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Happy Birthday to Me Happy Birthday to Me

Cheryl is a poet, freelance writer, former newspaper columnist, licensed/ordained minister, and founder of two outreach ministries.

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Birthdays as they used to be

Birthdays became popular around 3,000 AD as a way to track time. When I was a young girl growing up in the 1960s birthdays were a day that other people celebrated with and for you, by choice. If parents held a party, the invited guests and family members would purchase a gift of their own choosing for the birthday boy or girl. it is customary for people to surprise friends or loved ones with celebrations on the date they were born. I worked a job once where there was a cake and food each time a coworker had a birthday. Surprise parties are always really fun. I know people who would take the day of their birth off from work, but as for anything else it was done by other people. The days of someone else choosing to enjoy your special day with you are over as in today's society, many are celebrating themselves. This Hub will no doubt cause offense and have some people believing I am throwing shade on them as they have partaken in the "celebrate me practice". I wrote an article about there being no birthdays in heaven and several people who disagreed with me, unfriended me. Such is life in the age of the Internet and a delete button.

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Me, Myself, and I

There was a 1981 movie titled "Happy Birthday to me," staring Melisa Sue Anderson,(Mary, Little House on the Prarie). A girl who was pretending to be Mellisa's character seta table with dead bodies in the seats brought out a cake and began singing "Happy birthday to me." Celebrating one's self and inviting others to join in is what many in our current culture are doing. I always enjoy and appreciate it when someone else wishes me a happy birthday or gives me a gift of their own volition. Today, however, thanks to social media people are singing their own praises. My news feed in recent years has increased with posts stating; "Happy birthday to me," or "Celebrate with me it's my born day." No longer do adults wait until the date of their birth to see who will choose to honor them. Instead, there is now week-long and month-long self-promotion."It's my birthday week," or "It's my birthday month" are the popular slogans with daily photos showing how the individuals are enjoying their day, week, and or month. Some have even resorted to begging for money by asking social media friends to show them some love by giving through CashAp, Paypal, and even Go Fund Me.

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Self love

As I have stated before, I do not write to attack anyone personally. As a writer, I glean from situations and share my beliefs. The principle is what I address. I have been noticing this growing trend for a long time. from hundreds of people on social media over the years. This story is simply to address a change in our culture from days gone by. Adults are free to do what they want, but me, personally, I still enjoy having others celebrate me. I cherish the element of surprise and I cannot see myself asking for money for my birthday on Facebook. On that note, I have also noticed that some pastors host lavish parties for their wives then tell those who will attend that they must give a $100 monetary donation. I was in a church where an entire Sunday morning service was to celebrate the first lady's birthday. There was no scripture, prayer, altar call, the offer of salvation, or a sermon. A local praise team came and sang, not for the glory of God but to the first lady. Using the Sunday morning worship hour for a birthday and not to worship the Lord is in my opinion a little over the top. it used to be that churches were told of an upcoming birthday of the pastor or first lady and invited to give if they chose. Everyone has the choice to make their own decisions but if you follow Christ, consider Apostle Paul's words in 3 Timothy 2. For those who are believers in Christ, I offer this scripture regarding the subject. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, The world today is all about me-time, and loving oneself but scripture indicates we should not be self-absorbed.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Cheryl E Preston

Comments

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on September 24, 2020:

Cheryl,

You are so right.

I see this alot on social media these days.

I believe we do need to love ourselves but I don't think we need to push it onto others.

God takes care of our needs if we allow him to do so...sure sometimes he uses the internet & other people to help us ...but I dont think we need to be boastful.

However....i do like that saying...its my birthday.

Great write.

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 22, 2020:

I hadn't thought about it like this before, but you make an excellent point. It's so much more rewarding to wait for those who choose to say "happy birthday" to do so or for those who wish to provide a gift to do so.

P.S. I like your bio. What a rich life you must live!

Cheryl E Preston (author) from Roanoke on September 22, 2020:

Yes this is so true. Thank you for reading.

Cheryl E Preston (author) from Roanoke on September 22, 2020:

Yes maam. Thank you Ms Dora.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on September 22, 2020:

Another good insight, Cheryl. Wasn't aware of the "celebrate me" trend, but the time and place of worship should be off limits for such events. You certainly have a prophetic voice.

OLUSEGUN from NIGERIA on September 20, 2020:

I do not use to remember my birthday, don't know why, but my lovely younger sisters will always remember and send messages to me. Till date that has not changed. But whenever anyone tells me of his or her birthday, I take time to put it in my diary, because I believe the person values me and wants me to remember such and celebrate him during the day.

Whatever anyone believes I stand by.

Good article "anti mi". Stay in Jesus love always.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on September 20, 2020:

Birthdays were always simple affairs with mostly family members in attendance and homemade cakes when I was young. Now, many parents try to outdo other parents with lavish parties that cost a fortune when it is their kid's birthday. Times have certainly changed!

Cheryl E Preston (author) from Roanoke on September 19, 2020:

Yes they really do. Thank you for reading.

Sp Greaney from Ireland on September 19, 2020:

Birthdays were more fun when you were younger. No place I have ever worked cared about employees birthdays.

If people remember to get me a card, then I'm good. I see those Facebook post too. Some people really love celebrating it.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on September 19, 2020:

I really didn't know some of what you wrote and life is sure different now than when I was young. Birthdays are still simple in my family and we would never ask for donations. This is an enlightening article about birthdays, Cheryl.

Cheryl E Preston (author) from Roanoke on September 19, 2020:

Yes this is so true Danny. Thank you for reading.

Danny from India on September 19, 2020:

Hi Cheryl, this reminds us of the childhood days when there was only love from relatives, guests & near ones. Now, the feeling of celebration is slowly diminishing, but there a few who celebrate it on a grand scale.

Birthdays have to involve your close ones otherwise there is no fun