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Why the Most Emotionally Intelligent People Live a Better Lifestyle Than Smarter People

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Having a high IQ alone won’t get you very far

People skills are just as critical as intelligence to professional success. In fact, according to our research, 90% of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence. This means that having a high IQ alone won’t get you very far at work: it’s essential to be well-rounded in all areas of life if you want to succeed at work.

People recognize the importance of intelligence (IQ)

Most people recognize the importance of intelligence (IQ) to workplace performance. However, they fail to realize that your interpersonal skills are another critical element to success. Developing your social understanding can be just as important as studying for an exam or practicing a new skill in front of a mirror.

There are many different IQ tests—some measure your ability to think and reason, and others test your memory or spatial awareness. All tests have one thing in common: They measure how well you learn from others and apply what you know to new situations.

Exceptionally bright people know that IQ by itself isn’t enough to run a successful business

You may have noticed that people use the word "bright" to describe people who are particularly good at their jobs. That's because it captures something essential about their intelligence, which is a better way of thinking about IQ than just "IQ."

To understand why, consider what happens when you use raw intelligence as a proxy for business success. Let's say you hire someone with an IQ of 160 (which means they're smarter than 99% of everyone else). You'd expect them to do well over time—but only if all other things are equal. And here's the thing: They rarely are! In any given workplace setting, there are multiple factors influencing how people end up doing their jobs—and those factors can be just as important as raw ability when it comes down to whether someone gets ahead or falls behind.


90% of Top Performers Also Have High Emotional Intelligence.

Our research shows that 90% of top performers also have high emotional intelligence. Conversely, just 20% of bottom performers are high in emotional intelligence.

And it's not just because a person is wise that they will succeed at work, either. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a critical factor in success—it trumps IQ. EQ is also a skill you can learn and improve upon; one study found that "a combination of executive functioning skills (emotional self-awareness and self-control) affected academic success more than cognitive ability."

So when it comes to succeeding at work, the most crucial thing may be your smarts but how well you navigate social situations and express yourself emotionally. If this sounds like something you could use some help with—or if you're already great at it—you'll find plenty here on how to develop your EQ further!

Among emotionally intelligent individuals, there’s nearly a 30-point difference in annual income between the bottom 10% and the top 10%

One of the biggest reasons emotional intelligence is so important is that you can't be successful without it. Studies show that EQ is more important than IQ in determining your success as an employee.

According to Dr. Travis Bradberry, co-founder of TalentSmart and author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0: "EQ—the ability to monitor one's and others' feelings and emotions—is the single best predictor of performance in leadership roles."


It’s essential to be well-rounded.

So how do you develop these skills? First, it’s essential to understand that emotional intelligence is a set of skills that you can learn and improve upon. There are many ways for employees to improve their emotional intelligence at work — including taking the time to understand their own emotions before interacting with colleagues or managers, developing better listening habits, and reading nonverbal cues from others.

If you want to succeed at work (and in life), it helps if you have a high level of cognitive intelligence — but it’s essential that you also possess high levels of emotional intelligence. After all: Being smart about schoolwork doesn’t necessarily mean being smart about people!

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Emotional Intelligence is not simply one skill but a collection of skills

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) was coined in the 1990s by two academics, Peter Salovey and John Mayer. They defined EI as "the ability to monitor one's and other's emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions. It involves the capacity to reason about emotions: when they arise, what triggers them, what keeps them going or helps them subside, why people feel certain ways about things."

Salovey & Mayer also proposed four distinct branches of EI: self-awareness, self-regulation; social awareness; relationship management – each of which is essential if we want our staff members (or ourselves) to succeed in the workplace. The first three components of emotional intelligence can be learned, while relationship management is something you're born with or not!


EQ leads to better relationships.

  • You'll treat others better.
  • You'll deal with people who are different from you.
  • Your relationships will be more positive and productive.

The ability to relate to others is a fundamental skill that will serve you well in all aspects of your life. Being an effective communicator is essential in the workplace and with friends and family, but emotional intelligence has even greater value in leadership. The best leaders can always see the big picture, take actions that benefit them and their teams, and inspire people's belief in themselves.

  • Emotional intelligence allows us to understand how others feel about a situation or issue so we can advise them accordingly. It gives us insight into how someone feels so we know if they're ready for solutions or need more time to process what's happening around them. It also helps us decide whether we should offer solutions ourselves—and if so, which would work best given what's happening in that particular context."

People skills will help you during a crisis.

People skills are essential because, in a crisis, everyone needs the help of their family and friends. If you have good people skills, your friends can depend on you for support during times of need. People with good people skills know how to listen carefully, ask questions, and help others feel comfortable talking with them. They know appropriate behavior in different situations—for example, at school versus on the playground or work versus out with friends—and they can act appropriately in any situation without feeling awkward.

People who don't have good people skills might not know how to deal with other people's feelings or problems very well; they might not understand what is okay for one person but not another (e.g., sometimes it's okay if someone talks about their feelings openly but other times it isn't). People who aren't good listeners tend not to take personal responsibility for their own emotions; instead, they blame others when things go wrong instead of taking time out from what's happening around them to think about why they feel upset so that they can manage their feelings better next time instead of lashing out at whoever happens by first."


Emotional intelligence can help you bring people together.

When you're working with others, it's crucial to be able to relate to them and understand their needs. Emotional intelligence helps you develop leadership skills and get along with others—but it can also help you during a crisis. Emotional intelligence can help you open doors for someone who needs guidance or support by showing empathy and compassion.

In addition to developing better relationships with coworkers, emotional intelligence can also help you bring people together. If employees have conflicting ideas or opinions at an organization, they may not be able to work together as effectively until they find common ground. By using EQ skills such as listening carefully but being firm when necessary (without being aggressive), leaders can establish better connections within their teams that lead toward shared goals for the greater good of the organization's success.

EQ helps you get along with others.

EQ is a group of emotional and social skills that help you get along better with others. It includes the following:

  • Self-awareness: knowing your strengths and weaknesses, how others perceive you, and how you feel about yourself
  • Awareness of others: understanding other people's emotions, motivations, and reactions to things you do or say
  • Managing emotions: keeping calm in stressful situations; controlling the impulse to act without thinking; managing distress in yourself or someone else

Emotional intelligence is something that can be learned and improved upon.

Emotional intelligence is something that can be learned and improved upon. It's a skill like any other: you can improve and learn to use it more effectively.

This may seem obvious when you consider how many people are now taking courses in emotional intelligence—but it's worth pointing out because the idea that our emotions are something we need to control has traditionally been viewed as unfavorable or something that should be suppressed. Today, however, we understand that being able to control your emotions isn't a bad thing; rather than suppressing them (which doesn't work anyway), learning how to express them in appropriate ways better will help improve your relationships with others and make them feel closer to you—and that's why EQ matters so much!

© 2022 Malcolm Christopher McClain

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