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What Can You Gain by Setting Goals?

Tomi has a certificate as a Happiness Coach. She can give ongoing support for people trying to attain their goals.

Positive Thinking, Handling Feelings

Basically, people handle feelings two ways. Either they suppress them or express them. This method teaches a third option which is releasing or letting go of the feeling. Our natural ability is to release emotions, but society has taught us out of that as we age. Releasing or letting go is the best way to handle a feeling. By releasing the negative energy, you should naturally become more free and more calm.

By suppressing feelings, we are holding back and pushing the emotions down. However, sometimes suppression can be better than expression like when you are angry, and it is not the right time to speak your mind. For example, when you are at work or around family or friends and you don't agree with something, that might not be the best time to express your feelings. You could also just bite your tongue or hold your thoughts. However, this method may be a better solution. You know how you can sometimes regret something you said or feel guilty about expressing your problems to another person, this is where releasing can benefit you.

One Day at a Time

"Note to Self: When things feel overwhelming thought at a time, one task at a time, one day at a time."

— Understanding Compassion



Resistance, Negative Thoughts

We have a long list of beliefs, negative thoughts, and old bad habits. You can discover that is not actually who you are. When we hold onto negative things, we are cutting off the possibility of positive things. Allow yourself to open up to more. We are unlimited. Get to know yourself. Feelings are not attached to us. Sometimes, we identify with our feelings and beliefs. We should not make our identity based off of our negative feelings and thoughts. We should allow ourselves to get rid of the negative as much as possible and not hold onto it. Don't make yourself what your problems are. Don't identify with your negative thoughts or your old habits. Over time, your old habits and problems will dissolve by practicing these techniques. We don't always have to have conflicts. We can be happy.

Good Place to Start Releasing or Letting Go

You can use this method to focus on your most important issues. I like the idea of writing down things. So you could make a worksheet for both personal and professional changes you would like to make. This could be things you would like to change or improve on. You could then refer back to this list to see what you might like to work on more.

So at the top of the sheet, you would write: What I Would Like to Get From This Method. Then, make two columns: 1st Column) Personal 2nd Column) Professional. Then, just write down the things you would like to get positive results on. You should be able to notice improvements on your lists as you release or let go of your negative emotions, feelings or thoughts on these issues.

Credit: Freedom Now (workbook) Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Abundance and Well Being from The Sedona Method Basic Course, Pages 16, Copyright 1991-1998 by Hale Dwoskin.

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Freedom Now


Goals Poll


Once again, it works better when you actually write your goals down. You should phrase your goals as if they have already happened. The example I had previously mentioned for a goal was about if you have trouble sleeping. The goal could be: I will allow myself to sleep peacefully until a certain time, like 7:00 a.m. for example, and awake refreshed and well rested. I have been working on this goal and it seems to have helped me get to sleep easier. Your goals should always be phrased in the positive, and they should be realistic. Goals should be something that seems possible for you. You should include yourself in the statement by saying, I. You should keep your goals simple without using a lot of words. Don't use the word "want" in your goal. Your goals should be worded in a way that does not make you want approval, control, security, or separation.

Goals should start with the words, I allow myself, I have, I am, etc. You want your goals to relate to the positive emotions of courage, acceptance, or peace. When you start your goal with I allow or I can, you are beginning a goal in courageousness. When your goal starts with I have, you are beginning a goal in acceptance. When you start a goal with I am, this is beginning a goal in peace.

There are a lot of sample goal statements for different categories such as relationships/communication, job/career/financial, diet/general health and well-being.

The Sedona Method Book

Simple Process on Releasing

You just let go of the negative emotions, feelings or thoughts that you have on your personal goal. Look at your goal that you have written down and read it silently or aloud. Then, you can write down your feelings or thoughts about your goal. See if you are wanting approval, control, or security. Then, release on the now feeling of that want. Ask yourself: "Could I let go of that want (approval, control, or security)?" Keep repeating until you feel courageousness, acceptance or peace about your goal. Don't stop too soon before you reach that positive state or it might not be suitable in achieving your specific goals.


Further Reading

I hope this article has given your more insight into the method.

You can read more about these techniques in The Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace and Emotional Well-Being, by Hale Dwoskin.

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Thank you for reading!



© 2017 Tomi Smith

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