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Top 11 Tips to Happiness

Mary loves discovering new things and enjoys sharing these ideas with readers through her articles.



You Deserve to be Happy

Have you ever looked at people around you and wondered why they are so happy? What is their secret? What do they know that you don't know? They don't have a better house or car than you, why are they more content with their lives than you are?

Does it feel as if you are constantly walking under a grey cloud?

Life doesn't need to be like that. You can choose your mood. Why choose to make yourself feel so unhappy. You deserve to be happy. Don't look to someone else to do that, happiness starts from within.

1. Be Kind to Someone

Being kind to people is easy and is one of the best ways to increase your own level of happiness. You probably have the opportunity several times a day. Here are a few examples.

  • Hold the door open for someone.
  • Offer to reach something for an elderly person at a grocery store.
  • Let someone go ahead of you in line.
  • Ask a neighbor that doesn't drive if they need a lift.

There are so many opportunities to help that will mean so much to someone else. These simple acts of kindness will also start to have an impact on you. The feeling of helping others and making a difference to someone is one of the best ways to increase your happiness levels.

Contact Friends and family

Contact Friends and family

2. Contact Friends and Family

Sometimes it is easy to let too much time go by without contacting those we care about.

Relationships are good for your health. People with strong relationships are more likely to live longer. These can be with a partner, children, or friends.

Visit, call, or email them and arrange to meet up. Enjoy their company and laugh and you'll start to feel that grey cloud lifting.The boost of happiness is waiting for you, contact your friends and family now.

3. Smile

It is amazing how happy you will become by smiling. It is easy to do. Try it now.

If you are feeling low at the moment, it may feel awkward to smile at nothing but try it. Now try smiling at someone else. Guess what, they'll smile back. It is this interaction , even if it is with someone you don't know that will start the serotonin flowing and give you a sense of happiness and well being. Phyllis Diller said it well.

"A smile is a curve that sets everything straight."

4. Practice Gratitude

It is difficult to see the things you have to be grateful about at times. Still, try every day to list 3 things which happened during the day for which you are grateful. This doesn't have to be big things, it could be something such as finding a close parking space.

The object of doing this is it trains your mind to notice the positive things in your life.

We are what we think we are and if you think you are fortunate enough to receive these blessings you will receive more.

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5. Exercise for Happiness

If the thought of exercise feels you with dread, ask yourself why.

What is it that you don't like? Is it the crowded gym full of posing sweating people? Or do you hate the idea of going for a jog or a walk by yourself? Exercise can be what you want it to be.

If you prefer to go to a gym or exercise to a video at home, that is okay. Just get that body moving. People who exercise are less likely to be depressed. Keep at it and soon you will be looking forward to it.

I personally found the best time for me, was early morning. I would get out of bed and before I could begin another task, I'd go to the gym.

Enjoy Simple Pleasures

Enjoy Simple Pleasures

6. Stop and Smell the Roses

Lessen your hectic lifestyle, learn to slow down and appreciate how much beauty your world has in it. If you are constantly busying yourself doing mindless tasks, you will never be happy. Take time out, calm down and enjoy life.

Often we have to look at children to realize how to enjoy life and have fun again. If you ever watch kids play, they have happiness figured out. They run and play without worries or pre-planning.

Take time out for yourself and don't think that you could be spending your time better.

An investment in YOU is a great use of your time.

7. Forgive People

If you are harboring feelings of a failed relationship, be it a marriage or a friendship, move on. It will eat away at you. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Stop allowing yourself to think of the other person, nothing good will come of it. An ending of a relationship produces the same feelings of grief experienced when someone dies. It is the death of a relationship.

It isn't easy but when you come out of the other side, you will look back and think you spent too long worrying about things you couldn't change. If you can genuinely wish only good things for the other person and yourself and go your separate ways you will start the process of healing.

Many people get stuck in a cycle of blame from which they won't allow themselves to emerge, it affects not only their lives but those around them. Perhaps they feel it is easier to blame someone else for their shortcomings than to reclaim their own life. It may not be your fault that something bad happened to you, but it is your responsibility to live your life to its fullest. You don't get a second chance.


8. Set Goals

Decide to set goals. I am not referring to the goals for today. Think long term goals, 5 years, 1 year, 6 months and next month.

Make these goals tangible and stick to them. People work better when they have a plan. Without a goal, target, or purpose you are just a ship bobbing around aimlessly in very large ocean.

Commit, plan, act.

9. Be Optimistic

Every morning when you wake, you have the opportunity to choose how you are going to feel. Are you going to go around like a bear with a sore head or are you going to be optimistic, put a smile on your face, and go out and shout to the world, "Come on!"

You can be your own cheering squad or your own lead weight, the decision is yours. I know which I'd choose.

How happy are you?

10. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

If you compare yourself to other people, you may feel like an under-achiever which will make you unhappy. There will always be people with more money, better looking, or a better career. This is a toxic situation to put yourself in. You don't know what struggles other people have been through or are currently dealing with. Their problems may be worse than yours. Never compare yourself to others, it will suck the joy out of you.

The only person you should compare yourself to is your younger self. You will see how far you have come.

11. Money Worries

If one of the reasons you are feeling depressed is because of debt, it is imperative that you get control of this issue and sort it. Feeling bad about money worries is counter productive. The only way to tackle these issues is head on.

© 2012 Mary Wickison


Ann Carr from SW England on August 04, 2012:

You never know 'til you try! Will read some more soon. Ann

Mary Wickison (author) from USA on August 04, 2012:

I was only joking about the rally driving. I love watching it, it is so exciting! The fact is, people laugh at my driving saying I drive too slowly. I drive more cautiously when I have passengers. When I am alone in my beach buggy, I once again enjoy driving (except for the Brazilian potholes). I love the thought that I could be one . I will have to be an armchair rally driver. :-)

Mary Wickison (author) from USA on August 04, 2012:

Hello Ann,

Firstly thank you for your comment. I always try and wake with a positive attitude. It is easy to get sucked into negativeness which of course, we see in many people, sometimes even those that are close to us. I love the feeling of thinking anything is possible and the saying, "Don't wish things were easier, wish you were better. Jim Rohn said this and many more wonderful positive sayings.

Thank you once again for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment.

Ann Carr from SW England on August 04, 2012:

Also meant to say that if you wannabe a rally driver, go for it girl! I used to do some and it was such great fun. I still love driving and love the open, winding road with the music blaring and the wind blowing through my hair! Sadly I no longer do the rally part but I've been there and it's a great memory. Ann

Ann Carr from SW England on August 04, 2012:

Great ideas! I think some people find starting off difficult then they realise that once you smile, once you take the plunge to do something, then the snowball effect begins! I like your optimism. Especially like the idea that you should only compare yourself to your own younger self - great advice. By the way, I've finally put together the 'extra days off' ideas! Voted up, useful & shared. Ann

Mary Wickison (author) from USA on May 20, 2012:

Hi Lipnancy,

You should write one, if you have had these experiences, you can put your own slant on it. Also I have never read The Secret but I have heard many good things about it. You could even write a review of that book/DVD and how it has changed your life.

Wow, there are two hub ideas for you. I can't wait to read them.

Nancy Yager from Hamburg, New York on May 20, 2012:

I struggled with all of these things for most of my adult life, in fact I am considering writing a hub like yours. Then Boom, just like the Secret (Book and DVD) says, it is just amazingly manifested in your life.

Mary Wickison (author) from USA on May 20, 2012:

Hello Eric,

Getting control of your financial situation is extremely important. The stress that can put a person under is immense. Setting a target keeps you heading in the right direction and short term goals act as markers along the way.

I too am a daily list maker. No more than 5 things on my list. If one doesn't get accomplished it rolls over to the next day at the top of the list. I found it amazing how much you can get done when you have a list.

Thanks for stopping by.

Mary Wickison (author) from USA on May 20, 2012:

Hello Teaches12345,

You are correct, forgiveness isn't easy and yet it is so important. I have seen people in their 60's very bitter about past events. Instead of moving ahead, they blame the other person for holding them back when in actual fact, it is themselves using this as an excuse.

Dianna Mendez on May 19, 2012:

I find that forgiveness is one area that many people have trouble releasing and they suffer as a result. They can't seem to find happiness in some aspects of life. Your suggestions are excellent and will help others to find what makes them happy.

Eric Calderwood from USA on May 19, 2012:

Money troubles get a lot of people depressed. It is also very hard not to think about when you know that bills are due. That is one of my major stresses that affects my mood. But, like you suggest in your hub, I have a set of goals to work toward. I also keep a running To Do list from day to day so I don't miss out on an important task that will help me complete those goals. This does give me a sense of control in my life.

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