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Memorial Day ~ In Loving Memory

My real name is Cynthia, but in the virtual world I am Sylvestermouse. My life centers around my family, our fun times and my online sites.


Observance of Memorial Day

Exactly where and when Memorial Day began, is debated among historians.  While US history is important, it is not the most important issue.  What is paramount is that we set aside one day out of each year to join together to honor and remember our soldiers.

Our family has had someone who served during just about every American War.  I personally remember 3 great uncles who served in WWII.  We have momentoes from some who served during the civil war and we have documentary proof that another family member was a soldier in the Revolutionary War.  My great aunt is a member of the DAR and would love to see the rest of us continue in her footsteps. 

With such a family history, I think anyone could understand why Memorial Day is important to our family.

Unchallenged US History

"By the late 1800s, many communities across the country had begun to celebrate Memorial Day and, after World War I, observances also began to honor those who had died in all of America's wars.

In 1971, Congress declared Memorial Day a national holiday to be celebrated the last Monday in May."

"Today, Memorial Day is celebrated at Arlington National Cemetery with a ceremony in which a small American flag is placed on each grave."

Direct quote from:

Flags fly at Half Staff on Memorial Day

Flags fly at Half Staff on Memorial Day

Flags fly at Half Staff on Memorial Day


In Loving Memory

On September 22, 2007, my brother died after a long battle with cancer. It was a year before we could even think about placing a monument on his grave. We simply could not sit down and face the decisions about size, color, words, etc. Finally, in March of 2009, after finalizing our monument plans, my parents and I delivered the specs to the monument shop. We personally picked out the perfect granite headstone and departed with the understanding that the monument would be set before Memorial Day.

The local veterans put flags on every marked military grave site in honor of service of the deceased. We had missed the first year and we wanted to make sure we allowed sufficient time to ensure the headstone placement before another Memorial Day passed.

My brother's years in the Army were extremely important to him. In his last few days of life, he was emphatic about making sure that he had a proper military funeral, so we knew that little flag placed every year on Memorial Day would be important to him.

Unfortunately, another Memorial Day passed before the headstone was placed. It was actually set in July.

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While we can not do anything about the two missed flags, the monument will be there on the next Memorial Day and no doubt, a veteran will pass and place a flag on his grave site.

He was a veteran. Thus, on Memorial Day, I remember my brother.


His Years of Service

Unfortunately, I do not know very much about my brother's years of active duty. He did not talk about his military life when he was home. Most of the time, he joked a lot and just tried to keep all of us laughing. I don't believe he wanted to focus on that part of his life when he was with us or perhaps he just thought it was not suitable dinner conversation.

What I do know, is that he was an expert marksman, a talent that I am certain served him well in the army. I know he was extremely dedicated and loyal to defending the US if needed and also to defending his loved ones.

He will not be forgotton!

Photo is an excerpt of the letter I received from the US Army.

Fly Your Flag on Memorial Day

© 2009 Cynthia Sylvestermouse

Who Do You Remember on Memorial Day?

Fay Favored from USA on June 04, 2014:

There are many reasons why this day is important to me. It seems with all the parties and barbecues that the true meaning of this holiday often gets lost.

Kay on May 28, 2014:

What a beautiful page. I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother. Big hug for you!

WinWriter on May 25, 2014:

I remember my father - a veteran of World War II and a Senior Medical officer in the Korean War. God bless all of our military men and women, past and present, and God bless America! A lovely tribute to your brother.

Wednesday-Elf from Savannah, Georgia on December 09, 2012:

Returning to this page today with thoughts of your brother and how much you will be missing him this holiday season. Hugs!

marsha32 on July 01, 2012:

Very nice tribute to your brother.

So many to remember on Memorial Day.

Ruthi on June 23, 2012:

This is a loving tribute to your brother, his life and his service to his country.

anonymous on June 20, 2012:

A beautiful Memorial tribute in loving memories to your brother who carried on with the family honor in serving our great nation. I just feel like the little flags that were not put in place were waving in your heart because you carry your brother there. It is my honor to pay my respects.

GrowWear on May 28, 2012:

Deep and abiding gratitude for those who paid the ultimate price for the citizens of our beloved country. My condolences for the loss of your brother, gone too soon. #Love

LynetteBell from Christchurch, New Zealand on May 26, 2012:

We have our remembrance in April for ANZAC Day. I remember my Dad and others who have fought in wars.

SteveKaye on May 26, 2012:

It's truly a day for gratitude as well as sadness. Thank you for publishing this lens. It makes an important statement.

Karnel from Lower Mainland of BC on May 26, 2012:

Really great topic

Michelle from Central Ohio, USA on May 24, 2012:

I lost a few friends and some other brothers and sisters in arms in both Gulf Wars. I remember them all and salute them for their sacrifices.

anonymous on May 24, 2012:

All the people that have given up their lives in honor of their ideals from freedom.

OliviaDaughter LM on May 23, 2012:

Really good lense.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on May 23, 2012:

It is indeed a day to honor so many who have given their lives.

blazingzone lm on May 22, 2012:

Great lens.

vBizeso on May 22, 2012:

Nice lens

Wednesday-Elf from Savannah, Georgia on May 22, 2012:

Military service has been a prominent part of my family my whole life, so there are many to remember this Memorial Day. Thus, my best wishes go out tol those currently on active duty around the world.

Nancy Tate Hellams from Pendleton, SC on May 22, 2012:

I am returning to this great lens to leave a blessing. It is so important that we remember our Veterans on Memorial Day.

TL Stahling from US on May 21, 2012:

I am so grateful to those who have sacrificed their lives on behalf of our country.

anonymous on May 21, 2012:

I love memorial day, awesome lens.

gatornic15 on May 21, 2012:

This is a wonderful tribute to your brother and a great reminder to everyone why we celebrate Memorial Day. Thanks for sharing!

KimGiancaterino on May 21, 2012:

I remember the reason we are a free country. This is a nice way to honor your brother. I'm sorry he was taken from your family so young.

microfarmproject on May 21, 2012:

We remember and are grateful to all those you sacrificed their lives for us.

Country Sunshine from Texas on May 21, 2012:

I remember my late husband, who served in Vietnam and is now buried at DFW National Cemetery. I also remember all those who served with... and before and after him, who paid the ultimate sacrifice for all of us.

To learn more about your brother's service, contact the Veterans Administration. As a next of kin, you have access to all of his military records.

Itaya Lightbourne from Topeka, KS on May 20, 2012:

I remember the many soldiers that have been in my family as well as all soldiers that have served so greatly. I appreciate each and every one of them. :)

Kirsti A. Dyer from Northern California on May 20, 2012:

Lovely tribute lens.

anonymous on May 16, 2012:

I remember all patriots and warriors who have sacrificed their precious lives for the nation.

Beverly Rodriguez from Albany New York on April 01, 2012:

Very powerful lens. I remember my Father a Marine in WWII on Iwo Jima. He did come home safe.

CruiseReady from East Central Florida on February 12, 2012:

God Bless your brother, and you for supporting Operation Gratitude

GrowWear on May 31, 2011:

My uncle Pat. He was a Great man. This is a wonderful tribute, Cynthia.

tssfacts on May 17, 2010:

Very touching tribute.

SandraRoseDesigns on May 15, 2010:

Great tribute! With Memorial Day approaching - and my birthday - on the traditional Memorial Day, I have always felt connected to this day.

spunkyduckling on January 09, 2010:

Thank you for sharing your story about your brother with us. I don't have a large history of persons in my family who has served in the military but cancer yes! It's unfortunate about your loss..I can only imagine. I lost my dad in 2003 at age 23 due to cancer. And currently have an aunt (my grandmom sister) who after all these years of taking tests has full blown cancer (throat, lungs, head, breast) out of the blues..its baffling..and she is in a coma right now. :(

I have lensrolled this lens to my army wife lens. Well deserved..

Robin S from USA on November 30, 2009:

Wonderful tribute lens!

JoyfulPamela2 from Pennsylvania, USA on November 21, 2009:

I remember my grandfather who fought in WW II - such fond memories of him. Thank you for this touching lens. I lensrolled to US Flag and Patriotic Music.

HorseAndPony LM on November 21, 2009:

This was such a beautiful lens. I am very sorry for your loss. We have so many family members who have served and have now passed on. However, I also worked and my husband continues to work with active military service people. So while we remember those who have served, I love that Operation Gratitude gives that extra special something to those who are currently serving.

Laniann on November 18, 2009:

Beautiful lens and tribute to your brother and the others who have served our country.

Patricia on November 18, 2009:

Blessed by an angel!

Jennifer P Tanabe from Red Hook, NY on November 17, 2009:

This is a beautiful lens, great tribute to your brother and all those who have served. I understand the importance of the military funeral. A friend who was a veteran passed this year and an honor guard came and presented a flag to his widow and fired a salute for him. It was so moving to see them come all the way to our little cemetery to honor this veteran.

Nancy Tate Hellams from Pendleton, SC on November 17, 2009:

This is a beautiful tribute to your brother and all veterans. My mom was a member of DAR and I have the paper work but just haven't followed through with it. I need to do that. This lens is blessed by a Squid Angel and lensrolled to my Flag Day lens.

Andy-Po on November 17, 2009:

Excellent, thought provoking lens

Patricia on November 16, 2009:

My Dad. I am going to lensroll this to his lens in fact.. My Story of A Vietnam Veteran. This is an awesome lens you made!

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