Arthur Ariel is a young enthusiastic learner that is addicted to learning new stuff and isn't shy away to share what he's learned so far
The Dangers Of Comfort Zone
Nobody wants to fail.
Rarely does a person acknowledge it and even more rare if a person is willing to face it. That’s why most of us have this bubble around us called “Comfort Zone”.
It comforts us, it notifies us when we’re in danger and it keeps us safe. Comfort Zone is your best friend but it can also be the most toxic friend you’ll ever meet.
It’s been responsible for billions of people failing in life. It’s a shame how our friend here keeps us so safe that it won’t even try to get us to do the things we have to do to be successful whether it's going to the gym or building a business.
In this article, we’ll delve into the 3 most common reasons why most people fail in life and how to fix each one.
3 Reasons Why People Fail
Your Comfort Zone’s job is to protect you from going into territories that might be too scary for you or too dangerous.
It knows your biggest weakness and fears and keeps you safe from it. To protect you, it creates 3 different products to keep people from going out of their bubble.It just so happens, these 3 products are the most common reasons why people fail:
- No motivation/drive
- Limiting Self Belief
- Inability To Manage Their State
Each one of these reasons is the product of your own comfort zone. It wasn’t meant to bring you harm/anything but it keeps you from gaining to your full potential.
Let's go over them one by one.
Let's face it, The rising use of the Internet has made almost each and every one of us lazy.
Whether you agree or not, with many platforms such as YouTube, Amazon, Netflix and other websites, it has made our lives a ton easier!
The human being’s best invention is also one of the reasons why more people fail nowadays.
We just have little to no motivation to work. We’ve been spoonfed this whole time with how easy everything is that we’ll just try to find a quick way around.
Most of us wake up just to do the same job every day and go home to binge another series on Netflix.
That’s fine and all, but if you just have a slight goal/motivation, you could do so many productive things in that time such as learning a course, writing a blog, starting a side business.
If you spend 1 hour a day learning something, by the end of the year you’ve spent 365 hours learning that field!
One of the ways to fix it is to find your goal/purpose in life. This is one of the hardest parts of life because most of the time, we don’t know what it is!
I’ve been there before and I’m still kind of there now. The best way to have a goal/motivation starts with having a passion/hobby.
If you love writing, work on it. If you love helping people, help people. The best hobby to have is learning. No, it’s not academic learning, it's practical learning. Learn about selling, learn about business and economics, self-improvement, anything really.
Be the best version you can be!
Maybe you already have a goal but you’re just not sure if it’s going to work.
Maybe you’ve started a business and it’s running pretty well, but the thought of expanding just makes you cringe a little bit.
Limiting belief is one of the most crippling beliefs that anyone can have.
Most of us developed this belief back when we were still at school. Let's take me for example, Well, for me, it’s maths. I never could do maths back in the day. I thought I was not good at all, I'm just not that smart enough. I just suck at it.
For 12 years straight I was bad at it. There were only once or twice did I ever get a C, each and every one of them is always either a D or F.
But then, grade 12 came in and my school applied this rule that if you fail at one major in the final exam, Congratulations! You just failed grade 12 (It was a private school so it was pretty strict).
So I enrolled in private tutoring. The first month was hell, I have no idea what all the formula is or how to do it. I was dumbfounded but I had to do it.
The second month started, I finally solved a problem without anyone’s help, it was one of the best feelings of my life! As months go by, I start to gain more confidence and that limiting belief starts to break.
I was confident I could pass it! But then, the final exam day came. They passed the papers in and it was horrible, I have no idea if I could even do it but I didn’t give up just yet like all of the tests before. I tackled each problem like a soldier battling on a battlefield.
With a stroke of persistence and a little bit of luck, I got just good enough for my test. Even though that doesn't seem that much to you, but that meant a lot to me. I just proved my limiting beliefs that I can do it!
If there’s any way to fix limiting belief, it’s to strike head-on! Face your fears and limiting beliefs one step at a time. The first few months would feel like it’s not going to work, but with enough persistence, you’ll eventually start to see results until finally, you’ll get there.
Keep working on what you love until you see the results you want, even then, just keep doing it! You’ll be surprised where it’ll take you to!
Inability To Manage Your Emotions
Emotion is a tricky thing. If you can’t manage it, you’re bound to lose in life.
Some of us can be triggered with just a single word or a single conflict. It can make us a bad person or even worse, it can break us.
How many times have you regretted saying something bad to someone because it affected you badly in the following years?
How many times have you wished you weren’t that shy to start a conversation with your crush?
From anger to sadness or even overwhelming joy. It’s always good to maintain a balance but it’s best when you can control it!
One of the best ways you can control your emotion is by using your whole physical body. Move it around. Breath.
The amount of air you breathe affects your brain immensely. If you can manage your state.
The other way to manage your emotion is to understand why emotions are triggered in the first place. Once you understand how emotion works, it’s going to be an immense game changer!
For example, we’re only angry for about 90 seconds! The only reason why we continue to be angry is that our brain just keeps finding and replaying (or even making) moments on the bad things the person you’re angry has just done.
There are many reasons why we fail in life but it all usually comes from the 3 above.
It’s alright to keep your comfort zone but too much of it will cripple you.
If you keep staying in your comfort zone, you won’t progress in life. You’ll just be another 17 years old in a 30-year-old body.