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Who I Am: I Am Not What I Have Done, I Am What I Have Overcome

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.


‘Who Am I?’ This question - asked often. I am a mother, a writer, and a lady of standard who writes about anything and everything. It feels natural to me to write. My writing helps me bounce back when I am discouraged or depressed. Whenever I face a challenge, I turn to my writing for comfort.

When you hear the answer to, ‘Who Am I? You can consider the things you are grateful for in your everyday life. When you can not answer, ‘Who Am I,’ it brings about distress because you do not know your identity.

I am endeavoring to get to know myself. I write, and it transforms and turns me into a stable individual. The beauty of writing is it helps me manage my drama. The better part of all, it helps me better administer my thoughts, so everything comes together, and I feel so free, permitted to hope, welcome to dream, and able to carry on with my life however I see fit.

Also, I am sure it is safe to say we will always have choices to make... But sometimes people make unwise decisions, and because of those actions, they get condemned... yet you should not pass judgment on me for the things I have done. Because I am not what I have done, the bad choices I made in my life will not speak for me. Nor limit who I am as a person.

Talented people make poor decisions, and those choices make them question their abilities. Only I have gone through long periods of my time on earth looking to realize who I am at my center, to know the attributes that characterize and clarify my very presence in this world.

One of the most profound and significant experiences of my journey is to discover who I am. When an individual realizes who they are. The world around them comes together with happiness. If you wish to enjoy sharing your life with a partner, you need to discover your identity.


I have filled the entirety of my life with struggles, taking part in fights that transform into days when I want nothing more than to shed the very skin that characterizes me. I have cried, I hope, and I have prayed to end the desire to cut off my beautiful long black hair from its roots to stop the judging.

Except, although I used to want to remove my beautiful black skin and cut the long pretty hair that many looks at to define me, I have learned to rid myself of uneducated people and everything that attempts to identify me as “Negro” or “Other.” The truth be told, in my life, I spent my days waiting for the surrounding people to make a change — I even permitted myself to address if the thing people thought was valid.

And the worst part is, I ached to avoid a day of existence that my brain, body, or soul could not endure anymore. I realize individuals see me; they thought my voice or behavior was not part of what was acceptable.

Some ignorant people will attempt to make you feel unworthy to be in the room, as they and my abilities are less than theirs. But through all of this, I have now come to the reality that if I wait for people to consider me based on my value or give me the respect I deserve, I will never know my worth nor get the respect I deserve.


I am unapologetically for being an African American female, a woman historically deprived of many things for this title. As an African American woman with both disadvantages and advantages, I overcome.

Over the years, I have developed the ability to demand respect and serve as a mother, a friend, a career woman, a sister, and a person with the belief that I can. I have overcome, and now I love myself.

Yes, it was hard, but I have wanted nothing more than to know my true self since I am a black woman. I am beautiful, and I am proud of myself. So, don’t judge me based on my past. I’m different now, and I am not what I have done. I am what I have done, overcome.

When faced with a challenging situation, it's hard to get out of bed. But it was like my life flashed before my eyes, and I refused to give in to defeat. I can remember thinking I could do two things: either be a victim of the world or an explorer on a journey seeking a change from my monstrous circumstance.

It feels good to break the chains finally and be able to say I’m not what I have done. I am what I am striving to overcome. I am a woman who learns to love. I love and love and love until I have no more love to give. However, I discover through my experience of love and demand respect when it is due and loves myself, pushes people aside from that toxic and rid them of my life who have hurt me or don’t care about me.

There are issues about me that no one understands, and that make me different from everyone else. I am one of a kind, so unique, and this one excellent quality has made me stand out from the rest of society.

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Please, do not confuse me with what people say or think of me. I am not what happened to me; I am what I become; not what I have done; I am what I have done, overcome.


Writing is my passion, and I enjoy it. I apply ink onto blank pages as I write and release all stress until I no longer feel the things that trouble me inside. I write until I am happy. No one but the pen and paper can know all of my troubles and secrets that seem to hurt me repeatedly.

I write when I am stressed or when I feel lost. By writing, I can release all worry and express myself, which allows me to be myself in the best manner to get back to myself. Also, it helps me let go of anything I refuse to hold on to, and it allows me to express myself.

Along these lines, I have a decision to make that centers on knowing who I am and assists me in bettering the person I am, rather than allowing others to make me a person who is not sure. I am not ashamed to admit I am still learning who I am.

It’s time that people know me, the real me, as I can communicate who I am and paint my canvas to articulate just who I am. An outline, I am a woman, a black woman with multi-abilities, for example, creative writing, Executive Administrative Assistant, customer service, manager, accounting/bookkeeping, and payroll.

As a child of God, a mother, a friend, a sister, and a conqueror, I am fearless, blessed, and I am not what has befallen me; I am not what I have done; I am what I have overcome. I am what I have become, and that is a woman who overcomes.

Who I am: I am not what I have done, I am what I have overcome.

How Well Do You Know Yourself?

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. Do you remember your dreams?
    • Always
    • Sometimes
    • Never
  2. How do you show love?
    • Through words
    • Through touch
    • Through gifts
    • Through things I do
    • I don't know
  3. What do you want to do in life? I don't know. Change the world. Find happiness Make a lot of money. Read more: http:/
    • I don't know
    • Change the world
    • To find happiness
    • Make a lot of money
  4. What do you fear?
    • Darkness
    • People
    • Other
    • Nothing
  5. How hard of a worker are you?
    • I usually work pretty hard
    • I don't work very hard
    • I always work hard


Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. Do you remember your dreams?
    • Always: +0 points
    • Sometimes: +0 points
    • Never: +0 points
  2. How do you show love?
    • Through words: +0 points
    • Through touch: +0 points
    • Through gifts: +0 points
    • Through things I do: +0 points
    • I don't know: +0 points
  3. What do you want to do in life? I don't know. Change the world. Find happiness Make a lot of money. Read more: http:/
    • I don't know: +0 points
    • Change the world: +0 points
    • To find happiness: +0 points
    • Make a lot of money: +0 points
  4. What do you fear?
    • Darkness: +0 points
    • People: +0 points
    • Other: +0 points
    • Nothing: +0 points
  5. How hard of a worker are you?
    • I usually work pretty hard: +0 points
    • I don't work very hard: +0 points
    • I always work hard: +0 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score of 0 means: ?

Casting Crowns ~ Who Am I - Official Video + lyrics

The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you


Audrey Auld 'I Am Not What I Have Done'

I'm a very strong woman, a wonderful person and I know my worth!


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Pam Morris


Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 07, 2017:

Thank you so much Dianemae, I really appreciate your time and everything you've written! Also, I am happy to read you can see my big heart through my writing; I appreciate your encouraging compliment.

Dianemae on June 07, 2017:

You are special! You are on the right path and you care about others and yourself. The future is a brighter place because your in it. Keep smiling.

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 06, 2017:

Thank you, Patty, I am happy to read you enjoyed my article. It took me a little time to realize it, but I learn I do have a choice in what matter and to have a real life a person have to choose righteousness. Thank you for your comment and support

Patty Florence from Illinois on June 06, 2017:

I enjoyed reading your article. It brought me to this place where I was thinking about our youth who have a choice in what matters. Choice righteousness, YES! Thank you.

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