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Will your Relationship Survive the Pandemic

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The Pandemic and Relationships issues

Will your Relationship Survive the new normal?

Have you experienced boredom, too much time together, mental health problems, family issues, many disagreements and most of all, the financial stress that is causing more of the problems at home? Job losses have caused many couples to separate. Whether you are having issues in your relationship which in some relationships can be normal.

If you are not able to cope with your standard relationship how could you cope with your relationship during a pandemic as this one?

You need to understand the rhythm that no two relationships are managed in the same way. If you are the type who lives by keeping everything inside rather than talk about it you will make yourself ill.

You are hurting yourself and nobody else and emotions are free flowing when you talk about your problematic relationship. When life gets tough to keep on the same moods, sort it out and control your emotions.

It is a hard time, difficult to understand and more stressful for many couples out there. Your significant other is exhausted working daily while you are home without a job. This affects everyone, but in different ways.

However, you choose to handle the problem your partner has had enough of isolation, and not being able to have friends over to the house.

Weeks pass by and you are stuck at home with each other and frustration is becoming a part of your lifestyle, this is not getting any better if you choose to behave in a cold manner toward your partner.

Day after day spent at home can make couples go insane.

The sense of time gets lost and as much as you want to spend time with your partner you feel this is it. You are not able to look each other in the eyes anymore. There is too much to cope with and not enough space between you.

Everything you have done together seems a distance. Maintain your routine and encourage your partner to move on each day with a positive mind. Be responsible for your well-being and health during this awkward time.

Sleep well and chat about life to not avoid one another through the pandemic. Everyone is affected with the ups and downs of the virus. It is easy to ignore what is going around you, but you can’t run away from the problem. Face it together and do what works best for you or both of you.

Eat well, and maintain your routine of exercising and take breaks for a walk. If you live in the city, arrange walks in the park. Partners need to support each other and going against each other won’t make the situation any better than it is.

Set boundaries if you are working from home.

At such times, you can forget how much you need to be helpful at home and work more hours than you should have. Stressful times increase the use of substances, such as drugs and this you don’t want to get into for your own safety. Stay away from what will change your life for the worse and forever.

You tend to have more alcohol drinks and smoke cigarettes more, also you become an addict and it is not far from making that you go to feeling. Depression is another negative when you feel down and out.

Disorders creep up and you become a different person. Be together and go outside together to have that bond you once had and to take care of each other.

Connect and reconnect and be positive.

Do whatever it takes to remain sane and be together no matter what the issue is in your life right now. Couples may see themselves as new to each other that doesn’t mean you should ignore your closeness. After all the Pandemic brought most couples together again.

Keep children occupied and keep yourselves occupied as well. Play board games, cards or chat like you never did before. The overwhelming stress can destroy families and that is what you do not want in your lives.

Sometimes it can all feel impossible to share the chores and do the work with a smile. Emotions can run wild with different behaviors. The key to a good relationship is an understanding you share between you.

Plan in advance and ensure that you have time for you and your partner. Home life is different than was in the past and has changed in a year, which you had no idea of. However, you see the changes remember you also complained at one time you had no time with family or with your partner.

You live under the same roof and have to love it.

Distance yourselves from other people and remain close with your kids and partners. This will get you to see who and what matters more to you. Use networks to keep your communication with friends. Plan a new event with your kids and partners to survive in this time.

Make special meals for one another to cope with an unhappy day. Most important, enjoy each day and avoid what makes you feel sad. Work through how you feel, and through painful moments.

Violence in relationships is on the rise due to the changes pandemic lifestyle. There are cases of partners becoming violent, or abusive with one another. Anger builds up and couples tend to physical abuse their partners.

A crisis in the relationship can cause negative issues to happen to your partner and you can become a very sad person. Couples spending apart during the pandemic feel lonely, frustrated they lose respect, and connection with one another.

All of these causes a strain to a relationship.

Take a step back and see what you are doing that isn’t working for your partner. So be patient and be willing to work out whatever is on your mind. On some days it feels like this pandemic won’t go away. All you need is time and to work out what is best for you.

Always speak to someone about your issues to make you feel lighter and happier with your family.

Some couples shut down when in isolation, the situation doesn’t give me the benefit to keep their conversations going in such times. No matter how you feel you need to encourage others and yourself to move past this era.

All three, solitude, isolation and loneliness has different meanings.

  • Being alone is when you are by yourself, that is solitude.
  • Isolation is when you do not have a social lifestyle, emotionally or in relationships.
  • Loneliness is when you want that social lifestyle, but you feel a sort of emptiness.

You often feel this way in all three, but in a pandemic you feel worse about everything in your life. The constant worry about family, friends and about yourself will make feel depressed.

What is not in your control you can't change it. A few couples are doing fine having to spend all day with their partners, while others are looking for separate places.

Do you blame the Pandemic for the problems in your relationship?

How is your Relationship affected by the Pandemic?

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Relationships in a Pandemic

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Devika Primić

Comments

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 17, 2021:

Hi David good to hear from you and thank you very much. Keep safe.

david from kansas on February 17, 2021:

Well most problems are meant to be voiced as keeping some hard confusing emotions might become complicated when taking actions life always gets though its how you handle it and prepare that determines the outcome

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 16, 2021:

Ravi Rajan So glad you came by here. Relationships become tougher to cope with in such times.Thank you and keep safe

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 16, 2021:

Thank you for all comments.

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on February 16, 2021:

Interesting analysis here Devika. The pandemic, while one hand has brought couples together by giving them more time together, it has also exposed the chinks in the armor of perfect couples who used to believe that they are perfectly compatible with each other.

The best way is to use the closeness brought by the pandemic to work on the deficiencies and make the relationship stronger withstanding the brutal test of time.

Thanks for sharing.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 16, 2021:

Mary Norton thank you for sharing your views here. I too hope this is over soon.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on February 15, 2021:

This pandemic is indeed a challenge. I live alone now so I only have to deal with my own issues. It is hard to have a family especially when kids are not in school. Hope this will not last too long.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 14, 2021:

Hi Peggy W True about getting the vaccines agree on having it and to lower the cases, it is interesting to know that there are couples who are surviving this ordeal rather than walking away from each other at he worst of times. Thank you very much for sharing your views.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on February 13, 2021:

Any kind of stress can draw a couple closer or have the opposite effect. We do miss being able to socialize with our friends, but other than that, we are surviving the pandemic. I'll be happy when we can get the vaccines, and others can also get vaccinated.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 13, 2021:

FlourishAnyway Thank you for stopping by, I appreciate your kind comments. Relationships can be troubled by any crisis and if a couple can cope with their issues this one shouldn't be any different. After all, for all times together explains that of a relationship.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 13, 2021:

Chitrangada Sharan Thank you for sharing your views here. That is true ''I believe, that if the relationship is based on true mutual understanding, there shouldn’t be any problem.''

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 13, 2021:

gyanendra mocktan Thank you and you mention good points here. I totally agree with your valuable comment.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 13, 2021:

MG Singh emge Thank you for stopping by, I have missed your hubs but will try to catch up on comments. I appreciate you time.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 13, 2021:

Hi Bill good to have you stop by it is however a problem for many couples and happy for you to be going as strong as ever. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 13, 2021:

Hi Pamela thank you for very much for commenting here. I am glad you found my hub interesting. Take care and keep safe.

FlourishAnyway from USA on February 13, 2021:

I know of some relationships that have ended during the pandemic (or the partners wish they could call it quits). Not here. I'm glad we have a big house, stable financial situation, and my husband and I aren't together 24/7. We also genuinely like one another.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on February 13, 2021:

Nice article about the relationship issues. I believe, that if the relationship is based on true mutual understanding, there shouldn’t be any problem, pandemic or otherwise. But, we have been hearing cases, in which the couple have developed some issues. Crisis like situations are the real test, about how strong the relationship is.

Thank you for sharing this thoughtful article.

gyanendra mocktan from Kathmandu,Nepal on February 13, 2021:

Devikaji, You have well covered the relationship issues.

As for me this pandemic helped me to see myself first. Where did I go wrong, not my wife and son. I am responsible. For they are not a demanding type personality.

MG Singh emge from Singapore on February 13, 2021:

Nice article, Devika, but there is a flip side, a relationship may flounder but in some cases, it can grow stronger

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on February 13, 2021:

I have heard about quite a few marriages having problems. Not so in our home; going strong as ever!

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on February 13, 2021:

This is an interesting article, Devika. I imagine many relationships are having some difficulties. I think you covered this topic very well.

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