Giving Practical Gifts to those Struggling
In almost every family, tribe or community, if you search for a short time you will find the less fortunate relations.
Today, in 2017 it is considered scandalous to be poor. Those who are less able to make ends meet are now touted as a weight on North American society. The "new" old philosophy that people who have wealth are better and deserve that wealth more is sickeningly present today.
If the abundance of the rich were tracked back to how many got their wealth, history would show many instances where money, land, and resources were stolen:
- Probate processes executed by monied strangers looking to grab land from widows and children.
- Life insurance policies paid off at the cost of someone's life.
- Unauthorized persons dipping into trust funds that are not their own.
Too few people own too much. Greed is making our world harsh, hard, barren.
I agree it is difficult to actually look at the people sleeping next to buildings, in parks and sewage pipes.
"But for the grace of God..." meaning one day or week of the flu, a broken wrist, or broken transmission can turn an entire families life upside down. Add a few freaky occurrences; a missed deadline, a misunderstanding, and many people can find themselves on the skids.
Those with children or taking care of an elderly relative struggle. A young person can make decent wages, but just starting out with the basics costs a lot of money.
As we age, more of our stuff is paid off, or in good running condition. Kindred who are blessed with more resources can afford to own higher quality items. Better quality requires less or no replacement costs.
Being young and just starting out is difficult. Some do better than others, but it is good to remember when it was not so easy. Some well-placed charity, help and good gifts, for a new couple or young family, can change the entire course of their lives. A thoughtful or practical gift can multiply good results throughout a community.
Give In The Good Times, Receive In The Lean Times
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Quotes About the Poor From Admired People
"I'm scared to death of being poor. It's like a fat girl that loses 500 pounds but is always fat inside. I grew up poor, and will always feel poor inside. It's my pet paranoia." 'Cher' (Brainy Quotes)
"If a free society cannot help the many who are poor, it cannot save the few that are rich." John F. Kennedy (http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/j/johnfkenn125480.html)
"Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat." Mother Teresa (Brainy Quotes- http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/m/mother_teresa.html)
Research For This Article Uncovered A Lot Of Meanness.
I have read the nastiest things on the poor today .
Having empathy for and caring for them seems to be an unpatriotic and unchristian thing these days. In researching for this Hub, many links go to sites with political parties who think the old Jesus was squeamish and goofy, if not weak. That he didn't really mean all that healing and feeding stuff was for give away.
Giving and helping others, is now promoted like there is somehow a new translation. That being Christian is being prosperous, and those who are not, cannot possibly be in god's path. So only help the wealthy have their way, because they spend their money, and it benefits society...
Please don't be taken in by this bad, and hateful attitude toward others. The poor today, will be the middle class tomorrow.
The poor are a despised majority. The trend of hating the poor has come from the wealthiest in the world. They can smash any person or family, change laws by being brought to court over terrible acts, then having the laws changed by out-lawyering and out dollaring any justice system
Surprisingly, when a person gives to those who are less fortunate, it gives right back to the giver. It is an awesome feeling to change someone's life. To bring an ease of burden. Kindness can never be wrong or ill advised.
Do Not Ask Someone if They Want Help From You...
Like trying to discuss sex with your kids for the first time , it is hard to know what to say to those we suspect or know are less fortunates . It is an uncomfortable topic, better left unexplored. Better to blame on the unfortunate, and turn away.
In the meantime, those you know in your community, in your extended family or maybe even those close to you may suffer or have less opportunity to make changes for the better for them and their families.
The ideal way to help, without taking them back to raise, is by practical gift giving . This kind of holiday giving, helps those receiving care and help retain some dignity, and be less shamed. At the same time, these kind actions, will be boosting those who are giving in spirit and heart. Practical gift giving is a way to do some actual good , make everlasting memories and always be a hero to those whose lives you change.
Pay a Couple of Utility Bills
- Take their car in for service
- Help them with the utility bills.
- Used washer and dryer
- Six months worth of laundry soap
- Petrol cards
- Pre-paid Visa or Master Card
- Rent them a cabin fully contained and stocked for a weekend - [National or State Park], let the young couple know what to attain to in their future.
- Pay their auto insurance for one month
- Take care of their July & December rent or mortgage.
Do this as loving gifts from the heart. Giving practical gifts and help, doesn't stop one from going ahead and throwing in some extra groceries, put some gasoline / petrol in their car, or slip the practical one a gift card. This good deed will come back to you sevenfold.
These things are possible from one single family member, or multiple friends and family. Just think of the feeling you will get when you know that you have boosted this couple or family in ways that could have taken them years to accomplish. The more opportunities and breaks they have, they better chance they have for success.
Random Act(s) of Kindness & Practicality
I recently witnessed to a beautiful act of kindness and practicality performed at our local laundry mat.
An older Caucasian woman, hair blue, dressed in green slacks, a cool lime green cotton shirt, and Keds on her feet entered the laundry. The most remarkable thing about her was the twinkle in her eye, and the big smile on her face.
The smiling, older woman entered the laundry mat without laundry or basket. She carried rolls of quarters. There were four or five rolls in her hands.
The place was jammed full of all sorts of people doing their laundry on a Sunday. Young thin men washed, old chunky men dried, women of various ages and color washed dried and ironed. There were a couple of families.
One woman who was tall and the color of mahogany came in the door with four children behind her. A duck line of children struggling to do their part carried in their many baskets of laundry. It took two and one half trips to bring all of their laundry in.
Mother directed and assisted the children and helped set up the baskets in front of the largest machines. Once this was done, they went and sat at a table near their washers watching out while their mother opened her purse to buy coins.
Suddenly, the cheerful senior stopped her and began loading the woman's machines with quarters. The mother was stunned and although she did not shed any tears she was obviously moved by the kindness. The woman who performed the RAK was cheered and energized. She paid for the family's dryers as well.
Practical and Kind.
Keeping Your Elders Warm or Cool Depending On The Time of Year
Keeping Grandma and Grandpa Cool.
These days of escalating utilities, high costs of medicine, and all other unexpected medical costs or illness, can have our elderly struggling to stay cool enough to survive summer in their homes. Often it takes every penny for an elderly person, disabled or vet to live. The basic needs are many times unmet.
Many people have been burned by scammers and users among acquaintances, friends and family, and in the community. This doesn't mean help cannot be given in a meaningful way, and that there are many loved ones, neighbors and strangers who could use a hand up.
Who is Your Neighbor, Who Are The Elders?
- Friends of Pine Ridge Reservation
Friends of Pine Ridge Reservation focuses on specific needs of the many schools and social service organizations of the Oglala Sioux Tribe in South Dakota.
- American Indian Association of Florida, Inc. - AIA of Florida, Inc.
The American Indian Association of Florida, Inc. is a non-profit organization welcoming those with American Indian heritage as well as those who have a sincere interest in Native American culture.
- Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered: Bruce D. Perry, Maia Szalavitz: 97800616567
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- Office of Family Assistance (OFA) Tribal Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) Program
Healthy Marriage Initiative - Home Page
Kitchen Tools That Last For Years
I have always thought that a crock pot was an economical, and healthy way to do the cooking while busily trying to take care of a home, but after reading hundreds of reviews on new crock pots, I am sad to say that it would be better for a new family to receive a ceramic cast iron cooker.
These are not as easy to lug around or clean, but they are more economical and perform from the stove-top to the oven.
...Add The Flavor of Love to Your Gifts
...to make this type of gift one that lasts forever is to give this gift in an interactive episode.
- One way to do it is on the day of Christmas when the gift is opened, go to the kitchen put your aprons on and teach by doing. Showing the new family how to use their Enameled Cast Iron Covered Casserole dish, will give them confidence.
- The second way to give this thoughtful and resource saving gift is by inviting the cook over and asking for their help in preparing a large pot of chili or roast. When the brew is done let the gift recipient know that they have a new cooking pot of their very own and let them take the meal home to their family.
For those veterans of the kitchen it is easy to forget the terror in the beginning. Possibly an entire generation has skipped cooking from scratch. As a young adult Lilly can remember looking at a rice cooker and feeling overwhelmed by something that is really easy to operate.
Give with love.
The True Joy of Gardening by JT Bear
A Raised Vegetable Garden, A Perfect Gift
Give a gift of a garden. Individuals and families struggle to put fresh vegetables and herbs on their table. With their own garden, they can raise enough food to supplement their food supply.
For the loving giver who considers a garden a good gift, taking the time to share the knowledge can add mentoring to the gift. Many young people, as well as older citizens, have never had their hands in the soil.
Think of the satisfaction of knowing that you gave a gift of a lifetime!
It can be a small community plot to help a poor little neighborhood or community as well.
This will be the fifth year of our pallet garden workshops. We have taught many how to create a small garden in limited space. Each year we have used the seeds that came from the prior year plants. Many, many people have gained accessibility to fresh herbs and produce.
Give Love - Help Create a Small Garden Space
Growing Your Own Food is like Making Your Own Money
The Family That Plays Together Stays Together
Roughing it can bring on memorable experiences, it can also making camping difficult with a family with small children.
Making a gift of camping gear, to a young family or couple, can help set a precedent in their lives and the lives of their children to love nature and the outdoors. It also teaches survival skills and gives a person a time and place to 'get away from it all' and meditate awhile. A way to get the kids unplugged from the video console. An opportunity to help a family learn to play together in a healthy and strengthening way.
When I was a young mother we lived close to a National Forest campground. We had nothing fancy. No tents, sleeping bags, or ice chests. We brought our blankets and bedspreads to sleep on. Our meals were cheap hot dogs on whitebread, generic soda and a bag of marshmallows. We roughed it. All of us would scratch for days from mosquito bites but it was a way for us to break from the sordid poverty of staying at home, going to school and working. Humans need recreation and fun. It was not until my kids were grown that I could afford camping equipment. Not dwelling on the past, but so many around us owned camping equipment they never used. Let it rot. What a golden gift it would have been to be surprised with a tent and a couple of sleeping bags.
A Gift To Last A Family Many Years
Keep The Elders Warm - Help Them With Their Heating Bill
We must remember to respect the elderly and those who have lived before us. They have a lot to give and share. Sometimes they are so proud they will walk with newspaper taped around their legs to keep from freezing to death in their own homes.
The elderly should be taken care of and part of the family. Keep them warm this winter. The old men and old women have already given so much, please help and keep them warm this winter. We will all become elderly if we do not pass...
Automotive expenses can take a chunk out of a new couples budget
- Windshield Wiper Blades
- Oil Change
- Insurance Premiums
These things can be a giant expense for a family who is lower income. They work hard, make enough money to take care of necessities.Or, worked hard all of their life and are living on $400.00 to $600.00 because of the Social Security structure. They get $10.00 in Food Stamps that comes out of their pay. A little savings can be gone in moments when having to purchase tires, or a battery.
A young couple starting out can really struggle buying auto and homeowners, or renter's insurance. There is usually a large down payment, or a sizable premium yearly that causes distress and a cutting back on necessities to be able to afford it.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2010 Lori J Latimer
Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on April 21, 2011:
Oustanding and very thoughtful hub! By following your advice, we can all make a difference. You've given me a few ideas, like - when my next manicure is due, I will pick up a couple of gift cards and anonymously give them away. Even a small gesture like buying extra groceries and giving them to the needy makes a big difference. Christ taught us all by example and word to give to the less fortunate. You, my dear one, have gently reminded us all of what is really important - (other than completing april 30 day hub challenge). Hugs ~ vocalcoach
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on January 30, 2011:
@glowingrocks, Thank you! :0)
glowingrocks from New York on January 30, 2011:
Very thought through and organized,full of great ideas.
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on December 03, 2010:
Thank you Fiddleman. Thanks for the read, and leaving a comment. :0)
Fiddleman on December 03, 2010:
Excellen thub and some terrific ideas
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on December 03, 2010:
Thank you Kimberly, thank you for reading and commenting. I appreciate your story in being let down by the very ones who had an opportunity to do good. The very ones who say they know sweet Jesus, and they do not. Bless those ninnies (they know who they are). They couldn't stand the true light and power of God.
"Love is Louder"ts let it shine. Let the babies and grandmas and young squirts and middle kids, be lifted by love this year instead of condemnations and endless curses...cha cha cha, let love shine on!
I hope that on every poor family, each Reservation on US soil, these children and grandparents, the teens and young adults, the middle aged, will be filled with love from the kindness of others.
Love is still the only thing that will work.
Kimberly Bunch from EAST WENATCHEE on December 03, 2010:
Great job putting this together.
I heard before in a church that I attended for a few months: the pastor say to the congregation, that if one isn't driving a nice car than they aren't in the path of God. That they weren't living a Christian life... and that's why they drove a junker.
At the time I had no car and had to walk there packing my baby in tow to get to church. I was a single very spiritual mother, parenting and trying to support my child on very little. With lots of hardships to face on my own, and no child support payment to make life easier, and then to hear that!
It saddens me how the church has changed and taken on an attitude to look down on those in hard times as if they just aren't living a Godly enough life.
Ignorance can be evil.
Thanks LIllyGrillzit for your hub to shine some light on an important subject.
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on December 02, 2010:
MyMastiffPuppies, thank you so much. I am glad you enjoyed it. If a majority got together, the world would be lighter tomorrow. :0) The best to you and yours. Happy Holidays.
MyMastiffPuppies on December 02, 2010:
This is awesome! Giving our time and taking care of things that seem so simple to some can change someones life. There are more people than ever who fall into this category and we should each do our part to take care of those around us. I feel if you want to help the world, you have to start in your own backyard. Voted up, useful, awesome and beautiful...great job!
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on December 01, 2010:
TG, thanks for the read and encouraging comments. Isn't it a good feeling, 1. getting rid of the old we don't want, 2. helping others who look at these gifts as shining and New! Thanks for caring...Cher rocks.
TattoGuy on December 01, 2010:
This is an awesome hub, I personally actually do help them out. I do a house clearout of old toys, books, clothes around Xmas and give them to a charity that can use them. Cher deff is one grateful chick and you are one lovely lady ; )
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on November 27, 2010:
Thank you daydreamer! Glad you came by and left such a nice comment! The very best to you.
daydreamer13 on November 27, 2010:
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on November 22, 2010:
Ms. Katiem2, Thank you for gracing this Hub, and I appreciate that you care about others and you always spread love. Thanks for the read and comments. The Best, Happiest Holidays, Peace.
Katie McMurray from Ohio on November 22, 2010:
I love your practical ideas for gift giving to the poor. We should all take notice, see a need and meet a need. I enjoyed the quotes very much, I had not read many of them ever before. I like the way you think and am happy to learn these helpful and practical ways to give. It's hard knowing what's good for someone who's circumstances are so different from your own. Blessings, love and peace :)
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on November 20, 2010:
Thanks Ms Debby for your true, heart moving and kind comments. Yes Pine Ridge is very close to my heart. I keep hoping for a way to help them become sustainable, and prosperous in spirit and livelihood. The best, and thanks for sharing the link. Happy T-Day! :0)
Debby Bruck on November 20, 2010:
Dear Lilly. I will share and RATE UP this Practical and Compassionate Hub! How thoughtful and helpful to those in need, whether they are in your family, neighborhood or some place on the globe. Many have suffered natural disasters this year, and many struggle every year.
The concept of an unsympathetic Christian sounds like an oxymoron, but today, maybe those who are persuaded to listen to uncaring words simply follow the lead and rhetoric of those who are moronic. Sorry to be so harsh, but where is your heart?
Lastly, I wanted to let you know about a wonderful Ted Video on Pine Ridge, which I think might be close to your heart. The History of America They Did Not Teach In School ~> #inspiration http://bit.ly/a7x1gE Happy Thanksgiving! Love, Debby
chan0512 from Camarillo, CA on November 20, 2010:
good ideas! Thanks for sharing! voted and shared.
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on November 20, 2010:
Thank you very much Ms Martie!
Martie Coetser from South Africa on November 20, 2010:
Lori J Latimer (author) from Central Oregon on November 18, 2010:
TeaPartyCrasher, thank you very much. Glad you stopped by for a read and comment. :0)
TeaPartyCrasher from Camp Hill, PA on November 18, 2010:
All great ideas.