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Things We Can Not Change or Be in Control of It.

Your personality define you for who you are. The greatness and good care that we care ourselves should show how unique you are in every day.


Stop Worrying About Things You Can't Change.

  • Are you the type of person who is constantly concerned with what others think of you or your actions?
  • Do you constantly reflect on your past mistakes and what you could have done differently?
  • Do you waste your time wondering what's wrong with you because the person you love won't love you back?
  • Do you ever blame your parents for not being as attractive as the celebrities you see on television?
  • It is normal to be concerned about these issues. In fact, everyone has a tendency to worry about things over which they have no control, and overcoming this tendency is easier said than done.

This habit, on the other hand, will only cause you stress, anxiety, and depression. That is why you must assist yourself in breaking this habit. It's difficult, but it's doable. Here are some effective methods you can use to stop worrying about things you can't control:

Master the art of letting go.

Not being able to let go is a major source of frustration and unhappiness. Sure, it's difficult to let go, but keep in mind that there are always things you can't change. Were you late for your presentation? You did do something terrible to your friends, family, or special someone? It has already occurred; you cannot go back in time. What you can do is accept the outcome and let it go.


Control It, Change It, or Let It Go!

Have you ever tried to exert control over others? Who experiences stress? Have you ever attempted to exert control over things or events over which you had no authority?

Is that upsetting to you?

There are various kinds of stressful situations. Some things, such as people constantly interrupting you, are under your control. You can inform the interrupters that you are too busy to talk.

Other stresses, such as rush hour traffic, are usually out of your hands. However, there are some aspects of rush hour traffic that you can control, such as taking a different route or traveling at a different time. These changes, of course, are not always possible. In that case, you must alter your attitude toward the situation in order to reduce stress. You can listen to music, educational tapes, or audiobooks. Rush hour traffic will seem less frustrating because you'll be doing something to divert your attention away from the traffic and other drivers. Accepting the situation is necessary for letting go of commute stress.

You must accept that no matter how very much you yell and express at other drivers to speed up, you cannot control the traffic. Don't let a stressful commute ruin your entire day! Accept that if you can't change your route or time of travel, you have no control over anything on the road except your car and your attitude. You can control your stress if you control your attitude and let go of the traffic!

You can learn to manage a significant portion of your stress by examining each stressor and asking yourself, "Can I control it, change it, or do I need to learn to let it go?"

The concept of "control, change, or let go" is critical in stress management. We spend so much time focusing on things over that we have no control that we do have no energy left to worry about the things over which we do have control. We really become overwhelmed that we believe our entire lives are out of control and that we will never catch up. You will be able to deal with stressful situations much better once you understand the "control, change, or let go" concept and begin putting it into practice.


Do not Control other when you are Stressing.

So much of our stress stems from our inability to control other people, places, and things. We are the ones who suffer from stress and headaches as a result! People we try to control go home or simply ignore us, not giving us a second thought. That is why it is so easy to harbor grudges against others in situations or jobs over which we believe we have little control. It stifles productivity and healthy teamwork on the job. People have a tendency to blame others. If you are stressed out because of the actions of others, it is critical that you go through the steps of control, change, and letting go. Unless you are prepared to abandon your job, family, or the planet, chances are you will continue to work or be around "stressful people." Consider whether the other person is a "stress carrier" or simply has a different personality.

It takes time to let go. It takes time and does not always happen all at once simply because we want it to. To control our emotions and actions, we must use our thoughts. Remind yourself that there are some people and events over which you have no control.

All you have control over is your attitude and reactions. It is possible to change yourself by discussing the situation. Determine which stresses you can manage, take appropriate action, and learn to let go of the rest.

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  • Choose something in your life that causes you stress.
  • Can you keep it under control?
  • What can you do if this is the case?
  • Can you make a change?

If so, how so? Perhaps you can only influence or change a portion of it. Is it necessary for you to let it go? If that's the case, what can you do to let go?


Believe In Yourself, And Your Life Will Change!

If you believe you can or believe you can't, you're probably right.

You may have heard someone say something similar about beliefs. It may appear contradictory, even ridiculous, but you better believe it! Understanding your beliefs, how they control your life, and the traps they cause is a critical component in the mental game of success.


Simply put, beliefs are the things we believe to be true.

The first trap is that beliefs are personal; what we believe is not the same as what others believe. Two people can look at the same thing and have completely different beliefs about it, and both can be correct.

Believe In Yourself, And Your Life Will Change!

If you believe you can or believe you can't, you're probably right.

However, we all fall into the trap of believing that our beliefs are correct while everyone else's beliefs are incorrect!

Some beliefs are formed as a result of shared experiences. We all believe that gravity causes objects to fall to the ground; most people understand this! These fundamental beliefs, which are based on undeniable external facts, are shared by all of humanity.

The majority of beliefs, however, are not so clearly defined.

They are about ourselves and our surroundings—who we are, how we should react, what is good for us, what is bad for us, who we should trust, and who likes us. These beliefs are more likely to be shared by smaller groups of people, such as our friends, family, and cultural groups, or to be personal to you.

Beliefs are formed throughout your life, beginning in childhood, by imitating people you admire, as a result of repetitive events, or even as a result of a single, extremely emotional, or traumatic event.

Beliefs can also be picked up from your culture and environment. Some beliefs will remain with you for the rest of your life, whereas others may change several times.

It is also critical to recognize that beliefs are not values. Values are more fundamental statements about what is important to you and often serve as the foundation for your beliefs.

Your beliefs are frequently supported by your values, but you can also hold beliefs that contradict your values. If you want to be successful, you must align your beliefs and values. While you may have a few tens of values, you undoubtedly have thousands of beliefs on every topic under the sun.

Let go sometings.

What Effect Do Beliefs Have on Us?

Beliefs act as a lens through which we view the world. They fundamentally distort, reshape, and change the importance of the information that we take in through our senses, creating the view of the world that we truly have.

Beliefs have a strong influence on your behavior; if you believe you should do or think something, you will most likely do or think it!

Beliefs strongly influence both what we do and what we learn from our surroundings - it is difficult to learn or do anything that you believe will be unpleasant or harmful to you.


Beliefs not only shape our worldview, but they also control how we react. For example, if you believe that someone dislikes you, you will not react to them in the same friendly manner that you would to one of your friends.

Of course, your assumption could be incorrect; that person could genuinely like you. However, because you have decided that they do not like you, you continue to react to them as if they are hostile, and their opinion of you gradually deteriorates.

If only you had started with a more optimistic mindset.

Another well-known example is the medical placebo effect, in which something as simple as water administered in such a way that you believe it is the drug that will cure you can be just as effective as the real thing.

==>Beliefs have an astonishingly powerful hold on your mind!!


We've seen how beliefs can shape our world by influencing how we perceive it and how we react to it. We've also seen how strong they can be. This can make them a fantastic ally or a deadly foe.


Positive Thinking.

Positive beliefs that support your goals and values will have a huge impact on your life. However, through no fault of your own, you almost certainly picked up some limiting beliefs as a child.

Limiting beliefs frequently begin with you telling yourself, "I can't." They may have been true, or continue to be true, at some point in your life. The danger is that you will likely apply these beliefs to the rest of your life, jeopardizing your future and success.

For example, it may be true that you do not know how to do something today, but this is frequently expressed as I cannot do.

When you say something enough times, it becomes a belief, and as you've seen, this belief becomes the truth.

Even worse are limiting beliefs that are not founded on truth but rather on some belief instilled in you by your parents, friends, or society. If you believe that you are destined to be poor or that you are incapable of earning money, the result is unavoidable.


Consider your beliefs carefully, and then observe yourself as you interact with others over the next seven days.

Look for I can't statements. Identify them, write them down, and consider how much harm they are causing you. Do you really want them to ruin your chances of success?

  • Every time you find yourself saying "I can't," turn it into a joke.
  • How can I claim that I can't make any more money?
  • How can I increase my earnings?
  • Do you notice a difference?

If you do this on a regular basis, you will notice a difference in your life!


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2022 Natalia Judith Zwarts

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