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Is Santa Real? How Do You Answer the Question?

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Is Santa Claus Real?

He flies through the air with magic reindeer, slides down chimneys to deliver toys to children who have been good, and somehow knows if you've been naughty or nice.

Santa Claus is the magical, benevolent, ever-present symbol of Christmas. And children all over the world love and believe in this pudgy man with a big white beard and bright red outfit.

But when your child asks the question, "Is Santa real?" what should you say? Here are some thoughts from one mom.

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My sister never lets me forget I was the one who destroyed her belief in Santa. She was only in kindergarten when I dropped the bomb, taking away the myth of the jolly old elf who delivered presents every Christmas and replacing it with the harsh reality that flying reindeer don't exist. I thought I was sharing a great secret. She thought I was taking away the magic of Christmas.

I was only in second grade at the time and had learned the truth from our older brother. I must not have believed him at first because to prove his point he ushered me out to my grandparents' mobile trailer where my parents had stashed the goodies. And there was the proof - all the toys and gifts we had asked Santa to bring. Eureka! My big brother had obviously stumbled upon a giant secret. Thinking that my sister should also be privy to this discovery, I promptly went to inform her that Santa didn't exist.

I don't remember her reaction to the news, but she says she cried. And 35 years later, she still reminds me of my evil deed and gives me a bad time about destroying her belief in Santa. It's become something of a joke between us, but now that we both have children, I realize just how young she was when I broke the spell, and I feel bad that I was the one who took that magic away from her.

My own son is eight now, and I'm glad he still believes. I've tried to keep the magic going for as long as I can, by sending Santa letters and reminding him to be on his best behavior to stay on Santa's Nice List. This year I might even try showing him real Santa pictures of the jolly old elf in our house. But I imagine that some day soon - either this season or perhaps next - one of his friends will break the news and he'll come to ask us the truth. What will I say?

I've learned from experience that often the best answer to these tricky questions is another question: what do YOU think? Often kids don't want a big long explanation. It reminds me of the joke about a little boy who asked his mom where he came from and she went into a detailed explanation about the birds and the bees. When she finished he said, "But where do I come from? Johnny is from Chicago."

So my first response will be to find out what he thinks. If he's not ready to let go of the magic, I will let him continue to believe and tell him that I, too, believe, and we'll leave it at that. But if, as I suspect, he's too smart for that and realizes all those shopping mall Santas look different and no one could fly around the whole world in one night, then I'll have to tell him the truth.

But when I do, I'll tell him that I still believe in Santa. I believe that the spirit of giving that lives today in the myth of Santa comes to us from the very real spirit of Saint Nicholas, a generous soul who donated his fortune to the poor and spent his life helping those in need, particularly children. His compassion and generosity set a very real example for millions of people who have translated his good deeds into the legend of Santa.

And I believe we are always given gifts in life when we try our best, play well with others, and remember to use our manners. These are qualities Santa always looks for when deciding who goes on the Nice list and who goes on the Naughty list. But we don't need the fear of Santa's list to practice these traits. All we need to know is that these qualities will bring us gifts every day of our life. These gifts may not come in boxes, bags, or bows, but they will come to us in the form of lasting friendship, love, and happiness.

I also believe in the magic of Santa. I believe life is miraculous, magical and wonderful, just like Santa, but only those who are willing to believe in the mystery will be able to see the beauty in a world that is also full of war, hunger, hatred and fear. Just as with a belief in Santa, the magic will disappear as soon as you choose to let it go. Belief in anything takes patience and care. Many people cannot see small miracles that happen around them every day because they are so blinded by the trappings of our fast-paced society.

I believe what Santa gives to children and adults alike is the ability to see life through the eyes of a child. We are reminded that it's important to play and laugh, to let our imagination run wild, and to hope for the impossible. These are things I can believe in.

I hope that when my son realizes Santa is only a symbol for all these good things, he won't be too disappointed and will still want to share the legend of Santa Claus with his kids some day. I think the world would be a much sadder place without the jolly old elf. I only hope my son agrees.


UPDATE: Since I wrote this article in 2008, my son has discovered the truth about Santa Claus. I told him all the things I mentioned above, about how Saint Nicholas was known for his charity and how his generosity inspired millions of people throughout the world to continue his tradition of giving. My son was impressed to know how one man changed the world for the better, and now he's excited to be part of the elite society that guards Santa's secret. He has vowed to keep Santa Claus alive for his little sister as long as possible. In our house, Santa still lives on!

History of Saint Nicholas

The legend of Santa comes from a real man who lived in the 3rd century

The red-suited fellows we see at shopping malls every year may not be the "real Santa," but they do owe their existence to the life of a very real man who lived in the third century.

Saint Nicholas was born around 280 AD in what is now Turkey. His parents were wealthy Christians who died when he was young. Following Jesus' advice to give to the poor, Nicholas gave away his inheritance to the poor. He became the Bishop of Myra while still young and continued to help those in need, particularly children. He was soon known as a protector of children and sailors.

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When Saint Nicholas died in 343 AD, the anniversary of his death, December 6, became known as Saint Nicholas Day, a day for celebrating and feasting.

Saint Nicholas and Sinter Klaas

The legend of Saint Nicholas was brought to America by Dutch setttlers. The name Santa Claus evolved from the Dutch nickname, Sinter Klaas, a shortened form of Sint Nikolaas. The saint became a part of local lore when the founder of the New York Historical Society made St. Nicholas the patron saint of the society and New York City.

St. Nick continued to evolve into today's Santa when Washington Irving published a book on Saint Nicholas Day that contained numerous references to a jolly St. Nicholas character.

However, it was Clement Clark Moore's poem, "A Visit from Saint Nicholas" (now known as "The Night Before Christmas") that cemented Saint Nicholas' image as "a jolly old elf" with a "little round belly, that shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly." Political cartoonist Thomas Nast helped popularize this image. In 1863 he began drawing a series of cartoons for Harper's Weekly that were based on the character in the poem and in Washington Irving's work. Nash's Santa had a beard, a pipe and fur clothing, and became the basis for the modern Santa Claus. The cartoonist was also the one who invented Mrs. Claus, elves and the North Pole.

By the 1890s, the image of Santa in a red suit and hat was so common that the Salvation Army began dressing men in Santa suits in New York City to solicit donations for Christmas meals for the hungry. Later, other artists such as Norman Rockwell continued to popularize Santa Claus as a bearded fat fellow in a red suit.

Santa is now a common centerpiece of Christmas advertising. Although he still retains some small semblance to the Saint Nicholas of history who gave gifts to the needy, his transformation from an actual religious figure to a mythical secular figure has been otherwise complete.

More Santa history.

In 1897, a young girl named Virginia O'Hanlon wrote a letter to "The New York Sun" questioning whether Santa was real. Journalist Francis Church wrote the response, and his work quickly became one of the most famous editorials ever written. His words were reprinted in the Sun every Christmas until 1949 when the paper went out of business, and they have also been reprinted in newspapers around the world, turned into children's books, made into an Emmy-winning animated children's video, and become the inspiration for the 2004 Ginny Celebrates doll by Vogue.

Below is Virginia's letter and Church's response.

"DEAR EDITOR: I am 8 years old.

"Some of my little friends say there is no Santa Claus.

"Papa says, 'If you see it in THE SUN it's so.'

"Please tell me the truth; is there a Santa Claus? - Virginia O'Hanlon

Virginia, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours, man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.

Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no Virginias. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The external light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.

Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies. You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if you did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.

You tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest men that ever lived could tear apart. Only faith, poetry, love, romance, can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, Virginia, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding.

No Santa Claus! Thank God! he lives and lives forever. A thousand years from now, Virginia, nay 10 times 10,000 years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.

For a more modern response to this question, read Silicon Insider: Is Santa Real?"

Yes, Virginia Book for Kids - Based on the famous editorial

Santa, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy - Is it ok to tell your kids about these legends?

Should parents allow their children to believe in Santa?

The Best Book Ever Written About Believing in Santa - In my humble opinion, The Polar Express is that book

This is one of my favorite Christmas books. It tells the story of a boy who visits the North Pole and receives a bell from Santa. When he gets home, he discovers that only those who believe can hear it ring. This is a great story for those who believe Santa is real or want to continue to believe it.

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What Advice Do You Have For Parents Who Have to Answer the Big Question? - Share some advice or just say hi

anonymous on January 17, 2013:

@anonymous: naw thanks. I'll share my opinions on lying. No offence but i am not going to lie to my children just because others are. No santa is not real. Saint Nicolas was a real person though

anonymous on December 24, 2012:

@anonymous: Nelly... Maybe you should keep your opinions to yourself! Seriously, I get the whole "don't lie thing" but when it comes to Santa... You are the one who is telling lies!

anonymous on December 23, 2012:

@LisaDH: Thanks for your opinion. I'm sorry if i sounded so judgmental.

anonymous on December 23, 2012:

@anonymous: Please stop lying. He is not real. If he really was then why are millions of fathers dressing as Santa and the parents are buying the presents? Hate to burst your imagination but it doesn't matter if the children find it exciting, lying is wrong, PERIOD. Thanks anyway for sharing.

anonymous on December 14, 2012:

Read the book "Santa, Why do you come on Jesus' Birthday?" available on amazon or He's spirit lives on...

anonymous on December 07, 2012:

Everyone santa is real, people that say santa is not real well their really silly or mean people or just people who don`t like santa. Santa is so real if we didn`t have santa we wouldn`t know about reindeer or we wouldn`t have this joy,and YOU ARE JUST SILLY not trusting that santa real.I don`t like people who don`t trust santa.

LisaDH (author) on November 30, 2012:

@anonymous: Nelly, the Santa Claus at the local mall or on the TV may not be real, but I believe what Santa stands for is very real.

Saint Nicholas was a real man whose life of philanthropy and generosity inspired the entire world to continue sharing his vision of love and compassion. Very few people in history have ever had that kind of positive impact on the world.

Every parent has to decide for him/herself what to tell the children about Santa, and if you feel strongly that you don't want your kids to believe in Santa, I respect that.

anonymous on August 03, 2012:

@anonymous: If you want your children to be honest, then you always tell the truth. Santa is not real and i think you should learn that the truth is always the best. Thanks

anonymous on July 02, 2012:

How can you all lie to your children. You know Santa is not real. But you think if you lie to your children that will make them happy. They trust you. Then when you tell them the truth they won't trust you. Be honest. No matter what anyone says or does Santa is not real. Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ. And if you're wondering if he is real he is. He saved me. God Bless

LisaDH (author) on May 22, 2012:

@anonymous: Thanks for the compliment, Dave. That must be a fun job for your brother!

anonymous on May 22, 2012:

I love the way you describe handling the Big Question! During Christmas time each year, my brother works as a professional Santa, so my family loves "all things Santa." I am going to share this wonderful lens with him.

anonymous on May 09, 2012:

if your kid is getting older he/she probly knows but just waiting for your answer or proof. when a child gets older an asks the question you have to break it to them slow if you are.explain that a long time ago there was a man named st nicholis that gave toys to children ext.but also say he will always be in our hearts depending the age.if he/she gets mad because you lied before say i didn't think you were ready and didn't want to ruin your spirit.tell your children not to tell any other kids for example "why your kid tell my son that there is no santa claus". like what happened to me.but it's your call when the time is right. don't wait to long so a classmate tells them and they end up hating you for not telling them the truth soon enough.when they're young give them a simple yes.

anonymous on May 09, 2012:

when a kid gets older they probily know but looking for your answer. if they don't just break it to them easy when the times right. explain that there was st nichoalis and gave toys to children.say even though he is not here he is always in are hearts. if he/she gets mad at you for lying before just say i thought you were not ready and didn't want to break your spirit.

RecycleRRR on March 29, 2012:

In my opinion, kids that are young only need a simple "yes he is real" to believe.

tylerabernethy22 on March 15, 2012:

Goodness, I will have to bookmark this one so that I know what to say when the little ones start questioning!!



chimneypipe3 on January 01, 2012:

I can't remember how I handled it when my son were tiny. It's a though question to answer

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LisaDH (author) on November 06, 2011:

@marigoldina: That's priceless!! :-) Thanks for sharing such a good story.

Heather B on October 28, 2011:

To keep my brother believing in Santa, I sewed together a tiny Santa suit and left it by the tree for him to find on Christmas morning. (I had told my brother that Santa was able to shrink, and that's how he was able to enter our home.) However, when I showed him the Santa suit on the ground as "evidence," my poor little brother then burst into tears, thinking that Santa was wandering around outside in the cold without a suit. Ops! :)

Nancy Tate Hellams from Pendleton, SC on October 27, 2011:

Loved reading all this great Santa info.

poutine on October 27, 2011:

I can't remember how I handled it when my 2 sons were tiny. It's a though question to answer.

anonymous on December 24, 2010:

Omg I know all about him smartty[ just joking

anonymous on November 28, 2010:

Fantastic lens! Very informative.I thought I knew a lot about St. Nicholas.

MikeEssex on November 22, 2010:

A really good lens that covers all the bases. Thanks for doing so much research. WIll definitely know how to answer the question now.

anonymous on April 13, 2010:

you can say its your mum or dad but i am 30 now and i have left home and santa still comes and gives me presants so he is true.

alien612 on January 28, 2010:

Hi! I believed in Santa in my childhood. Now I also like this personage. Thanks for interesting lens.

BWDuerr from Henrietta, New York on November 12, 2009:

Great lens, and I love the books approach. 5 stars, Fav and lensroll, too. I also linked this lens in the discovery tool for my newest lens Santa's Existence on Trial, Miracle on 34th Street as Proof . Thanks so much

anonymous on November 12, 2009:

I wrote a book for my kids, which is now available on It is called "The Real Magic of Santa Claus, honest answers that will make you believe." Here is what one mom said about the book:

"My 9 year old began questioning whether or not Santa Claus is real. Thanks to this book, I didn't have to figure out what to say. The book is wonderful--it manages to "break the news" in a way that will not leave the child feeling disappointed (or worse--deceived). The book addresses the TRUE magic of Christmas (something that,unfortunately, has gotten a little "lost" over the years. The author has accomplished a wonderful blend of facts, humor, wit, and personal stories. Truly an amazing book. I loved this book and highly recommend purchasing it for a child you love. If not today, at some point in the future you WILL be called upon to answer the age-old question, "Mommy/Daddy, Is Santa Claus real?"

Gripandflip on May 24, 2009:

Great lens. I love Santa and what he stands for. Thanks for the info. All 5's.

DawnMathisenakaC on January 22, 2009:

Great lens! My son is starting to question Santa but as you said it's important to ascertain where they are at and what their question really is. Sometimes too much information isn't needed! Often times I answer a question with a question. Thus far what I've told my son is Santa is in your heart and in the hearts of those who give to others without expecting anything in return at Christmas time. So far that answer has been enough! Whew! Thanks for a very thorough and well thought out lens. Even though it's past the holidays I enjoyed the read. Well done - five stars!

AlisonMeacham on December 22, 2008:

I haven't got an answer yet - my oldest though is 10 and I think she is just humoring me! I don't want to have to spoil it for her though as Christmas is never quite the same....

gia combs-ramirez from Montana on December 12, 2008:

I was always conflicted with "telling my kids a lie" (which they would figure out someday) and keeping the magic alive. So, I told my kids that Santa Claus IS real but not exactly as he's always shown. The day came when my son (age 12) finally asked me what I meant in the second half of the answer. And that was the year he went looking for the Santa stash. He was ready to know who the real magic makers! My answer to once you find out...then you BECOME Santa Claus.

Winter52 LM on December 10, 2008:

The longer they can believe in the magic the better. I like your... "what do you think" method. I remember one Christmas Eve when my kids were little, a neighbor dressed up and went around the houses visiting. I can still remember sitting in the kitchen and looking out the window to see Santa looking in at me. For about 20 seconds, I was a kid again. I will never forget that lol...

seegreen on December 08, 2008:

My daughter was 8 when she told me she didn't believe. She then told me not to tell dad because "he still believes". I have always emphasized the Spirit of Santa and the fun in believing. I never said yes when they asked me if he was real. I can't outright lie to anyone, and I would just ask "What do you believe?".

anonymous on November 29, 2008:

Santa is the spirit of Christmas. My children understood that early on. Its a joyful season and Santa is a part of that.

Great lens


tdove on November 15, 2008:

Thanks for joining G Rated Lense Factory!

Joan4 on November 15, 2008:

We always told our children that when they stopped believing, Santa would quit coming! it's that simple! they are 40 and 35 now and have yet to admit they do not believe in Santa!

daoine lm on November 11, 2008:

My intention is to tell the fun stories of Santa Claus and Rudolf and the elves in the same way I would tell any story and let my children draw their own conclusions. I will leave the question as to whether it is true or not open-ended - "it might be true, what do you think?" When I was little I firmly believed in fairies even though my parents did nothing to encourage the belief. The books I read made it seem that the possibility was there, and I wanted it to be true, so it was a magical time until I eventually and naturally came to my own conclusions.

ElizabethJeanAl on November 11, 2008:

Great lens! I absolutely love Christmas.


LisaDH (author) on November 11, 2008:

[in reply to BevsPaper] I love the innocence of children! Hope they haven't spoiled it for you yet. :-)

Susan Deppner from Arkansas USA on November 11, 2008:

I like your advice to answer with a, "What do you think?" I never lied to my children about Santa, probably because I remember how hurt I was when I found out the "truth," but we did incorporate Santa into our Christmas, just judiciously. I love the spirit of giving that Santa Claus represents, so we treated him more that way, so yes, he was and is real!

anonymous on November 10, 2008:

Hey the bell still rings for me! When my youngest found out what some say is the truth about Santa, she told her older sister "Don't tell Mom. I don't think she knows yet!"

Fantastic lens! 5* and I've lensrolled you.

Mortira on November 02, 2008:

Fantastic lens! Welcome to the Family Time group!

Tiddledeewinks LM on November 01, 2008:

Hey! Santa is our buddy, even though he only lives in our imaginations, BUT- their WAS a real Saint Nicholas who he was based on.

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