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Book Review; How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

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"This book is the bible on how to say no and still be seen as a nice person. It can change your life forever."

(Jack Canfield)


Why is "NO” sometimes the hardest word to get out of our mouths? Because “no” is also a very powerful word, like any powerful thing, it can help us or hurt us. Consider the power you exercise just by saying “no”. It can keep people from taking up your valuable time and save your money, energy and mental peace. However, as it is such a powerful tool, “no” can also be dangerous, and must be used with skill. It can disappoint people you interact with, hurt their feelings or make them angry. Conflict arises when we continually agree to things that please everyone but ourselves and commit ourselves to things for which we have no time or desire. Learning the skills to say “no” can solve this problem by helping you reclaim your soul and mental peace with dignity.

If you know you need to say "NO" - but do not know how to say "NO" - this book is highly recommended to be read. It will certainly help to reclaim control of your mind and soul in a variety of ways.


About the Book

·Name: How to Say No without Feeling Guilty.

·Written by: Patti Breitman and Connie Hatch.

·Published by: Harmony Publishers.

·Numberof Pages: 272.

·Yearof Publish: 13 Feb 2001.

·Type: Hardbound / Paperback.

About the Author

Patti Breitman is a writer and an expert public speaker. She is a literary agent and has appeared on numerous radio and television shows. An advocate for health and animals, she is the co-author of this book with Connie Hatch.

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Overview of Contents

Saying No; The Basics

The author describes basic techniques a naysayer must have in his mind. The techniques broadly include pre-emption, devising a “no” policy, buying time, prevention, face-saving excuses, and manners in which these are applied under various circumstances. How these enable a calibrated and dignified response to effectively tackle various difficult situations we encounter on daily basis in our lives. If applied rightly, these basic techniques can save us a lot of energy, embarrassment, personal conflict, and our much precious time – and of course our relationships.

Saying No to Requests for Money

The chapter explains how we can find innumerable money borrowers in our surroundings including family members, friends, and various charity organizations. How saying yes and lending money can imperil relationships. How does it become tricky to say no at that particular time and what are the strategies to handle such difficult situations.

Saying No at Work

The writer discusses how organizations exploit their employees and how employees let them be exploited. How professional imbalance affects our personal lives and various remedial measures and what are the ways in which we can strike a balance between our professional and personal lives.

Saying No to Invitations and Romantic Entanglements

The writer explains how we can choose between various invitations and also romantic engagements. How we have tied up ourselves to various unwanted social norms. It describes methods to break free from unwanted commitments with friends and techniques to avoid one-sided and undesired romantic encounters.

Saying No to Family and Friends

Saying no to family and friends can be pretty tricky as close familial bonds cannot be disconnected. How our close friends exploit our emotional weakness by love and hate blackmail. How, by applying sheer wit, personal discipline and far-sightedness that we can avoid emotional conflicts at home.

Saying No to Kids

The hardest part to say “no” is to kids. Kids test the limits of our affection, patience, energy and anger. How emotionally challenging it is to say no to kids and yet how vital is setting clear boundaries between our emotional and personal requirements.

Saying No to High Maintenance People

High maintenance people are so involved in their personality complexes that they take much of our time and attention. High maintenance people are of many types like much talkative, depressive and over-dependant. How their company affects our personal health and how to live with / avoid them.

Everyday “No’s” Worth Knowing

The writer explains how there are a lot of things in our life that we must discard on daily basis. The non-essentials include unwanted medical checkups, car and house maintenance sessions, cosmetics and shopping sprees, unending junk mail, unwanted phone calls, undesired company while traveling. How these non-essentials can be discarded to enable more time and energy for ourselves.


The simple word "no" is often the most difficult to say yet anyone can develop the skills to say no with confidence, kindness, and peace of mind. The benefits are enormous. You will spend less time doing things you don't want to do with the people you don't want to see and move closer to your own priorities and passions.


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