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The Next Right Step

Deborah is a writer, healer, and teacher. Her goal is to help people live their best lives every day by sharing her joy and love of life.

Take the Next Right Step


Do The Next Thing

While many of us search for the big purpose of our lives, hoping to make a difference in the world, it is possible to narrow the lens and bring life into focus.

Rather than focusing broadly on your purpose in life, take a step back, readjust your focus and put your energy into the next right step.

Regardless of whether you are trying to lose weight, change a job, end or begin a relationship or whatever else you might feel called to do, this article will encourage you to slow down and take the next right step.

You don't need to know the purpose of your entire life. Just take the next right step, in this moment.

Where Are You Heading?


Feel Things First

Before you begin taking steps, you must first decide where you are going. As the Cheshire Cat in Alice and Wonderland said, "If you don't know where you're going, any road will get you there."

If you don't know where you want to end up, it becomes difficult to take the next logical step. Every road can take you where you don't want to go. To get where you want in life, you must first decide where it is you are heading.

The destination isn't a location. You are heading toward feeling. Go toward the feeling. This is the first secret to taking next right step. You want to feel a certain way when you discover your purpose or achieve your goal or live your best life. How do you want to feel, when you have everything you've ever wanted or achieved everything you ever desired?

Whether you want to feel healthy, happy, abundant, successful, joyful, or in love, it doesn't matter. What matters is first to decide how you want to feel when you get to the destination. How will you feel when you get where you are going?

Start with feeling first. How do you want to feel when you attract a new job, or release an unsatisfying relationship? How do you want to feel when you're on vacation or during your workout? How you want to feel is the biggest, most important decision you can make toward taking the next right step.

First decide how you want to feel. Is your circumstance dependent on that feeling? Or rather, is the feeling dependent upon circumstances? Will you only feel peaceful when you sit on the white sandy beach in Hawaii, or are there other things that bring you peace? Feel peaceful first. Move toward the feeling.

Do you only feel abundant if you have a certain amount in the bank, or do you feel abundant regardless of your bank balance? Maybe feeling abundant arises from sharing from your bounty, no matter its size. What would it feel like to win the lottery, or to receive a large check in the mail? When you get rich, how will you feel? Following the feeling.

Do you believe love abounds only when you find the perfect relationship, or can you feel loving and loved without the perfect relationship? Allow yourself to share love and receive love, exactly where you are, regardless of your current relationship status. How would it feel to be completely loved? How would you feel if you had someone to share love with? Follow the feeling.

The first step toward discovering your life purpose, achieving your goals and living your dreams is to decide how you want to feel when you realize that objective. Can you create that feeling in your present circumstances? How will you feel when you reach your ideal weight, or see the sun setting over the ocean, or sign the big deal? Follow the feeling.

For the laws of attraction and manifestation to wholly evolve in your life, you must be able to experience the feeling of having what you desire first, before you ever set another intention or take another step.

Manifestation is first and foremost about an energetic vibration. This vibration is feeling. You manifest from a place of feeling what you want to feel, when you have what you want to have. Follow the feeling.

The most important step is to feel into a higher vibration and bring yourself into alignment with what you desire. Whether it is love, a job, a vacation or any other thing, embody the feeling of having it now. Feel joy. Feel love. Feel hope, peace, abundance, strength.

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Feeling comes first. The first right step is to feel into where you want to go.

Since Feeling is First


Goals and Objectives

You want to feel healthy and strong. So, what is your goal? Lose weight? Lift weights? Run a marathon? The feeling comes first, feeling healthy. Next comes the goal.

I want to feel love. My goal is to end an unhappy relationship. Or, maybe the goal is to offer my time and energy to people who appreciate me. Maybe my goal should be to find a new relationship? First, focus on the feeling. I want to feel loved. Then, decide on a goal.

You probably know the steps to goal setting. Smart goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time based. What is the goal, if the feeling is first?

I want to feel abundant. My goal is to save a million dollars by the end of the year. Yes, it's specific and measurable, but not attainable. Okay. I want to save a thousand dollars by the end of the year. This will give me a feeling of abundance. By breaking this goal into weekly or monthly objectives, I can achieve it.

The feeling becomes the first barometer of the next right step. The next piece is deciding what the actual goal, objective or purpose is. Before you set your mind on a particular goal, practice feeling the feeling that you desire. What small things can you do to bring more feelings of love, abundance, strength, freedom into your life?

As you begin feeling small bursts of your desired outcome, you might notice your actual goal shifts. Maybe you feel abundant when you leave a large tip at a coffee shop. Or, perhaps it feels loving to hold the door and smile at a stranger. Maybe you feel more free when you choose to say no to one more obligation. When you take a walk outside, you feel healthy. Identify the feeling and the goal naturally arises.

After you start to feel the feeling and practice small tasks to bring the feeling more into your experience, then you'll feel ready to set a larger, more concrete goal.

For example: I want to feel healthy. I notice that when I walk outside, I feel healthy, and as a result, I make better choices when I eat. Maybe my goal, to enhance the feeling of good health, is to walk outside every day. But I live in a cold climate, where it isn't practical to get outside every day. How about a S.M.A.R.T. goal of: (specific) Walk outside, (measurable) five days a week, (achievable) for one mile, (realistic) during daylight hours, (time-sensitive) for one month. At the end of the month, I could review: Do I feel healthy? Have I walked outside? Did the feeling of healthy correspond to my outdoor walking? Did the feeling of being healthy lead me to make other good choices for my health? Am I ready to set a larger goal?

Let the goal reflect your desired feeling, then take steps to bring you more frequently into that feeling. First feel into what you want, then make a goal and take a step in the right direction.

Do The Next Right Thing


Take the Next Right Step

Now that you've identified the feeling that you'd like to feel, and set a goal to get you closer to that feeling, you've only got one thing left to do.

Take the next right step.

It sounds easy, because it is. First you decide. Then you move forward. You don't need to do everything the first day. If you want to lose ten pounds, maybe you take the first day to drink more water and identify the weak points of your diet. Maybe the first right step is more water. Once you've done that, then do the next right step.

Each day, strive to achieve or accomplish a little more than the previous day. Small daily tasks done consistently, over time, create new patterns, new habits and new mindsets. Focus on the feeling. Set the goal. Take the steps.

If you've decided on abundance, perhaps today you choose to forgo the coffee shop and drink coffee at home. Or, maybe you decide to start saving loose change, so today you get a container and empty your pockets.

Focus on feeling abundant and allow yourself space to feel abundance. Don't focus on lack. Focus on feeling. Set the smart goal. Take the first step.

Whatever your goal, take one step toward it today. Then, tomorrow, get up and take the next right step.

Take the First Step First


You Can Do Anything

Success happens incrementally. Sure, some suggest that instant gratification and immediate results last long enough to ensure achieving your ultimate goal.

The truth is, one cannot climb the mountain without taking each painstaking step. And if, by chance, you fly to the top of the mountain and get dropped off, your satisfaction won't match the feeling you set out to find in the first place.

Rarely does one feel the elation of a task complete, until one walks through the furnace of trial, struggle and achievement. The feeling you seek lies just beyond the steps you take.

Take the first step, feel your way from desire to challenge, to fulfillment. The greatest joy lies in doing what we set out to accomplish, one single step at a time.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Deborah Demander

What is Your Next Right Step?

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on September 22, 2021:

"Take the Next Right Step" - so much wisdom and motivation. I like this message and I thank you!

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