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A Study on the Complexities of Love.

Artist, actor, poet, teacher, songwriter & actor with 4,000 poems & almost 1,000 songs written, performed recorded & published on line.

Some visuals on love's gifts

We all were masks sometimes to hide what might hurt those we love. that is O.K.

We all were masks sometimes to hide what might hurt those we love. that is O.K.

My family

My family

My lovely wife.

My lovely wife.

My wedding day.

My wedding day.

love is falling asleep in each others arms nightly

love is falling asleep in each others arms nightly

the best course of action

the best course of action

Love Binds but then sets free two souls.

Love Binds but then sets free two souls.

forgive and forget

forgive and forget

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The joy of true love and the anguish of love that has become terminally ill

Love forms a bond between two hearts that makes both who are blessed with it, akin to siamese twins. The tragic seperation of those who love with this intensity is like surgery that removes a part of themsleves, leaving an Incredibly painful scar and a deep feeling of emptiness at their sides that will shadow and haunt them even as long as when they draw their last breath. Those who undergo amputation suffer what is known as a ghost limb, they can actually still feel the part that is missing below the line where it was cut off. it can itch and hurt. So too do lovers feel the strong presence of another who has parted from them as well as the pain from the abrupt removal and even an itch to get it all put back together. Divorce is starvation of two hearts once full one can watch two hearts grow anorexic and become desperate to avoid any more of the sampling of love's finest fruits. Seperation which is a joint decision to take time to reconsider a dying love is like a chainsaw ripping through what were once buttered promises now melted into puddles of tears. A lack of sex and desire from one partner to another does not come from the heart itself but from other parts that no longer soften or harden the flesh of two who were once as one Walk carefully in the chambers of the heart of another, it can be your palace or a wretched hovel where all doors are slammed forever and all that remains will be the grafitti of your grief scribbled on the barren walls of your own heart. Children are not a glue to hold couples together but far too many husbands and wives use them like a adhesion staying together for the kids sake, until they are old enough to understand that Mommy and dDaddy are not Mr. and Mrs, Ideal married parentrs. Children are quite astute at reading the lack of compassion and it pains them far more than any parents know. Children are experts at pretending far more than adults and they know when something is fake. Children are also bartered and used as weapons far to many times in the battles for control of a love dissolving. My mother and father divorced after 29 years of marriage for our sake and it became so ugly at the end. We all suffered for their refusing to let go just to protect us. Their moods were worse than a paddling and their unhappiness impinged upon our lives in far too many ways. Neither one of the huband or wife is always right and they should accept that or they will wind up left. When two are wed first you co-promise and then you must add an "m" and be eager to compromise. Far too many really good marriages fall to handle control factors and sheer stubborness. Love is an education that requires full participation between two who have chosen the sweet transformation of love's assocoiation With no limits on expectations, no nagging or recriminations. Offer justification to your frustrations rather then slamming doors and silent, joint habitation. Silence heals nothing, you must mend all wounds with communication. Anything else is mental masturbation and destroys any relation to each other. Apologizing only works once. If a parther says their sorry over and over again it holds no meaning. If they ask for forgivenss until they are blue in the face their spouse will start feeling like they are married to a Smurf. Give your love no reasons to apologize, and never lie about anything. The absence of truth destroys trust and love cannot survive without trust. Eventualy after you have been caught in too many lies, he or she will be lying to you when they say they love you. and you will soon enough be sadly lying alone. If you are cheating on them, then you do not deserve them. How would you feel if they were cheating on you? As too whether you should tell him or her or not, that is an infernal question with no right answer. Only you can decide but if you do you must be ready for hell on earth. If you don't you had best be taking a long look at the woman or man you are cheating with. How good can their love be if they know you are a cheater and they are an accessory to your cheating?. And what's to stop them from running around on you?. Cheating the cheater with another cheater. How sleazy is that. If your wedded partner sometimes is not in the mood what fun is it to even bother if your lover is not into it at all. Sometimes space is the greatest Aphrodisiac. When my wife tells me, "Not tonight Honey, I have a headache." I put a couple of Tylenol on her nightstand and kiss her foreghead and tell her to take them and I will call on her in the morning. There are 365 nights in each year to share with your beloved, they aren't all gong to be sexually themed. I am not an expert on love and marriage but I am going on 42 years of wedded bliss. That has to count for something. Strive to always let you love be like this and then you will never miss what is right and what will be left will always be sweet happiness. Live the words of this article whenever things are bad or good and express its truths each and every time you are enveloped together and seal it with a kiss. All that is right is bliss and all that is wrong will be learned from and dismissed Love is truky the greatest gift to all men and women and we must show our gratefulness for it. daily and nightly to those we love.




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© 2022 Matthew Frederick Blowers III

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