Empaths often become victims of the toxic behavior of narcissists and psychopaths. This is why it is essential for you as an empath to understand yourself deeply and learn to protect and defend yourself. These books will not only help you to understand who you are but also inform you about toxic people and relationships so that you stay protected from abuse and energy drainage.
1.Dodging energy vampires
Author: Christiane Northrup
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Empaths are very sensitive people who are usually kind, understanding, and helpful. Another extreme is the energy vampire, who is not just unsupportive, but literally feeds off of the energy of others. As friends, family members, lovers, or co-workers these two opposites might easily end up in a close relationship. Even though an energy vampire does not have fangs and does not shun the light, they can be difficult to spot at first, especially in a romantic relationship where they may appear to be almost ideal.
The greatest challenge that empaths have to overcome in their lives is to defeat energy vampires and free themselves from toxic relationships. Dr.Northrup focuses on this important aspect of the empath’s life. She provides the empaths tools to recognize vampires, avoid their manipulative tactics, and reclaim their energy. The author goes deep into the intricacies of the vampire-empath relationship and shows you how vampires exploit the energy of empaths to feed their own dysfunctional lives. You'll be able to spot the vampires in your life as you read about the patterns of behavior that distinguish these partnerships. You will also learn how to heal yourself after a toxic relationship and set boundaries to protect yourself.
2. Boundaries after a pathological relationship
Author: Adelyn Birch
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“This is me, and everything else is not me,” This is how a non-empathic person thinks and their sense of boundaries is innate. Empaths, on the other hand, don't have a built-in boundary; instead, we have finely-tuned antennae that are constantly sensing the wants, pains, and desires of others. As a result, we must learn to set boundaries. Boundaries after a pathological relationship goes into detail about how to set boundaries so whether you are a survivor of abuse or want to avoid a toxic relationship as we are magnets for vampires, this book can help.
When you create boundaries, you communicate your worth to others truly and practically. It also has a healthy effect on your health because you are not drained of energy or tired all the time. This brief but powerful book is jam-packed with sound guidance and useful hints. It will guide you through the full process of establishing boundaries, from start to finish.
I highly recommend this book for empaths. It can save you from a lot of pain and misery.
3. Highly sensitive person guide to toxic people
Author: Shahida Arabi
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People with high levels of sensitivity (HSPs) should recognize their sensitivity and compassion as valuable assets. Yet as a highly sensitive person (HSP), you may find yourself quickly overwhelmed by the world around you, prone to continuous people-pleasing, prone to extreme anxiety during the conflict, and even prone to picking up on other people's feelings. People who want to exploit others for their personal benefit will take advantage of your generous and caring nature. You must defend yourself.
Few authors write with empathy and compassion for empaths and abuse victims. Shahida Arabi is one of them. In addition to being friendly and empathetic, her writing is also backed by scientific research. she does an excellent job of explaining toxic people's manipulation tools like gaslighting and stonewalling, covert put-downs, love bombing, and projections, as well as the many cognitive distortions that HSPs experience. She then teaches you how to counter manipulation tactics and self-invalidations forced on by a toxic environment. When it comes to dealing with character disordered people, she also shows you how to utilize your sensitivity and intuition to your advantage.
One thing that stands out in the book is that the author heavily advocates journaling both as a tool for self-reflection and recording one’s thoughts and feelings for future reference.
4. I do not want to be an empath anymore
Author: Ora North
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when an Empath is unaware of shadow parts of their self, it leads to significant imbalances in their life, major pain, dramas with Narcissistic and drug-addicted people, drug addiction, serious medical disorders, extreme sadness and anxiety, and even suicidality. Ora gently guides you through the process of facing your shadow self in the mirror. While facing your shadow self is never an easy task, it's vital to do so to achieve balance and remain grounded in the face of life's difficulties. For example, Ora refers to "lightwashing" as a way to avoid addressing your problems by continually "living in the light." In yoga and spiritual circles, it's common to hear about the importance of always being positive and content, and that the other people's treatment of you is a reflection of you. Ora informs us that these are misleading concepts and many people in real life often behave selfishly. Thus, it's fine to be broken, irritated, furious, and resentful because you're human after all. A part of being "human" is acknowledging and working through these darker feelings so that you can move on and live well. After working through the chapters in I Don't Want To Be An Empath Anymore, you'll be urged to do the inner work. There are recommendations at the end of each chapter for journal entries, meditations, or other things for putting the lessons you've learned into action. This is a really good book. It is very encouraging and compassionate since it prompted me to face my fears and work through issues that I have long been avoiding.
This book will help you reduce your emotional overwhelm as you allow yourself to feel your emotions and not be guilty about them. You will learn how to express your feelings so that others may understand when and why you are unhappy. In addition, you will learn to create healthy boundaries so that you don't keep others away, but protect your feelings. This book is a great resource to aid you in your journey as an empath in this sometimes very harsh world.
5. Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing
Author: Aletheia Luna & Mateo Sol
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Someone who is an empath perceives other people's feelings as though they were their own. People who are empaths have a high level of sensitivity, making them susceptible to anxiety, abuse, sadness, and debilitating physical ailments.
Awakened Empath is a complete guide for developing mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual balance on all levels.
As Luna and Sol guide you, you will learn how to awaken to your fullest potential and tap into the love, strength and knowledge that lies inside your soul's depths. This book is more spiritual in nature.
6. Puzzling people
Author: Thomas Sheridan
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The word ‘’Psychopath’’ usually conjures up images of Hannibal Lecter or a menacing prowler from a nighttime TV drama. In reality, killer psychopaths are rare but nonviolent psychopaths are greater in numbers and they stroll around indistinguishable from the rest of us. However, according to Thomas Sheridan, there may be one or two physiological clues that warn us to the notion that we may be dealing with a highly dangerous person. Psychopaths’ goals and thoughts are very different from normal people's. They do not 'feel' the same way that we do. Even though psychopaths may be aware of right and wrong, their inability to empathize with other people's pain makes them insensitive and cruel towards others. Remorse and guilt are unfathomable concepts for a psychopath. Psychopaths live a parasitic lifestyle, and their primary goal of existence is to ensure their survival, frequently at the expense of others.
Undiagnosed and non-criminal psychopaths are not in short supply, so there's a good possibility you'll meet one at some point in your life. Often psychopaths utilize the workplace and romantic relationships as a hunting ground in search of "prey" - individuals to whom they may attach themselves and feed off of until that person is no longer useful. Thomas Sheridan in the book Puzzling people tells us that empaths are the favorite prey of psychopaths. He tells the readers why psychopath attacks empaths and how they can protect themselves.
As empaths often get entrapped into toxic relationships with predators, therefore, I've included this book. An empath who does not know that He/she is an empath and cannot identify a predator is a prime target for psychopaths.
Make sure you're well-informed; be prepared.
7. Master Dealing with Psychopaths, Sociopaths, Narcissists - A Handbook for the Empath
Ave. Goodreads ratings: 4.37/5
This book is a masterpiece when it comes to dealing with psychopaths and narcissists. The author is neither a doctor nor a psychologist, but she has written one of the finest books about dealing with predators. Over the years, I've encountered a lot of psychopaths and narcissists in my workplace. I can identify a good piece of advice when I read it. The author displays an uncommon level of understanding about toxic people and the advice that she gives on how to cope with such people is priceless. Every empath should read this book! This is a great book for anyone who works in a corporate setting, wants to pursue a serious relationship, or has been told that they are naive in interacting with others. I would encourage you to read this book when you don't need to or don't want to so that you are prepared when you encounter a toxic person.