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5 Tips to Instantly Feel Better When You're Fed Up

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Alyssa has studied psychology, philosophy, religion, and the arts. She loves sharing her thoughts, ideas, and papers with the world.


We all have a point where we get maxed out and fed up. The stress of life gets to us, and we want to throw our hands in the air because we are completely done with whatever is going on. It could be anything.

Maybe it's work. Your co-workers are constantly jabbering on and on about pointless topics, gossiping, or just plain negativity. Maybe you've been given too many tasks, and there just isn't enough time to handle it all.

Maybe it's something at home. You're taking care of your sick kids or spouse, and now, despite all your efforts of sanitizing every square inch of your home and constantly reminding your children to wash their hands, you've caught their cold or flu.

Maybe you're just tired of waking up to snow, cold temperatures, or nasty weather.

Whatever the scenario, you've had enough. You're fed up. Any ambition you've had is gone, and you're sitting there wondering, how do I get myself out of this spiral of negativity?

When you are moving from one task to another, taking care of everyone and everything, it's easy to push yourself to the end of your to-list. Day in and day out, constantly doing this will leave you frazzled, and burnt out.

We've all been there at one point or another. Stress affects us all in different ways, and sometimes you need to have a little time-out. This is the perfect opportunity to engage in some self-care. Taking time to do something for yourself, something you enjoy, is not selfish. It's essential to your own happiness and well-being. However, that is usually easier said than done. Adulthood and being a parent come with some heavy responsibilities that you cannot simply throw to the wayside. The following tips are designed to give you a little time for yourself, even when you don't have time to take for yourself. They are easy, quick, and for some, you can get your kids involved, which is perfect for all of us busy parents!

1. Aromatherapy

This tip is perfect because it takes little time and effort, but can garner serious results. Aromatherapy uses your sense of smell to help boost your mood, invigorate your senses, promote a better nights rest, reduce stress, and a host of other benefits. You can use this tip in a variety of settings in a variety of ways.

Try setting up a diffuser in your home or office. There are plenty of styles and scents to choose from. Eucalyptus is a perfect scent for in between winter and spring! Lavender can help soothe and calm, making it ideal for bedtime. Sweet orange and lemongrass are invigorating scents that can help boost your mood and increase your productivity. There's a scent for everyone! Diffusers also put a little moisture back into the room, a nice bonus for dry skin and sinus issues.

No diffuser? No problem! Try lighting a candle or some incense. Maybe you have a scented lotion that always puts a smile on your face, a light body spray, perfume, or room spray. Something with a pleasant scent that can help boost your mood is all you need.

A simple diffuser and essential oils is a wonderful stress-reliever!

A simple diffuser and essential oils is a wonderful stress-reliever!

2. Movement

Sometimes you need to step away for a few minutes. This next tip is perfect for that. If you are able, get on your yoga mat for 10 minutes of conscious movement. I always recommend yoga because it really works! No matter the mood or emotion, yoga can help put whatever is going on into perspective. With just 10 minutes of movement, you will leave the mat feeling more calm, focused, and ready to tackle your to-do list.

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But there are plenty of times when it's not feasible to do yoga. In those cases, it's still nice to step away. Try getting outside for a 10 minute walk. You can walk the perimeter of your office building, the neighborhood, a local park, make it work for you! Fresh air, sunshine, and a little movement will allow you to step away, help you realign your focus, and leave you feeling refreshed.

Other suggestions include an intense cardio workout, a HIIT session, strength-training work, or just putting on your favorite song and dancing around your house. All are wonderful ways of stepping away from whatever is stressing you out, long enough to clear your head and realign your focus. Just 5-10 simple minutes of mindful movement can make a big difference.

Yoga For When You're Angry - Yoga With Adriene

3. Tea Time

When it's impossible to step away from whatever you're doing, this next tip is sure to help you relax. Enjoy a nice, hot cup of tea. You can set it right on your desk as you work, sit at your kitchen counter, or take it outside for five minutes of peace. There are a variety of teas to suit any taste, many with multiple health benefits! My favorite for stressful times is kava tea. It has a pleasant aroma and tastes delicious. After just a few sips, you will feel all the tension melt away from your body. Give it a try!

Kava tea is my favorite!

Kava tea is my favorite!

4. Laughter

Laughter is the best medicine. If you can find a little humor during a stressful time, you can get through most anything. Laughter will lighten the mood, ease tension, and help you find perspective. This next tip is perfect for that!

Take five or ten minutes, hop on YouTube, and find a funny video. It can be anything! Maybe something from your favorite YouTuber, a sketch from SNL or MadTV, a clip from your favorite comedian, or search for something new. If you have the time, cozy up on the couch and watch a Netflix special or something funny on TV.

5. Pause and Reflect

When I get stressed out or too worked up over something, I like to pause. I take a deep breath and ask myself:

Will this matter in 5 minutes? 5 months? 5 years?

Everytime the answer has been no. At the end of the day, understanding that everything is temporary puts the current situation in perspective. I may not always feel calm, cool, and collected, but I know that the frustration won't last forever. Implementing the above tips will help ease the tension, reduce stress, and allow you to focus in order to get past the situation.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2018 Alyssa


Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on March 24, 2018:

All good suggestions....for me it's a walk by myself. Although I shouldn't spend too much time inside my head, at times I need to totally disconnect from the human race.

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