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Obsession or Fleeting Thoughts?

Obsessions are interesting facets of personality. People can be obsessed with a multitude of things. What is the difference between being obsessed or merely enjoying a hobby, perhaps? What is problematic? When should a person seek treatment for obsessions? Do they fade like memories or are obsessions lifetime commitments?

I did a bit of research because I just had to know.

Obsession or Compulsion?

Obsessions are the thoughts that invade our minds, unwanted yet unstoppable. Thoughts of people, things, body parts, sex, money - deep seated desire. Lustful thoughts that leave us wanting for ... something. A thought waiting to be acted upon.

The thought of how you may not have locked that door to the walking back to check to make certain. Possibly several times because you can never be too careful, right?

The thought of how you might not have crossed that T on the contract...better check again.

The thought of the invisible germ that might be lurking on the doorknob after the snot nosed neighbor kid touched it might cause you to run for the bleach wipes.

Fear may feed the obsession - the compulsion is your safety net. Obesessive thoughts fuel the need to act in some way to gratify our need for comfort. Compulsions are the actual doing part of obsessive/compulsive disorder. For example, the thought that germs could be on your hands is the obsession - the act of washing your hands would be the compulsive action.

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Why Do People Develop Obsessions?

The brain is the most fascinating organ in the human body. Without it we are jello. It is the control room of all of our behavior and action. If necessary, the brain can play clever tricks on the thought processes in the mind. Obsessions are thought by many to be tasteful, convenient diversions our brains create to stop us from focusing on those big, ugly monsters in the closet that really freak us out.

Obsessive traits are sometimes rooted in childhood, as so frequently, those demons in the closets of our minds are. Perhaps the child could never perform well enough to please the parent. Flawlessness may have been the only acceptable way to perform for attention. Lack of it may fuel the need to shine - in an effort to receive recognition from a parent.

Some people develop obsessions in order to excel because the thought of failure is beyond the realm of possibility. The need to be perfect might control every waking move of the victim who can not accept the fact that their parent will never offer the gratification they so desire.

Sometimes obsessions fuel the behaviors that offer a sense of control to an otherwise chaotic life. A person who cleans compulsively may be feeding the need to control their surroundings. They may not be able to control their teenager, for example, so making everything around them orderly might satiate the urge to make things neat and tidy. It is a ready problem that can be solved. The issue we aren't so sure about how to deal with can stew in the back burner of the mind until we know how to handle that. Don't wanna get burned now do we?

People who suffer with intrusive thoughts also tend to have a difficult time making decisions. Put the wrong foot first and we might trip, fall and who knows? A 35 gallon drum of radioactive waste might happen to be sitting there waiting for you to fall into it. Every step is a crucial one. Indecision results because again, failure might be lurking no matter which way you go. Staying right where you are might be a safer bet.

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"I've been called names like perfectionist, difficult and obsessive. I think it takes obsession, takes searching for the details for any artist to be good." ~ Barbra Streisand

When to seek help for obsessivie behavior.

At one time or another we all obsess about things. It might be those alarming bills that you don't know how you are going to deal with, or the fear of dying or the fear of not being loved. Fear is usually the base of an obsession. The ability to accept that we have flaws and are imperfect is another cause for obsessions. Introspection can be so difficult for some people - fears that they are not good enough might provoke obsessions.

Obsessions are not always a bad thing. Think of artists, musicians, writers and other talented people that focus their obsessive behaviors in an area where they truly excel. If those people weren't totally preocuppied with their obsessions we may not be able to enjoy the fruits of their labor.

Obsessions are typically based on anxiety. If we are worried about something it can become a thought that we obsess about. Until the fear is removed the temptation to feed obsessive thoughts may be impossible. Therapy, prescription drugs or a combination of both can be very effective in treating unwanted obsessive thoughts and compulsive behavior.

Interesting to note is that people that have true OCD do recognize their behavior is obsessive and they frequently seek treatment. People that have obsessive personality disorder often times do not see their obsessive behavior as problematic. Again, introspection is very difficult for some people. The thought of seeing our weaknesses can be extremely frightening and harder to confront than feeding the beast. Treatment and therapy can help! If your obsessions are ruling your world - it might be time to look in the mirror and ask yourself, "am I obsessed?"

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Joshua Zerbini from Pennsylvania on July 12, 2012:


No problem! :) You are welcome for the comment and have a great night!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on July 12, 2012:

Oh and JThomas - thank you as well:). I am so sorry my response took so long - I missed a few right in a row and got lost!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on July 12, 2012:

Josh and eeima - I'm so sorry - I did not see your comments until just now!

I sincerely appreciate the visit and your comments! I'm so sorry I did not thank you before! Kelly

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 24, 2012:

Hey VC - yep! Me too and I can accept myself for my flaws, short comings and bad days. I know we all have that junk it's howmwe deal that counts - and you're so awesome!!

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on June 22, 2012:

Iam what I am. Oh dear. Oh well. And if others don't like it they can go to...heavens is that me?

Can't you see

How can it be

That little 'ol me

Who loves huggin a tree

And would give all to thee

And bend on one knee

Just wants to be free

To be me

To be me

To be me.

Love you Kelly and love to all my hub buddies.

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 22, 2012:

Hi Esmeowl12 and thank you very much!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 19, 2012:

Tammy that is a pet peeve of mine - interruptions! I really have a one track mind (and the traffic is fairly light:) lol I just get frustrated because I am always in a hurry - interruptions - even if it only stops my thought process for a few minutes it throws me back to a beginning. Then I might struggle to get back to where my brain and thoughts were before I was irritated. Know what I mean? lol I thought you did!

Cindy A Johnson from Sevierville, TN on June 19, 2012:

Thanks for the interesting info.

Tammy from North Carolina on June 19, 2012:

Uh oh.. now I see where my son gets his OCD. More than being obsessed with things, I tend to focus intently on something until I finish it. Interuptions drive me nuts. Very cool quiz and hub. Sharing!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 11, 2012:

Hi Sharyn - that does make lots of sense to me. I'm obsessive about some stuff (my floors seem to be a common preoccupation with me!) and I'm also compulsive - especially talking:) lol. I just say whatever comes to mind - some people like it some people hate it but you rarely have to guess how I feel, lol. No doesn't make you OCD either - OCD is more of a medical thing I think - and can be totally controlled. I think what you're talking about is just normal human behavior. We are all a lot of many different things and behaviors - the problems are always when you're just TOO much of ONE thing. Otherwise it's just plain normal to have a multitude of feelings and reactions.

Sharon Smith from Northeast Ohio USA on June 09, 2012:

Hiya Kel,

You did some great research here. And you also provoked some great conversation in the comments. There are many things that I am obsessive about and some things that I am compulsive about, yet I don't believe it's OCD, does that make sense? ha It does to me I guess. Great work here as usual Kelly!


eeima on June 07, 2012:

A few years back I was searching for some help in this area. I found a book by Dr Jeffrey Schwartz called'Brain Lock'. He has specialized in helping obsessive compulsive people.People with the problem are taught to practise moving on to another thought and action immediately, thus religating the problem thought to ordinary thinking.Takes a lot of work for some people, but new neural pathways can eventually be established. I still practise it sometimes.

eeima on June 07, 2012:

Oh !now look what you've done..I'm scared to touch my doorknob.

Joshua Zerbini from Pennsylvania on June 05, 2012:

This is an outstanding and very informative hub, well written! Voted up, useful, and interesting! Keep up the great work!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 05, 2012:

Thanks Ron - yeah I love HUB! I get to write about any topic that interests me and it is whatever I want it to be:) lol So yeah - I like to sneak in jokes and my natural sarcasm where I can. I try not to be too obvious about it:) haha! lol

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on June 04, 2012:

I'm loving it. A great serious article followed by tons of cleverly funny comments. My favorite! Than you Realhousewife and thank you everyone else.

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 04, 2012:

Haha! Ron! That's hilarious!

No - I think people know - I write my articles and include factual stuff - but I do make a joke where I can:). This is certainly not a hub space where people have to worry about saying the wrong thing. It's about accepting our selves for our flaws - and being able to get a laugh where we can. I've not yet met a perfect one remember? Lol

It's all great! I thank you for having fun here too:)

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 04, 2012:

Oh heck - I didn't think it was at all! Oh Drbj - you are one of my all time favorites here in hub world my dear!! I didn't read it that way so "pas de probleme!" lol

Thank you anyhow though!

drbj and sherry from south Florida on June 04, 2012:

OCD is very serious, Kelly, and you have done an outstanding job writing such a clear-cut, easy-to-understand hub about it. Brava!

I have returned to thank you for including my Pig Personality test, but even more importantly, to apologize for my previous too flippant comment which was, I believe, out of place on such a serious hub. Mea culpa, please forgive me.

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on June 04, 2012:

Drbj, yes, you should write a hub on OCD and make sure to repeatedly punctuate the same sentence to be sure it gets punctuated properly. And you should clean it of any dangling participles, incomplete sentences and not be unsure about any double negatives or triple positives. After you post it you should wake up in the middle of the night wondering if you have posted it and to post it again to make sure you posted it again. And after every reader comment on the blog you should spray disinfectant on your screen.

And my apologies to OCD sufferers if I missed any stereotypical cliches. No double negatives were harmed in the process of writing this unnecessary comment, twice.

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 03, 2012:

Hey Alastar - are you serious? Someone really thought that Black Snakes mixed with Copperheads? oh my. Now that is just silly! That would be crazy - like a squirrel hooking up with a rabbit! haha!

Yes there really are degrees of mom has a more mild case - she just cleans obsessively, everything has it's place. Some people have different preoccupations too - like they might lose a job because they can't stop going home to check to make sure the curling iron is unplugged, doors locked - and they are late for work all the time and get fired. Other times people that are obsessive don't play well with others - they have rigid expectations and yeah, I know a few like that too. Some people that are obsessive like to create arguments - I think to some degree they truly enjoy the chaos they create. They don't know how to think any other way so it becomes comfortable for them.

I am certainly not a doctor but I did do my fact checking and this info is pretty basic. I think that with OCD in the DSM there are criteria that sort of set out which level of OCD a patient is according to how debilitating it is to them. Most people control it very well others never recognize their own symptoms and don't seek treatment because they don't think anything is wrong with *them*! lol I read that in cases of OCD people usually do know they are obsessive about things and they usually seek treatment. Obessive people however, when it is Obsessive Personality Disorder - they often are the ones who don't see it in themselves and won't seek treatment. They would be the people that take the quiz and answer NO to everything:) lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 03, 2012:

Hi Drbj! Oh you should write one on is very interesting! My mom has it - and I think one of my kids has tendencies. One of my girls is a food checker - we call her inspector number 9:) lol Her doc is really pleased about that and is sure she won't be eating anything spoiled:) haha It is really complex - if you write it - I would love to link it here.

My mom - she is so funny - if you have a drink at her house you have to hold or guard it. If you set it down and walk away it will be gone. She will have washed it, dried it and put it away by the time you come looking for a second sip!

Alastar Packer from North Carolina on June 03, 2012:

Those that have to be always right no matter what truth and facts you present to them are something else. Recently one such insisted that black snakes are mating with copperheads; tried to explain how that would be like bluebirds mating with blackbirds but oh no the final authority had spoken. Kelly are there recognized levels to OCD and not to put you to any trouble but what are they?

drbj and sherry from south Florida on June 02, 2012:

I would have been here sooner, Kelly, but I had to go back to my car three times to make sure I had locked it when I parked it in the garage. Then I had to wash my hands several times to make sure no germs were lurking from my visit outside my home. After that I had to make sure again that I had locked my front door. And then I had to wash my hands twice again after touching the front door knob, and then . . .

So I am an expert in OCD and if enough folks are interested I may write a hub on current treatments. After I wash my hands again.

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 02, 2012:

Ron - that really irks me! The Know it All - grrr! I know someone who is a walking set of encyclopedias and if there ia ANYTHING you or anyone else doesn't know - well they would be glad to inform you. lol This person actually makes crap up rather than admits they don't know something. Or they will invent answers just so you will believe whatever it is they are saying! Oh well - I just have to turn that person off otherwise my blood pressure goes up.

Or wait...what about people who don't have kids that want to tell you how to raise yours for example...I know a few of those too! lol

It is fun thinking about other people's quirks - now that might be another fun hub to write! haha! This is sort of cathartic for me :0

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 02, 2012:

Hahahaha! Oscar Wilde - that is hilarious! Makes me want to get a diary and just make a bunch of stuff up for fun:) lol

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on June 01, 2012:

Oh yes, that's one of the best, the KNOW-IT-ALL! The one who has an opinion on everything and is sure to be right. And like you said, at 20 they somehow have more experience than everyone else. The kind that I wouldn't want to engage verbally about anything because it's a waste of time. A subcategory of that kind is the one who offers solutions to the problems you didn't ask about. The one who is overweight and yet has the nerve to offer everyone what to eat and what not to eat.

This is fun, categorizing people's quirkiness.

Micheal from United Kingdom on June 01, 2012:

I have a collection of many of the classics and I tend to re-read these quite often.

Oscar Wilde once said, he always took his diary with him everywhere. As he always liked something scandalous to read on the

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 01, 2012:

Well rahul0324 - don't be shy now! Do tell us how you did! lol

Thanks so much!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 01, 2012:

Hey Lord - oh my gosh! I am so glad you came along to see that! lol I didn't notice it - and I even did a spell check! My bad - thank goodness for Edit!

Yeah I think that I get obsessed with certain things but they fade after I feed the monster:) lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 01, 2012:

That is funny about your friend Ron Hawkster! Oh I think I would be pulling my hair out (obsessively, while I listened to her set up the scene)

I did the same thing where I used to work:) lol I would have names in my head so that when they did something annoying I smiled when I thought about it:) There was - little Hitler - who was a little mean angry man who doted on perfection. Then there was "Noginsing" for the lady who flipped out and threw a keyboard at me and then apologized by explaining she had too much Ginsing tea....and my favorite "Superdome". Superdome is the 20 year old, fresh out of college kid who knows EVERYTHING! lol (The one I knew even had a little cone shaped head:) haha So see? I had my own speacial way of turning my little frown upside down before they started flapping:) haha!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 01, 2012:

Ha! Hi sammimills - are you serious? That is a lot of shoes! lol I have shoe envy! I love shoes too but I just don't often like how they look or feel so I end up putting them back. Lucky for my husband:) haha! I do think that it is pretty smart to draw a line though - keeps your habit in check I guess. And I am not real sure that would be a real problem then...I think obsessed shoe people would go bankrupt buying them so you must have really good self control! lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on June 01, 2012:

Hi Effer - oh thank you so much! I know you are interested in these topics too! So much fun for me to work on - the research just never gets boring but it takes me DAYS sometimes. Whew - this one was laborious! lol

Jessee R from Gurgaon, India on June 01, 2012:

I am taking all the quizzes....

Great hub and useful information

Joseph De Cross from New York on June 01, 2012:

Not Obsessed yet! Well I'm with HP. Great and well explained Kelly. I don't have OCD... I think I have Over the Counter displeased, when the line is too long , Ya know!


P.S. You have a little boo-boo, at the Obsessed word on the first subtitle. It happens to any of us. No big deal!

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on May 31, 2012:

I agree. Perhaps it was in trying to figure out my own quirks and oddities that I became fascinated with quirks of other people. There was a time I would have a category for everyone's odd behaviors, like people who always have to have the last word, people who can't see anything but the negative, or pollyannas who do the opposite. There are the pack rats, the coupon clippers, the guys who have to constantly run down baseball statistics by you even though you never show interest, people who start every sentence with "you know what?" or people who explain things away with "that's just the way it is" or "that's how it has always been". You get the idea.

There is this friend who can not say something that takes 10 words in less than 1000 words. She needs a point of reference for everything. She can not start a conversation without first trying to explain how the idea of that conversation germinated in her head. She calls you, and then explains how an hour ago she thought about calling because she had thought of something, but didn't think it was important enough because when she was a kid she had thought about the same idea. But now that she has thought about it she has decided to call. This whole time you keep waiting for what this special something is that she just spent ten minutes setting up but hasn't got to yet. And then it turns out it's something monumentally insignificant. No matter how often she has been chastised by everyone about her wordiness, she seems to have a psychological need to overexplain the heck out of the most mundane minutia. If she wasn't a good person she'd be the loneliest person in the world because she can be so exhausting to interact with when she is on a roll.

Not only is perfection elusive and overrated, in some cases it's downright undesirable.

sammimills from California, USA on May 31, 2012:

Your hub is interesting! Made me think of things what obsessed me. I'm a little obsessed with shoes! I started collecting after I graduate from college. I buy a pair every time I receive my salary. I think I have to control so it won't lead to totally obsession. :D

Suzie from Carson City on May 31, 2012:

Kelly...My dear weren't kidding when you said you did "some" research!

If this were an assignment, you'd have ACED it with an A-plus! Very explicit and well-organized, Kelly. Your style is perfect for passing on important and factual info in a reader-friendly manner!

I think you should be totally proud of this hub. It is a true gem!! UP +++

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

I do think that it is true. We all have little oddities or quirks as some may call them. If a person didn't - I don't think they would have any personality. I can think of one think that each of my friends does that is unique to them, like one who cleans constantly, some who obsessively collect "things". I know some that are obsessed with their looks - or their yards. My husband is obsessed with work! So yeah, as long as people aren't sabotaging their lives in some way then I think if they recognize it - it is probably a really good thing.

Therapy if someone is really bothered can make the rest of their lives so much happier - so if thoughts haunt someone then yeah I would go to therapy.

Oh I am real - not perfect. I always say perfection is elusive and over-rated. I think I have been conditioned to automatically think "damaged" when I see or hear the word "perfect"!

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on May 31, 2012:

RealHousewife, you're so right. If we're put under the microscope it'll be discovered that there is something wrong with just about everyone. Sure, things like OCD are what I consider clinical and in some cases can make a person dysfunctional without treatment, but I'm sure we're all stricken with some level of it. The old adage says it perfectly: "nobody is perfect".

(And don't anybody go "except me" now!)

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Oh Laurel now hold up! You have enough psychology classes under your belt to know that if you THINK something is wrong with you - there isn't! It's the people that think they are completely normal that we need to look out for:) haha!

Everyone has an obsession - if you didn't - now that wouldn't be normal! lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Whole Foods Lela! Oh yum! There is nothing better than a perfectly grilled burger with aged cheddar...and bacon of course! lol

I bought some olive oil baked crackers and some of the Wisconsin Cheddar & also the Smoked Apple Cheddar. When Dave finishes working late I like to make him a tray of chesse, crackers, olives, some fruit like that. He really enjoys a light snack like that while he tries to watch t.v. and slow down. Of course me too!

I love Whole Foods - I bought ingredients to make my special shephards pie...I know it is a winter dish but I might write a recipe hub. I love it all year.

Hey and thank you so much!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

I do know that feeling too Molometer - I will go deep into a book sometimes hoping the plot thickens but if I am halfway through and not enjoying it - c'est la vie! I put those back on a bookshelf for later.

You did just make me think of something I obsess about though! Every time I finish a book - I have to run to the book store and buy a few more because I am so afraid I will run out of reading material! Forget about the dozens of books I have that I haven't read...! It is weird of me. I guess I can't think of a worse fear huh? haha!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Yep we do Cindy. Everyone has a little of something I think. I think it just boils down to degrees.

Funny isn't it - all the ladies always wish they could be more organized - I am not sure if there is anyone yet who has said they keep things as they wish. So hmmm! lol Are we obsessing because we aren't obsessing? lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

See - I know so many women who will say they can't go to be if there are sished left in the sink! I hate it too but I can ignore it:) lol I just have to make sure they are contained in the sink (not spilling over and rinsed) it happens to me sometimes if I run the dishwasher late - I won't want to unload it and reload before bed.

Oh do tell! Now you have me wondering!

Laurel Rogers from Bishop, Ca on May 31, 2012:

Kelly, there you go again, tapping into my worst fears. You rat! ;) I'm sure I'm not obsessive, but then folks like you make me reinvestigate my self and...Oh, NO! I know I am a nut, I know I'm a nut, and then, I really know I'm a nut.

Happy now, girly???



Lela from Somewhere near the heart of Texas on May 31, 2012:

I could get obsessive over all the comments you get on your great hubs! Takes forever to read the hub and then all those comments....

Another winner, Kel - and what kind of cheese and crackers were they?

Micheal from United Kingdom on May 31, 2012:

I know what you mean. I have read some real stinkers in the past, but I just have to finish them. Guess I am an optimist, hoping they will somehow morph, into something, sometime. When they do not, I chalk it up to experience. lol

I think I just do not want to miss out, if it suddenly improves. :)

Cindy Murdoch from Texas on May 31, 2012:

Very nice hub! I wish I was more obsessed with keeping the house clean, and with controlling my diet ... but I'm not. I also have to finish a book that I start reading like molometer does. We all have them ...

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Molometer - I actually get crabby if I haven't read a book in a while. I don't have to finish them if they bore me though - I just toss them by the wayside. I think the opposite though - it isn't a good thing! lol I wish I could stick to the end more frequently. I just finished reading Gone - wish I wouldn't have on that one! lol

Susan Zutautas from Ontario, Canada on May 31, 2012:

RH, Dishes in the sink ... okay you got me. That drives me crazy. The Vaseline .. I would have cried too. That reminds me of ... never mind I'll tell you about it later :)

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Oh I can't wait for Drbj to come into the fold! lol I do worry about bad things happening too. I always think of that quote "an ounce of prevention..."

I think my worst obsession is when I am in the car with my husband - I am always trying to control the way he drives even though I know I drive the same way. I am always looking at the road ahead and thinking I need to help him fend of disaster:) lol I know there is a reason why - I just don't know WHAT it is yet!

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on May 31, 2012:

Dang! I wish my obsessiveness took some form of cleanliness instead of being a worry wart like cclitgirl. I'm very messy, actually, but I worry about bad things happening all the time. Obsessive thoughts but no obsessive cleaning!

Micheal from United Kingdom on May 31, 2012:

I can understand that woman's perspective. I see TV as a form of sleep too lol I really cannot watch TV without nodding off :)

I'll stick to reading ha ha .

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Hi mommiegee - thank you so much for the read, votes and comment! As I said earlier - I really think we are all made up of lots of interesting bits of personality disorders:) lol I think excess is always the worst!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

That is interesting Ron Hawkster - and now I do wonder if it is involved with a nature/nurture issue. Drbj is an excellent psychologist - she usually visits me so I hope she can answer that for us maybe?

I do know more females that have OCD - my mom for instance. I could go to her house and eat from the floor and I am sure it is completely sanitary:) lol She is a nurse and step dad is a doctor so I always wondered if it is tied into the occupation maybe. Last time my step dad was here he told me to get rid of one of my ceramic cups because it had a crack in it and cracks harbor germs. hmmmm! lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Me too Cclitgirl - I do wish I was cleaner all the time. It doesn't keep me up at night though. I have a habit of doing a quick run through the kitchen about 2am. I clean up the scraps left from the evening usually so i don't have to wake up to anything.

I worry about a lot of things. Actually people make fun of me for that! I used to be lots worse when the 23 year old was little. If she was running down the street - I would have a premonition of her tripping, falling and a car coming out of nowhere and running her over. By the time she got to the end of the street under my watchful eye - I'd already have her dead and buried! omg!

I am not AS bad with the 10 & 12 year old but I chalk it up to experience. Friends still think I am really strict with them because I don't let them spend the night hardly anywhere (only if I know the parents and have had them checked out! lol) I do think I have a good basis for it though and when I ask myself if I am being TOO careful? uh uh!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Susan - I really seem to only be obsessed with floors. I know you notice it:) lol I don't know why but oh well they do need to be clean. Oh I don't like any dishes in my sink either but I absolutely can go to bed and forget about that! lol

I never ever feel like my house is clean enough and it has gotten much easier because the kids are bigger. Not only do they not make such horrific messes but I pay them to help me:) haha!

Did I ever tell you about what I call the "vaseline massacre?" I came home from work at 7 am after a terrible night and little Sydney had gotten the huge 10 pound tub of Vaseline out from under the sofa (for quick diaper change purposes) and she threw it in glops and huge hunks all over the living room. She was about 2. I remember standing there crying! omg! It was everywhere! The windows, the sofa and I mean smeared!

Dave found me crying quietly in the doorway and helped he felt so bad for me:) haha!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Hi Ron Hawkster - I busted a gut reading the term "the nerves" ! LOL I do remember when people would get cursed by a case of the nerves!

I think you are so right though - treatment can be so great for those who are really plagued by obsessive thoughts. I think about all the time lost on stuff that doesn't really matter and how some people really suffer for it. Those are the folks who could be made so much happier by addressing the problems. It really can be so destructive people sabotage their relationships. I often wonder if that is fear of intimacy?

Thanks for the great comment!

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Thank you Molometer! I suppose that is a kind of obsession but certainly doesn't sound like a real bad one:) lol I mean that is probably why you are so smart so if it is deemed obsessive at least you get a benefit! haha!

I worked with a woman at the sleep lab who was exactly like that but her curse was movies. It is really hard to sleep day shifts and she would flip on the television when she got home and get stuck watching the dumbest movies. She had to finish them too. She even said, "it doesn't matter how stupid it is, I have to finish watching it!" lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Hi Kelley - I really think that most of us are a little bit of many things. I can be obsessive - and yes compulsive too. It isn't enough to really cause me problems so I can live with it.

I think the main thing is that people that are made unhappy by thoughts that they can't control are those that could really benefit from therapy. It is so hard to be objective about our "self" sometimes so a reality check is always good! lol

Thank you so much!

Mommiegee from Alabama on May 31, 2012:

Very gread hub! Voted up. I think I may be both depending on the situation. Very great read. voted up

kelleyward on May 31, 2012:

This is a great hub Kelly! I admit I can be obsessive and compulsive at times but I've taken the quiz and it's not enough to get me diagnosed with OCD. I have the ability to hyperfocus which can be good and also not so helpful in certain situations! Loved this! Voted up, useful and awesome! Take care, Kelley

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on May 31, 2012:

My other observation is purely empirical and I have no idea whether it's backed by science or not. Like everyone else, there people around me who suffer from various degrees of obsessive behavior. While it's not exclusive to one gender, the vast majority of those are women. Not only that, the degree of the symptom is greater among women. And in all but one of the cases that's clearly and in some cases admittedly OCD, the sufferer is a woman. I wonder if it has something to do with the nature of thing, biological factors, or if it's the result of environmental ones.

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on May 31, 2012:

I'm with Vicki. Cleaning? I don't obsess over that. I wish I had more of that in me. Worrying about bad things that are going to happen? Oh man, you just dialed my number. I think about driving in my car every day, or someone breaking into the house at night, or getting abducted when I go for a run, getting hit by a car on my bike (which HAS happened to me, actually). I wish I could just worry less. I inherited worry-wortism from my mom, I think. I'll have to think about which quiz most applies to me and try that. :)

Susan Zutautas from Ontario, Canada on May 31, 2012:

There was a time when I was obsessed with cleaning. Then once the kids got older and messier I gave up that obsession. But I did go and take the quiz before coming back to comment. I answered no to all the questions. So I suppose I passed :)

Fun hub!

Ron Hawkster from United States of America on May 31, 2012:

We currently bundle too many things under the umbrella of obsessiveness, just like 100 years ago they had a generic name for just about all psychological issues (such as calling them "the nerves"). The more we find out the more we realize they are not all the same. There uncontrollable thoughts and behaviors that are the result of faulty brain wiring and genetic causes, there are those that as you point out are anxiety driven, or those that are the result of upbringing. You sum up an important component quite well here:

"Sometimes obsessions fuel the behaviors that offer a sense of control to an otherwise chaotic life."

And perhaps that's the most treatable and yet prevalent and destructive form. That's what ruins so many relationships, when couples for instance, eternally battle to control each other's behaviors and personalities.

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Hi Vicki- oh girl I'm obsessed all the time. Now my obsessions end when I've actually gotten what I want. I mention it in the comment above too. I just don't think I want a cure if its abnormal because I think I get a lot done because of it!

Right now - I'm obsessing because I'm upstairs and the floors are dirty down stairs, I can't stoo thinking about it and I won't until they are cleaned up. Now I'm not super neat either - there are just certain things that bug me. I do want clean floors though! Lol. Omg! I mean what if someone came over and saw them with footprints all over?? Horror! Lol

See what I mean? Yeah I'm going right now to clean those floors! Haha!

Micheal from United Kingdom on May 31, 2012:

What a fascinating read, I didn't take the tests but will come back and give them all a go. I have a little compulsion when reading books. I cannot stop reading a book, even if it is awful. I have to read it all. I always hope that it is going to improve.

I have this mentality of. ' I started so I just have to finish!'

Fortunately I tend to choose good books. Although I have had a few doozies.

Voted up interesting and useful.

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Stacy - I am obsessed with lots of stuff. Typically I will just cater to the obsession until I've satisfied my whatever need. Like right now - I'm obsessed with buying a piece of property and I know I'll keep on looking until I have bought it. So I'm not sure how bad it is considering mine tend to fade. And besides I wouldn't want to procrastinate now would I?? Lol

Kelly Umphenour (author) from St. Louis, MO on May 31, 2012:

Hey Thomas - the only thing I'm really obsessed with is writing. I think about it all the time. It doesn't really cause me to do anything differently - except spend hours researching and rearranging words. I don't have a problem! Haha!

Seriously - I think in sentence form. I may be walking through a store and see a beautiful package of seven year old cheese and think, "the aged cheddar sat waiting for me to pair it with the perfect cracker.". Then I buy them both! Ha!

Maybe I'm in denial - I can't decide!

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on May 31, 2012:

Great hub, girl. I didn't like the quiz, though. LOL. I'm a bit more obsessive than I'd like to be. I wish I had the cleaning part of obsessive, but I don't. I have the worrying part about bad things happening. Alas! Interesting hub, though. Made me think! Many votes and sharing!

Stacy Harris from Hemet, Ca on May 31, 2012:

Ahhh... I am happy to say I must not have a true disorder. After all, I recognize my obsessions. I am a little obsessessed with my workouts and I am always obsessively cleaning too - I guess I like to be able to control things around me! :) What a fun hub!

ThoughtSandwiches from Reno, Nevada on May 31, 2012:


I am now somewhat obsessed by the amount of deep seated obsessions I might have. It would answer seven questions that have been plaguing my thoughts...above and beyond the normal "sex, power, fame, and riches" stuff.

Damn you for making me be introspective and shit! lol.

OK...I'm off to take the quiz!


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