To say I Love You....
Are the most important words you can say to someone, they have to be meant or they are worthless...these words are what has given me years of a successful marriage. This is the secret to reaffirming ones commitment in a relationship or marriage, without it, you will always wonder what that person really feels....Valentine's Day should be everyday!
Of course this is just my opinion and not a researched fact, but when I think of my own relationship and marriage, it is based on the affirmation of those words, affection and deeds.
I have found that this saying "I Love You" can become a habit if you allow it, just like "not" saying it, is a habit...but it has to be meant...so what does I Love You mean? To me it means many different things, you can Love in many different ways, my love for my husband is different then the love of my children....you can Love God, your friends and pets, they also have a commitment of meaning.
There's not a day that goes by that my husband does not tell me he loves me, I bet in one day it's not less then a half a dozen times...we kiss each other, we hold hands and hug, we respect each other and want to do for each other...yes this sounds like a fairytale, but it's not always like this, we are human and we have issues at times and get upset with each other, but Love is compromise, sharing and communication (the hardest of all, for a man)
Not only on Valentine's Day do I Love You - but Every Day of the Year!
In the beginning and the years that followed
Our 56th Anniversary
My husband and I have been through great deal of things that would have broken up many other couples. Coming from completely different backgrounds, ethnicity and religion, baptism of children in a different faith, the separation during the Vietnam War and the aftermath of his service, our separation while having to work in another states for months, moving half a dozen times and I having to be in charge of all the moves and sales of homes, kids moving away and being alone, having a life threatening illness, and other things that could affect a couples well being. How did we manage these issues? For us it was respecting each others feelings, wanting to make it work and praying for God given guidance....I won't lie, it is hard but when you commit to a relationship like marriage and have done it in the eyes of God, then you have to at least try, not just walk away because it did not feel good or suite your expectations. It's a great idea those that get together for counseling with a professional before marriage.
My mother used to tell me to ask myself these questions about loving someone and making commitments, although funny as some may seem, they are true. These are in order of importance to me...ask yourself: does he believe in God the same as you? Does he love his family/parents? Does he love animals? Would he take care of you for the rest of your life if something happened to you, and would you take care of him in the same circumstances? These questions show sensitivity, and the fact that I could say, Yes to all!
Remember you don't need a Valentine’s Day to use these words...they should be a part of your daily vocabulary.
I would like to share some of the things that my dear husband has done to make this marriage successful with the words " I Love You."
He shows his love by always saying I love you before going to sleep or hanging up on a phone, always making sure that I have what I need or want, just a simple example: if there is something that I like, a food or drink he always leaves it for me to have, or he always asks if there is something that I need to have done, like grocery shopping, laundry, ironing, gardening or house cleaning...oh yes, he does all those things, however we do share these responsibilities...the only thing that I do myself is the cooking, making arrangement like trips or entertainment, financial aspects, the paying of bills and taxes, filing all papers and keeping records (he truly does not want to do this, and I must admit it is stressful for me to do, but at least I know it's being done, and done correctly)
Another endearing thing my husbands does, is when his favorite song pertaining to me comes on the radio,"When a Man Loves a Woman" (by Percy Sledge) he would call me on the cell phone and say, this is for the woman I Love!
I have gotten into my car at times and he had the song set on the CD to play as I started the car...how romantic!
I do admit I sound spoiled, and maybe I am because I have so much Love in my life, but I am an easy keeper, I ask for nothing and want nothing...God has Blessed me with this man, what more do I need? The older I get I realize what the most important things are, showing your Love by serving God, family and friends.
Check out my husband's hubpage "Vietnam Tour 1966-1967"
Being retired has been challenging but a freedom I hope all will be able to experience. My husband loves to golf and serve his fellow servicemen through volunteering for the Veterans, the V.V.A. Chapter, Purple Heart Association, Patriotic Soc. VFW Veterans for Veterans and many other Events, including participating in several Funerals a week honoring a Veteran with a ceremony.
God Blessed my husband and brought him home to me. Vietnam was a bad time and experience...he received a Bronze Star -V and Purple Heart while in Vietnam, but he lost his best friends at the same time. These are who he honors, they gave all of themselves...their lives. I admire the dedication of my husband, not only to me but to the Veterans.
I of course paint to my hearts desire, trying to do good with what I sell...this is what I enjoy doing.
Both of our daughters have been reared hearing those words "I Love You" and this meaning serves their lives...My heart swells with Joy and Love thinking about them...and I Love and Thank my husband for these two precious gifts of our life.
As different as we might be, we have made it work since 1963 and it will be till we say "see you in heaven" at our death bed...all this because we say " I Love You"
N. Captiva Island, Florida - our Spring vacation
Time together on an Island
Our youngest daughter treated us to a lovely vacation in March, to an Island off of Florida. Best of all, we where together with our sweet daughter.
Vietnam Veteran Reunion
At the Reunion
Every other year the Dreadnaughts, 4 Inf. Div. 2nd 34th Armour have a Reunion somewhere in the US.
In different languages
"I Love You"
German:......................Ich liebe Dich
Japanese:....................Kimi o ai shiteru
New Zealand:................ Arohanui
Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
Love does not dominate; it cultivates.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Books - never too young to teach the words I Love You
The language of flowers
List of Flowers that include the symbol of Love - just a few listed here
Flowers have a language of their own. Experts disagree on the "true meaning" of many flowers and most have different meanings to different people. So, here are some of the more traditional flower meanings that express Love...these came from 1-800-Flowers
ACACIA - Concealed Love, Beauty in Retirement, Chaste Love
AMBROSIA - Your Love is Reciprocated
ARBUTUS - Thee Only Do I Love
ASTER - Symbol of Love, Daintiness
CAMELLIA (PINK) - Longing for you
CAMELLIA (RED) - You're a Flame in My Heart
CARNATION (GENERAL) - Fascination, Woman Love
CARNATION (RED) - My Heart Aches For You, Admiration
CARNATION (WHITE) - Sweet and Lovely, Innocence, Pure Love, Woman's Good Luck Gift
DAFFODIL - Regard, Unrequited Love, You're the Only One, The Sun is Always Shining when I'm with You
FORGET-ME-NOT - True Love, Memories
GARDENIA - You're Lovely, Secret Love
GLOXINIA - Love at First Sight
IVY - Wedded Love, Fidelity, Friendship, Affection
JONQUIL - Love Me, Affection Returned, Desire, Sympathy, Desire for Affection Returned
MOSS - Maternal Love, Charity
MYRTLE - Love, Hebrew Emblem of Marriage
ORANGE BLOSSOM - Innocence, Eternal Love, Marriage and Fruitfulness
ROSE (BRIDAL) - Happy Love
ROSE (RED) - Love, I Love You
ROSE (THORNLESS) - Love at First Sight
ROSES (Single Full Bloom) - I Love You, I Still Love You
Father's Day 2010
Our daughter and her boyfriend made arrangements to rent a boat with a picnic on board...gliding through downtown Milwaukee on the River, then out to Lake Michigan, a day filled with Love and Joy.
In the photo we docked at a Bar-landing having a drink. From left to right, my hubby Al holding my drink (he does not drink) and the grandog Annie, Scott, Tom (1933-2011) and our daughter in the back.
Our other daughter lives nine hours away, but Al got to hear those words "I Love You dad"
The Big 50th -
The most important Love
What you are is God's gift to you, what you do with yourself is your gift to God: Danish Proverb
Love and the Bible
© 2008 Delia
Feedback or your thoughts...
Rashad on February 20, 2015:
Holy shiitzn, this is so cool thank you.
asereht1970 from Philippines on May 08, 2014:
Great lens and a beautiful love story.
VioletteRose LM on February 21, 2014:
Beautiful lens :)
Johanna Eisler on February 13, 2014:
Absolutely! Love is a staple in our household, and I hear it countless times a day. Even though my husband works far away every day, I get phone calls throughout the day to ask how I am, what I'm doing, and to tell me he loves me. What a precious man! We have cherished 43 years together and look forward to many more. :)
Country Sunshine from Texas on January 11, 2014:
Such a touching story, and to one which I can relate. I was married to a Vietnam Vet, and they are definitely different to live with! Mine, like yours, told me many times a day how much he loved me. I treasure those memories, now that he has passed away. May your days together be blessed by much more love!
Charito Maranan-Montecillo from Manila, Philippines on December 26, 2013:
May you and your husband be blessed with more years ahead. Have a good life. - Ms. Charito from the Philippines
Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on December 19, 2013:
I am also grateful to have a very good husband. As always, in a relationship, the wanting to try is very important. Have a great holiday full of love.
Klaartje Loose on December 18, 2013:
Oh yes, I say it a lot of times!
And though I know that one can also show his/her love by the actions one takes, I need to hear the words every now and then, on top of all the sweet gestures.
SBPI Inc on July 10, 2013:
As Love was meant to Be.
Therestlesssoul on May 18, 2013:
Few people are blesses to have a love like this....God bless.
TransplantedSoul on April 04, 2013:
Those are important words for sure!
Delia (author) on March 01, 2013:
@writerkath: Hi Kathy...Thank You for your kind words, sounds like you have found your soul-mate as well. My hubby was extremely shy and was not of many words,(especially I Love You) just the opposite of myself...guess I brought him out of his shell, because he has a great personality and is not shy one bit!
writerkath on March 01, 2013:
Thank you, dear Delia and Al, for being inspiring examples of true and enduring love. Yes, my hubby and I tell each other all the time that we love each other. The funny thing is, when we first started seeing each other, we had each been through somewhat bitter separations. After a month or so of dating, he said to me - in all seriousness, and with a touch of sadness in his eyes - "I'm not a guy who says 'I love you' to anyone..." I recall feeling a little sad for him (it was still early on in our relationship). And then one day, his eyes were shining and he said, "I love you!" and it has been this way ever since. We'll have been married 15 years in May 2013... together for more than 18! You are absolutely right about it being about mutual respect. I've never had anyone in my life like this, and I sometimes think I have a marriage most women could only dream of. Squid blessings to you and Al! :)
momsfunny on February 28, 2013:
Bless your lens and spread the love!
Delia (author) on February 13, 2013:
@Helene-Malmsio: Thank You sweet Helen..
Helene-Malmsio on February 13, 2013:
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Happy Valentine Day!
All the very best to you and your loved ones, from me and mine!
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Helene Malmsio aka. SCSS
cmadden on February 03, 2013:
Such a very nece sentiment, lovely lens.
Stephen Bush from Ohio on December 28, 2012:
We all need to hear these words, and you have provided the perfect reminder. SquidAngel blessings.
norma-holt on December 24, 2012:
Beautiful to share your love in this way. Love your family shots and the tribute to your husband. Blessed and have a great and enjoyable holiday season and extra special 2013. Hugs
mjoonline on November 05, 2012:
Lovely lens and you look like a lovely couple. I'm pretty good with saying I love you to my loved ones and I think that has a lot to do with the fact that I love myself. If you don't have self love, how can you truly love anyone else.
anonymous on November 05, 2012:
So lovely lens :) Yes, I tell my boyfriend that I love him everyday..but I feel I should say those three words more often to others loved ones.
aussiejon on October 06, 2012:
Two simple words that can convey so much, but sadly used far to infrequently... thanks for reminding me to say it more often!
siobhanryan on October 04, 2012:
This touched my heart-it fills me with awe when I read about love like yours-Blessed
Diva2Mom on September 29, 2012:
WOW, what a real BEAUTIFUL, captivating lens! This is ONE of my most favorite lens, because my husband and I are the same way too. We always say I LOVE YOU no matter what! It's so TRUE that marriage is not always a bed of Roses. However, we definitely can spice it up to make it like a Fairytale, by saying the word, 'I love you' as often as we can. When we argue about something, it normally doesn't last longer than 5 minutes because we end up saying the word "I love you". We can't take it when we say something hurtful to each other more than 3 sentences I think, hahaha, so the word I love you cuts our argument time by 70%. It's amazing how these 3 powerful words can do in marriage. We do not leave each other's side without saying I love you; we do not let an hour pass by without saying something nice to each other. My husband is everything to me. He's my soulmate and best friend. My husband is real quiet and an introvert person, while I am the real opposite; I'm "bubbly, loud" and have an extrovert personality. So we have a great balance of charm and temper, haha. I make him laugh with my jokes no matter how mopy or cranky he is; and when I'm unusually quiet, he does his role to lift me up by making sure that I'm ok. He always makes sure that I'm well, happy and taken care of, even though I am a very domesticated wife, who also makes sure he's the same way. I love being married, and you're absolutely right, saying the word "I love you" as often as we can to our spouse, children, etc. makes a HUGE difference in life. Thank you so much for this incredibly interesting topic. I loved it! God bless you Delia dear, and stay fabulous the way you are! Huge hug :) God bless you and your dear husband!
rawwwwwws lm on August 25, 2012:
By the way, thanks for sharing!
rawwwwwws lm on August 25, 2012:
WOW! Very sweet, your lenses are always personal and from the heart, that is why people always keep coming for more :) Such cute and adorable pictures above!
SteveKaye on August 10, 2012:
These three words are a powerful replacement for any worry that bubbles up in our minds.
raelcalu on July 01, 2012:
how sweet...this is nice...i'd like reading this kind of personal lenses.
Joanie Ruppel from Keller, Texas on June 27, 2012:
I really enjoy lenses such as yours where I get to "meet" another lensmaker. You sure do have a blessed life and it moved me to tears since I lost my beloved husband a few years ago. Many more years to you both!
AngelDeanSquidoo on June 24, 2012:
You have a big heart.
ottnepal on June 22, 2012:
"Ma Timi lai Maya garchhu" in Nepali
gypsyman27 lm on May 22, 2012:
I have been so moved by this page. I believe in love and I am in love again with someone after years of being alone with my boys. (I am a single father or was, they are grown up now) This page acknowledges love as the single most necessary emotion that we have. Thanks for including us in your thoughts and letting us see them. See you around the galaxy...
Laraine Sims from Lake Country, B.C. on May 14, 2012:
Sometimes this has to be learned by some because of their upbringing or?? I am happy to say that my husband was a quick study. Thank you so much for bearing your soul to us. We can learn so much from others.
Little Linda Pinda from Florida on May 14, 2012:
I was raised with lots of "I love you's" and hugs. My 4 brothers are very demonstative too. Saying I love you means so much.
Lorelei Cohen from Canada on May 08, 2012:
My husband and I also say I love you often. It has made me realize that couples should always say I love you as a greeting and as a good-bye when they are parting. It makes a very big difference in the relationship just to know that the other cares. (And saying I love you is such a very romantic gesture too). I love having shared this time with you and your husband.
Scriber1 LM on February 29, 2012:
When I was a child, my Mom said "I love you" each and every day at least twice. I believe that made a huge impact on me for the better. Today, I say "I love you" to my partner often and to my mom, sister and dear friends every time we speak. Great lens and timeless message!!
Drake McSherry from Milwaukee, WI on February 29, 2012:
That is one of the most wonderful, heart warming and beautiful love stories I've read in ages. Thank you so much for sharing this lens with us. I feel blessed that I have a partner to share "I Love You's" with everyday. I also feel blessed just to have read this. BTW- It was a nice surprise to see you are from Wisconsin. I am as well. :) Take care!
kathysart on February 21, 2012:
Yes oh yes to saying I love you.. I do say it often at least 5 times a day to my husband. Angel blessed lens.
MasterOfSpanish on February 04, 2012:
I love you! and love saying "I love you" to my partner.
Also "Te quiero" in Spanish.
goo2eyes lm on December 18, 2011:
3 little words which bond two hearts forever. thanks for sharing. everyday is valentine's day.
anonymous on August 30, 2011:
This lens is beautiful. Loved hearing your story. It is good to hear (and refreshing too I might add) that you and your hubby are still in "love"!!
Laraine Sims from Lake Country, B.C. on August 30, 2011:
Married life can bring joy, peace, an atmosphere of stability and contentment. You may just have found the secret my friend.
anonymous on June 29, 2011:
hi delia, my dear friend, thank ya for enjoying my clothes lens
Norbert Isles from Philippines on June 27, 2011:
Beautiful lens about the most important words for the beloved.
anonymous on June 14, 2011:
ya look great in jeans delia, congrats! I love you my friend, dearest kisses
anonymous on May 30, 2011:
I love ya Delia, my beautiful friend, you're so beautiful, kisses!
Delia (author) on February 12, 2011:
@everythingsbaby: Nadia...sometimes a boy or even a girl at childhood is never told or shown true Love...this can make a big difference in life on how they use these words....but for me having God in our lives also makes that difference.
everythingsbaby on February 12, 2011:
I love this lens, I think you and i are lucky to have husband who know how to say I LOVE U, i knew some guys just do not know how to say them.thank you so much for this beautiful lens
HorseAndPony LM on January 04, 2011:
What a great lens. You and your husband are such a wonderful couple. Thanks for sharing your story and the importance of saying "I Love You".
Anthony Godinho from Ontario, Canada on December 31, 2010:
I was here before and loved this lens, Delia...just wanted to drop by and sprinkle some squid angel dust. Happy New Year and God bless! **Blessed by a Squid-Angel**
Tr0y on December 17, 2010:
I was struck by this lens. Truly, love is such a wonderful thing and just like you, I have a wonderful partner to share it with.
julieannbrady on December 14, 2010:
OMG, seriously! I have fallen in love whilst reading your loving page. It oozes L-O-V-E!
Anthony Godinho from Ontario, Canada on July 23, 2010:
Awesome reading through this lens ~ wishing you much success in your life and marriage and walk with the Lord! It sure is important to acknowledge our love for one another and to show it everyday in deed. Love truly is the foundation of everything, I mean the love of God. Remember that you're loved and that Jesus love you! :)
rewards4life info on May 17, 2010:
Beautiful lens. "Kocham cie" means "I love you" in Polish. Lensrolling to my love pages. Thanks for sharing.
anonymous on April 29, 2010:
I Love You!
anonymous on April 23, 2010:
I'm gonna get me an i-love-you-talking-husky too. Beautiful lens*
callinsky lm on March 13, 2010:
That is beautiful. It almost made me cry. What a wonderful relationship that the two of you have.
clemency lm on March 12, 2010:
What a beautiful lens and so very inspiring, congratulations on your long and happy marriage. Lensrolled to my 7 ways to say i love you lens. 5*****
McGunn21 on February 23, 2010:
Great lens... really love the layout and the use of the colors. Great content and I loved watching the videos. Great work d-artist
Achim Thiemermann from Austin, Texas on February 14, 2010:
I've given 5 stars previously to this lovely lens...just coming back to visit my "sister url" (mine has hyphens: say-i-love-you, yours uses underscores; that's why we both can have the same url). Happy Valentine's to a beautiful couple! :-)
anonymous on February 12, 2010:
Terrific lens, colourful and well laid out. Thank you.
Susan Deppner from Arkansas USA on February 07, 2010:
What a "love"-ly lens. You do sound a bit spoiled, but rightly so! (I am, too, after almost 29 years.) Returning the lensroll to my Heart-Shaped Lockets lens!
stacy mcdaniel on February 02, 2010:
Wonderful Lens! My husband and I are still in love after 16 years. We say "I love you" everyday. We still kiss and hold hands. Our son was making fun of us the other day because we always go through this long goodbye every time we get ready to hang up.
This started back when was dating because we didn't like to hang up. I used call him at night and talk to him until he fell asleep then I would listen to him sleep.
Levitah on January 28, 2010:
Interesting lens, Loved your it. 5***** and favorited.
Thank you for sharing this. Best wishes.
Sandy Mertens from Frozen Tundra on January 24, 2010:
Very sweet lens with you and your husband. Thanks for adding it to my Anti-Valentines lens. :)
Mart903 on December 30, 2009:
Nothing is greater than love! ..5 stars, and thank you for sharing such lovely story and words of wisdom.
luvmyludwig lm on September 19, 2009:
this is beautiful, lensrolling to my true love story.
Sadheeskumar on September 07, 2009:
I like this lens for many reasons. First one is the title of the lens. It says everything about your lens. Other thing is saying that in different languages. Lets love each other and don't hate anyone. 5 STARS to this lens.
papawu on June 16, 2009:
Hey Delia! I have learned over the years to make absolutely sure you mean those words when you say them to someone. In my younger years, those words got me into more trouble than I care to go into. :0 However, I have learned and know that they are so important and should be used liberally when dealing with those who are special to you. By the way, my computer crashed on me and I lost your e-mail. Could you e-mail me because I have a small favor to ask of you in regards to couple of our fellow lensmasters who need our moral support right now. Thankx!
Achim Thiemermann from Austin, Texas on June 15, 2009:
Thank you for your advice on my "Jesus" lens, Delia. I've added your book suggestion. 5*s for this thoughtful page. :-)
anonymous on March 19, 2009:
LOVEly lens indeed! I have lensrolled it to my Red Roses lens! 5* for your work.
sarita from Hisar on January 30, 2009:
Real good job here. I have lensrolled yours.
AffiliateSystems on January 25, 2009:
Very awesome! Thank you for sharing! 5 *'s.
anonymous on January 23, 2009:
A lens after my own heart - Beautiful! Thank you.
Tracy-B on January 10, 2009:
Very cute lense! ''love it''
chickendumplinchick on January 09, 2009:
Thanks for visiting my Ode To A Tree Lens and for your wonderful comment. This lens gives hope to many I'm sure who don't know the commitment involved in making a successful marriage work. Your tribute to love is obviously very personal and heartfelt. 5*'s for this fantastic lens!
a-ha-design on January 09, 2009:
What a beautiful site. Full of love. 5*
AnnRadley on December 28, 2008:
Very emotionally to the point lens and I appreciate your sincerity ! I didn't say those words enough in my marriage. But I do say them every day to my daughter. Thank you for a beautiful lens. *****
monarch13 on December 20, 2008:
Beautiful sentiment! 5 stars and lensrolled to "Mystical Gems".
kgoldenangel on December 11, 2008:
This is a beautiful lens..I can not agree more with the tings you say on here. I have been blessed with a wonderful husband as well and not a day goes by without him telling and showing me how much he loves me! VERY IMPORTANT! 5* super!
anonymous on November 15, 2008:
Thank you so much for visiting my Love & Marriage lens and an even bigger thank you for the 5* rating and lensroll. I have rated this lens 5*'s and lensrolled it as well. Fabulous!! Keep up the great work!!
recoveringengin on November 07, 2008:
Wow. So many ways to say I love you. Thanks for putting this together and for sharing a piece of your life.
TrixiJahn on October 31, 2008:
A wonderful contribution to us all!
Ich liebe Dich sehr meine klein Bratwurst!
Du bist die Beste!
Your cousin Trixi
anonymous on October 09, 2008:
now when can i find that special someone *sigh*
JasonE on October 07, 2008:
Thank you for providing this great advice, Delia. You and your husband set a great example for the rest of us.
anonymous on October 01, 2008:
It's so wonderful to read about somebodies success in marriage. You are an inspiration!
You are truly blessed!
Here in New Zealand our native words for I Love You is... Arohanui
Thank you for your comment on my lens. I really appreciate what you said.
God bless you more and more
Moe Wood from Eastern Ontario on September 12, 2008:
My husband was the first person to say "I love you". We had been dating a week. I didn't believe him. But after twenty years together I've learned through his actions how much he does. Interesting lens
anonymous on August 21, 2008:
Beautiful thoughts Delia. Very touching and inspiring. 5*