Michelle is a self-love and wellness coach on her personal healing journey. She empowers others through her experiences.
Quitting anything is courageous
Quitting is brave AF.
Quitting addictions. Toxic relationships. Self-sabotaging behaviours. Negative self-talk. A job. School. A project.
Growing up, we are usually taught that sometimes quitting is necessary (addictions) but other times, quitting is cowardly (Projects).
I don't agree with that. Quitting anything is courageous. When you quit something, your soul is saying, "This isn't for me." You listen to your gut and move on instead of wasting time on something that doesn't make you happy. You are quitting because something inside of you is saying, "This doesn't feel right. This is not peaceful. This is not fulfilling. This is not where I belong." This self-awareness is important and always encouraged.
Are you a quitter? Welcome to my tribe!
Reprogram your junkie brain
In this article, I will focus on quitting the things that hinder our health and growth, for example, addiction.
When you are addicted to something, i.e, drugs, alcohol, sex, fitness, hair pulling, cutting, vomiting, etc, your brain morphs from healthy to junkie. The term junkie means someone who indulges in harmful behaviours. Eventually, the "junkie" personality completely takes over hence the cravings, the withdrawal symptoms, the voices, the need, and the inability to stop. If you stopped, that would mean the death of the junkie and "it" knows that so it does whatever it takes to continue being fed.
In order to quit toxic behaviours and substances, you need to reprogram your brain from junkie to healthy. Yep, you have to kill the person you currently are to reconnect with you were before the addiction or even better, create a whole new person altogether! This is scary because you've been controlled by the "junkie" brain for so long that you've forgotten who you used to be or have no idea who you'd want to be and oftentimes lack the confidence to even visualize such a person.
What if you don't like the person you become when you quit? What if you feel worse compared to now? What if you fail and you get your hopes for nothing?
The fear is normal and the anxiety is expected but you have to remember that anything negative that passes through your mind at that moment comes from the "junkie" brain. It doesn't want to die, plain and simple.
Open your mind to new ways of thinking
This is not easy to do when you are drowning in doubts, false beliefs, and negative inner voices but so crucial when you are quitting.
Things that helped me open my mind:
- Wellness pages on Facebook and Instagram
- Mental health videos on Tik Tok
- Reading spirituality books
- Writing in a journal
- Googling questions to challenge old mindsets
- Talking with friends
- Helping others - Giving others advice is always easier but often the same advice is meant for ourselves.
Instead of thinking, "I have to stay sober today," ask yourself, "What is my purpose today?"
What can I do today to be of help to someone?
What can I accomplish today?
What can I do today to make sure I have a good tomorrow?
Focus on the positive actions you could be accomplishing
When we focus on healthy actions it distracts us from NOT doing what we're not supposed to.
List of things you could do:
- Help friends and family
- Start a workout routine
- Get a new job
- Go back to school
- Mentor others online
- Start a new business
- Create art
- Clean your house
- Spend time with friends and family
Whatever it is you choose to focus on that day, I promise you that it will never require you to harm yourself or be under the influence.
Your new hobbies or endeavours will require a clear mind, a compassionate heart, an energetic body, healthy lungs, and an empowered soul!
So... What are you doing today to make sure your tomorrow is healthy, happy, and fulfilling?
Check out what I had to say about this on Instagram!
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