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How to Survive Being Single on Valentine's Day


It is coming ever so closer... that day when hearts everywhere prepare for that day when love is in the air and traditionally those who have a love to share declares their love with a variety of gifts.

But if you are single on this day... who do YOU share love with???

How about YOU... yourself. After all it has been said that in order to love someone else, you have to first love yourself. So for those single out there this can be a day of celebration and love for us too.

Who says that being alone means being lonely... although admittedly it CAN be sometimes; it can be just as easily enjoyable to have some " you" time.

Being single on Valentine's or any day does too have its' advantages.


Advantages of Being Single This Day

  • Don't have to gorge out on cheap chocolates
  • You have the pick of the movie you see, or the place you dine
  • The money you save on buying gifts can be lavished on you
  • If you do decide to go out on V-day remember that the numbers of singles with the same idea may be substantial Warning however: Don't let alcohol or the V-day atmosphere fool you. go home alone... if it was really "magical" it will still be so tomorrow

Some Valentine's Day Do's

Pamper Yourself

Use this day to pamper yourself

  • Soak in a warm bath with your favorite music playing in the background...
  • Curl up in bed with a good book
  • Watch some of your favorite romantic films back-to-back
  • Go and get a hair cut or styling... you will feel fabulous afterwards
  • Spa day... and yes men their are male spas too... check your local listings
  • Shopping ...especially for shoes can make you feel pretty good (fellas don't discount the benefits of a new pair of shoes... it is said that women look at a man's feet first; you may not be alone next Valentine's Day)

Some Valentine's Day Don'ts

  • Don't feel obligated to go on blind dates (especially those set-up by some of your not-so-happily coupled friends... do you really want to follow their judgement?)
  • Don't be a third wheel- although well meaning friends may offer ... you can respectfully decline
  • Don't settle just to be with someone on this day, and call exes to give it a retry... as often the general romantic feel in the air (and a shot or two) can lead one to stroll down memory lane...remember why you got off that road in the first place


Who TO Give your Heart To This V-day

If You Are A Single Parent ... you know how much and unconditionally children can love. You have the benefits of Valentine's love 365 days of the year.

Spend some time creating some things with them to celebrate the day...



For Those Pet Lovers... you are blessed in that you have the benefit of living with the most loyal love giving beings on the planet. treat them this day to a new chew toy, collar, or cushion; and be glad this day to have a truly loving being in your corner.

Here are some things to consider...




Visit a lonely friend, or a shelter and maybe volunteer... remember that the greatest heart you can give on this day, is your own.


Look in the mirror and (first thing is the morning is fine) tell you all the fabulous things you need to know about yourself. Don't just say "you're nice", or "you're kind". Be specific tell yourself the hows, and whys. If you keep a journal do the same in your journal. We all know our negative points... use this day to treat yourself as you deserve.


This is not just a day for couples, and if and when you decide to make it a day to love on yourself. Bring joy to that person who stares you in the mirror each day.

It is most important to to remember that on this day that all the couples you see out there are were once single too. If we are single now we can use this time to reflect on ourselves and focus on being healthier, more well balanced individuals; who will attract the same; if and when we decide to pursue a romance , or find that Valentine.

Here are a few poems that may stir thoughts of love...







LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on February 13, 2013:

Thank you Nakia for you kind words

Nakia Deon on February 12, 2013:

Very nice hub. Informative, inspiring and comforting all at once. Thanks so much for posting.

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on February 07, 2013:

Thank you DDE for your kind comments

and i pray you a wonderful day on Valentine's and beyond...

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 07, 2013:

Good ideas here for Valentine's day, especially if one is alone.

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on February 01, 2013:

Thank you so mcu acaetnna... for the reading and comment

Bless you

and I pary you a wonderful Valentine's any day, and you are so right

acaetnna from Guildford on February 01, 2013:

What a great hub. Valentine's Day should be everyday anyway and not just celebrated on one day of the year. I loved reading this, thank you.

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on February 01, 2013:

Thank you so much Diabian... it is very nice to meet you; and I very much appreciate your kind comment

Diabian on February 01, 2013:

Thanks for sharing this useful advices , voted up and useful

Gypsy Rose Lee from Daytona Beach, Florida on January 30, 2013:

Great hub and great suggestions and advice for a Valentine's spent alone. When it was the days when I was alone on Valentine's I simply spent the evening watching old romantic movies and munching on goodies. Wasn't bad. Now of course I have my two Valentine's my hubby and my cat Sid. However on our side of the world they don't celebrate as much so we just have some alone time at home and the cat gets kisses which he hates. lol Love the pic of the doggy. Passing this on.

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 28, 2013:

Thank you so much Dotti for your your reading and comments... I pray that it is anawesome day for you !!!

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 28, 2013:

Thank you so much Victoria for your kind words, and for the link... I am looking forward to reading it!!!

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 28, 2013:

Thank ou so much Christine for the reading... and you are right...not being coupled does'nt mean you have to be lonely; it is always about a healthy sense of self...

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 28, 2013:

I agree acaetnna... and that is a very positive attitude you have...

D.Juris Stetser from South Dakota on January 27, 2013:

Great Hub, and you've included so many ideas and suggestions, we 'loners' have a smorgasbord of ideas to slide through the day relatively unscathed... Awesome, Voted Up, Interesting and Useful.

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on January 27, 2013:

Awesome! Great ideas and links. I'm writing a hub on what to do for Valentine's Day when single. Your hub is perfect to link. Thanks! Many votes, including up!

Christina M. Castro from Baltimore,MD USA on January 27, 2013:

Awsome perspective, Laurinzo. I now know what it is like to be by myself on Valentine's Day, and I can say I am not lonely. I am certain that those who read your hub will be enlightened and inspired. I always am enlightened by your hubs.

acaetnna from Guildford on January 27, 2013:

Great suggestions. Everyday should be Valentine's Day!!!

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 27, 2013:

Well thank you so much lovedoctor926... and I pray that V-day is a beautiful... and love filled one for you

and that you get the teddy bear and chocolates...

Sure you will my friend!!!

Bless you

lovedoctor926 on January 27, 2013:

Awesome tips @ suggestions. Last year I went to the Cheesecake Factory and ordered takeout for the family and me. For me, Valentine's Day is just like any other holiday of course romance and chocolate is what most women seek on this day oh and teddy bears too. lol. You made a very good point and that is don't settle and yes, mirror exercise is very effective.

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 27, 2013:

God bless you Deborah

and I agree that Johnny has a mgical voice...indeed

and i pray your V-day be happy too

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 27, 2013:

Wow... woman of God ...so you have been married a couple of years then...

bless you for the reading

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 27, 2013:

Thank you so much mares, and I certainly hope you have an incredible day that day, and all in between... so nice to meet you

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 27, 2013:

Thank you Jackie he is one of my favorites...

glad you like this one

Deborah Brooks Langford from Brownsville,TX on January 27, 2013:

Laurinzo what a wonderful hub..thank you for mentioning my hub..

you are a dear friend

I love Johnny Mathis.. so romantic and great advice.. I wish you the best and I do hope you have a great V DAY..

hugs from Tennessee



mares97 on January 27, 2013:

Great piece. As someone who is single, I can definitely appreciate the advice.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on January 27, 2013:

Meant to add that I will share this with all the singles I know, as I have been married since the age of 19.

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on January 27, 2013:

Great advice and I so love Johnny. Great song choice.

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 26, 2013:

Thank you so much cre8iveOne... and your Mom was incredible to make it a day for you to enjoy, and I agree that we have to have a healthy love for ourselves first

God bless you

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 26, 2013:

Lol... you can trust me Mhatter... I will be one of the ones spending it ... me , myself, and the other guy!!!

But will enjoy it ... i'm sure

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 26, 2013:

Thank you so much teaches12345... for the reading and comment... and I certainly hope you enjoy this holiday...

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 26, 2013:

Thank you Faith reaper so much for your kind and insightful comments...it is always wonderful to hear from you

cre8ivOne from Midwest, USA on January 26, 2013:

This is great Laurinzo! The best memories I have of the occasion were when I was little. My single mother made up fancy glasses filled to the top with colorful candies and small presents to boot. This was one of many ways my mom showed us she loved us.

It's funny in the sense of Valentine's Day and couples, I don't really think much about it because when you love someone you show them every day. You have provided a lot of great ideas for people to treat themselves which really is key to love ourselves first. :)

Martin Kloess from San Francisco on January 25, 2013:

Thank you for this. I just have to take your word on this.

Dianna Mendez on January 25, 2013:

I can use some of these tips, and I'm married! These suggestions would make Valentine's Day enjoyable for singles. Love your thoughts that love is all year round and the holiday is not just for those in love.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on January 25, 2013:

This is amazing advice here for singles! Yes, we must take care of ourselves and love ourselves. You have written some outstanding ideas here to give oneself. Very clever and sweet hub, and insightful too. I will share with all my single friends! And who said love is only for one day out of the year, and it seems to put a lot of pressure on a lot of people, when one loves, it should be 365 days a year!

Voted up ++++ and sharing

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

LJ Scott (author) from Phoenix, Az. on January 25, 2013:

Thank you Bill for your kind comments, and you do the same my friend...

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 25, 2013:

Very clever title and hub. I had quite a few Valentine's Days alone; thankfully those days are gone. :) Have a great weekend.

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