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The Art of Good Listening

Lalit Kumar is a software developer. He mostly writes technical article but enjoys writing on other topics too.

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The sound is considered to be God in Hindu religion, so it is right that listening has played a major role in this religion. Our basic scriptures, Vedas and Agamas have been called Shruti, which means "He can be heard", because they were originally heard directly by the Sages as a Karna Transmission. In the early days of human civilization, even before writing, Shruti was preserved without a sincere change [Important because it is the word of God] that comes from the Guru to the disciple through the Karna instruction. It lasted for thousands of years till the generation of generations. Understanding that there are very large numbers of our scriptures, it is worth mentioning that it could be achieved, and it is also remarkable that you know that in order to achieve this, students had to learn every passage in eleven different ways, Including learning from the back side also included.

Fortunately, this method of learning by listening to traditional Vedas and Ages is still used in priest training schools. In a specific teaching session, the teacher chants the verses once, afterwards, students recite him twice, Showing commitment to the nuances of utterance and rhythm, which they hear in the chanting of the teacher It's not the case anymore and again. Recitation goes on for long hours, and every day for years. Students start it at a younger age, so fast that when they are five years old, when their memory is strong

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Anyone who has seen a great documentary knows how powerful human voice is, as a means of communication and knowledge, it is much more effective than reading. Take the discourse, it is a popular lecture given by teachers who have experienced the truth in their personal form, which they are making statements! In these stunning discourses, teachers present the main points of the Vedas, Upanishads and other scriptures, and who listen, they absorb this deep learning through all the senses, which are knowledgeable to them. This interchange, by speaking and hearing, transmits of the knowledge of the astral knowledge from the wise to the inquisitive, in such a way that it can not be compared by reading. This discourse is made aware of the multi-stage levels of information - inflection, emotion, retention, faith and subtle information.

My Gurudev, except the Subramuniswami, has written on this idea: "Since the sound is the first creation, knowledge is transferred by all kinds of sounds. It is important that the highest truth of any sect should be heard by a person who has realized it. Words, of course, will be familiar. He may have been literally read by the devotee twice, but listening to him from the mouth of an enlightened sage, his untold sensation is also assimilated, because they feel their sensation when they read or speak. "To listen to me Thinking like an art feels good. The idea is that to understand fully the subject matter, it is necessary to pay full attention towards the speaker and there must be concentration on the meaning of what is being said. A mystical intensive topic, which the speaker is saying to understand the meaning of it, is also needed to understand deeply, those words which are beyond words too. When meditation, concentration and insight, all are present, listening becomes an art.

It is as true today as it was 2200 years ago when the weavers of a village wrote the moral rhetoric Tirukural. He devoted a full chapter, ten toe "learning by listening". The three verses of Thiruvalluvar are presented here:

In heaven, the goddesses are nurtured with sacrificial fire. On earth, who feast on hearing, they are in front of them.

The most precious money is that which can be acquired from the ear. Indeed, with all the money, that money is paramount.

If you do not hear from acute hearing, ears will probably hear but still be good.

As we all know, the art of listening is facing a new challenge in our modern age: Digital Distraction The constant flow of computers and mobile phones, and equal stimuli that they present, which is a tremendous challenge, the ability to focus on each one, and to listen and learn. An article in the New York Times entitled "Being digitally big, ready for distraction" addresses this topic:

"Researchers say that the charm of these technologies affects the adults, it is especially powerful on the younger class. Those who are developing in this, they are saying that those who are developing are increasingly used to differentiate between equal work, but those brains that are of adults - which are less able to focus. 'Their brains are rewarding, not because they keep on working, but because they jump on the next thing', say Michael Rich, who is an associate professor of Harvard Medical College and in Boston's Media and Force Health Center Are executive directors. And the effect can be: 'Worry is that we are caring for a generation of children who are in front of the curtains and their brain is getting ready to walk in a different way.'

It was written in 2010. During this time, the number of smartphone users in the United States alone has tripled. At any public place, it appears that every one is carrying a phone and is using it again and again. It can be said to be addicted to the machine.

The Times article further states that researchers found that students' use of technology is not the same thing. Their choices reflect their personality. Social Butterflies are heavy-duty transmitters and use of Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. Students who are less social, they migrate to sports, and who are flown to the drift or who are defiant, they surf the web or watch the video.

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Digital distraction has a decisive impact on a Hindu home. Traditional Hindu teachings, its principles, stories and ethics are traditionally made known to grandchildren by young children. Parents communicate with their teenage children and tell them about their new duties, for whom they are matured and they need them to understand. Parents regularly share information about current events and future plans in the family. All this person interferes with the dialogue when family members turn towards equal digital world and end up meaningful conversation with each other. Nowadays there is a common scene in which a family is sitting together, but their focus is on their phones or tablets, so that they can not hear or hear anything. While they are part of the same room, their brains are somewhere else.

Due to the digital information being dominated by it, more than that the comforts of modern life that we have, will be silly. Amish is a small religious community based in the US, he has taken an extreme position against modernity, living in such a way that people lived two centuries ago. It has done this to preserve its culture and to maintain the continuity of its religion. A circle picture tells the story of an Amish family how they eradicated all the possibilities of modern distraction, including digital, not having electricity in their home. For many of us, this would be excessive overlap. There will be a more balanced solution for the Hindu families, for a period of time, for digital studies and entertainment, and to use the other person in the person's dialogue with a healthy person between the family members and friends [while the digital equipment is closed].

Recently a Hindu youth couple proudly told me that digital equipment is restricted to the dining table at their home, a simple rule where their conversation is flourishing and mutual relationships are strengthening. A lot of families have curbed digital distractions, arranging that children's computers are in a room where family members can keep an eye on them. Others have found ways to control where their children can go online.

For his devotees, Gurudev, on Monday, chose to be with the family for the evening, a time when family members could communicate with each other. "On Monday evening, which is the day of Shiva, family members gather, create a great food, play games, and verbally appreciate each other's good qualities. They do not solve any problems that day. They only love each other, and everybody's voice is heard whether it is a small child or the oldest senior. "Television and all digital devices are closed. It is time to listen, to listen in true ways. It's helpful to be a good listener - having a good conversation - another great art that has been threatened due to digital distraction.

I have developed a simple method called supportive conversation to strengthen relationships with a family member or friend. He's presented here -

When you contact someone, stop what you are doing: Smile, make a face of that person, greet her with kindness and give her complete attention. Put your mobile down or shut down

Listen carefully. do not interrupt. Focus on what is being said. If this is the reason for your problem then remember this proverb "Try to understand, before seeking for yourself, ask for it." Join them and show support from honesty and creativity. Especially if someone is sharing their emotional experience, ask him to recount the details of the incident. Have patience, listen to him with your whole body. If you feel that it is taking a long time, say the brain firmly that you have a lot of time.

Practice sympathy for others; Put yourself in the place of another person. If you are speaking, you will want others to hear that they are completely heard. Remember, to give you a solution, you only have to give a caring ear. It is enough to hear your story.

Perhaps the art of listening will come back with the help of digital media, because the word spreads like a viral, when it leaves us without it. It is by hearing that we learn very naturally. It is a skill that should be given continuity, even make it better, from one generation to the next generation. Parents should carefully guide the development of children, so that digital distraction can be avoided, the art of hearing can be developed and hopefully, if everything goes well, insights and compassion towards others. Adults will also have to ensure that they are not very involved in the digital world! This will ensure that the knowledge and conduct of Hinduism will flourish even in this digital era.

I'm a very strong believer in listening and learning from others.

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