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10 Powerful Books on Setting Boundaries at Work

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Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries

Author: Anne Katherine

Average Goodreads rating:4.0/5

Boundaries separate us from others physically and emotionally. They are, in fact, necessary for our emotional and physical well-being, as well as for the development of good relationships. Every day, friends, family members, and coworkers overstep on people's personal boundaries. Despite their importance, many individuals are ignorant of how or when personal boundaries are violated.

In Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne Katherine describes what healthy boundaries are, both at work and at home, how to recognize when your personal boundaries are violated, and how to defend yourself.

This is a book that can assist anyone who has ever felt violated in a relationship or after an interaction with others and has no idea why.

Assertiveness at Work: A Practical Guide to Handling Awkward Situations

Authors: Ken Back, Kate Back

Average Goodreads ratings:3.85/5

This book examines the reality of modern corporate life, including the uneasy circumstances that might occur as a result of organizational structures, heavy workloads, long hours, and the need to exert influence beyond conventional lines. Successful people require assertiveness in these situations to attain their objectives.

This book provides practical guidelines for strengthening your own natural assertiveness to benefit both yourself and your organization, whether you are a line manager, an expert, a project leader or essential member of a team.

One of the best things about this book is how practical the advice is. You can start using it right now. All of the events depicted are familiar, and you'll be thinking to yourself, That's precisely what I've just gone through; how should I have handled it? This is a suitable book to read if you feel overworked because you say yes too often.

Set boundaries find Peace

Author: Nedra Glover Tawwab

Average Goodreads Ratings:4.41/5

Tawwab, a relationship therapist with more than half a million Instagram followers, debuts with a comprehensive guide on how to understand and establish interpersonal boundaries. The first section explains what boundaries are, how they are crossed, and the short- and long-term implications of consistent boundary violations. She identifies six types of boundaries—physical, intellectual, sexual, emotional, time and material—and dispenses tips on how to uphold personal limits (such as “I’m more of a handshaker” for those setting a physical boundary) and detect when a boundary might be crossed (such as overly sexual joking being a red flag for “sexual boundary violation”).

In the second section, Tawwab suggests scenarios in which boundaries need to be set—including with family, work, and social media—and walks the reader through them with examples and stories.An entire chapter is dedicated to setting boundaries at work.She explains how to set boundaries work; how to handle a toxic work environment; how to maintain a work life balance; how to communicate you boundaries to your boss. Whether you are an entrepreneur or work in an office you will learn what your boundaries are and how to set them.

Boundaries at work

Author: Henry Cloud

Average Goodreads ratings:4.17/5

Do you find yourself staying late at work on a regular basis, attempting to clear an Inbox that never seems to shrink? Do you struggle to cope with grumpy supervisors or passive-aggressive coworkers? Do you ever check your BlackBerry during dates, family dinners, or your kids' soccer games? If you answered yes to any of these questions, your professional life has encroached into your personal life.

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In Boundaries at Work Dr. Henry Cloud demonstrates how failing to establish effective workplace boundaries not only blurs the boundary between the professional and the personal, but also makes you less ready to cope with difficulties in today's ultra-competitive, instant-connect work environment. Dr. Cloud will show you how to set and maintain stronger boundaries in the face of electronic devices, bullying employers, and distracted coworkers that invade your time and space, as well as how to advance toward a life that truly integrates work, family, and God.

Becoming Bullet-proof

Author: Evy Poumpouras

Average Goodreads rating:4.22/5

Bulletproofing oneself entails being a stronger, more confident, and more powerful individual. Evy Poumpouras, a former Secret Service agent to three presidents and one of only five women to receive the Medal of Valor, shows us how to face our fears, have difficult conversations, set boundaries and stand up for ourselves, know who to trust and who may not have our best interests at heart, influence situations, and prepare for the unexpected.

She asserted herself in a largely male-dominated business and handled well with individuals who appeared to be undermining her because of her attractiveness. Poumpouras demonstrates that genuine power comes from the mind, not the body.

When you have become bulletproof, you are your finest, most brave, and most powerful self. Courage entails addressing our concerns, but it also entails tenacity, resilience, and understanding how to employ a built-in BS detector. In Becoming Bulletproof Poumpouras teaches us how to use our natural instincts to harness all of these attributes and progress from fear to fearlessness.

Working with the Self-Absorbed

Author: Nina W. Brown

Average goodreads rating:3.85/5

In the workplace, narcissists take credit for others' work, exaggerate their own accomplishments, and demand an endless supply of favors from their coworkers. This book gives practical tools for handling the narcissist's destructive behaviors while also ensuring that your own work gets the appreciation it deserves. Whether the narcissist in your life is your boss, a coworker or someone you supervise, this book can help. Realistic strategies for changing expectations, not taking things personally, responding constructively and deciding when it's best to ignore despicable behavior are suggested.

Nina Brown is an expert on narcissism and has written over ten books about this topic.

Boundaries Face to Face: How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding

Author: Henry Cloud

Average Goodreads rating:4.0/5

At some point in our lives, we all need to have a good confrontational conversation. It's sometimes just a question of saying no to avoid getting overextended, or saying yes to better ways of increasing closeness in a healthy relationship. At other times, we may need to address a problematic individual in a relationship such as, a control freak, a manipulator, someone who is reckless, or even someone who is abusive.
How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding enables you to take control of your relationships and build honest, healthy, and meaningful connections. This follow-up to the best-selling Boundaries demonstrates how to have a productive confrontation with another person. You'll discover how to communicate with your spouse, a date, your children, coworkers, bosses, parents, and others. This book is full of practical advice and how-tos to help you improve your relationships and increase your closeness with the people you care about.

The Bible is used as a resource throughout, but not in a heavy-handed manner, making this a useful self-help guide for people from all walks of life.

Working With You is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work

Authors: Katherine Crowley, Kathi Elster

Average Goodreads rating:3.62/5

For anyone stuck in a draining relationship with a coworker, supervisor, or subordinate, Crowley and Elster present strategies to making the situation workable. Crowley, a Harvard-trained psychologist, and Elster, an entrepreneurial consultant, have written a book that is as useful to people at the top of the corporate ladder as it is to those at the bottom. Readers in the midst of a job crisis will find a case study that can help them get out of any scenario.

Whether it's coping with a charming and demanding boss, a saboteur, or one's own tendency to play the workplace martyr, the authors propose a four-step technique for establishing effective boundaries (unhook physically - calm your body; unhook mentally - take an inventory of the situation; unhook verbally - find the words to protect yourself; unhook with a business tool - contracts, memos, whatever it may be). The book also includes diagnostic tools for determining your boundaries and difficult relationships, as well as spotting "fatal attractions"─ relationships at work which may lead your career to a shipwreck. Throughout the book, the writers continue to paint real-life work scenarios to help readers grasp and apply each principle offered. This inspiring book gives you the power to take control of tense professional circumstances. It might also result in high job turnover.

Renovate Your Relationships: A Proven Guide to Setting Boundaries and Building Bridges with Those Who Matter Most

Author: Scott Vaudrey

Average goodreads rating:4.2/5

By understanding the balance between creating bridges and setting boundaries, doctor-turned-pastor Scott Vaudrey shows readers how to create better and lasting relationships.

A demanding supervisor, an obnoxious neighbor, a manipulative family member, or a controlling spouse are all examples of difficult people in our life. How can you bridge the gap between where things are and where you want them to be in that troublesome relationship?

In Renovate your relationships, Scott Vaudrey draws on his expertise as an emergency-room physician and a pastor to show us how we can diagnose the problems in our relationships and then master the balance between establishing bridges and setting boundaries. Using practical tools and easy to understand examples, he unearths the fundamental reason of our relational breakdowns and helps us make adjustments that enable us to move forward with a new, more productive pattern of relating.

I find it difficult to establish boundaries. Rather than risk offending someone by speaking up, I'd rather remain silent and miserable. According to Renovate Your Relationships, I am an accepter─ someone who is typically too tolerant of others, hesitant to defend or argue for myself, quick to avoid conflict, and guilty of putting up with abuse from others. In some ways, that description makes me feel weak or like I'm always playing the victim. But I've learned from this book that there are times when I need to be more accepting by building bridges, and other times when I need to push myself outside of my comfort zone and be more of a protector by setting firm boundaries.

Scott utilizes useful graphics throughout the book to assist readers understand how to set boundaries and build bridges. In my experience, it's simpler for me to remember a visual image than words. I believe this is a book that I will benefit from several readings, I appreciate how the visual representations make it easier for me to comprehend and revisit key concepts.

The teachings in this book have proven to be beneficial to me! Anyone who works with people, manages a team or several clients will benefit from this book.

Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity

Author: Kim Malone Scott

Average Goodreads rating:4.08/5

No one cares what you know until they know how much you care. That truth is at the heart of Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity. As a manager or leader, it's your responsibility to bring out the best in the people you work with, which means there may be moments when you'll need to give constructive criticism about their performance. It also implies that there will be moments when you must understand that employees are having problems and that they must be supported rather than held accountable. Radical Candor is about navigating these treacherous seas.

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