Kaitlyn has a background in psychology and writes articles that teach you how to lean on your body, mind, heart, and on those around you.
None of us are perfect, and we’ve all made mistakes at some point in our lives. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t strive to be better. To reach your full potential in life, it’s best to keep working on improving yourself. Whether it’s through self-discovery, expanding your horizons, getting out of your comfort zone, or taking better care of yourself, becoming a better person is a journey that has to start within yourself.
Here are ten habits you should start integrating into your everyday life to become a better version of you.
Poll: You and Your Bad Habits
1. Don't Make Excuses
It’s easy to blame someone else for all the bad things that happen to you, but pointing fingers won’t fix your problems, make you happier, or more successful. It’s okay to fail as long as you pick yourself up and learn from the failure. When you learn to take responsibility for your mistakes, you’re making the first step to evolving into a better person and improving your relationships with other people.
2. Find Things You Like About Yourself
Make it part of your morning routine to take a few minutes to find something you like about yourself. Whether it’s looking great in your outfit, new haircut, or congratulating yourself for accomplishing something, giving yourself a confidence boost every day will establish a baseline of happiness that’ll translate into everything you do during the day.
3. Forget Anger
This one is easier said than done, but anger doesn’t hurt anyone but yourself. When anger starts to fester, your physical and mental health will suffer. Research finds that chronic anger can cause health problems commonly associated with chronic stress like stomach problems, sleeping difficulties, and heart disease.
So find ways to release your anger. Write your feelings down in a journal, meditate, or join a gym. A clear mind will keep you moving forward instead of getting stuck in a cycle of rumination.
4. Be Honest
Most of us have been lied to before. How did it make you feel? If you don’t like being betrayed or misunderstood, then don’t betray other people who trust you. If you want to be a better person in your professional and personal life, always tell the truth and be clear about your intentions. Practice your communication skills and learn to express your thoughts and feelings as honestly and clearly as possible.
Just like letting go of anger, learning to forgive others will free you from all the negative energy that may come from lingering resentments. Write down everything you’ve gained and learned from your suffering, then make a conscious intention to forgive whoever or whatever has caused that suffering.
6. Random Acts of Kindness
Helping other people might only take a few minutes of your time, but many of us don’t do it often enough. So practice getting into a helpful mindset every day. Give your seat up to an elderly person on the bus, hold the door open for people, offer to help carry some groceries up a flight of stairs, or even help a colleague with a project. The more you help other people, the easier it gets, the better you’ll feel about yourself, and the happier you’ll become.
7. Be Respectful
How would you feel if someone took your most prized possession and used it as a door stopper? You may feel like they don’t care enough about you to respect your values. So don’t make other people feel the same way. Don’t throw used water bottles or cigarette butts onto the ground just because you know someone will clean up after you. Similarly, respect other people’s boundaries, time, ideas, values, feelings, lifestyles. You don’t have to agree with everything, but people have the right to live and think how they want, so you should respect that just as you’d want others to do the same for you.
While it’s important to be able to talk about yourself and communicate your ideas to others, listening to other people will allow you to empathize more with others and understand more about the world outside of your own. You’ll get to meet some great people and develop new life-long connections just by lending them an ear.
9. Keep Your Promises
Take a moment to reflect. How often do you follow through with your promises? Many of us don’t take our promises as seriously as we should. We promise to call and then don’t; we promise to meet up, but then make excuses to avoid scheduling a lunch date. The problem with making empty promises is that you may start to make excuses for yourself as well, which will ultimately cause you to unwittingly sabotage your goals.
So keep your promises, and do what you say you’re going to do. When you’re known as someone who always keeps their word, you’ll become a role model and grow to become a better, more confident person who has nothing to hide.
10. Never Stop Learning
If there’s something you don’t understand about an idea, a culture, or a belief, hold off on making a judgment. Take the time to educate yourself about it first. Staying ignorant is easy and can feel more comfortable, but remember that being knowledgeable about different people, cultures, and learning about how others live their lives will help you grow into a more open-minded and well-rounded person.
Poll: Following Through
First, Become More Self-Aware
But before you start on the journey to becoming a better person, you need to have a thorough understanding about where you stand right now. Here are some questions to help you establish your starting point.
- Does my everyday routine reflect what I want to achieve in the future?
- If I could go back in time five years, knowing what I know about who I am today, what would I do differently?
- What do the things I want in others tell me about what I want to achieve?
- What do I do to avoid feeling uncomfortable?
- How did I get through some of my most painful experiences?
- What acts of kindness could I integrate into my life?
- How do I usually release my anger? Have I hurt anyone while doing so?
- What would it take to solve my own problems?
- What are some things you do to sabotage yourself?
- What did the people who have hurt you in the past teach you?
© 2018 KV Lo
Mohan Babu from Chennai, India on January 04, 2019:
You have stressed the importance of character beautifully and explained how to cultivate the same by practicing healthy habits. I am in agreement on all the ten healthy habits though I have more work to do on anger management. Great work K.V. Lo.
Poppy from Enoshima, Japan on November 03, 2018:
It is always important to strive to be a better person. These tips can not only help us be nicer but also help us to achieve what we need to in the future. It can be easy to fall into bad habits and be lazy, but with some discipline, we can transform our lives. Thank you for this information.
Ruby Alkuino on October 05, 2018:
Thanks for these tips, I have yet to evaluate my bad habits maybe I'm just too afraid to acknowledge them as it may seem counterintuitive in moving forward. But I know it's not a good thing.