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The Muslim mothers is annually as one of the busiest groups in welcoming Eid al-Fitr as well as the happiest but the most stressful ones because they have to take responsible for preparing the needs and finishing several duties for family members as well as welcoming guests.
Such annual conditions above might be the same for some Muslims mothers in other countries or may be completely different. In Indonesia, it has been going on for a long time to do especially in rural areas.
As one of the most important Islamic holidays for Muslims in Indonesia, Eid al-Fitr is believed to be the day of victory for all Muslims particularly for those who have successfully completed a month-long fast of Ramadan.
1. Prepare to Buy New Clothes
Generally, Muslim kids in rural areas of Indonesia must be annually bought new clothes before the coming of Eid al-Fitr.
If they aren't bought new clothes several times in a year, at least once a year their new clothes should be available in the day of Eid al-Fitr because this is one of the best ways to make them happy.
What about their moms? Some of them usually buy the new models of clothes. There are at least three models of new clothes they purchase. The two models that are worn for going to the neighbor's house and welcoming guests who come to their homes while another one is particularly worn when praying in the mosque on the first day of Eid al-Fitr.
Then what about their dads? Of course, some dads also buy their religious favorite clothes.
Do you think they only buy new clothes? No, they don't, but they also buy new pair of sandals and shoes, Muslim caps, hijabs, etc.
2. Prepare to buy Foods and Beverages
A number of staple as well as additional foods have to be prepared. These foods are not the same as a kind of foods they cook and eat on their usual days, but a number of special foods that are usually a special menu for the day of Eid al-Fitr such as ketupat-lepat (rice wrapped in young leaves of coconut), cooking of rendang meat and opor chicken and others.
In addition, moms also have to prepare a number of other foods such as cakes, breads, and various kinds of dried cakes, and some kinds of soft drinks such as Coca Cola, Sprite and others.There are also other moms who prepare for other foods such as fruits and nuts.
Actually, there are many others that I can't mention here one by one because their local names are weird.
3. Clean home to welcome guests
Another activity that stresses Muslim moms is the demand to clean and tidy up home appliances such sofa, tables, curtains, etc., or replace them with the new ones.
The home yard should be well treated, re-cleaned and re-beautified to produce comfortable nuance for guests and homeowners as well.
Welcoming for upcoming guests during Eid al-Fitr might be the reason why they have to set all of their home appearance to be more comfortable. Whoever they are; special or not special, elite or not elite, and Muslims or non-Muslims, all of them are the same, they are warmly welcome.
4. Shopping Budget and Higher Prices
Muslim moms have to think about unexpected shopping costs that will arise. This usually happen before Eid al-Fitr because he prices of certain goods might increase. The sellers in local markets sell their specific products higher than the usual days. Thus, they should anticipate this situation well.
They count heavily on the price of all items that can be more expensive than usual.
Certainly they have to think hard to find other sources of payment to handle the increase of shopping costs for all of those requirements. Don't you think how stressful they are.
6. Moms Don't Care
What if moms don't care about all of those annual requirements? That's OK. They can prepare and buy nothing.
If a guest knock the door, they just serve a cup of hot tea or a glass of fresh water and whatever they have at their home, that's probably enough, or they only stay home and close the door. They do not welcome any guests and also not go to anywhere. But what about their kids' feelings? what could they do?
5. Unexpected Expense
Due to the increasing in shopping more goods than usual, certainly some unexpected expenses might emerge, so Muslim moms frequently seek loans to cover the lack of costs.
Muslim moms also have to prepare pocket money for their kids and for guests' kids who come to their homes.
After Eid al-Fitr is over, it's just a matter of discharging the bills. Well, that's something stressful for those who don't have enough deposits in bank to pay it off.
The demands of fulfilling those things can be stressful for some of Indonesian moms.
However, you have to know although they feel stressed to such annual activities but they'll be ready and happy for welcoming the next Eid al-Fitr again. Oh my God, it's really stressful but delightful.
So, what do you think?
Do you think moms will pay for all of those needs for Eid al-Fitr using their own money? May be yes, may be not. But they will clearly make a special request to their husbands, to kids' dad. LoL. That's nice!
So, who would be really stressed? Moms or dads? Probably one of them, or both of them instead.
Those five things that usually make Muslim moms in Indonesia feel stressful before and after Eid al-Fitr comes.
Unfortunately, not all moms can fulfill all their needs because of personal financial problem.
Therefore, especially for those who do not have enough money to meet their needs during Eid al-Fitr, it will certainly be more stressful. But what can they do? This is a local as well as religious tradition. Of course some moms are able to do it and some are not.
Usually the riches will help the poor to help them fulfill their needs through alms or other kinds of giving that are personally given.
Actually, there are many other things that I can't tell you in this short article.
So, what about the conditions of welcoming Eid al-Fitr in your country, is it normal or something extraordinary?
Now, do you really believe that Muslim moms feel stressful when Eid al-Fitr come?
May be yes, but their stressful can be happily cleared by the visitation of their guests; close friends and relative members. They then turn to visit their guests on other days during Eid al-Fitr. By visiting each other, moms' stress can be delightfully overcome.
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