What Therapy is Best for Me
Having therapy is a big step because our emotional and mental health is important. When looked after it enables us to enjoy life.
I'm not going to list all the different therapies or recommend any, but give you a guide for you to find what is best for you. Dealing with our emotional and mental health can be challenging enough, but choosing a therapist shouldn't be.
With lockdowns, growing violence, inflation, loss of jobs, relationships coming to an end, their is much to trigger old emotional wounds that we may have buried away years ago that just seem to keep popping up. A little like pushing a ball under water, that eventually we get tied and then the ball pops to the surface.
I remember when I left the computer industry during redundancy and decided I wanted to help people and tried to work out what therapy to train in. There were hundreds of different types of therapy and the names just mean nothing. I paid a psychologist for an hour of his time to explain the differences and was still no wiser.
At one point I came across a short course in hypnosis and thought it may be a fun experience. I enjoyed it and took further training to be a hypnotherapist, then an extra three years to be a psychotherapist and psychologist and still felt I was inadequately trained particular in handling deep emotional issues so did a further two years as a regression therapist. I have been doing therapy now for twenty-five years so I have the experience to offer a guide to those wanting therapy.
The First Step
The first step of any therapy or life change is to know you have a problem and want to resolve it. The universe helps because unresolved emotions get repetitively triggered and over time it weakens the body in the area of the emotion and opens the door to illness and disease. It like a wake-up call to resolve it.
Counselling, Therapy or Medication
When we have an emotional situation its quite natural to seek a close friend and share our story. The very act of talking about our problem helps us and may include some tears. Most friends tend to have their own views and tend to offer advise of what to do. Unfortunately, no matter how well intended it is often not what is needed.
Professionally trained counsellors on the other hand only listen and ask questions, and through this allow the answer to come from the client. It is not intended to resolve the cause of the issue, more to help find a coping strategy to engage in life again.
Similarly, medication from a medical doctor or psychiatrist, is just to reduce symptoms not to resolve the cause.
Take a simple example of an emotional problem of phobia of spiders. When a spider is seen the emotion of fear is triggered. Unless the emotional wound from the past is resolved fear will always be triggered when a spider is seen. Therapy, on the other hand is about resolving the fear causing the phobia.
Internet or In Person Therapy
Therapy by internet really took off during lockdowns and has continued afterwards and some therapists working exclusively this way. The advantage is that it saves travel time and it is possible to work with experts in their field much easier.
It does require the need to have a computer with stable internet and a quiet room free from disturbance. Whist it is just as effective as in person therapy, not everyone wants to embrace this technology. Also, it is unsuitable for deep trauma such as sexual abuse or post-traumatic stress.
The Training of the Therapist
Most complimentary therapies are unregulated which means that people can just attend a cheap home study course of just a few hours of training, get a certificate and then promote themselves as a therapist.
If you were going for surgery, would you be happy with someone doing the operation on you with a few hours training? You would expect adequate training and they belong to a medical professional association that maintains standards. Our emotional and mental health is just as important.
So, I would suggest avoid any therapist with less than two years therapy training and ensure they belong to a professional therapy association.
About the School that Trained the Therapist
How established is the school, is it in a professional association maintaining an international standard, and how many qualified therapists does it have? This gives an indication of the quality of training. Poor quality schools quickly disappear.
Also look at how schools measure the therapeutic results of their student work with clients. A client who says they feel a little better is a very vague result. Something more objective with perhaps with anger could be an intensity level of 8 out of 10 before therapy and 0 or 1 out of 10 after therapy.
How Many Sessions and What Cost to Expect
This is difficult to answer because our lives are different and some emotional issues may be deep and some capable of being resolved in a single session.
Some therapies that involve regression going to the source of the issue tend to be quick, while psychotherapists may take months and psycho-analysists may take years. Normally interviews are free so get an estimate from the therapist of the number of sessions and cost of each session. Avoid those therapists that will not answer this.
Some deep-seated issues like sexual abuse and post-traumatic stress require specialist skills and techniques like body therapy. Ask the therapist if they have experience of other clients with similar issues and how many sessions were needed.
Recommendation from a Friend
If you have a friend or colleague who has had therapy ask what their experience was like and if they can be recommended.
Trust Your Intuition
We all have an inner compass. Some people call it intuition, some a gut feeling, some say a decision just feels right. So make you intention to the universe to find a therapist best for you, and be open to how it happens and be guided by your intuition.
The Next Step in Your Well-Being
Hopefully this guide will provide you with a structure of finding a therapeutic approach suitable for you. Remember, whatever therapy you pick the healing comes from you, the therapist just helps this process.
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