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The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!

The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!

Do They Call You Fat?

I'm sure you have thought about the terrible things people say about weight? I have, I know there are lots of people with this kind of problem. Nasty rude fat remarks people make. You're not alone, I have received many. People never call me fat, but it's their meaning with the remarks they make. Weight is an issue in this country. The governor of New York is trying to take large soft drinks away from people. The government is also checking what mother’s are putting in kids lunches.

I'm short, so even five pounds on me shows up very fast. I may be only ten pounds over my weight goal, but it looks fat on me. Thank goodness my weight goal has gone up I could never keep my weight at 100 pounds. That's the advantage to getting old the weight scale goes up.

I go up and down with my weight. I stay on Weight Watchers. I have to weigh in and face the leader each week it keeps me from gaining more.

I'm a stressful eater. My husband the minute he gets stressed he loses weight because he stops eating. When he's happy he gains weight.

Here are some of the nasty remarks I have heard through the years.
I'm well over my weight goal now so I do need to lose.

Nowadays it's called body shaming and it's awful for people. The internet has made things so much worse. There are people online that just look for reasons to be nasty. Children are going through this from classmates online. Body shaming bullies. These bullies shy my granddaughter because she was thin. They would say she had anorexia.

Skinny Photo Taken Long Ago.

The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!

The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!

The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!

The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!


A List of Remarks People Have Made To Me

Once I was walking in a hallway in the Mall when a couple teen boys walked past me and went "oink, oink."

Mother introduced me as her fat daughter. My mother is a very lovely person and loves her children, but she can never drop the fat thing.

Once while visiting in RI downtown Newport. A truck passed by with three or four men in it, construction workers. They yelled two by four at me.

A so-called friend once said to me, you've gained at least four sizes since I have known you. This was said by a heavy man. He knew me when I was only 95 lbs.

My mother and I were standing at the window doing dishes when the lady down the road came outside she was about 300 lbs. my mother said: "She looks like you" at the time I had just had a baby and weighed 115 lbs. I have pictures of myself on vacation how I wish I looked like those pictures now. No matter how much I weigh my mother will always think I'm fat. She thinks just about everyone she sees is fat.

Trying to join a swim class at the Y for health reasons than knowing a person there is saying how fat I am. I stop going to the class because I found out what was being said. No one will ever see me in a swimsuit again. I don't let people bother me too much, but this is more than I can even take.

Once had a neighborhood lady say to me when I was about 7-8 months pregnant, she had heard I went way overboard on my weight gain. Through the whole pregnancy, I only gained 25 lbs. Just the amount the doctor allowed me to gain. I wasn't overweight when I started out. It was my third pregnancy. We women all know how we feel so big while pregnant and then have someone make an unkind remark hurts. I thought I was doing so good kind, proud of myself. After the remark the woman made, I was no longer proud.

My first pregnancy I gained 35 lbs. the nurse and the doctor yelled at me each time I went in for a check-up. They made me feel like not going in. When I went in for delivery they were still on me about it. For crying out loud, it was too late. My first pregnancy was why I was careful with my weight with the next two pregnancies.

My second pregnancy I was two pounds overweight, so the doctor allowed me to gain 23 lbs. I went over I gained 25 lbs. He didn't yell. He always reminded me not to gain more. When the baby was born, she was 8 lbs. 41/2 ozs. The doctor came in the room a day later patted my tummy and said you need exercise. Geez, just let me get home with my baby and enjoy her before going on about my weight. When I saw Kate Middleton's tummy after she had George I realize I wasn't any bigger than she was when I had my babies.

I had two heart attacks when I was 38. People would say to me "Well, now maybe you will take better care of yourself.” As if they did everything perfect, but I didn't. At the time, my weight was 115. I had a houseful of kids, animals, and husband I took care of each day. I gardened, bowled, walked and helped my husband get wood. I was very active and didn't overeat never ate fast food. I made meals at home with fresh food. We had a large vegetable garden and our own chickens.

I had a friend stop by my house, I hadn't seen since I was seventeen and the first thing she said to me, "I can't believe you would gain weight." When I was seventeen I weighed about 95 lbs. it's hard for anyone to stay the same weight forever. Karma will get you for making that kind of remark. Karma got her.

I was once compared to a friend, someone thought we were sisters. This person is way overweight and they thought we looked like sisters because of our weight. I don't even understand it. I was never anywhere close to her weight and we don't look alike at all. I don't understand people who say those things. I guess I never will. This was also a family member who made the remark.

I once had a person say to me, "I will never wear a size 12." Well, she does now, at least, a size 12. Payback when you start making fun of the size clothes someone wears. It will come back to bite you every time. Karma got her.

When one of my babies was two months old I decided I had to learn how to drive. I needed to get the kids to doctor appointments. I didn't want to depend on other people. While in the driving class I talked to another lady and she said to me, "You need to exercise to lose your tummy." I knew this woman about two weeks. My baby was three months old. Hard to believe anyone would say such a thing to another person. The reason I remembered this was I saw the woman yesterday in the store. My baby is now in her 40's, but I never forgot what this woman said to me. She has gained some weight. I don't think she remembered me.

I have more to add to this list once I remember them all. The list goes on and on. I have no idea why people think it's alright to say anything they want. I would never be so rude as to say anything nasty to anyone. I keep trying to lose my weight. I struggle with it each day. Sometimes you just want to say: "Oh, forget it eat what you want."

I was once at a funeral and I wore a dress which was high wasted. Someone wanted to know if I was pregnant. They didn't ask me they ask someone else and the person, let me know what they said.


Look at what celebrities go through with their weight and what the tabloids say about them. It always surprises me at what people consider fat. Jessica Simpson is a size four in this picture.

Just go on the internet and see what terrible things they're saying about Jessica Simpson just because they think she has put on some weight.

Just look what they're doing to Jessica because she gained weight during her pregnancy. I have heard other stars tell about the weight they gained. It was as much as Jessica has gained. Jessica seems to be the one they like to pick on. She always seems like a happy person I'm not sure why people dislike her.

Report: Doctors Refusing to Treat Overweight Patients |

Me and Baby

Me and Baby

Be Happy.

There is nothing you can do about ignorant people. You just have to go on and be happy with yourself.

I saw a pretty young woman yesterday I had not seen in a long time. I know she has three little girls, pretty little things with bouncy curly hair. I was shocked by the weight she had put on I could tell she was breathing hard as she tried to do her work. I don't know if she has health problems could be the cause of the weight gain. She very well is completely happy with herself just the way she is.

I felt bad for her because I know she very likely goes through much each day from people she meets. Many people have this attitude if they say something about your weight it will help you lose it. WRONG! It just causes more sadness and in some more eating.

Underestimate Weight


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I'm not unhappy with myself, but it seems many people are unhappy with me.


I have heard it said fat people don't realize they're fat so they have to be told. They underestimate their weight. What an untrue statement. Everyone knows what their weight is. They may decide to ignore it, but only because they feel lost and unable to go about losing the weight. All we have to do is walk in front of a mirror, we will know what our weight is. Just getting on a scale, we can see it in the numbers.


Men like Charles Barkley make it worse with what they think are funny jokes. I don't think his jokes are funny, but I don't expect him to apologize. He's just an unkind man and nothing we can do about it. Actually, all the men at the table were in on it and laughing.

Bmi Chart


I hate the word obese.

My most hated word: "OBESE!"

A BMI over 25 suggests you're overweight while 30-39 indicates you're obese.

They're doing BMI charts for kids in school. Girls coming home thinking they're overweight. What will this do to our kids I don't think it will help. It's fine to teach healthy eating in school and let kids know what they should eat, but to embarrass them by doing BMI is just crazy. It is not up to our schools but for our doctors to manage. You know there will be children asking the overweight child what their BMI was. You know the child will have a hard time lying about it. Overweight children have a hard enough time in school with being bullied this will just add to it. I know they will be asked questions about their weight.

I'm asked about my weight all the time in WW. These are questions I don't want to answer. I try not to ask other people because I don't care how they did, but once they ask me then, I will ask them how they did. I just truly don't care and I don't like putting people on the spot. They have to lie if they feel they need to cover up their gain. Many people will lie because they're embarrassed.

A federal agent inspects lunches in North Carolina and tells a child her lunch is not good enough. What the heck does this mean we are now having agents looking into our child's food. This child had a lunch and it was not a bad lunch at all. We're losing our rights to feed our kids the way we want. Our kids are being told we're bad parents because of the way we feed them.

I understand making sure a child has food to eat while they're in school and not going hungry. I know children come to school hungry this happens every day in schools. Checking their lunch, that's crazy.

You're Not Alone

People have their own way of dealing with their weight and should be left alone. We're grown ups we have to be able to make our own decisions. I hope this hub has helped others to realize they are not alone, terrible things people say happens every day to many people.


A Little Word To Grandmothers

A comment on this hub reminded me about what my mother once said. She said to my daughter and my niece when they were about 12. My mother had made cookies, so she sat the girls at the table gave them a big glass of milk and some cookies. This was a fun, happy thing for the little girls, but my mother ruined it for them. She said to them, "You girls are getting so chubby you shouldn't be eating cookies." The girls are in their 40s they still talk about the remark she made.

She also saw our son who she hadn't seen for years instead of saying "I love you" and giving him a big hug. She said, "You've gotten so fat." He never forgot what she said and still brings it up.

This grandmother has alienated her grandchildren from her. Most of her grandchildren won't visit with her because she just can't be a sweet, nice grandmother. She should love her grandchildren no matter what. All she seems to know is how to criticize.

She's gone now lived to be just a few days away from her 93rd birthday.


After my husband and mom passed away my weight went up. I wasn't eating the right foods and I was very depressed. My sugar went up. My blood pressure was up. I have never had problems with my blood pressure. I knew I had to do something. I didn't want to take pills.

When the snow went away I started walking my little dog. One day I stopped at the animal shelter and got another small dog. I have two to walk now. I walk them at least, six times a day. I have a path to the meadow and that's where we walk. I can go right out my back door and right onto the path. I lost what I gained plus some.

Meadow Path

Meadow Path

Kids love you no matter what.

Visit this lady's blog and see what her kids did.


moonlake (author) from America on July 22, 2016:

Au fait, I'm so behind on everything including getting settled, but it is coming along. I was doing so well on my weight walking the dogs 5 or 6 times a day but on the land.

Here it is so different. They are not calm they bark and try to run after cars, bikes, people, squirrels and dogs. They are little and so hard to control and don't listen. I don't like to walk without them but I get exhausted trying to keep them under control.

I haven't gained back but also not losing.

Thanks so much for stopping by.

C E Clark from North Texas on July 22, 2016:

As you know I've written about a few of the reasons people may be overweight. There are a gazillion things in our environment that can make us fat. I only touched on 25 or so.

Since no one knows what may be making a person fat, and since it's no one else's business regardless of the cause -- people should sweep their own porch first before criticizing their neighbor's porch. The idea that anyone, whether they know a person or not, has the right to share their opinion about a person's weight or anything else about their body is beyond nerve and rudeness. As if we were put here for their pleasure and entertainment.

If someone gets out of line verbalizing their opinion about my weight, they quickly get some new food for thought. Rudeness isn't something to be proud of either, and depending on what is causing it, it can be tougher to fix than a weight problem.

It's not like a person who is overweight doesn't know it and requires perfect strangers to clue them in. Most people I know who are overweight are very self-conscious about it, and many of them are also very sweet lovely people who shouldn't be worried about what people think.

Glad you wrote an article about your experience, though I'm sorry you had the experience in the first place.

Hope you've gotten settled into your new home and like it there.

moonlake (author) from America on January 26, 2015:

ologsinquito thank you. I think it has put more worry on me than it should have. The so much more in life to worry about I found that out this year.

ologsinquito from USA on July 30, 2014:

This is incredible. You're only a little bit overweight (I am about 10 pounds too heavy as well) and people are making remarks about your weight, when there are so many morbidly overweight people walking around. I'm sorry you've had to hear all of these uncharitable remarks.

moonlake (author) from America on July 25, 2014:

Laki, I bet Lily remembers what her grandmother said. That kind of remark stays with you for life.

I’m so sorry your grandmother is that way with you. Sometimes it's best if you can to stay far away from that type of person.

Thanks so much for stopping by and telling your story. I appreciate it.

Laki on July 24, 2014:

Thanks for this article. My grandmother is a jerk about people being overweight. I remember when my poor cousin Lily was about age 10, she was getting pudgy. My grandmother literally made Lily stand up and circled her like a freakin vulture, telling her son/Lily's dad that Lily was getting too fat for her age. Poor Lily, I felt so bad for her. When she hit a growth spurt, she got taller and looked fine. She's probably a size 8 or 10 now and exercises regularly. I hope Lily doesn't remember that terrible childhood experience. As for me, I'm 75 lbs overweight. I've always been overweight, and probably always will be. My grandmother doesn't let one visit go by without at least one rude remark. Last night she told me that she'd showed a pic of me with my birthday cake to her sister, and her sister said I was "as big as a cow." I wanted to cry. It's hard dealing with my own emotions about my weight, but I gotta handle their rude remarks about it too? Appearance is such a personal thing for women. We care what we look like and when someone takes cracks about it, it cuts us deeply and becomes a wound that we have to nurse for the rest of our lives. When my friend (who's overweight) went to Africa, she got hit on a lot by the men there and the women were jealous of her weight! I'm thinking about moving somewhere like Africa where I can be accepted as I am.

moonlake (author) from America on December 13, 2013:

Au fait, Thank you for stopping by. I agree I would rather be fat than unkind. Thank you for the pin.

C E Clark from North Texas on December 12, 2013:

Came back to this article because this issue is dear to my heart. I think body shaming has gone way, way too far. People seem to have forgotten what is their business and what is not. They seem to have forgotten that big people are still people with feelings and needs like everyone else. They seem to have forgotten that they aren't so perfect either -- if I had to choose between being overweight and having a thoughtless vicious tongue, I would choose the weight.

With the holidays here it's that much harder to keep from eating too many treats with high fat and sugar content.

Pinning this to my 'Health' board. Already have a link on my 'Fat Women Are Hot!' article.

moonlake (author) from America on December 09, 2013:

Tyler James, Thanks for stopping by. Your right I guess it wouldn't look good.

Tyler James on December 08, 2013:

If your 7ft and 110 lbs thats gotta look sickening

moonlake (author) from America on November 02, 2013:

DDE, People can be cruel. Thanks for stopping by my hub.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on November 01, 2013:

The Terrible Remarks People Make About Your Weight so true and such cruelty from people when one gains weight.

moonlake (author) from America on September 05, 2013:

blue butterfly, Don't you just hate that. Like you said women are hard on themselves and all this weight thing is kind of silly. It's nice to be unkind to people. I'm like you I gain weight in my belly and lose in my boobs.

Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. I appreciate it.

blue butterfly on September 04, 2013:

I sympathize with you. I have a coworker that's constantly making jabs about my extra belly weight. I have never thought of myself as "fat", but I have always struggled with a bit of a belly. Whenever I gain any weight, it can even be 3 or 4 lbs, it shows up right in the belly. It hurts my feelings that he feels the need to crack an insult. I will never understand people like that. As women, we are hard enough on ourselves. We don't need anyone else to be!! Peace to you :)

moonlake (author) from America on July 09, 2013:

Indian Chef , Thank you for stopping by. Thanks for the share, tweet and vote.

Indian Chef from New Delhi India on July 09, 2013:

I have couple of friends who are hmm as to put it healthy. Yes they have been subject of jokes since they were kids and it can be real cruel jokes. It does hurt them but they have learnt to smile them off. Simple reason, since they can not change people think about their weight ( which is none of their concerns even) so why give them importance. A very good hub. sharing on twitter and voting it up.

moonlake (author) from America on June 27, 2013:

Deborah-Diane, Thank you so much for stopping. I appreciate the pin and share. People do need to know but I'm not sure many care what they say.

Deborah-Diane from Orange County, California on June 26, 2013:

Thank you for sharing your experience with your weight with us. My story is very similar. I feel as if I have spent my entire life on a diet ... and I still gain weight. I pinned it to my "Interesting Articles" board, and shared it. People need to recognize when they are being insensitive.

moonlake (author) from America on June 05, 2013:

Brittany, You are ok just as you are don't fret over what others say. Sorry you are having this problem. Mothers say what they want and think it's ok. Just think of the good things she does for you and not the bad. I'm sure she loves you she just thinks this is the way to help you.

Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Brittany on June 04, 2013:

I was 16 when I first was brought to the Endocrinologist, I didn't want to go, I knew I was fat at 169 pounds, and I kept shifting up and down, nonstop changing. The most I weighed was 200 pounds, never any more, Always lower. I learned eating habits, I cut out soda's, juice, canned foods, and lessened my intake of fried foods before cutting them all together. Eventually my mother realized how fat she was at 390 pounds, and had a gastric bypass and so I had much help with lessening weight. Due to her forced weight changes I lost weight rapidly, but soon adapted and began to stack the pounds back on. I skipped meals, didn't eat for days at a time, and did not loose ANYTHING. I was still fat at 180 which was more then I even started.

Now, a few months ago I went back to the Endocrinologist, and I weighted in at 196 at a height of 5ft 6in. I was called fat and put on pills that cause forced loss of weight. Caused nausea, intestine issues, many many many other problem, and now I have become severely ill. I hate my endocrinologist, I hate my mom all because they think I'm fat. I know I'm fat, and I think I'm ok as I am, I always shift in weight... I hate them all..what should I do to get my mother to shut the hell up????

moonlake (author) from America on May 19, 2013:

Levertis Steele, Thank you for stopping by and for your comment. Your visit is appreciated.

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on May 19, 2013:

Let's not forget that many men are also obese. I am talking about 300+ pounds in some cases. For some reason women catch the brunt of rudeness toward fat people. Women are usually not rude toward fat men, but they can be very rude toward each other. Men can also be cold-hearted toward fat women. If anyone can lose weight on their own or with help, it is wise to do so, but if it cannot be done without cruelty or mutilations to oneself, that is your body, and the rest can fly a kite.

Some people have fat bodies, and some have fat mouths. OK!

moonlake (author) from America on May 19, 2013:

brownella, You are right surround yourself with people that don't care about your weight. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment I appreicate it.

moonlake (author) from America on May 19, 2013:

sharingknowledge, Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment I appreciate it.

moonlake (author) from America on May 19, 2013:

vandynegl, Thank you and thanks so much for stopping and leaving a comment.

moonlake (author) from America on May 19, 2013:

Au fait, Thank you I appreciate that. Thanks for coming for another visit.

brownella from New England on May 19, 2013:

Great hub, it's nice to feel some female solidarity on this subject since it seems to be women who are the most cruel. The one thing that always got me, especially on days when your not feeling great about yourself, was not words but "the look". Women are masters of the slow, disdainful once over. On my feistier days I give it right back :) but on others it makes you feel like dirt. All in all I think its important to surround yourself with people who really care about you, love you for who you and are there for you when you look good and when you don't.

SHAR NOR from Miami, FL on May 19, 2013:

LOL - This made me lough. Thank you for the wonderful one. This Hub made me recall back in the days when I was referred to as fatty.

vandynegl from Ohio Valley on May 19, 2013:

Very interesting and thank you for sharing your experiences! I'm sorry to hear that you had two heart attacks and I'm wondering if they were caused by all of the people who would just NOT leave you alone! I cannot remember the last time I weighed 115 pounds and honestly, I would not want to weigh that! I would be miserable! Being healthy AND happy (like you said) is what matters! And staying away from those negative people too!

C E Clark from North Texas on May 19, 2013:

This is one of my favorite hubs that you have written. I went to my "Fat Women are Hot" hub to place a link to this hub on it and I had already done that some time ago! So I will share this hub again with my followers because I think this is a subject that needs airing.

moonlake (author) from America on May 04, 2013:

cherylp76, I know just what your going through. I think it's when our mother's say things like this it really hurts us. We're their child they should think we're perfect. I guess if it wasn't our weight it would be something else. You are not overweight. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

moonlake (author) from America on May 04, 2013:

vespawoolf, Isn't that funny how different countries are so different in the way they think. I think I'll move to Peru. Thanks so much for stopping by.

cherylp76 on May 04, 2013:

I used to be 110lbs for the longest time and well into my 30's. Over the course of 2 years, I gained 13lbs. I am now 123lbs at 5'2". I work out hard at the gym with a trainer 3 times a week and I take medication for Epilepsy. I am aware that I have been an emotional eater, but I also eat using the "80-20" rule. My mother has always made it a point in the last 2 years to tell me "you are packing on the pounds", and tonight her words were, "'s the gym working out for you lately?" and I say, "its working out great!", and she said, "Well it doesn't look like it's working, your rear end is still big". It broke me to pieces. I WISH I was still 110lbs. But I know its my own fault for taking on poor eating habits, but I've worked so hard to correct those bad habits, and I even train at the gym. She will always find fault in something. I don't understand how she thinks 123lbs at 5'2" is 'chubby'. I'm then told that "I'm overreacting" by my father, and that I shouldn't get upset when my mother tells me these things because she's only 'looking out for me'. What she doesn't realize is I'm fully aware that I've gained 10lbs!! But COME ON! I'm 36!! I am not obese, and I'm still small, just slightly bigger in the hips. Small waist, small arms, small chest. I feel so insulted. My mother used to be a tiny woman...she is now 140lbs at 66 years old. She complains about how 'she wishes she could lose a few pounds', but has the audacity to make mention of *my* 'weight'. I've developed such a complex now. I'm beginning to think that 3x per week at the gym is not enough, and now I'm considering doing more. My waist is 27", and my hips are 38" and she thinks its 'chunky'. Its a constant battle for a problem I don't even have, all because I constantly worry about what my mother thinks.

So now, I'm unhappy with my weight AGAIN, despite me working out to build muscle and become more lean.

Its terrible to think that I'm chubby, when I'm not, all because of the insensitive things people say.

Vespa Woolf from Peru, South America on May 04, 2013:

I'm sorry you've heard so many rude comments! People here say my husband is "fat", but in Peru it's not an insult. They just mean that you're robust and when they say someone is "skinny", that is more akin to an insult. No one wants to be skinny here. The girls are always wanting to gain weight and have hips and butts. Funny the cultural differences, huh?

moonlake (author) from America on April 15, 2013:

Kat, Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your story. I appreciate it.

Kat on April 14, 2013:

People can be so very rude while not even realizing their insensitivity. I have been struggling with my weight my whole life - I have my ups and downs. I was made fun of as a child and even by my own mother. It is a personal battle that I choose to keep to myself because I don't need input. Just today a "friend" told me that a certain dress would look good on me because of the draping fabric that goes across the mid section. It really hurt me, but at the end of the day I guess you have to realize that sometimes people project their own insecurities on others. I am not very overweight, I would say I am average. I used to be thin, but as I approach 30 - my metabolism has decided to stop working so hard. I eat very healthy and every day is a struggle. Just know that none of you are alone in this battle and we should be thankful that we have gained the empathy needed to support each other.

moonlake (author) from America on March 28, 2013:

Au fait, The remarks happened when I was young and much more worried about my weight. They were nasty and unkind that is for sure. I never went through this as a teenager so I can't image how awful it must be for teens. Thanks so much for stopping by.

C E Clark from North Texas on March 28, 2013:

People are often vicious and mean nowadays and seem to think in their own innate perfection that they're entitled to pass judgment on things that are none of their business. I won't tell you what my response to these people would have been -- this page would self-destruct! Try to be understanding even though I'm sure their remarks are hurtful. Realize that while they may be skinny, their brains are very, very tiny, and so you should pity them and consider the source and not take anything they say seriously. ;)

moonlake (author) from America on March 24, 2013:

Sarah, It is amazing what people think is alright to say to people. I especially hate older people that think because they're old they can speak their minds and tell someone how fat they are. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Sarah on March 23, 2013:

I've had this to deal with. The most common thing people think is that when you're fat, you are lazy. They couldn't be further from the truth. I am about 200lbs, now, im quite small so this is in now way ideal. I get so offended when people make comments though. I cannot get a boyfriend, when online chatting i see them change when i tell them i'm fatter...they are so cold and rude to me then they just want to stay friends. Men who know what i look like are offended when i like them, as if i am the most disgusting person in the world. I lost weight before and i will again(im still very young so thankfully it will be a lot easier!) and when i do, i will have nothing more to do with these men. I think i had it worse when i was a teenager and when i was thinner, people made a lot more comments. I don't eat badly, i cannot eat certain fruit and veg/drink milk due to stomach issues so this causes a lot of issues.. I do workout though, i work sometimes more than 10 days in a row in a very busy environment where i'm on my feet 24/7 lifting, pushing and pulling things....we're talking 8 to 12 hour shifts. I have three jobs. I clean, i am tidy, i look after myself. My health is great, no heart issues, no high blood pressure, no diabetes...i even have muscles, specifically on my stomach because of my job so i cannot stand it when people make comments about my weight. I would never dream of making such remarks so i can only assume these individuals are complete ignorant, insane fools...i have no time for people like that and i would suggest to anyone who is bigger, male or female, that you never allow someone to make remarks like that. I can say without a doubt that thin people do NOT live perfect lives, they are NOT healthy just because they are thin...i have seen many pig out on takeaways, people who never lift a finger to clean, people who never wash themselves...who are lazy and ones who come down with illnesses because they are UNHEALTHY. Screw them for saying such things, can't express how much this annoys me! Keep your chin up, looks like you've lived a fullfilling and enjoyable life so far and that is all that matters. I just wish others would appreciate that.

moonlake (author) from America on March 23, 2013:

Levertis Steele, My family members were always so skinny but I wasn't lucky enough to be that way. Thanks so much for stopping by.

moonlake (author) from America on March 23, 2013:

Victoria Lynn, They sure can be nasty. Thanks so much for stopping by I appreciate it.

moonlake (author) from America on March 23, 2013:

Peggy W, Thanks so much for stopping by. I appreciate your comments.

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on March 22, 2013:

The tormenters who pick on fat people are bullies, and bullying is illegal. I had a friend who ate any and everything she wanted. She actually ate too much, but she never gained a pound. After being married for 16 years and giving birth to three, she is still skinny, and she does not struggle to stay that way. Some people are not aware that obesity can be genetic. That type is hard to control.

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on March 22, 2013:

Nobody knows the struggle unless they've been there. People are ignorant, that is true, as Peggy W pointed out. Keeping a certain weight isn't as easy for some as it is for others. Great hub. Gosh, people can be so mean and insensitive!!!

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on March 22, 2013:

I have always struggled with my weight and I have gone up and down in clothing sizes. It is amazing to me that some doctors in Florida refuse to treat overweight people! I had never heard of that. Even though I could afford to lose some pounds, I just passed a recent physical with flying colors. The doctor even wrote on the report that I got in the mail..."good report!" I take no medications other than over the counter at my age, I think that is pretty good. Heading off to the gym in a few minutes.

Just chalk up those remarks from people as being ignorant. Lucky are those who have faster metabolisms if it doesn't go too far in that direction. They too have problems!

God made things in all sizes. That goes for dogs, trees...and yes, even people. I don't think that there will be a BMI test to get past the pearly gates. Voted up and sharing.

moonlake (author) from America on March 08, 2013:

rajan jolly, It is awful how rude people can be. Thanks so much for stopping by and for the vote.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on March 08, 2013:

most of us do not want to become overweight or fat. However, to pass rude remarks is in extremely bad taste. And it does affect even the most buoyant of persons when this is repeatedly said. I just wish people were more considerate of others' feelings.

Voted up.

moonlake (author) from America on November 24, 2012:

lilia magallanes, Thank goodness he's your ex boyfriend if he has the nerve to say such a cruel thing to a woman you sure dodged a bullet by not ending up with that character. You are good enough. Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment.

lilia magallanes on November 24, 2012:

I am a proud mother of two children my son was born this march and to make a long story short I had a visit from an ex boyfriend when he seen me he said I needed to loose weight my heart is sad because I feel like I am not good enough but I guess thats life you cant please everyone

moonlake (author) from America on November 07, 2012:

2patricias, I think they are so rude when they make remarks about weight or anything that has to do with the way someone looks. I believe in what goes around comes around and someday they will be on the other end of those nasty remarks. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

2patricias from Sussex by the Sea on November 07, 2012:

I have never understood why some people think that it is acceptable to make comments about weight. I can't imagine many people would say things like "your hair looks funny" or "that dress is frumpy" - yet rude comments about weight are not unusual.

The other Patricia and I both need to carefully catch our weight for health reasons. We often turn down a biscuit (cookie) or piece of cake - and the person offering is surprised and feels obliged to make a personal remark. I have often heard "oh you can afford to put on a bit" or "you've nothing to worry about". Not helpful.

moonlake (author) from America on November 06, 2012:

crissytsu, I know what you mean they should keep their comments to themselves but everyone thinks they have to be in people's business. It's just crazy. Thank so much for stopping by and telling your story. I appreciate it.

crissytsu from Texas on November 06, 2012:

I recently (after turning 30) gained about 10-15 lbs over the last couple of years. Until this I always weighed the same 105 lbs, and was always "the skinny one"...Now, it is insane how EVERYONE, whether I've seen them recently or haven't seen them since high school, comments on how I've gained weight. It's humiliating. Some people try to play it off by saying "You look good now though, you were way too skinny before"...gee thanks, that makes me feel tons better. Back when I weighed 105 everything actually looked good on me and I didn't have back fat or jelly rolls, and I didn't cry everytime I try to get dressed because nothing looks good. It's annoying, I wish people would just keep their comments to themselves.

moonlake (author) from America on October 02, 2012:

Linda, Your right no one has the right to comment on your body. I don't care if it's your best friend or whoever it is. Making that remark to anyone does not help. Sorry he did that to you.

Thanks so much for coming by and leaving a comment.

Linda on October 02, 2012:

A guy friend i have thought it would be ok to ocmment on my weight saying how beautiful my face was but if I lost more weight I would be perfect. I just got mad and left his house without telling him why. I texted him later and he was like well its just unhealthy to be the way you are im only tellin you because I care. I don't understand why ur mad. I was furious and hurt I cried myself to sleep. I mean seriously just because I'm fat what gives uthe right to comment on MY BODY....

moonlake (author) from America on August 10, 2012:

Diana Grant,

Good for you I wish I could do that but I don't seem to be able to come up with anything.

I'm always kind of in shock at what people will say and how rude they can be. I think my mouth drops open and I just look at them.

Thanks so much for stopping by a leaving a comment.

Diana Grant from London on August 10, 2012:

I don't mind my immediate family commenting 0n my weight, because they always do so in a helpful, even respectful, way. But I do wonder sometimes what motivates other people to be so impertinent. I do occasionally retaliate if I think someone is being out of order. I have been trained in stand-up comedy by some of the best English comedians, including Jo Brand, so I am well able to parry a heckling personal comment to make the other person feel a bit foolish.

moonlake (author) from America on August 06, 2012:

Cogerson, Thank you I'm so glad you came by. Your right negative comments don't help. It makes things even worse. Thanks you for the vote I appreciate it

UltimateMovieRankings from Virginia on August 06, 2012:

I really enjoyed reading this hub...thanks for sharing your personal story as it makes reading your hub even better. Battling weight is a problem many of us have...and negative comments do not help the cause at all. Voted up and useful. Job well done.

moonlake (author) from America on June 25, 2012:

talfonso, The Emotional Freedom Techique and affirmations sounds like it would be a good idea. Something that would help anyone. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your comment I appreciate it.

talfonso from Tampa Bay, FL on June 25, 2012:

Speaking of weight and snide comments, I can really relate to this, and I know why (but not going to mention it). This Hub reflects on my past experiences with horrid commentary on weight, and I rated it up.

Two things that worked for me are affirmations and Emotional Freedom Technique. Both assure me that I love my body no matter what and help me recognize my qualities that don't relate to my weight at all. I do this before exercising everyday. I suggest giving either a try - one method may work better than another, or both may work well.

moonlake (author) from America on May 29, 2012:

My friend feels the same way you do. She recently had to start taking a medication and she put on 16 lbs. She feels terrible about it and her weight is still going up. I wish I knew how to help you out with this but I really don't know. Just be happy with yourself and if your friend doesn't like the way you look you don't need that friend.

sky on May 29, 2012:

I am 42 years old and I have recently gained 40 lbs due to medication. I have never been larger than a size 7 and I'm going to meet a new friend in person for the first time and I'm feeling very insecure about the way I look, I'm a size 12 now and I really don't know how this is going to affect me in the intimate moments. plz help

moonlake (author) from America on May 22, 2012:

Scott, Sometimes no matter what you do the weight doesn't come off. A friend was complaining today how she walks 5 miles a day and still the weight doesn't come off.

No matter the exercise your doing by hiking is good. Thanks, so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Scott on May 22, 2012:

The only people I call fat are the skinny assholes that still try to lose weight. As a former obese person, I came to a point where I exercise for health, not looks. I'm overweight with 26.5. Yet I hike at least once a week.

moonlake (author) from America on April 19, 2012:

fucsia, You are so right their biggest problem is the reactions of others. It stops them from doing things that could help lower their weight. It has stopped me.

Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

fucsia on April 19, 2012:

Thank you for this page. Often in my work ( I am a nurse ) I meet overweight people with health problems. Some time ago my first reaction was to think that the weight is their most important problem. This thought was before I undestand that their real most important problem is the reaction of others.

moonlake (author) from America on April 19, 2012:

B. Your Welcome.

B on April 19, 2012:

Thank you moonlake, it's nice to know I'm not alone :)

moonlake (author) from America on April 17, 2012:

Oh, how awful B. I know from experence doctors and nurses can be just as rude and nasty as anyone else. They think we don't have ears and can't hear them when their talking about us.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I am so glad you stopped by and told your story.

B on April 16, 2012:

When I was a little girl I was about 10lbs over weight, and one day I had the bright idea to play with a knife. Well, I ended up cutting myself and needed surgery. While the surgeons were opp-orating on my finger, my anesthesia wore off, and I could hear the staff talking and laughing about my "obesity." I kept my eyes shut because I was too embarrassed to let them know I had heard them and I didn't want them to see me cry.

moonlake (author) from America on April 16, 2012:

Millionaire Tips, The ones that think their trying to help seem to think we're all blind and can't see that we're over weight. I just think it's rude, rude, rude and nasty.

Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Shasta Matova from USA on April 16, 2012:

It truly is awful the way people pick on others who are overweight. It seems like since they cannot make jokes about people of other races, sexual orientation, etc., that they have found weight to be a safe topic to make jokes about. I don't think they realize how hurtful they are being - not with their hearts anyway, they can't put themselves in our shoes to know what it feels like. I think a lot of them are being helpful, which is so not the case.

moonlake (author) from America on April 10, 2012:

Pancake, Thanks so much for your concern and comment. Sorry the first comment you made I couldn't put it on here because of one word you used. I'll paste it on here and leave out the word.

Pancake also said:

Okay I just honestly want to punch EVERY single ignorant person that ever said anything mean to you? Like are you fudging kidding me!? 95lb is NOT fat! And in all honesty, I honestly DETEST when it is overweight people who are the ones calling people thinner than them fat! Like I normally don't judge anyone for their weight, but the second they do something like that I will! If they can not take care of themselves, why would dare pick on someone else who's smaller than you? Do you feel so badly about yourself that you have make everyone around you feel like poop.

Thanks again for stopping by.

Pancake on April 10, 2012:

Sorry I pressed send too soon.

I dont even get it. But please do not let disgusting judgemental comments from ignorant people EVER bring you down

moonlake (author) from America on April 05, 2012:

C, Your right harsh remarks don't help and so many people think they can help by making what they think is constructive criticism. It just doesn't work. It's up to all of us to do what we can to lose weight not our friends. Good friends stand by us and just support us. Those are the friends I would hang out with. Sounds like your doing all the right things. Good luck in your journey to lose weight. Thanks again for stopping by.

C on April 04, 2012:

yea it really sucks when people make comments like that , i mean i work so hard , and my metabolism isn't the best , but for my size i carry my weight good in my opinion ,im 23, im a big bulky guy but not really out of shape too much since i work out every day , but just because i wasn't "cut up" it wasn't good enough so he had to make the body fat comments , granted he showed me exercised that can help , but 70 percent of what the kid was saying was offensive , even if he thought it was not , there was no need for chubby comments or body fat comments , even if it needed to be said , it was still offensive , i know i can do a lot more to lose the extra 15-20 pounds i have on me , im told a lot that i carry it well and a lot of people give me credit and compliment me on how i look like i work out , but when i hear those comments from someone who calls themselves a friend , the fat , chubby , balloom , puffy ,body fat , weak , remarks , it makes me feel terrible and really kicks my self esteem down a lot , thanks Moonlake , i think everyone should want to help others drop weight or get into groups and do it , but if you are going to try and help someone and make them feel like crap in the process by what they think is "constructive criticism" but really are just harsh comments that are not needed, it really does not help , you know.

moonlake (author) from America on April 04, 2012:

C, Anytime your doing cardio and weights you are not wasting your time. Any kind of movement or exercise is good. Your friend is cruel. Some people are just that way and we have to put up with it. Myself I would turn that friend into an ex-friend.

Thanks for leaving a comment and telling your experience.

C on April 04, 2012:

You know , i cant stand rude people , and i can relate since ive battled weight all my life , but i went down to 170 in 2010 , its 2012 and i am now 210 but with good reason , i lift weights a lot and do cardio to keep up , but recently i had this one "friend" come over and pretty much indirectly tell me everything i was doing is wrong , i am still chubby and have a lot of body fat , i have no muscle tone whatsoever im mostly fat tried to be mr know it all pretty much , it really hit me when he said all those things , because i bust my ass evetyday doing cardio and lifting weights to get to my goal and have been for about 6-7 months now trying to better myself and i felt great about myself and how i was trying and the good i was doing for myself , but those comments he made made me feel awful about myself and like i was wasting my time , people can be so cruel.

moonlake (author) from America on March 17, 2012:


You are so right it is your decision, to eat and do what ever you want. It's no ones place to make comments about your weight or tell you how you should eat or look.

Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

AnnaCia on March 17, 2012:

Moonlake, this is a very interesting hub. As you can see, this topic is a very sensitive one that many need to talk about. There are so many stigmas in this world. Regarding my weight, I have learned not to let others bother me by ignoring their comments or just telling them what I think. In my case, I have to recognize that being overweight is personal. If I it is unhealthy or makes me sad, or I am overeating and not doing exercises, it is may decision if I continue like this or if I will do something about it. On the other hand, If I am curvy and I feel good and content, I keep on with my life. People can say and talk and make fun, but non of them deserve my attention. Good luck and stay happy.

moonlake (author) from America on February 06, 2012:

shea duane,

Good come back. Thanks, so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

shea duane from new jersey on February 06, 2012:

when people say anything to me about my weight, i say, 'i love this body; it gave me my child.' i've gained 50 lbs since i got married 24 years ago... and anyone who says anything better be stinkin perfect!

moonlake (author) from America on February 06, 2012:


I'm sorry people are rude to you. It seems the younger generation are even worse than others. Why I don't know but I think most of it is because they aren't taught manners at all. We have to learn to not pay attention to what people do and go on with life and enjoy it.

So glad you stopped by and left your story.

Emzstrange on February 05, 2012:

I have also been through a tough time... i put on a total of 70kgs in 2 years, i am a stress eater! I hate going out even to go to the shops because i know people are staring at me... i am 6ft tall but even so i am big very big... The other day i was in a shop with my two sisters looking at dresses and i saw this really nice one i said 'oh this is a pretty colour' and a girl walked past me smiling as if to say yeh id love to see you get into that... i gave her back a filthy look but even so it put a damper on my shopping trip... the rest of that day i was feeling very dipressed and didn't want to be there anymore... people are rude and dont think that even big people have feelings it makes me sick to even think about it, they dont know who you are or what your situation is but even so they make fun of you. But even so my family are very supportive of me and encourage me to not loose faith. your stories are inspiring and you are a strong person!

moonlake (author) from America on February 05, 2012:

Wild Spirit, Thanks so much for stopping by my hub. It is hard when it's people you love that say terrible things to you. What can you do, they will just keep saying it. I will promise you if you lose the weight they want you to lose then they will turn around and get all worried because they will think your sick. Seems you can never win. I'm so glad you stopped by and told your story.

Wild Spirit on February 05, 2012:

Wow... after reading your experiences, I just want to say: You are one strong woman. I've never experienced this level of discrimination and drivel before but I do on some level know what it's like to be criticized on for one's own weight. My mother and grandmother (not to mention my own twin brother) always pick away at me for being overweight. They don't do it all the time but they do it enough that I'm always reminded of it when I talk to them. I'm sure you feel the same way right?

I don't much care for others who say that I'm fat but if it's some who I care about saying it to me in my face, it hurts, a lot. Really. They say that they're only telling it to me because they care but really, deep down inside of me, I only feel like they're saying it to me because they're embarrassed to have someone like me related to them. They either treat it like a great big joke or they try to convince me that I must lose weight in order to find a good guy. It crushes me whenever I hear it. I don't let it show on my face how much it hurts me because doing so will only make them talk about it even more.

What's even worse is that some others of my family (my cousins and uncles/aunts) use me as an example to not be FAT (dear goodness, I hate this word so much; I'm not even all that much overweight to begin with). This is one messed up world we live in. On the net, it's a lot worse too because people aren't afraid of insulting others for being the way they are (they hide behind anonymity).

moonlake (author) from America on January 29, 2012:


Thank you for your comments. My Mom can be a very kind person but she can't get her mind off people she thinks are fat. My sisters and I have tried to tell her she is being unkind but it doesn't work with her. She's in her 80's there is no changing her. The sad part is her attitude has ran some her grandchildren away from her.

VendettaVixen from Ireland on January 29, 2012:

Jeez, Moonlake, I'm not sure what to say. Those comments would drive me insane, literally. How do you put up with them?

I think people are way too preoccupied with what others look like. I mean, what does it have to do with them? I'm blind, and sometimes I think it's a good thing, because even though I'd never judge anyone on their appearance (I'm notexactly a looker myself) it means I don't even have a chance to subconciously form an opinion before talking to them.

I'm sorry to say, but your mum has a pretty messed up way of looking at things.

I'm sorry you've had to put up with crap like this - no one deserves that.

moonlake (author) from America on January 28, 2012:

This should not be tolerated. If your being hit you need to tell your parents, police, teacher, doctor or adult friend. No excuse for anyone doing any of these things to you. It is a bad thing when people call people fat no one should do that.

courtney on January 28, 2012:

when ever i walk out side or look out my door people call me names like fat, ugly, fat ass bitch or you better run fat ass they keep on hitting me until i have blood. i am not that fat it is a bad thing when other people call other people fat you should not bully other people because you are only hurting yourself

moonlake (author) from America on November 17, 2011:

Rebecca, I'm sorry about what your going through. I wish I knew how to help. I'm sure your friend cares about you and isn't judging. I know from experience it's easy to take what people say about your weight the wrong way.

Love yourself no matter what. Face each day happy no matter what. I think what people don't get, they think their helping by bringing up weight but their not. You will lose your weight if that's what you want to do in your own time and not in someone else's time.

Thank you so much for stopping by and please don't hate yourself.

Rebecca on November 17, 2011:

I've been overweight since childhood, I've suffered on and off with binge eating, bulimia & depression. I know my weight is unhealthy and I do want to and will do something about it but I find it highly uncomfortable if anyone mentions it, one of my friends called me this evening, we have quite a close and honest friendship (he's very open about his problems, he knows I struggle to speak about mine) however this evening during the call he decided to bring up my weight & say he was worried about it & that something might happen to me healthwise (I'm only 25) I've found this really difficult to deal with, in the past when doctors etc have mentioned it I've ended up starving myself/vomiting and just unable to eat as anyone commenting on it makes me feel so uncomfortable and anxious and makes me generally hate myself which I constantly do anyway but I now feel he's looking at me & judging me & almost pitying me, I don't know how to stop feeling like this.

moonlake (author) from America on November 10, 2011:


I agree but it seems lots of people don't agree. I don't watch shows like Biggest Loser I just can't stand to see what they put those people through. Not sure if I even got the name right.

Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Micheal from United Kingdom on November 10, 2011:

great hub,

I really don't get it with all this weight issue. You are what you are. If everything is working OK and you are fairly healthy. What is the issue? lol

moonlake (author) from America on October 19, 2011:

Slightly Bonkers,

That's cute. Round is really a shape isn't it. Thanks for stopping back by.

Slightly Bonkers from Ireland on October 19, 2011:

I have one more comment that might hopefully at least put a smile on your faces :) A friend of mine back home in Germany always struggeled with weight but did see it from a funny side:

"Everybody tells me to get in shape. I don't know what they want. Round IS a shape" :D

moonlake (author) from America on October 18, 2011:


So sorry you attempted to hang yourself but so glad to hear you are now getting help.

It's a hard world out there when your over weight but it's also hard for other people who have different kinds of problems much worse than weight.

Thanks so much for stopping by.

Cutters from South Carolina on October 18, 2011:

You know when I was 400 pounds i went through hell. The looks, the things people say, stuff thrown at me. I am clinicly depressed. I ate, ate, and ate. I did not want to live any more. I went out in the back yard tied a rope to a high tree branch and attempted to hang myself. Well I was so fat the branch broke. Just as it did my family came running and I got some help. I think now the people who make fun of others is because they are not comfortable with themselves and it makes them feel better when they find someone who has a bigger fault to say. Now I am 230 -240 floating pounds. And being treated for my depression. Hang in there moonlake if I can do it you can too!

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