Marco as a cowboy.

Rough and tough,

Curious and adventurous,

Boys will be boys.


Hugs and kisses,

Whispers of ‘I love you,’

Boys will be boys.


Climbing and searching,

Building and fishing,

Boys will be boys.


Painting nails and toes,

Compliments on your clothes,

Boys will be boys.


Worms and snakes,

Dirt and mud,

Boys will be boys.


A special note,

A surprise gift,

Boys will be boys.


Your adoration and love,

Brings joy to my world,

Thank you for being my son.

Even tough cookies can be attentive and sensitive.

Marco giving Grace a spa treatment.

Marco giving Grace a spa treatment.

Not even the cucumbers on the eyes were overlooked.

Not even the cucumbers on the eyes were overlooked.

Ahhh....so relaxing.

Ahhh....so relaxing.

Author's Note

I wrote this poem to my sister and all of the Moms in the world raising boys. I feel that although boys are inherently different than girls in the way that they approach the world around them, they can still be raised to be affectionate, sensitive and passionate beings.

When my sister had my nephew, we were a little unsure about what he would bring to our lives. You see it was just my sister and myself growing up in our home so we had little experience about the day to day activities of a boy. What an adventure we were in for!

We soon realized that raising a boy is much different than a girl. Although both are wonderful, in my experience boys are much more energetic and naturally curious than girls. This can lead to some interesting situations that they find themselves in.

With all of those frustrating moments, my sister has managed to raise a young man who is loving and compassionate toward others. The idea for this hub came in October when my nephew wandered into the living room to ask her for some nail polish. With a quick “no way, not nail polish” my nephew accepted the refusal and went along his way. Now just to let you know, the reason she said no was because when he was younger, he painted his own nails on her new bedspread. Needless to say, the comforter was ruined and so nail polish is a NO for him.

About a half hour later it was a little too quiet and so my mother went into the other room to check on the kids. What she found was an incredible sight. My nephew decided that he was going to give my daughter a spa treatment, hence the need for the nail polish. He didn’t leave out one detail. There was music, low lighting, cucumbers on the eyes, a foot massage with lotion, you name it, he did it. And he thought of this all on his own. So although you may have frustrating moments while raising your sons, if you raise them with love in your heart and compassionate guidance, you will one day have a man that you are proud to call your son.

Now that I have a son of my own, I find myself in the same predicament as my sister was when her son was around three. Not only does he get himself into some crazy situations, he is the most loving thing in the world. From the hugs and kisses and the loving words like “you’re the best mommy in the whole world,” my heart melts. I can see now that what people mean when they say that moms fall in love with their sons. Of course I love my daughter dearly, but I love her differently than my son. And even though he just gave himself a haircut before the holidays, he still lifts me up with his cheeky grin.

Comments

cardelean (author) from Michigan on April 18, 2012:

I can't remember if I did or not. I'll have to send it to her.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on April 18, 2012:

I agree moonlake. I have a daughter and I am a teacher so I know all about girl drama. Glad you enjoyed the hub and thanks for stopping by.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on April 18, 2012:

Oh Stephanie, I can only imagine! My one gives me a run for my money. But he is the sweetest thing on earth!

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on April 18, 2012:

I love this poem and appreciate reading it once more. The photos brought back sweet memories. :) Did you ever share it with your sister?

moonlake from America on April 18, 2012:

Girls are so dramtic not so much with boys. I have granddaughters there's drama all the time. Enjoyed your hub.

Stephanie Henkel from USA on April 18, 2012:

I raised 3 sons, and can tell you that it was a never-ending adventure! Loved your hub, the photos and the poem! Voted up all the way!

cardelean (author) from Michigan on February 03, 2012:

My son told me the other day that we have to wear handsome clothes on Valentine's Day. When I asked him what that would look like for me he told me my wedding dress! I about fell over! It was so cute. When I asked him who told him this, he said he just thought of it himself. They are just way too precious!

Alissa Roberts from Normandy, TN on February 03, 2012:

Love the poem! It perfectly describes the joy and surprises a little boy can bring into your life. I really enjoyed the spa day pictures of your nephew - too funny and so sweet! It makes you wonder what these boys will think of next :) Great hub - voted up and awesome!

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 08, 2011:

Oh boy pmccray, I thought I only had to worry about hormones for girls! I know that my son will eventually eat me out of my house but not 'bad' hormones. I'm glad that he turned out to be your hero. You have to give credit to yourself for that. I always think about the wonderful beings that my children will grow to be. Through the good times (and the not so good) I'm enjoying it all! Thanks for adding your comments.

Thanks SSM! Glad you stopped by.

Super Single Mom on December 08, 2011:

Too cute!

pmccray from Utah on December 08, 2011:

I only had one child and that was a boy. Talk about an adventure. I love little boys they melt my heart, so independent and carefree until the hormones kick in then watch out!!

When my son hit his preteen years and shot up to 6 ft I figured out I was given the wrong baby at the hospital. Had no idea who this guy was living in my home.

Once he turned 18 he was back, he's a 39 year old firefighter now, and grew up to be the sweetest, most giving person I've ever met . . in spite of his mom. Can you tell . . he's my hero?

Excellent hub, interesting subject matter. Voted up, marked beautiful and interesting.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 07, 2011:

Thanks Flora, glad you liked it.

OH MY, seven brothers!!! They are fun, easier maybe when they hit the teen years as compared to girls but right now I think that my daughter is much easier. I think that they just take turns! Thanks for reading and commenting Mamelody.

Mamelody on December 07, 2011:

what a lovely poem! I grew up with seven brothers so yes am fully aware of the life of little boys! Boys are definitively more fun and easier to raise than girls. Plus financially, boys are cheaper to raise too!

Nice hub.

FloraBreenRobison on December 07, 2011:

Fun poem. I have no children myself.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 07, 2011:

Lady Wordsmith I have always said that I will take all the hassles that my children will give me if I can take them places or they can go places on their own without me having to worry about their behavior and so far that is the case. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. Please let me know if you do write that hub, I'd love to read it!

I'm so glad that this brought joy to your day Hyphenbird. Thanks so much for adding your comments.

Thanks Pamela. I am experiencing the joy that you speak of on a daily basis. I'm glad you enjoyed the pictures too. The bigger one is my nephew, the younger is my son.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 07, 2011:

Indescribable is the perfect way to put it K Burns Darling. He is rough and tough but is such a softy on the inside. It seems that many moms have a similar experience. Thanks for your comments.

Oh boy Tammyswallow, we haven't had anything in the washer yet, yikes! A two year old daughter after the ageas of the boys! Oh my! I'm not sure that I would survive that. :) Thanks for adding your comments.

inthenickoftime77 I refuse to believe that my son will leave me for his wife! LOL! In fact I've joked and asked him if he's going to live with me when he gets married. Hopefully he will be good to both of us. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on December 07, 2011:

I certainly relate to this hub as I loved raising my 3 boys. Now they are all grown with children of their own. Most of my best memories are of all the fun we had when my sons were young. Your boys are adorable and the pictures great.

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on December 07, 2011:

Hahahahaha

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 07, 2011:

Thanks Mom, I'll have to email it to her. What do you mean my kids and Charlie Raisin are a distraction? :)

Thank you for such kind words Robin, I hope that they do turn out to be amazing men. I know what you mean about not knowing what to do with boys. It's been a daily learning experience for me! However, I love every minute of being his mom. I also agree that a loving mother breeds a kind and loving husband and father.

Brenda Barnes from America-Broken But Still Beautiful on December 07, 2011:

What a great poem and tribute to little boys. They sure are fun, funny, and adorable. My heart feels so joyful right now!

Linda Rawlinson from Lancaster, UK on December 07, 2011:

I have three little boys (wow, I'm so lucky!), aged 8, 5 and 4 at the moment. They're incredible, absolutely wonderful young men. I'm so proud of them, and the fact that I can take them anywhere and people will comment on their good behaviour. They drive me crazy at times, never listen, never pay attention, always dreaming, always full of energy, always arguing, fighting, laughing, screaming, playing, reading, hugging, running, climbing, creating, inventing, building, watching, listening, learning, and just generally being fabulous.

I'm often asked if I'll have any more children - if I'll 'try for a girl', and that question never ceases to amaze me! Why would I want anything other than what I already have? I'm sure a girl would have been just as wonderful, but my life is full and complete, because of my boys.

We do nail polish too :) And my boys have dolls and prams (strollers?), as well as tons of Lego and Playmobil and 'boy' toys.

Beautiful hub, thanks for sharing it. I feel inspired to write one of my own.

Linda.

inthenickoftime77 from New Zealand, aka: Aotearoa, aka: The Land Of The Long White Cloud on December 07, 2011:

I loved this & the photos & yes Boys are so different than girls to raise. I always had to be one step ahead of my boys when they were growing up. So full of mischief and adventure. When my daughter came along, I could virtually read her mind, much to her annoyance, so different to raise, but no less full of adventure and love.Even though I know my youngest(remaining) son loves me very much, I can never forget the saying MY mother used to say to me " A daughter is a daughter for all her life, but a son is a son until he takes a wife". I understand the meaning of this now & that is the way it should be. Enjoy them at any age

Tammy from North Carolina on December 06, 2011:

Very precious hub. I raised three sons who are now 18, 19, and 20. This brings back many memories.. so many interesting things in the washer. Now, I have a 2 year old spoiled, loving daughter. There is a BIG difference. Thank you for writing this. It is just beautiful.

Kristen Burns-Darling from Orange County, California on December 06, 2011:

I can totally relate to this, and love it. I also grew up in a home with only girls, and when my son came along, I didn't know what to expect either. I have had the privilege of raising three girls, and I love them each with all of my heart, but I have to admit, raising my son has a completely different, and indescribable joy to it. Thank you for such a thoughtful expression of that. Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting

Robin Edmondson from San Francisco on December 06, 2011:

I'm not sure I would know what to do with a little boy, although Lila our youngest just cut her hair, too. ;) I agree with Will that strong male influences are so great for little boys, but a strong, loving mother is probably the most influential thing for a boy. You and your sister will surely raise amazing boys.

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on December 06, 2011:

Oh Cara, sniff sniff, reading this without the distractions of Charlie Raisin, Alex and Grace brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful tribute, and I hope your sister reads it.

Rated it up and across the board. XXOO

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 05, 2011:

I completely agree WillStarr. A positive male influence is very crucial to the development of boys. I see many of my students without that in their lives and it really makes a difference. Thanks for the comment.

WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on December 05, 2011:

Boys love their moms, but they instinctively look to their fathers for male guidance. That's why a father in the house is so important to a boy.

Great Hub.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 05, 2011:

Thanks Gail. Both my son and nephew are ALL BOY but have such a sweet and sensitive side to them. And Grace loved the attention, so much so that she fell asleep afterwards! As for Alex's haircut, he may be proud but Mommy WAS NOT happy with the new look before the holidays! Thanks for your kind comments.

Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on December 04, 2011:

What a great poem and story behind the poem. It was extra special because of the photos that matched it- especially the superb spa treatment that Marco gave Grace! And yes, Alex does have a cheeky wonderful grin and is obviously very proud of his new haircut!

Voted up across the board.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 04, 2011:

It is an eye opening experience isn't it Prairieprincess! But I agree with you, they are always good for an exciting moment. Thanks for your comments.

LOL zzron! I'm glad I could bring back some great memories for you. So glad you had a chance to read and comment.

zzron from Houston, TX. on December 04, 2011:

This was very beautiful. I have first-hand experience at this, since I myself at one time was a young boy. Man that was a long time ago. LOL. Some of these things you mentioned brought back good memories.

Sharilee Swaity from Canada on December 04, 2011:

Cardelean, I loved this! Like you and your sister, we had not boys in our house either growing up. My sister then went on to have two little girls. So when I married my husband, who has two sons, needless to say, it was a shock!

Boys really are a different breed, but are so much fun and you never know what they will do. I love the spa story: so adorable! Very lovely hub!

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 04, 2011:

So true rjsadowski! Thanks for your comment.

I feel the same way moiragallaga! Thanks for reading.

Thanks kaliskadavis, I appreciate your comment.

I hope so greatparenting! Only time will tell if all of my efforts pay off.

cardelean (author) from Michigan on December 04, 2011:

I got lucky in the sibling department as well Leah. Grace and Alex are usually really wonderful to each other. I think that part of it is their closeness in age. I am loving having a son more than I ever thought that I would. They are just very different than girls. Thanks for the read and comment.

I agree Frank. I love all children as well and you are so right, they are our future. Thanks for stopping by.

I couldn't agree with your comment more Ms.Dora. Thankfully I had my teaching and daycare experience to help me prepare for my son. I'll never forget the time that I asked one of the boys in the daycare to take his fingers out of his nose and his prompt reply was, but I have to get the raisin out. These are the kind of conversations I find myself having with my own son now. And I love EVERY (well most) minute of it. Thanks for your comment.

greatparenting from philadelphia, pa and corolla, nc on December 04, 2011:

What's cool about this is that boys raised by moms like you grow up to be very good men. Nice poem.

Moira Garcia Gallaga from Lisbon, Portugal on December 04, 2011:

I have a son too, charming and challenging at the same time. Beautiful poem.

rjsadowski on December 04, 2011:

Boys will be boys and mothers will be mothers.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on December 04, 2011:

Beautiful! I have one son. Not being raised with boys, I didn't know anything about how strange they could be. When I suggested to my neighbor that my son might be crazy. She said, "He just being a boy." She was right, and you are too. They're a challenge, but they're precious.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on December 04, 2011:

what a nice little dedication to your son.. I love children period.. they are our tomorrows.. :) Great HUB!

Leah Lefler from Western New York on December 04, 2011:

Little boys are so much fun! Of course, I don't have a girl, so I only "know" boys! Boys can be so sweet - mine are always making gifts for people and they are very good to each other. I think we got lucky in the sibling department! Great poem!