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Signs You Are With an Obsessive Partner

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Signs You Are With an Obsessive Partner

Love comes in all forms and you can either accept or disregard love with someone.
Being in love with someone irrespective of who they bring light into your life, at some point they can ruin your life.

You may never experience love with another in a relationship or you may never know how to approach another to love and cherish that person. When it comes to falling in love with someone you don’t always see who they truly are. You are blinded by their negative side.

The special experience with people when you first meet someone you feel this excitement, you feel happier, and fall in love at first sight. However, you view life and love or had love in your life, one partner would often see love differently from their side of it.
You meet someone and think you have found the one, but you do not realize how that person would make a change in your life.

his you could notice in the first six months of your time together and notice these changes about your partner. They become clingy, attached to you and do not want you to leave their sight.

Your outgoing lifestyle becomes shorter and you feel trapped in that relationship. A relationship develops and you would do anything for your partner, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your lifestyle to that person.
People do weird actions to keep their love for one another.

Obsessing about love for the one you love is not true love nor is this what you want in your life. It is not safe in your relationship to allow an obsessive person into your life and to feel insecure about your relationship.

The moment you feel threatened in your relationship, get out of it! If you are blackmailed, or stalked, stay away from such persons. Manipulation is another way to force you out of a relationship.

Always feel good and secure in your relationship and allow yourself to follow your gut feelings.
Trust is one of the crucial facts in a relationship, if you don’t have it there is no need to be in that relationship.

A confused partner doesn’t deserve you, especially someone who chooses to control you in everything you want to do for yourself.

When your partner insists on checking your mobile phone for secrets, that is not how a good relationship survives between two people.

Partners often demand your attention and seeking your attention are not worth having in your life. You want someone who can trust you, be faithful to you and be by your side through all times. To hold your hand when in need and to be there to cope with your frustrations.

The constant need to know where you are, what you are doing and who you are with, are some of the red flags from an obsessive partner. A good relationship is based on a normal lifestyle.

Being obsessive on compliments from friends is not what a good relationship is about. The insecure thought that troubles the obsessive partner ruins your normal lifestyle. Something you surely do not need from them.

You need personal space and when you do not get that from your partner, you need to have a talk about such issues.

Partners who feel alone and want that constant care of the other is not what you should be up for are signs of a weakness in a partner that you are not able to cope with. Obsessive partners are needy, and keep an eye on your every move. Whether you are visiting a friend or out to do an errand your life is not the same.

It is not possible to spend all your time together, and yet obsessive partners want that from you. When a partner is obsessive they freak out when seeing someone of the opposite sex talking to you. Their first impression is you being dishonest or cheating.

Your world doesn’t revolve around your partner. When you accept an obsessive partner in your life you are out with friends and you can’t stop chatting about your relationship. Emotionally, you are dependent on their moods. This introduces to you an imbalanced relationship.

A partner has all these insecure thoughts about their significant other making them feel down and insecure about their emotions. It isn't possible for you to enjoy yourself without your partner. Everything is based on an imbalance of the relationship.

An example:

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Boy meets girl and he thinks she is the perfect one for him.
As time passes by the boy sees that he is not allowed to speak to another female friend nor is he allowed to have other friends. She checks up on him, follows him around and threatens his female friends.
That is crazy and can be dangerous to you.

In this example, she is in control of her boyfriend’s mind. He or she is in an obsessive relationship. Any two people can behave in this manner.

It is up to you to leave a relationship if you find that your life is ruined with an obsessive partner.
No matter where and when you feel good the most important part of your relationship is being happy together and giving each other space. Understanding the needs and wants of each and communicating without losing touch with one another.
There is no need to be awful to your partner, be patient and try to make sense of what is going on with them. Let the other partner know of anything you feel is making you feel unhappy, angry, sad or miserable in your relationship.

I am sure you will be able to work it out if it is not an obsessive one. Unfortunately, if you know the problem lies with the obsessive behaviour they have to exit your life.
These issues are increased when one of your friends call out to the girls and in the presence of your girlfriend can make it look as if you are the same.

Such impressions are gathered to give your partner another bad impression of themselves.

Crazy actions and thoughts run wild in a partner’s mind and this adds to their insecurities. You sense a negative vibe from your partner. Trust not in your relationship when your partner disrespects you and fails to communicate with you on your level.

Obsessiveness gives you an empty life. You don’t care that the lives of other people are crumbled. It is poison to your soul to have a relationship with an obsessive person.

An obsessive person becomes attached and fears they would lose you.
Anything to do with other people is totally closed off in their lives. They choose to be with one person and quickly you become an attachment.

One who has an unbalanced lifestyle growing up and a troubled childhood life falls into a weak and unhealthy relationship when they become older. Adulthood carries the past of that troubled childhood and relationships are affected badly when they think they are ready to build their own relationships.

Mentally, and physically, you lack the energy to be positive and you try to gain the strength of another and become attached to that person. You don’t have friends, spend your time alone or with your partner.

No hobbies, nothing to do when you are not with your partner says you are obsessed with your partner. Everything revolves around your partner which is not a good sign of a good relationship.

A common human characteristic that comes in many forms can be children, in a relationship or in a marriage. Being obsessive can be harmful or useful depending on what you are obsessed with.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 19, 2021:

Hi Adrienne Farricelli so good to hear from you. Thank you and I hope all is well with you

Adrienne Farricelli on January 18, 2021:

Living with obsessive partners can be dangerous at times and I can see how things can get out of hand. You have made some valid points that will help those in this sad situation.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 18, 2021:

Thank you for sharing your comment. I appreciate you stopping by.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 18, 2021:

Thank you for comments have a lovely week,

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on January 17, 2021:

It's unfortunate that what you have written in this article, does happen to many. I hope that those suffering from such kind of obsessive behavior from their partners, may get courage from your article, and act accordingly.

Thank you for sharing!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 17, 2021:

Pamela thank you for comments hope you are well and keeping safe.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 17, 2021:

Peggy Woods unfortunately, some choose to stay with such partners. I appreciate your time thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 17, 2021:

Denise I think you are a brave woman to have run away when you had the chance, and to have stayed would have ruined you. I have an aunt who stayed with her husband everytime he physically abused her she went back to him after a few days. Thank you for sharing your experience always appreciated.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on January 16, 2021:

Fortunately, I have never had that experience. It is good to publicize this, however, so that people can recognize the signs and exit such a relationship early before it escalates and gets even worse.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on January 16, 2021:

I wish I knew more before my first marriage. My first husband was obsessive and violent. He didn't like me to even talk to the cashier at the grocery store and if the man touched my hand while giving me my change I was beaten when I got home. He would have eventually killed me if I hadn't run away, I am sure. I hope people are reading and learning from this.



Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 16, 2021:

FlourishAnyway thank you very much for stopping by

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 16, 2021:

Hi Dora thank you very much

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 16, 2021:

manatita44 thank you and so glad you came by.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 16, 2021:

Ruby Jean Richert thank you glad you stopped by hope all is well with you.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 16, 2021:

Nithya Venkat You are so right! Thank you for stopping by

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 16, 2021:

Bill thank you and so glad you have a dream partner.

FlourishAnyway from USA on January 16, 2021:

Failure to act early on by ending the relationship can only result in escalating acts of obsession and safety concerns later. Get away while you can.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on January 15, 2021:

"Anything to do with other people is totally closed off in their lives." I'd be so afraid of this and some of the other things you describe. Thanks for the warnings.

manatita44 from london on January 15, 2021:

You paint this frightening picture well. It has all the makings of a difficult relationship.

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on January 15, 2021:

It must be terrible to have a relationship like you described in your article. Interesting read.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on January 15, 2021:

An interesting article, being in a relationship with an obsessive partner can be detrimental to the mind and body. It can be suffocating and an unhappy one.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 15, 2021:

Interesting read! Thankfully I have never experienced this, and never will. Bev is a dream partner!

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on January 15, 2021:

This is an interesting article, Devika. Trying to have a relationship with an obsessive partner would be awful. I think your examples were excellent, and you have explained this type of person very well.

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