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What is Your Why: Discover Your Purpose in Every Day Life

Deborah is a writer, healer, and teacher. She enjoys helping people work towards healthier lives.

The Big Question


Why Am I Here?

Have you ever asked yourself the question or wondered, "Why am I here?" At some point in their lives, many people pause and ponder the bigger truth. What is their purpose? What is their reason for being? What are they here for?

Some people turn to religion, philosophy or work to piece together the reason for their existence. They ask the big question to God, to The Universe, to their professor, their boss, or whomever they hold in authority over their own life.

The answer usually seems vague, and doesn't always satisfy the deep desire to know. And sometimes, no answer appears.

So how do you figure out why? What is your why?

The Meaning of Your Life


Creating a Meaningful Life

As we delve into the meaning of life and discovering your unique purpose here, let's first create a distinction.

There is the broader meaning of life, such as your purpose or your mission here, throughout your life. This is big picture. The overarching motivation, desire and drive that inspires you to move forward. This is the big stuff that people usually save for God, or whomever. And it is the question that you might not yet have an answer to.

The second category is smaller and in some ways, more important. What is the reason you do what you do every day? The day-to-dayness of your life is the second and more hands on why question that we'll unpack here.

Create Yourself Anew


The Big Picture Why

Why am I here?

The sarcastic answer, often given by surly teenagers and unhappy folks in mid-life crisis, is that you are here because your parents made you and you didn't have a choice. Sure. That's one answer, although not an very inspiring one.

How about looking bigger? How about you ask the question, broadcast it into the Universe and wait a moment. Close your eyes. Listen to your heart.

Your ego speaks through your brain. Your ego is the one telling you that you need to work harder, be more, do more, have more. But is that really your purpose?

Listen for a moment to that small, still voice. What is it that you want to be? This is not about what your job is, or what you went to college for or what you think you might do in the future. Think about it. Feel about it. Your spirit, your soul, speaks through your heart. Feel into your heart and listen to your soul. What do you long to be? What makes your pulse race? What makes your heart sing? What thoughts make you smile?

It's not about money or making a living. You can choose to be whoever and however you want, regardless of where you work or what you do for a living. Who you are is much greater than a job. Who you are is much greater than what you do.

You are a human being, not a human doing. What do you want to be, as you go through this life?

This is your why. Maybe you want to be a healer. A writer. A painter. A singer. A lawyer. In terms of your greatest joy, the greatest expression of your truth, Who Do You Want To Be?

I decided years ago that I want to be kind. Thats it. I want to be kind. When people see me, or hear about me, or meet me, I want them to think, "She is kind."

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This doesn't necessarily impact my daily job, but it also completely impacts my daily job. Who I want to be is not a requirement for me as an instructor, writer or mom. Who I want to be shows up in every interaction every day.

I remind myself daily that I am a wise and kind woman. I am a healer. I am love. That is who and what I want to be in the grand scheme of things. That is why I am here. It's not to make a million dollars, although money comes easily to me. It's not to have a million followers on Instagram or Facebook, although I change peoples lives through my speaking and writing. People are drawn to my positive and healing energy. This is what I AM.

The big picture why is an idea of who and how you want to be in your life. That is your purpose. To be the best, most authentic version of yourself in any given moment. Most moments, I am kind. But, sometimes I screw up and say something rude, make a snide comment or think a rude thought. Sometimes I forget to hold the door for someone, or I get annoyed waiting in line. The good news is, for me and for you, in the next moment, you can remember your purpose and Be Yourself again.

Why am I here? I am here to share love and forgiveness and peace in every interaction. That is what makes my heart sing. That is what my soul longs to be in any given moment.

Just for today, ask the question. Ask it out loud. Why am I here? Find a few moments to sit quietly with your eyes closed and listen to what comes up. Your head might have some answers. Your soul might have some different answers. Listen closely to both and try to discern what your heart wants to be.

Just for today, listen without judging. The big picture why doesn't have to change the world, although if you listen and you allow yourself to feel, it might change your world. You create impact exactly where you are every day.

Listen to the longings of your heart to discover your big picture why, and then write it down. Write it down every day, if you can. Say it out loud. Declare who you are. Say it in all caps! I AM LOVE! Declare your purpose to the Universe and allow the energy to flow through you and into the world.

Once you declare your truth, your purpose and your why, the Universe will conspire to support you.

You can change your life by simply creating and deciding who you want to be and how you want to show up. This is why you are here.

You are here to be the greatest, grandest version of yourself that ever existed.

Your Every Day Why


This Present Moment

Life is lived in this present moment. While at times, you might ponder the big "Why" of your life, the truth is, your life is created in your day-to-day why.

Why are you reading this article? Is it to get inspired? Is it to pass the time? Is it to learn something new? What is your why for being here right now?

Let's step out a little. Why are you doing what you do today? Think about the reasons, the motivation and the desire you had that brought you to this place. Maybe it's a job, maybe you're home with kids. Maybe you're alone, in your kitchen. Why have you chosen this particular path? What is your why for being where you are today? Remember the things that sent you in this direction.

Remember your why. Whether it's to earn money to support your family, or to take care of young kids so they don't have to go to a babysitter, think about why you do what you do.

Do you have any idea why you eat what you eat, or spend money on what you buy, or spend time watching TV at night? Why? Why do you do that? Is it an unconscious habit or an actual choice, with a purpose behind it? Are you sleep walking through your life, just getting through each day, or are you consciously choosing and creating the life you want?

Just for today, pay attention to what you do throughout the day. Why do I get up at 4 a.m.? People have asked me that, and it's a good question. It used to be that it was the only time I could find to myself. But that was nearly twenty years ago, and I still do it. My kids are grown. There is no apparent need. Although my why has changed, I still have a why: I want to work out. I want to make my husband lunch and see him before he leaves for work. I want to eat a healthy breakfast. I want to study before I head to work. That is my why.

Take a look at the things you do, just for today. Ask yourself why. Why am I doing this? Is it something you want to do? Does it contribute to your big picture why? Does it contribute to your daily life or the lives of the people around you? Are you doing things out of habit, without even considering why?

Slow down. Listen to your heart. Really answer the question, why. Discover for yourself the motivation to who and what you are being today. And if the why doesn't inspire you, then maybe you can create a new pattern. Maybe you can shift your habits to a new why. One that satisfies your soul.

The greatest purpose any of us have is to share who we truly are with the people around us. Ask yourself why, and use those answers to create the best, greatest, most inspired version of yourself. And if you stumble, you can always begin again.

Namaste, friends

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Deborah Demander


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on June 26, 2020:

Thank you so much Pamela,

You are an inspiration for all of us.


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on June 26, 2020:

Mary, Thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate you stopping and reading and taking the time to comment. So glad I could help you along the path.


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on June 26, 2020:

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on this article, Chitrangada. I appreciate you.


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on June 26, 2020:

Audrey, you made me cry with your kind, thoughtful words. It was exactly what I needed in this moment. Thank you for being a messenger of light.


Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on June 02, 2020:

This is a very good arfticle. You have asked a question we should all answer. I have know why I am here for a while now. I am here to take care of other people with love and kindness. I raised my children, was a RN, cared for my mother-in-law and my own mother for several years. I loved your article and you have asked a great question.

Mary Wickison from USA on June 02, 2020:

This is just what I needed to read this morning. I have felt lost, and need to come back to find my why. Your article will help me do that. Thank you.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on June 01, 2020:

Inspiring, thought provoking and insightful article. There are many takeaways from this. Makes me feel peaceful within.

It's so important to have a purpose in life. Peggy shared this on FB, and thus I got the opportunity to read this.

Thank you Deborah, for sharing this article with the readers.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on June 01, 2020:

How I love this! I resonate completely with every word you've written. Your beauty and your ability to heal others shine through from the beginning of your article to the very last sentence. I desire to live each moment of every day with unconditional love and constant kindness.

You are a gift to the universe.


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on January 30, 2020:

Thank you for reading and commenting Ruby,

Yes, the wise man stumbles but rises again.


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on January 30, 2020:

Peggy, thank you so much. I appreciate your comments and you sharing.


Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on January 20, 2020:

I've stumbled many times, but I seem to rise, and I've asked, " Why am I here " Your article is a great reminder to be happy with yourself. Thank you much.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on January 16, 2020:

What a beautiful and inspiring post! Having a purpose in life is good, and I love the one you have chosen for yourself. It is one that could be emulated by many others if they so choose. I'll be sharing this!

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