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Tips for the Extroverted Introvert Who is Beginning to Outgrow Their Shell

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A freelance writer for many years, I like to explore many topics. Especially the realms of human relationships and personalities.

Introverts often feel alone in a crowd.

Introverts often feel alone in a crowd.

What Is an Extroverted Introvert? Can You Be Both?

Do you know someone who seems to be locked inside their own shell? They’re the introverts. People who are introverted, love to spend time alone and don’t feel they are missing out by doing so. They enjoy thinking and reading more than talking or going out with other people. They are slow to express an opinion, rather than speaking first and thinking later. When they do speak up, they are measured and controlled… that’s if they do speak up at all. Many introverts are painfully shy and prefer to share their opinions with their journal.

But what if you’re an extroverted introvert? Are you someone who would love to socialize but also needs to drink in the silence? Then you are an ‘extroverted introvert’.

It’s fairly common to be this way when entering adulthood. Often a child or teenager will begin to emerge from the binding chrysalis of shyness as they discover they want to participate in society.

So, if this sounds like you, read on for tips to help you break out of that shell and embrace your true self without feeling pulled in two directions.

Being an Introvert Doesn’t Mean You Dislike People

As an introvert, you might feel more comfortable reading a book than going out to a party. It doesn’t mean you dislike people. It’s just that you have a lower energy level that makes you feel drained if you don’t have time to yourself.

You might find you need to recharge your energy by spending time alone. You may be able to do this while still interacting with others, but you’ll need to take breaks – sometimes a few minutes alone here and there is all you need. The extroverted nature of the world can take a toll on the introvert, so they sometimes need to go back to their shell to relax. This can make you feel like you’re hiding out, but sometimes it’s necessary for your health and well-being.

Therefore, if you need to take a short time-out when spending the day with your raucous family, then do so. Just don’t stay away for too long.

Be Proud of Your Unique Qualities

You have your own set of strengths and weaknesses, which helps you develop a strong personality. If you are an extroverted introvert, then feel confident you don’t have to change who you are for anyone. It’s important to appreciate and work with your natural tendencies rather than trying to be someone you’re not. You don’t have to hide from the world or from yourself, because you need to know you are fine just the way you are.

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Don’t allow other people to make you feel bad about needing solitude. You can’t change who you are, and you shouldn’t feel you have to. Instead, use your strengths and personality to help you feel more confident and happy as an extroverted introvert.

When the feeling of overwhelm creeps up on you, have a strategy in place to fit the situation. It’s a good idea to plan this in advance with a ready-made reason to take five minutes out. When you return, you will have renewed your energy and regained your equilibrium.

Know When to Break Out of Your Shell and When to Retreat

It's critical to remain true to yourself, but you shouldn't cut yourself off completely. Instead of feeling bad about wanting to be alone sometimes, use that time to recharge and replenish your energy so that you can face the world again. It's impossible to be super social all the time without paying the price. You must have time to recuperate and replenish your vitality so that you may participate in the things you love.

You can be happy when with other people, yet when you are compelled to be alone, don't succumb to the dreaded FOMO (fear of missing out). It will all be still there when you emerge.

Learn How to Fake It Until You Make It

If you’re trying to break out of your shell but still feel as if you’re not there yet, that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up about it, but don’t stop trying either. Remember that extroverted introverts still have to take time to grow and change, but you might need a little longer. And that’s fine.

As an extroverted introvert, you may need to fake it until you make it. Put on your best acting persona and pretend to be more confident than you feel.

Tip: don’t use alcohol to try to loosen up. One drink might be helpful, but avoid getting drunk. It’s never a good look for an introvert.

Bottom Line

As an extroverted introvert, you may feel a little bit like you’re two people. One who loves to go out and socialize, and the other who loves to stay home and enjoy the silence. You may feel like you don’t know who you are, or what path you should take in life. Remember that being an introvert doesn’t mean that you hate people. You just need your alone time to recharge and feel comfortable. You can feel proud of your unique qualities and know when to break the shell and when to stay inside. You can also learn how to fake it until you make it and understand that being an extroverted introvert is okay.

The world needs introverts as much as it loves extroverts.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2022 Bev G

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