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Could've, Would've, Should've...Didn't - Overcoming Doubts, Mistakes, and Living Life Without Regrets

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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stressed; I write.

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Years ago, “Two Guys” with different personalities contributed to what I am writing. But by far the most significant part of what I am sharing and will address the most on many of the pages is not to get back at the guy. It’s more to assist women who had been through something similar.

I am sharing my experience with hope women who had been through something similar would be inspired by my story and not give up on love, because despite how much pain they’ve been through, there’s always a special guy out there who will find them, waiting to help, and heal all the hurt they experienced.

The guy who broke my heart used to be so dear to me. I learned sometimes you meet ‘Mr. Wrong,’ but the dating world is so full of mismatched people that it can often feel as though we’re eternally cursed to always draw Loser.

But, when you come in contact with the guy who treats you well, respects you, protects you and loves you. He will help you understand. Love is like a fire on a rainy day and perfect for cuddling up with a warm blanket that soothes the soul, the music inside waiting to come out.

After we broke up instead of moving forward with my life, I had to take two months to collect the shattered pieces of what remains of my life. He entered my life making me believe he would be one who would love me, be by my side and support me no matter what happens or where ever our love guides us. However, I was left coasting along with would’ve, should’ve, couldn’t...didn’t.

When I first meet you, you put up a good front. However, it didn’t take me long to learn you were the person who is used to getting by and a person who feels as long as things go your way that all matters. Some love last, but what I had to deal with, is the pain that comes after a breakup.

When you enter my life and charm me with lies, I loved you more than you say you love me, but once the blinders fell from my eyes and the real you were standing in front of me. I walk away because settling for mediocre love isn’t something I am will do.

I will not continue a love that leaves me vulnerable, nor will I fool myself that you can change, not even to feel amazing, the way you used to make me feel. Much as I loved your words and the way they made me feel. I refuse to spend all my time protecting, maintaining, tending something that guarantees to end.

The journey we traveled together was difficult to select my next destination. The road was bumpy because of the many challenges we encountered. It didn’t happen overnight but; I realized that all journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler can't understand. I am grateful the scenic journey of today can begin because I learn to let go of the pain and hurt. Now I am no longer left with could’ve, would’ve, shouldn’t, and didn’t.

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I don’t have the words to describe the fool I felt I had been, or can’t express the pain I experience from your hands. The promise you made never to hurt or mistreat me were just talks, and words I’ve should have chosen not to believe.

I can remember the last words we shared, and how you were too reluctant to say “I’m sorry,” or admit “I made a mistake. ” when you’ve known the way you treated me were wrong.

The hurt I felt, and the ache in my heart experience was like a deep rose throne cut where I bleed continually. Although you tried to justify your wrong, one thing is obvious; If you are sorry about something you said or done, it would be easy to say, ‘Sorry” and apologize to a person you gave pain.

Furthermore, for the longest time, I’ve ventured along this broken road in concerns, couldn’t prevent my mind from thinking, what could’ve, would’ve, shouldn’t...didn’t happen.

For several months, regardless of the path, I’ve journeyed, and no matter what difficulties I have gone through along the way, I was further reminded of you. However, as the years passed, I’ve replaced my unpleasant experience with brand new ones, focused on bettering myself, and building countless adventures.

Along the way, as I live my life, I know each day will pull me in different directions, as I continue to move forward, I will be introduced to new people, each person will give me an entirely new perspective, memories and a voyage of findings.

On this journey, I would gain the essence that will give my heart every reason to fly regularly again. I’ll lose my basis for thinking could’ve, would’ve, shouldn’t but didn’

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Several months after feeling down and contemplating on my huge mistake, I made peace with my horrible past. And to do that I had to let the thought of you go, to forgive you and most of all myself.

I met someone new, and I have stopped thinking of all the love we could’ve, would’ve, should’ve had but didn’t. Someone who “understands” me and is available for me. Someone who is opposed to the way you used to be. A guy who doesn’t believe in using others and assist me in conquering any and everything — one who will stand by my side and love me no matter where our journey takes us.

When I first met him, it was hard for me to trust him. I had to make sure; He was not the guy who would come into my life to use and abuse, leaving me dull and hurt before making a quick departure.

So, I spent months revealing any and everything about Him and all the interests He admires. As we slowly dated, the first thing I learn was He found me attractive and, I felt comfortable with Him now he occupied my thoughts, and have given me a reason to love again — more in-depth than I have ever imagined.

He’s the guy that gave me a foundation to feel at ease, to build a relationship with, and it feels magical. Besides, our love is something I will continue growing my life around.

With Him, I was not given could’ve, would’ve, shouldn’t...didn’t, it turned into ‘better,’ ‘can work’ and everything fixed. No more could’ve, would’ve, should’ve...didn’t – I learn how to overcome doubts, mistakes, and start living life with no regrets.

Would've, Should've, Could've, But Didn't - Overcoming Doubts, Mistakes, and Living Life Without Regrets.

What Kind Of Decision Maker Are You, quiz? Try out my little quiz to distinguish what kind of Decision Maker you are. This quiz is just for fun, enjoy and thank

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. When you make a decision, which one do you think is more important?
    • How your decision will affect you now
    • How your decision will affect you in the future
    • What your friends will say
  2. Do your friends generally approach you when they need help to make a crucial decision?
    • Not usually
    • Yes, because your friends generally come to you for advice all the time
    • Never but you will approach them
  3. What do you generally base your decisions on?
    • Your gut feeling
    • Emotions and feelings
    • Logic and facts
  4. Do you get nervous very easily?
    • No, you have trained yourself to keep your cool
    • Yes you do. No you don't
    • You have a habit of getting nervous in tense situations
  5. How often do you find yourself regretting a decision that you previously made?
    • Not often, but you regularly have regrets and think about all the wrong decisions that you've made in your life
    • Never, you always make the right choice
    • Always

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. When you make a decision, which one do you think is more important?
    • How your decision will affect you now: +0 points
    • How your decision will affect you in the future: +0 points
    • What your friends will say: +0 points
  2. Do your friends generally approach you when they need help to make a crucial decision?
    • Not usually: +0 points
    • Yes, because your friends generally come to you for advice all the time: +0 points
    • Never but you will approach them: +0 points
  3. What do you generally base your decisions on?
    • Your gut feeling: +0 points
    • Emotions and feelings: +0 points
    • Logic and facts: +0 points
  4. Do you get nervous very easily?
    • No, you have trained yourself to keep your cool: +0 points
    • Yes you do. No you don't: +0 points
    • You have a habit of getting nervous in tense situations: +0 points
  5. How often do you find yourself regretting a decision that you previously made?
    • Not often, but you regularly have regrets and think about all the wrong decisions that you've made in your life: +0 points
    • Never, you always make the right choice: +0 points
    • Always: +0 points

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