Akash Panda is a blogger, entrepreneur, and writer. He is also a professional content writer who writes content for social media sites.
Get comfortable with the ones you are making now. There will be others, of course. It's a big world and the amount of people we come in contact with day in and day out is almost like a perpetual game of survival of the fittest. But, to paraphrase Dr. Seuss, you have to be unusual to be unusual. Who knows? You may be unusual. But I bet more than a few of those who do not know that the decisions they are making are those that will end up shaping them in one way or another.
Any decision I've ever made, I'll never regret. In fact, I will make the same ones again and again. If I've learned one thing in life, it's that if you can't make it through a decision without regret, then you probably shouldn't have made it in the first place. I won't lie, there will be those decisions you will be making over and over again and will be glad you didn't make, but there will be other ones that you will be glad you made, too.
1. My Bucket List Is Longer Than Yours
There is nothing wrong with having a long list of things you want to do. In fact, that's what makes it a bucket list. My problem is that mine is so long, I'm not sure I'll ever get to do them all, even though I have just as much opportunity as you do. For me, when it comes to the short list of things I want to do before I die, my travel bucket list is what I get. It's very simple. I'll push myself as far as I can.
Travel as far as I can. See as much of the world as possible. Make as many new and interesting friends as I can. But with that being said, I don't think I'll ever have time to see all the places I want to see, all the people I want to meet and see it all. I'll probably leave some parts of the list out. But the ones I don't have time for, I'll regret not doing. This is something you can't put a time limit on. Take this list with you into your everyday life.
Think about the places you've wanted to go and see, the people you've wanted to meet. Think about the different things you want to experience that you haven't. All you need to do is make sure you try to get to as many of those places as you can.
2. Finding Love Is Easier Than You Think
I've been dating for almost ten years and I've learned a lot. Dating is easy, but making a relationship last is much more complicated. It's a combination of trust, communication, respect, communication, communication, communication. This doesn't mean you're going to change your personality overnight. It just means you have to talk about important things. You have to accept that your ideas and opinions are different and you have to find a way to navigate those differences in a way that still makes you happy.
And above all, you have to have patience. Nothing will work out the way you expect it to and it may take more than one date or even multiple dates. But you can't expect a relationship to start and then magically end. It takes a lot of time and effort. Make it a priority. Make it a habit. And be okay with not having everything figured out right away. There will be days when you'll feel like giving up. When things don't work out the way you'd like them to. And those will be the days when you need to put your phone down and spend time with the one you love.
3. Don't Let Fear Steal Your Happiness
When I was a kid, I didn't have to deal with anything I was afraid of. What I worried about was the small things in life: getting sick, school, getting lice. However, the older I got, the more fearful I became. I was afraid to drive on freeways, I was afraid to get married, I was afraid of the boogeyman and I was afraid of dying. Then I moved to Costa Rica, met my husband and learned to let go. Since then, I have been faced with several things I was afraid of and faced them with a smile on my face.
My fears have come true. I've been hurt. I've seen more people I love get hurt. But I'm still here. I've been robbed. I've been in jail. I've been abandoned. But I'm still here. I've had panic attacks. I've been in hospitals. I've had my heart broken. But I'm still here. There was a time when I was at my lowest, when I thought I'd never be happy again. But I was wrong. If you are experiencing anything that you think is going to take your happiness away, you are going to have to put your fears aside and face them head on.
There is no worse feeling in the world than not being able to say what you feel or not being able to show your emotions. The harder it is to let go and open up, the better it will be for you and everyone around you. There is no greater way to feel than that.
4. You Don't Need A Man To Be Happy
You don't need a man to be happy. Period. You won't find happiness anywhere in this world. At least not in the manner that you require. The only person who will make you happy is you. And you don't need anyone else to make you feel better. In fact, you shouldn't feel the need to get anyone else's approval or approval to feel better about yourself.
Whether you decide to stay single for the rest of your life or take a chance and "date around," you shouldn't feel like you have to search for anyone to make you happy. You shouldn't feel like you need to choose a partner because you think it will make you feel better about yourself. Having a man or a woman will make you happier, sure. But it's your life, your happiness. Your trip is yours and yours alone.
5. Always Be Yourself
As tempting as it is to show people you're a little different, a little "cute," you don't need to show them everything. You don't need to do something because it will make people like you more. People might like you for who you are now, sure. But later on, they might not. You don't need anyone else's approval. They might like you or they might not. If they don't, they don't. You don't need to be okay with that. Everyone goes through struggles in life. The important thing is to focus on what's ahead of you and be yourself. No matter who you are, where you're from, what you do for a living, who your friends are, how much money you have or what kind of car you drive, just be yourself. Before you can love someone else, you must first love yourself.
There are several people out there who will love you for who you are. Always remember that. When we open our hearts, we become vulnerable. This is a hard thing to accept. However, it's also an important lesson to learn. The more we open our hearts and our minds to new experiences and people, the more we grow. We learn things about ourselves and other people. The more we learn, the more we are able to appreciate life. Not just the good things.
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