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We See Trauma in Everyday Life But Don't Go to Trauma Counselling

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We See Trauma in Everyday Life But Don't Go to Trauma Counselling

Stress is unavoidable in today's fast-paced world. We experience stressful events almost every day of our lives. Stressful events that leave a person feeling powerless, overwhelmed, or alone, even when there is no physical injury, can be traumatic. These everyday occurrences can have a long-lasting impact on our mental well-being:

  • Constantly assisting others in dealing with challenging situations
  • Uncertainty about how you will meet your basic needs
  • Still feeling unclear about a relationship that lacked closure
  • Working under the continual pressure of a difficult boss
  • Living in a big city where you are constantly worrying about your safety
  • Being shunned by your community
  • Being chastised by a parent you've spent your entire life trying to please
  • Betrayal from an intimate bond

Why don't we seek trauma counselling then?

Short term coping mechanisms

Since most of us are short on time, our stress-relieving tactics are either ineffective, such as consuming alcohol, taking a caffeine supplement, or eating sweet comfort foods, or they are inconsistent, such as exercising once every two months. While they are fast fixes for our mental aches and pains, they do not give a long-term remedy for our unresolved trauma.


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Trauma changes the way we think, feel, and interact with others. It has a significant impact on us. The result is typically the avoidance of the overwhelming stressor. You try not to think about what happened or is happening all of the time, but it creeps into your subconscious and into your dreams. It may appear like denial is a kind of survival, but it isn't always the case.

People will think I'm crazy

It is likely that not everyone will react favourably if they hear you're visiting a therapist. It is important to remember that the vast majority of people in counselling are regular people coping with regular difficulties. Adjusting to big life changes, grieving, managing anger, mending relationships, working on self-esteem, and confronting basic body image attitudes are all things that need to be addressed.

Doubts about therapy

When we think of therapy, we're concerned about how long counselling will take, if it will entirely change us, and whether it will "fix" or make us happier.

You can stay in therapy for as long as you desire. Therapy isn't designed to make all of your grief, anger, irritation, or other bad feelings disappear. The ultimate focus of trauma therapy is to attain the goal that you and your therapist have set for yourselves.

It's there to assist you to learn to sit with, accept, and not be plagued by your emotions while also increasing self-awareness. What's the end result? You'll be able to tune in and make the best decisions for yourself. Rather than seeking eternal joy, therapy's goal is to help you comfortably manage life outside of the couch.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

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