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The Many Sides to Pregnancy You Never Get to Hear

Mary highlights some things not widely shared about pregnancy, thanks to some real-life input from her sister.

A pregnant woman

A pregnant woman

‘Awww, he’s so cute,’ ‘My ovaries’, ‘I can’t wait to have a baby’…any of these sound familiar?

I’m going to have to ask you to please calm down. Having a child is nearly every woman’s dream. As a matter of fact, even men cannot wait to hold their newborns in their hands – that’s how much both genders desire to have kids of their own, someday. However, beyond all the glam maternity shoot images, baby shower pictures, and the christening ceremonies on social media which have created the fantasies we all cannot wait to live out, pregnancy and childbearing have a lot more hidden facts than many people know – facts that are capable of making you reconsider your decision or timing.

It’s not news that nausea and vomiting are a regular part of pregnancy in the first trimester. By this, I mean the first three months of being pregnant, or as doctors would rather put it, the first twelve weeks. It’s popularly called morning sickness. I have absolutely no idea who it is that came up with this term, but I doubt there exists a more deceptive name for a condition. Listen up fam! This queasy, irritating, stomach upset-filled, nausea and vomiting-ridden condition is in no way restricted to just mornings. As a matter of fact, I prefer to call it All-day sickness. In very rare cases, this disaster doesn’t rear its ugly head. In most cases, however, due to an increase in hormones, most pregnant women have to battle with this. I don’t know if it’s the sickness itself that’s terrible or the depressing feeling attached to it. It feels like a huge dark hole trapping you and all of your life in it. Trust me, you might go as far as questioning whether or not you still want to go ahead and have a baby. It gets better though, but this is a patch you would most likely have to deal with for a while.

Photo by Mustafa Omar on Unsplash

Photo by Mustafa Omar on Unsplash

Next come the diets. You see, being pregnant requires a huge lifestyle change (P.S. Having a baby is basically a LIFE change). No more alcohol, no more caffeine, no liver, no red meat, and so on. These might not seem like they’re too difficult to cope with until you have to cut out your favorite fruits and juices to prevent heartburns and acid reflux. Sorry to burst your bubble, but fries would go, and so would all of your crispy, delicious fatty foods. Instead, you would opt for bland diets, eat lots of vegetables, drink lots of water and get plenty of rest because this is good for the developing fetus – and because those are the things most likely to stay down and not come back out in a puke flood, or give you heartburns. Your choice!

One of the worst parts of being preggo is having to swallow pills, every day. What makes this even more sickening is that your sense of taste changes drastically. As a result, pills that you had no trouble swallowing become – pun intended – a hard pill to swallow. Folic acid, for instance, would be your companion all through your pregnancy. As the days go by, your gynecologist may add some iron and calcium tablets to your prescription. Mind you, this is no bad thing. Your baby would need all these vitamins, and so would you. I’m just saying, this is not a journey you want to go on unprepared. Lest I forget, your sense of smell also becomes heightened, causing almost everything you perceive to irritate you. Be prepared to cut out your creams, perfumes, skin oils, soaps, and some favorite dishes. You might even realize that the kitchen suddenly becomes your least favorite place to be, as the smell of food ingredients could spike another bout of vomiting.

When you decide to get pregnant, be ready to spend money. A lot of changes are going to have to take place. From your second trimester, your appetite should improve and you most likely would begin to add some weight. Like it or not, this means your wardrobe would change, even if it’s for a while. This wardrobe change cuts across nearly everything that you’ll wear – the breasts get fuller and bigger, necessitating that you buy nursing bras; your jeans won’t accommodate your growing belly, hence the need for maternity dresses and jeans; your regular pajamas won’t go beyond your breast, forcing you to shop for maternity sleep wears.

Photo by Andre Furtado from Pexels

Photo by Andre Furtado from Pexels

Pregnancy is beautiful. Having a child is one of the best feelings in the world. However, it is important that you know all the sides there are to this coin. If you aren’t ready to take on all the bodily changes such as weight gain, stretch marks, etc., or you’re not capable of dealing with the financial implications of pregnancy yet, then don’t.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

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