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Amazing People: Business Woman, Chef, Mother, Life Partner

Amateur investigations are a hobby I hope to turn into a useful tool to help others.


I've decided I would try my hand at doing an interview, and since my girlfriend is such an amazing human being I decided my very first ever attempt would be with her. She is popping my interview cherry, if you will, and took the time out of her busy life to answer a few of my questions. Now, I'd like to throw my own views of Erin in here real quick, just to fluff the pillow before you really lay into it.

Erin is one of the most underappreciated, hard-working, and dedicated individuals I have ever met in my life. It doesn't matter whether it is as simple as wiping a counter, or charging head on into a storm of human conflict; she is someone you need to have standing at your back. When everyone else is folding, cashing in their chips, and taking the safe way out... Erin is there in the thick of things, digging you and herself out out of the muck, then standing atop a pedestal of self-made victory.

Enough of what I have to say, let's check out what this lovely woman has to say about her incredible self!

Before We Begin: Who Is Erin Fowler?

"I am a 41 year-old mom of a 2 year-old boy. I am on hiatus from cheffing to make money supporting my family and, hopefully, save fast enough to start up a food truck soon. I met my boyfriend, Kyler, in early 2012; he is sixteen years younger than me and right in line with all the other reckless decisions I have made in my life. Yet he inspired me to follow my dreams, come back to California, go to culinary school, do well in culinary school, and pursue my career. I made being a chef my focus for the next 6 years, but after we had our baby the money wasn’t enough and I had to put my dreams on hold so that we could get on our feet. My goal now is to save up and start a coffee truck with my own original twist. Something that will stand out even among all the competition in California."

What inspired you to get into the culinary world and become a chef?

"I believe my inspiration to cook came from my busy mom who couldn't even boil water. Starting young with boil-in-a-bag rice, I became more talented and creative by my twenties. I decided then that I wanted to be a chef but was discouraged by my boyfriend at the time, not to mention my own insecurities. So, I spent the next 10 years traveling, partying, and experiencing as much as life would dare to offer me. There were very few romantic relationships, lots of friendships, and I remained totally naive throughout my exploration; I had no idea that the future was right around the corner and that I might need to prepare for it."

What Was Life as a Chef Like?

"At first it was magical; I believed in dreams coming true. I took something I already knew how to do and fine-tuned it. I was proud. There is nothing like getting paid to do what you love, have people hand you the control, and to be able to use your creativity to make their business a success. The best part is that I succeeded, and an even better part was that no one who came in and tried to match my skill and creativity could even come close. I had the power, the control, and it felt safe and satisfying. I learned so much and it truly helped me learn how to clear out any obstacles that might come into my path."

Wanna Throw Some Advice at Employers?

"If you are a foodie with no chef experience, so you hire a chef to help run your restaurant, be prepared to give up the control. Set your standards, guidelines, theme, and vision and then let go. You will never get the best of someone if you try holding them back at every turn. A chef is an artist and food is their paint. You cannot hand them primary colors and not let them mix them up! An artist does not want to paint the same picture every day, and if you allow them the power to mold your ideas with their creativity, they will deliver your success on a silver platter. It's more of an interpersonal relationship based on trust and it needs to be mutually respected."

If You Could, Would You Go Back and Decide Not to Be a Chef?

"I would decide to be a chef sooner. I would walk out of any job that didn’t offer a learning experience and an opportunity to move forward. I would’ve skipped school and relied on real-life experiences."

Any Get-Rich-Quick Schemes in the Works?

"The twist I plan to put on my coffee truck idea is my secret; since it has never been done before I want to keep that under wraps until the big reveal. It's not only original, but also foolproof if I make the right decisions with money, location, and business partners. No one needs to keep their fingers crossed, and some may even want to hold their breath; I'm on the path to success!"


How Do You Balance Being a Mother and Being Career-Oriented?

"I have surrendered to the fact that nothing is about me right now. Had I surrendered to it earlier, I would probably already own my business; but it's all about patience. I have never had much patience and favored the free-spirited life, but if I’m going to get to where I need to be, I need to give up what I want for now. Me-time, sleep, the proper amount of nutrition and exercise... it's falling by the wayside more often than not, but all of that will come in abundance after this heavy push for success. Meanwhile my boyfriend takes care of my son, and I continue to plan out my road to victory!"

Final Question: Any Advice You'd Like to Give to the World?

"Teach your children what is important in life, assuming you know what is important yourself. Show them how to build credit, start early with encouraging their every curiosity and dream, and make sure that they understand people’s unfair opinions of them do not matter. Instill within them the ideal that you do not need to stress the small stuff, but to always shoot for perfection. Something I wish I had been taught was that relationships, all of them, should be supportive and symbiotic. Love is going to come and go but the one who is right for you will help you kick the rocks out from your path, not try to steer you away from the challenges that will lead you to success. The most important things a child will ever learn come from their parents and the example you set for them. Oh yeah, and school sucks but you don't have to take it so seriously that it ruins your emotional life!"


What Did I Learn From My First Interview Attempt?

Despite having enough time and ability to go back and change all of this, to rework it, and to even ask a different series of questions, I wanted this to be as rough and amateur as my skills in interviewing are. I felt that if I tried to do this better, took the time to make it better, then that would not be representative of my current skill level. This was sort of an exercise for performing an impromptu interview on someone you may never get to see again, like if you met a celebrity who you only got to chat with for a few minutes and needed to get as much info as you could.

Where I'm lacking is the foundation for the interview. There was no real structure, and I think that was the biggest problem I faced overall. I mean, in this I only had an introduction of personal commentary and now so at the end as well.

Personally, I can't stand the fluff on an interview piece, but since all major publications do a blend of conversational and professional commentary with their interview pieces I probably can't really get away with calling this an acceptable interview. Then again, I am not the only one who enjoyed the concise format and telling as it is compared to long-winded pieces with excessive commentary.

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Next time I do an interview I'm going to do it more like a structured story, just like I do with investigations. Not because I prefer it that way, but because it allows for more emotionally riveting telling.


Kyler J Falk (author) from California on June 07, 2020:

Thank you for reading, Lisha, and I greatly appreciate the kind words. Erin appreciates your compliments as well!

I've been trying to think of who I'd like to interview next, but haven't come across any one specific candidate just yet!

Lisha C on June 07, 2020:

You picked a wonderful person for your first interview. Erin seems lovely, and her dishes look amazing. It's great that she followed her passion and has learnt so much from it.

Looking forward to your next 'Amazing People' interview.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on June 05, 2020:

I would appreciate it if you stop projecting yourself onto me, this form of communication has proven time and time again to be petulant. You're the only one dwelling on my past here, and if you could please show some courage and stop hiding behind alternate accounts I would greatly appreciate it.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on June 04, 2020:

Well that's good to hear, now if only the way you present yourself represented those claims I could believe it. Until then, I wish you all the best and a speedy emotional recovery.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on June 04, 2020:

Judging by how bitter you are about it, sounds like you're both better off!

Thanks for reading!

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 20, 2020:

Thank you, Sowrabha, it was actually a lot less awkward than I thought it was going to be. I felt like she and I would be laughing throughout the whole thing, unable to take it seriously, but it actually felt like we were both treating it like it was more important than just my silly Hub piece. She really is an amazing woman!

Thanks for reading!

sowspeaks from Bengaluru on May 20, 2020:

Hi Kyle..discovered your world of words today and instantly took a liking to it. it is kind of weird interviewing someone who is your love and still stay straight faced but you pulled it off bringing out the best parts of her. The photographs of both and her food added to her charm and strength. Attaboy!!

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 19, 2020:

@Lorna: I hope he inherits our talents as well, Lorna, more so his mom's than mine! She really is a kind individual, and a role model not only to our son but to me as well. Her strength, patience, and determination are qualities that I wish to embody in every facet of my life. We certainly balance one another in every respect.

Thanks for reading!

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 19, 2020:

@Brenda, John: Erin is definitely the hard worker who seems to know right where she is heading in life; nothing gets in her way and she is happy that you guys can observe that from the outside! It is rare that anyone takes the time to admire her for her strength and determination!

Thanks for reading!

Lorna Lamon on May 19, 2020:

The first thing that struck me was the kindness in Erin's eyes which tells me a lot about the person. I enjoyed this interview which held my attention. It was personal and gave me an insight into the kind of person Erin is - I loved her honesty, and her food. The last paragraph summed it up for me - great advice which your son can only benefit from. I hope he inherits both your talents.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on May 19, 2020:

Good job on this interview, Erin seems to be grounded and know where her life is going, and her food looks great.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on May 18, 2020:

Not bad for your first interview.

I admire the qualities of one who strives to make a better life for themselves and their family.

Erin sounds like she is a strong, responsible role model.

I love that she is moving forward to her own dream of having the food cart...or coffee cart.

Working is hard's great if you can do something you enjoy.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 18, 2020:

We can't express through words how much we appreciate your recognition and compliments, Fran! It is rare people use our son for anything other than a way to demean us, and to recognize the efforts we put in to being great role models for our son is an offering seldom experienced on our end.

Thanks for reading!

fran rooks from Toledo, Ohio on May 18, 2020:

Well, Kyler, great interview. I feel I know her! And her advice is so right on!. I especially like the "kick the rocks out" about the "right" one you found. And the one children learn by example---very, very accurate. You've met your match Kyler, and it sounds like you two are meant for each other. Your son is fortunate.

Kyler J Falk (author) from California on May 18, 2020:

A great question, Ruby! You know, I'm a really picky eater and growing up I never developed a taste for healthy food as my parents regularly opted to feed me whatever was convenient for them rather than for my health. In such cases, a great chef is needed to break the old habits and show that unhealthy palate that healthy food is more delicious than designer foods!

Erin makes some of the best healthy food you could ever have! She even makes brussels sprouts that anyone would love! Her skill truly stands out among the crowd, and if it weren't for her I'd be in the hospital dying of an overactive liver and clogged arteries at the age of 26.

Thanks for reading!

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on May 18, 2020:

This is a down-to-earth-interview and I liked it. Your life-partner knows what she wants and appears smart enough to attain her goal. Her food looks yummy. I wish I had her skill. Now, I must ask you a question, How could you have lost weight with all the delicious food? Ha...

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